Bose is an outgoing and sexually active young lady of 26, she got married to her hubby in November, 2018, they are now blessed with a big baby boy.

She was my student and very close to me and my family during her ND and HND days. She is just like a member of my family. I know that she was involved with two guys then, one a student in the same school during her ND and the other, a businessman in town during her HND days. Her affair with the businessman didn't materialise into marriage because the man wanted her to get pregnant first, a proposal she vehemently opposed because its like a taboo in her family and her religious organization.

That relationship broke and she met another guy who I didn't really know in 2017. She told me that the guy was easygoing and fun loving too so I didn't really had much advise to give other than the normal talks about being of good behaviour etc.

They got married in November 2018, she relocated to live with her hubby in Abuja, now they're blessed with a very big baby boy.

She visited me with her baby last weekend when she came to attend the funeral of her uncle here in Ondo State. She stayed in my place. It was then we really had time to talk. She told me that her husband believes so much in some archaic things that is affecting her badly.

For instance, he doesn't believe in the use of Air Conditioner because it is carcinogenic, he had sex with her last the day he realised she was pregnant in January. She said her hubby believed having sex with a pregnant woman will hurt the baby. She put to bed in August and since then nothing has happened because the hubby said no sex until breast feeding is over so that the breast milk will not be contaminated with semen.

I have been laughing since then but its not a laughing matter. She said this guy is so serious with these wrong facts and is not willing to let it go for anything and that she had engaged him in discussions over this many times with the guy sticking to his points. She said the guy is so caring and the way he dots on her and the baby is out of this world. He hired a nanny for her. the nanny followed her to Ondo State for the funeral and stayed with her in my place.

Honestly, I haven't heard this kind of thing before. I told her I'll post it on Nairaland and she said I should go ahead and that she will be interested in reading people's comments. I actually admonished her not to look the way of any other guy or be involved in extramarital affairs as that could lead to problems she won't be able to handle. She said that is almost impossible in the environment she lives in Abuja and the way her husband dots on the family. Good people, kindly advise please.

Her husband is not highly sexed. He has low libido and she should adjust accordingly if she wants the marriage to last. Sex is not everything. Let her enjoy her baby and other aspects of marriage and life.
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FTC!!!
Never thought this would make front page.
Goes to show, if u make up a good story, u never know...

I dedicate this FTC to that guy, Onyema, and his Air Peace.
We know he stole money but at least he put it to good use, unlike people like Mompha and Hushpuppy who just kept buying Lamborghinis

She needs to open up to her husband..........the problem is many women don't know the right timing to engage in deep conversations on things bothering them with their husbands

Lol......
AC carcinogenic?
That must really be an ancient man.
I have an uncle like that o,he doesn't buy car with AC because it is carcinogenic, very funny uncle.
As per this sex thing, I think she need to tactically introduce her hubby to a relationship advisor/marriage councillor. That lady must have rushed into marriage without first understanding the man she married, very unfortunate.

Breast milk contaminated with semen. Loool. She is seriously suffering.

She has to endure. Marriage is all about compromise. I mean, what else does she want to do? That man is stuck in his ways, nobody or nothing is going to change that. She should sexually satisfy herself until she is done with breastfeeding Lool

olabrinks:
Breast milk contaminated with semen. Loool. She is seriously suffering.

She has to endure. Marriage is all about compromise. I mean, what else does she want to do? That man is stuck in his ways, nobody or nothing is going to change that. She should sexually satisfy herself until she is done with breastfeeding Lool

Sexually satisfy herself until she's done with breastfeeding? How please?

Either the husband is a closeted gay or has very low libido. It's her cross, let her carry it. Sex is neither food nor oxygen you need to have to sustain yourself.

Enjoy the dotting. Keep busy with the baby. I'm sure you saw how archaic he was before marrying him so y complain?

kennybabs1980:
Sexually satisfy herself until she's done with breastfeeding? How please?

cucumbation off course.

dominique:
Either the husband is a closeted gay or has very low libido. It's her cross, let her carry it. Sex is neither food nor oxygen you need to have to sustain yourself.

seems you like men with high libido.

olabrinks:
Breast milk contaminated with semen. Loool. She is seriously suffering.

She has to endure. Marriage is all about compromise. I mean, what else does she want to do? That man is stuck in his ways, nobody or nothing is going to change that. She should sexually satisfy herself until she is done with breastfeeding Lool

marriage is more than compromise, tolerance is a necessity in every marriage.

dominique:
Either the husband is a closeted gay or has very low libido. It's her cross, let her carry it. Sex is neither food nor oxygen you need to have to sustain yourself.

Sex is a basic human need unless you have a very low libido which is the exception so it's neither food nor oxygen advise won't make it better. Try to tell this your husband.

mysticwarrior:
marriage is more than compromise, tolerance is a necessity in every marriage.

There are things one can tolerate and others which become unbearable.

How is any of this even a problem that required her to go blabbing. Air conditioning & wanting to have sex while pregnant? Seriously?

Mindfulness:


Sex is a basic human need unless you have a very low libido which is the exception so it's neither food nor oxygen advise won't make it better. Try to tell this your husband.

You learnt this one through scientific experiments in a classroom?

Mindfulness:


Sex is a basic human need unless you have a very low libido which is the exception so it's neither food nor oxygen advise won't make it better. Try to tell this your husband.

a woman with very high sex drive married to a man with extreme low libido is a case of sexual incompatibility, she can't force the man to copulate, its not the same as a man with high libido who is married to a woman with low libido as there are cases where women who are circumcise and don't have the urge for sex still give in to the husband's demand when the need arise.

mysticwarrior:
a woman with very high sex drive married to a man with extreme low libido is a case of sexual incompatibility, she can't force the man to copulate, its not the same as a man with high libido who is married to a woman with low libido as there are cases where women who are circumcise and don't have the urge for sex still give in to the husband's demand when the need arise.

I didn't tell anyone to force anyone, did I?

crackhaus:
How is any of this even a problem that required her to go blabbing. Air conditioning & wanting to have sex while pregnant? Seriously?

don't blame the woman its a normal thing for most woman to have sexual desires during pregnancy.

Mindfulness:


I didn't tell anyone to force anyone, did I?

you said its neither food nor oxygen, hmm my brother to some people after food its sex

Mindfulness:


There are things one can tolerate and others which become unbearable.

you must bear o, because it is for better and for otherwise, when you dey make the marriage vow for church them no force you.

mysticwarrior:
you said its neither food nor oxygen, hmm my brother to some people after food its sex

No, I quoted someone who said it to point out the importance of sex.

Mindfulness:


No, I quoted someone who said it to point out the importance of sex.

noted

mysticwarrior:
you must bear o, because it is for better and for otherwise, when you dey make the marriage vow for church them no force you.

Ok

Orisirisi..
Let her take him to a Dr, so they can discuss his concerns about cancer, breastfeeding, sex while pregnant and breastfeeding etc. If he has a low libido or erectile dysfunction, a dose of viagra will do the trick

crackhaus:
How is any of this even a problem that required her to go blabbing. Air conditioning & wanting to have sex while pregnant? Seriously?

No point Sir, you don't know how it feels when a hubby don't pump her ball...

mysticwarrior:
don't blame the woman its a normal thing for most woman to have sexual desires during pregnancy.

I'm aware, but not having sex during that period because the husband is feeling icky about it ought not to be a big deal.

If the thing too scratch her, she should carry brush and scrub it slowly and gently.

kennybabs1980:

No point Sir, you don't know how it feels when a hubby don't pump her ball...

And how does it feel genius?

crackhaus:

I'm aware, but not having sex during that period because the husband is feeling icky about it ought not to be a big deal.

If the thing too scratch her, she should carry brush and scrub it slowly and gently.

why she go use brush when better screwdriver dey with her husband?

Give me her number I want to greet her

How does the man's libido and sex-drive even fathom into the conversation?

People are just so sex-centric these days that it is totally unbelievable for a healthy man to go over 9months without any need to fvck his pregnant wife, or fvck anyone for that matter.

Messed up mentality.