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GO0DHardDick:
When we say women are attracted to bad boys, your type will rush to debunk it.

The fact you rejected him does mean your sis will. So chill and relax. Besides she has taken in already and will give birth again next year

vickydevoka:
Them say Baba na handsome fair guy. They sister love fine guys buh the Op hate fine guys.
As first pikin comot rn fine, de thing sweet her. Second and third, the same thing.
U no de notice say most fine girls de come from poor family.

Skyview01:
I am planning to marry before January next year. I am saving money for my wedding. Can you borrow me some money, I only need 300,000 Naira for my wedding.

kazyhm:
You're not honest

1) This very guy pays his rent as and when due
2) This guy pays his children school fees as and when due
3) This guy graduated and still pass law school
4) This guy is not a gambler
5) This guy is not a drunkard
6) This guy is not a fraudster
7) This guy is not cheating on your sister
This guy doesn't follow bad friends
9) This guy feeds his family
10) This guy doesn't disrespect his inlaws (your own parents)

What exactly is your problem with him.....that he sleeps ?

In your own mind, you think you're doing better than him ?
With this you own job, do you think you're earn more than him annually and can afford to shoulder his responsibilities ?
Do you think driving Keke will not distract this his part time business ?

You even have no idea how he is getting his money and you feel you have an opinion about him

You're very naive!
You're childish.....marry your own husband first.........

Katcall:
how.much is the list

Jewessgratitud3:
How you take know ? @ bold.

We were discussing about getting an apartment and she mentioned one money she has that she has told him to go and look for the apartment that the she'll use the money. I now asked her, you want to pay for the apartment he's going to look for? she now changed it immediately that he's the one paying. I asked her, why are you then mentioning your money inside.

My dear... I won't be surprised if she pays and allows him into the house. I won't be surprised.

Skyview01:
I am planning to marry before January next year. I am saving money for my wedding. Can you borrow me some money, I only need 300,000 Naira for my wedding.

vickydevoka:
Yes I can

Skyview01:
Just be very careful. Know where he works. See his certificates if he says he graduated. I know men that are dropouts who lied to their wifes.

Visit his office to know his work colleagues. Know his brothers and sisters, their careers and what they do.
Understand his habits and how he spends his time. Ask him the hard questions. You must date expensively.
People don't change and whatever you see him do now is what he will do in the marriage.

How does he teat people around him. Kindness is a bigger quality than love in a relationship. Love is an emotion which may fade over time while kindness is a trait that never goes away.

Katcall:
after all she said, this is all you could come up with. You are a very stupid and useless man

Skyview01:
Do you want me to send my USD$ account number? God loves a cheerful giver!

vickydevoka:
If you say life easy like this I for no suffer b4 I make am. As you put god I no fit. I don't do religion begging methodology. I don't do tithe as well

Skyview01:
I dey gbadun you.

Out of curiosity, why don't you do religion? Are you spiritual and not religious? Do you believe in the bible or are you an atheist?

I hope to make am like you one day.

vickydevoka:
I believe in myself simple.
Religion is the opium of the masses. If you want break your head de pray, na drug peddler go still rule you. If you go poor u go poor

ahnie:
Kardy this IS not nice ataLL

Kajaard:
Ahnie no vex. I have deleted it. Please delete from your's as well.

Katcall:
get out. Idiot supporting rubbish

Curse777:




*and I so much dislike him because he's fair and I can't stand fair guys.

*they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house.

Summary of this long epistle

1: He first asked you out and you rejected, as a man he moved on to your sister and you resented him deeply

2: He is currently financially handicap and he irritates you, you hate poor men and poor men neither deserve marriage, or children

3: To you financial burden of a family is exclusive responsibility of a man


PS:

Dear Men, stay completely away from marriage if you are not financially bouyant as you are only rated for your financial strength by Women



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Kajaard:
Hmmmm

Jewessgratitud3:
Which relatives? The ones that he has insulted with his arrogance?

Ok let me shock you.. it's just that I don't want to be giving the whole thing in details for security purpose.

That night this thing happened one of cousins came with his car immediately as he heard and offered to take them to his place because he has a very big house and wanted to give them one of the guest rooms. He said no way! Is it today he's been calling the guy for help. My sister said he was now saying see this small boy of yesterday wants to habor him and his family that he should go he doesn't need his help anymore. Shooo

I now said the boy prolly didn't answer then because he didn't feel he needed the help at that time but now he felt the help will be more useful that's why he came. Abi the boy no get him own family wey he go attend to wen he go come dey answer all your SOS calls? I was mad. He's so arrogant and proud yet he no get sense.

Sheybi he's now quarrelling with the woman squatting them that the woman should allow his children free hand around the house that he doesn't like his children being oppressed . I say for person house again?just because the woman told the children to sit in one place. Hmm..

Na person wey no know am go dey hold brief for am.

2special:
You claimed the husband is Jobless but still pays the children school fees, you're definitely not telling the truth....you just wants people to condemned the husband.

Dexy4yah:
Op... you don't Fancy fair guys...but if a fair guy with big bag comes for you... you will rush and accept him.


Women and their hypocritic lifestyle...tueeh

VeeVeeMyLuv:
It is only the one that the sister told her that she knows. She doesn't know the rest

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o. Hmmmm the matter go far..... Your sister should not even think of leaving her children for that man whalai... She should continue to manage and fend for the children that man has nothing good to offer now and in the next world... They God will be with her