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No gender on planet earth can conceal their true character than women most especially when have found a man that's ready to settle down. Here are the few characters to look out for:

1. Disrespect: It takes the grace of God to find a selfless woman and this is the most common character women hide when dating and it manifest when they finally marry. If you want to know the true character of a woman, look out for how she treats people less privilege than her eg. the gate keeper at her house or her office. Does she always talk to them rudely. If you don't take note of that as a man, the day things go bad for you and you are in same strata like the gate keeper, she will treat you the same way. Women generally respect men that are financially stable and men that are in power. If you don't fall into any of the these categories and the woman respect and talk to you politely, better hold her tight.

2. Selfishness: Beware of any woman finds it difficult to spends even N5 on you as a man. You are dating a girl, you take her to the beach, take her fancy restaurant or you take her to go see movie but she has never for one day given you a surprise treat or gift and yet she is working and earns good salary. Just know that you are dating a selfish woman who only wants to milk your resources and add to her own so she could spend it on people that are most important to her. In-fact, you are just dating yourself and she doesn't have you in mind. If you finally marry such woman, she will never regard your parents or siblings as hers even her house help will not be spared, the house help will be badly maltreated. and this is one the major causes of marital issue. When the woman doesn't regard her father-in-law and mother-in-law as her own parent, there may be gang up against the woman from the man's family who will be looking for every possible opportunity to make sure the the marriage doesn't work out.

3. Ostentatious: Dating and marrying a woman who is always after luxury and doesn't discuss ideas or opportunity is one of the easiest way for a man to go from grace to grass. Avoid such women like cancer, they will never will be valuable.

What's your grudges against women?
You guys makes me sick of coming to this forum.

It's applicable to both genders,same way I don't believe all marriages are bad/all men are bad.

But you targeting only the female gender is appalling.

ahnie:
What's your grudges against women?
You guys makes me sick of coming to this forum.

It's applicable to both genders,same way I don't believe all marriages are bad/all men are bad.

But you targeting only the female gender is appalling.

Will you keep quiet dia

I have written threads that are against the men but I have never seen where you ask me, what's my grudges against men.

ahnie:
What's your grudges against women?
You guys makes me sick of coming to this forum.

It's applicable to both genders,same way I don't believe all marriages are bad/all men are bad.

But you targeting only the female gender is appalling.

You're calling a woman selfish because she no spend 5naira for you. She be your papa abi your guardian? It's this kind of mentality that make many of you enter marriage with zero naira in your account expecting the woman to bring to the table otherwise she'll be tagged selfish.

Look, never expect anything from a woman or use that a bases to chose a wife otherwise disappoinment will just be smiling at you all the way. As a man make your own money and be financially stable and bouyant to a level where you won't need to look on the woman's money.

Na wa o. Na so e dey start. If she starts giving now, any day she doesn't give, na wahala

Jewessgratitud3:
You're calling a woman selfish because she no spend 5naira for you. She be your papa abi your guardian? It's this kind of mentality that make many of you enter marriage with zero naira in your account expecting the woman to bring to the table otherwise she'll be tagged selfish.

Look, never expect anything from a woman or use that a bases to chose a wife otherwise disappoinment will just be smiling at you all the way. As a man make your own money and be financially stable and bouyant to a level where you won't need to look on the woman's money.

Na wa o. Na so e dey start. If she starts giving now, any day she doesn't give, na wahala

lemme agree with what you said... but hope the man isn't selfish if he doesn't spend on the woman because he nor be her papa or guardian as well.?? because what is good for the goose should also be good for the gander abi nor be so??

this is why I say that most people just read without comprehension... the OP isn't saying men should depend on their wife's money but they should watch out if she's stingy... some women even at the point of death or emergency will never spend out of their money to get things done, they will never, they believe since he's the man, he should carry everything for head even if it means he should cut of his head to get out of the situation... I don't even want to look at a woman's money, but I won't condone a selfish woman because that actually says alot about her...

OP, number 4 on the list should be if she's not appreciative, that's actually a red flag...

Reminderz:
lemme agree with what you said... but hope the man isn't selfish if he doesn't spend on the woman because he nor be her papa or guardian as well.?? because what is good for the goose should also be good for the gander abi nor be so??

this is why I say that most people just read without comprehension... the OP isn't saying men should depend on their wife's money but they should watch out if she's stingy... some women even at the point of death or emergency will never spend out of their money to get things done, they will never, they believe since he's the man, he should carry everything for head even if it means he should cut of his head to get out of the situation... I don't even want to look at a woman's money, but I won't condone a selfish woman because that actually says alot about her...

OP, number 4 on the list should be if she's not appreciative, that's actually a red flag...

Anything that makes you see a woman as stingy means you're relying on her money or depending on her for one form of survival or the other and that is why you can even know she's stingy in the first place.

The example you gave even defeats your claims because someone at the point of death is highly dependent on anothers financial assistance. so....however that's not the point I was trying to make. All I'm saying is, never put your hopes on a woman's money.. as in...let her ability/inability to spend for you not be your reasons for marrying or not marrying her. if she can have money, you too can. Period!

Jewessgratitud3:
Anything that makes you see a woman as stingy means you're relying on her money or depending on her for one form of survival or the other and that is why you will even know she's stingy in the first place.


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you didn't answer my question.. oh I guess you're lady, mehn my bad.. I'm sorry for even quoting you in the first place... anything you say, I agree...

You only chose to read and comprehend what suit your narrative rather than being objective. Congratulations!

Jewessgratitud3:
You're calling a woman selfish because she no spend 5naira for you. She be your papa abi your guardian? It's this kind of mentality that make many of you enter marriage with zero naira in your account expecting the woman to bring to the table otherwise she'll be tagged selfish.

Look, never expect anything from a woman or use that a bases to chose a wife otherwise disappoinment will just be smiling at you all the way. As a man make your own money and be financially stable and bouyant to a level where you won't need to look on the woman's money.

Na wa o. Na so e dey start. If she starts giving now, any day she doesn't give, na wahala

Jewessgratitud3:
Anything that makes you see a woman as stingy means you're relying on her money or depending on her for one form of survival or the other and that is why you can even know she's stingy in the first place.

The example you gave even defeats your claims because someone at the point of death is highly dependent on anothers financial assistance. so....however that's not the point I was trying to make. All I'm saying is, never put your hopes on a woman's money.. as in...let her ability/inability to spend for you not be your reasons for marrying or not marrying her. if she can have money, you too can. Period!

This is the funniest piece I've read. So, a man should not consider if a woman is stingy?

He has all the money so, he won't notice the woman is stingy, because he is blind, his brain is half-dead, and he is a machine whose responsibility is only to provide till he dies? Okay.

tundebasic:
This is the funniest piece I've read. So, a man should not consider if a woman is stingy?

He has all the money so, he won't notice the woman is stingy, because he is blind, his brain is half-dead, and he is a machine whose responsibility is only to provide till he dies? Okay.

Anyhow you see am.

Jewessgratitud3:
Anyhow you see am.

I see, I understand what you mean. You mean, if a man got married at 30 and dies at 95. If he had two kids. He would have carried the responsibilities of four people, plus his aged parents, plus the responsibilities of his siblings, plus that of his inlaws (including the siblings of his wife) all alone?

You see why we say women are inconsiderate. You think it's only the wife's responsibility he wants to carry?

Sixty-five years of toiling to keep smiles on the faces of some people, without any form of appreciation, support, motivation, reward, and all?

What would it take you to support him with just a few amount monthly as a partner?

tundebasic:
I see, I understand what you mean. You mean, if a man got married at 30 and dies at 95. If he had two kids. He would have carried the responsibilities of four people, plus his aged parents, plus the responsibilities of his siblings, plus that of his inlaws (including the siblings of his wife) all alone?

You see why we say women are inconsiderate. You think it's only the wife's responsibility he wants to carry?

Sixty-five years of toiling to keep smiles on the faces of some people, without any form of appreciation, support, motivation, reward, and all?

What would it take you to support him with just a few amount monthly as a partner?

Any man whos not ready to bear responsibilities should stay on his own now... Abi Dem dey force una?

Jewessgratitud3:
Any man whos not ready to bear responsibilities should stay on his own now... Abi Dem dey force una?

Okay, the men understand.