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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by rezky(m): 4:14pm On Oct 11, 2023
Jennyclay:
The prophetess must have gone through hell for the past 23 years in the hands of her husband reason she has to end that deadly marriage reason she even had to take her kids along.

Nigerian men will beat their wife to coma. undecided
Nigerian men will rape their wife and they would gladly tell you there’s nothing like rape in marriage. Very sick and disgusting men sad.

Nigerian men won’t even provide and take good care of their wife and children. undecided

Take a look at the case of that gospel singer, Osinachi. Assuming she left that monster of a husband, she would have been alive till now.

Just imagine what you are saying., where in the whole write up., did you read that the man was beating is wife and not make provision or care for her..? Are you there to know what transpire..?

If have a brother in this kind of situation, your tone will change.

You just went straight to judge the man., that part where they say "she left her husband to marry one of his spiritual son"...wetin that one mean..?

She's a prophetess for crying out loud.
What she even did is the height of it all., changing the man's surname to her lovers' very absurd.

And you are defending rubbish., shouting Nigerian men up and down., i no know the kind men you dey attract O!.

But na Nigeria man you go still marry...make you start to pray for the good ones.

A typical example of bad Nigeria women...is what we have there....shioor!
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Eduadolero(f): 4:15pm On Oct 11, 2023
Jennyclay:
The prophetess must have gone through hell for the past 23 years in the hands of her husband reason she has to end that deadly marriage reason she even had to take her kids along.

Nigerian men will beat their wife to coma. undecided
Nigerian men will rape their wife and they would gladly tell you there’s nothing like rape in marriage. Very sick and disgusting men sad.

Nigerian men won’t even provide and take good care of their wife and children. undecided

Take a look at the case of that gospel singer, Osinachi. Assuming she left that monster of a husband, she would have been alive till now.
The way your father raped your mother to birth ypu
The way your mother is tattered since your father didnt take good care of her
Some women are evil just like you. The same way we have some evil men
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by emmatuegbe(m): 4:16pm On Oct 11, 2023
Obesity:
I love this court case... Evil tradition must be destroyed
No parent would take joy of a man eloping with their daughter in the name of forming a new family.
Traditions were established to bring orderliness in the society. Would you raise a daughter for 22 years or more, then one stranger would just hold her back to form a new family without the consent of her parent or family members. It is a mixed issue. No responsible man would embark on such steps or encourage such
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by VEHINTOLAR: 4:19pm On Oct 11, 2023
I blame Mr Obayan who,in his moment of unreasonability,agreed to marry one village dwelling mgbeke from Abia state ! What a culture;crude,barbaric, uncivilized,primitive, injurious,insane,meant only for animals !
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Timothy89(m): 4:19pm On Oct 11, 2023
I'm against her changing the names of the children to his new man but I expect the judge to tell the Prophet of paying the lady off for wasting her time for 23yrs, if he had paid the bride price the woman wouldn't have the effrontery of changing the children names to obi or even flirting around



the woman lose in the 23yrs of their relationship and she might not get to have a good relationship with the kids in her new marriage
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by CSTRR: 4:20pm On Oct 11, 2023
nairayouthcom:


As in like I don’t understand this shit

Two grown up adult had S**x and reproduce
Then one part (woman) they cap me say the child will belong to another man if I don’t pay dowry

As in I don’t grab
Still on still that culture, una Dey cap rubbish
Why do you put sacrifice on the road in your culture?

I don't care, neither do I want to understand.
It's not my culture.

If you want to give birth to roadside children, stick to cultures that allows it.

They clearly don't. And They have no interest in making you understand.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 4:21pm On Oct 11, 2023
nedekid:

Customs, culture, and traditions are created by human beings to reflect their values, beliefs, and societal norms. So, in essence, customs, culture, and tradition are made for human beings, as they are products of human society.

Very good! grin

My argument is that the Igbo customs, culture, and tradition CANNOT be greater than the humans involved in this case. Therefore, the humans (as in this case) take precedence over the Igbo customs, culture, and tradition.

For example, the created cannot be greater than the creator.

The law court has demonstrated this. cool
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by CSTRR: 4:22pm On Oct 11, 2023
VEHINTOLAR:
I blame Mr Obayan who,in his moment of unreasonability,agreed to marry one village dwelling mgbeke from Abia state ! What a culture;crude,barbaric, uncivilized,primitive, injurious,insane,meant only for animals !
Good.

He should go and impregnate Iya morufu that will give him ten children outside wedlock with just paraga hot drink and peppered meat.

Life is not more easier than that.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 4:24pm On Oct 11, 2023
Ttipsy:
igbankwu nwanyi is a well respected tradition.
The man should go and pay bride price !! Nobody is dragging his wife and children with him.

The judge will call it whatever name he Wants because it’s not an English tradition.

The woman’s who’s changing the name of the children is just wasting her time , if truly biologically the children belong to the so called husband

@bolded, the purpose/reason for 'bride price' is now VOID - no longer viable.
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Gajagojo: 4:26pm On Oct 11, 2023
emmatuegbe:

No parent would take joy of a man eloping with their daughter in the name of forming a new family.
Traditions were established to bring orderliness in the society. Would you raise a daughter for 22 years or more, then one stranger would just hold her back to form a new family without the consent of her parent or family members. It is a mixed issue. No responsible man would embark on such steps or encourage such
Elope? Who eloped when
How do you define ELOPE

Failure to pay money?
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Neddyogu(m): 4:31pm On Oct 11, 2023
omooba969:


If you apply logic, and not emotions, you will understand that both the man and the woman are guilty of the same offence - as per the bolded in ya comment. Therefore, would it not be considered insane and oppressive to want to punish or deny the man in this instance?

No emotions here bro, it is what it is! Regardless of tribe or ethnicity, children born to unmarried women in igboland belong with the mother's people. Igbo men are very aware of this custom and so hardly raise dust when affected. Let the man go pay brideprice and fulfil the customs of the woman's people and so can be recognised as an inlaw and accorded all rights, not this backyard runs he's doing. Bear this in mind if u're getting under the sheets illegally (in a customary sense) with an Igbo girl.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 4:31pm On Oct 11, 2023
Mcreloaded:


Don't call her his wife after all he has. Ot paid the dowry.
Is it not better your women wait for dowry to be paid before they start having children for a man whose tradition is different from yours.

Will it not be better for the children also if the igbo woman does not have to change father.

Be honest with ur self who suffers when a dowry is not paid, is it not the children.

Enlighten your women to stick to their kind or better still confirm the dowry is paid before they start giving birth.


Well sha everything about it o is money money money.

How much you people will make from the dowry is all that matters to you people. It's business for you people as always.

Stop the evil tradition or go to court.

Like I said before,
Are you more knowledgeable than the judge.

Enlighten your women and stop spreading evil.

I hate person's who like evil and I hate a group of people more who like evil.
Your ways are evil and barbaric as stated by the judge.

Wake up and smell the coffee as your ways make people to hate you guys.

Think deep on what we are discussing

Lol 🤣

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Nextt: 4:36pm On Oct 11, 2023
izzou:
I agree with the judge.

But what kind of man marries a woman for 23 years, without settling with the family?

23 years, and you could not pay bride price?

True, there are customs in every tribe that need to be done away with but the fact that the man did not pay her bride price is callous. He was merely using her for breeding. He denied her every right as a legal wife but enjoyed all the benefits of a legal husband. This is evil in its darkest colour.

I disagree with the Ondo court on this ruling. If a person allows his land to be dwelt on by someone else for a long period, that dweller automatically gains possession of the land.

The court has done injustice in this case. This ruling is absurd, farcical, biased, illogical.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Abagworo(m): 4:37pm On Oct 11, 2023
The magistrate is stupid for dabling into what is not his business. How can you claim paternity of children without actually marrying their mother? It's unacceptable in Igbo culture as the children belong to the father of the woman or whoever marries her. The culture I believe is to serve as deterrent to men who think that by getting a woman pregnant she no longer has a worth and could be treated anyhow. It's a good culture.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 4:38pm On Oct 11, 2023
Neddyogu:


No emotions here bro, it is what it is! Regardless of tribe or ethnicity, children born to unmarried women in igboland belong with the mother's people. Igbo men are very aware of this custom and so hardly raise dust when affected. Let the man go pay bride price and fulfil the customs of the woman's people and so can be recognised as an in-law and accorded all rights, not this backyard runs he's doing. Bear this in mind if u're getting under the sheets illegally (in a customary sense) with an Igbo girl.

One of the problems is that Igbos tend to believe that outsiders have full knowledge of the Igbos customs & traditions.
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by VEHINTOLAR: 4:41pm On Oct 11, 2023
CSTRR:

Good.

He should go and impregnate Iya morufu that will give him ten children outside wedlock with just paraga hot drink and peppered meat.

Life is not more easier than that.

Yes,we prefer our "Iya morufu" to some village dwelling,uncivilized,primitive mgbekes from the erosion ravaged land of cannibals !
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by djon78(m): 4:41pm On Oct 11, 2023
ForestHill:
Logically, could this be the reason Igbo women stays married more than 90% of all the tribes combined?

The main issue is that because of the premium attached to bride price

The Man in question behaves himself well because he didn't go to just pick a woman anyhow

He paid a price for the woman he is marrying therefore he behaves well

On the part of the woman
She is trained from young to respect her husband who paid her bride price
Be submissive and take care of there home


That's why Igbo women despite there high place and achievement in society respects there husband's very well
Majority of them though we have the exception
Example: Ngozi okonjo iweala, late Dora Akunyili, Oby Ezekwesili are all well submitted to there husband's

Late Dora Akunyili was said that even as a minister and nafdac DG Personally prepared the soup her husband eats not leaving it to cooks and steward's

They even help build there Men up

Give it to Igbo custom


Although wise women respect there husband
Not just Igbo culture

I have been in a forum live where Mrs alakija personally said that despite her wealth she is submitted to her husband.
Cooks his food etc

Na women wey never reach anywhere or achieved anything in Life that disrespect there husband's


That's why I am raising my daughter's to attain great height but must submit to there husband's and do the normal work a woman is meant to do like cooking good food for your home and running your home perfectly

That's our duty as fathers to raise responsible daughter's that will be good wife to there husband's

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by myrates: 4:44pm On Oct 11, 2023
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Neddyogu(m): 4:45pm On Oct 11, 2023
omooba969:


One of the problems is that Igbos tend to believe that outsiders have full knowledge of the Igbos customs & traditions.

Same thing Igbos ppl suffer when they marry or interact outside their tribe. I had a relative that married an urhobo lady from Delta, unfortunately, this lady died and her people insisted that it was their custom to bury their daughter in her father's house wether married or not! God forbid! As Igbos, this was strange to us as only single ladies are buried in their father's homes. But custom is custom! So u see, everybody's a victim of the other fellow's customs and traditions. It's not an Igbo thing per se.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by djon78(m): 4:46pm On Oct 11, 2023
emmatuegbe:

No parent would take joy of a man eloping with their daughter in the name of forming a new family.
Traditions were established to bring orderliness in the society. Would you raise a daughter for 22 years or more, then one stranger would just hold her back to form a new family without the consent of her parent or family members. It is a mixed issue. No responsible man would embark on such steps or encourage such


You dey mind them

If you no pay bride price
The family doesn't even recognize you
Even for church marriages now
The priest will find out whether the customs were fulfilled before going on with the wedding

They can't even run away from the fact
We don't allow irresponsible men and miscreants to reap where they didn't sow

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by djon78(m): 4:48pm On Oct 11, 2023
Neddyogu:


Same thing Igbos ppl suffer when they marry or interact outside their tribe. I had a relative that married an urhobo lady from Delta, unfortunately, this lady died and her people insisted that it was their custom to bury their daughter in her father's house wether married or not! God forbid! As Igbos, this was strange to us as only single ladies are buried in their father's homes. But custom is custom! So u see, everybody's a victim of the other fellow's customs and traditions. It's not an Igbo thing per se.



Exactly custom is custom

If one doesn't want to abide by the custom
He doesn't need to go for it

Every tribe has there custom

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by herich(m): 4:50pm On Oct 11, 2023
badoh:

Because Yoruba custom is considerate and dowry payment is less costly.
Whether expensive or less costly, go and pay pride price,, and stop *cohabiting.
Most people don't even pay everything finish, but they still pay something, no matter how small.
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by AliEzeOlu: 4:56pm On Oct 11, 2023
Jennyclay:
The prophetess must have gone through hell for the past 23 years in the hands of her husband reason she has to end that deadly marriage reason she even had to take her kids along.

Nigerian men will beat their wife to coma. undecided
Nigerian men will rape their wife and they would gladly tell you there’s nothing like rape in marriage. Very sick and disgusting men sad.

Nigerian men won’t even provide and take good care of their wife and children. undecided

Take a look at the case of that gospel singer, Osinachi. Assuming she left that monster of a husband, she would have been alive till now.

Wait a minute, is your father a man from Pluto or Jupiter??

Is he not also a Nigerian man? If he is, please don't use his personality to judge us all, ok?

Nigerian men are not all the same. Kapish!!
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 5:02pm On Oct 11, 2023
LeopardX:
Wetin concern me?
While I'm not a tribalistic person, I believe everyone should marry within his/her ethnic group.

As a Yoruba man, I can only marry a Yoruba woman who is also a Christian. And while it's not a guarantee of a long and happy union, at least there will be a semblance of understanding and oneness in language and culture.


I love women of other tribes o. But na only Yoruba women dey enter my eyes.

Make prophet take heart. The children may not even be his sef.

As you don't subscribe to inter-tribal marriage, are we allowed to knack women from other tribe though? grin

At least for knacking, no bride price is expected. grin
Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by Sctests: 5:02pm On Oct 11, 2023
This is one of the reasons I do not support intertribal marriage.
If you must put your penis in a woman without a condom, be aware and be ready for the spiritual, traditional, and familial implications and consequences.

The Yoruba man knew the lady was Igbo before going in there for coital pleasure.

Igbo tradition and marriage rites are very deep and are designed to keep men responsible enough, not to fill the whole community with bastards.

If you do not pay the bride price of the woman before impregnating her, you are just a sperm donor, not the child's father. When you do the marital rites he child will handed over to him (or whoever marries the woman).

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by djon78(m): 5:09pm On Oct 11, 2023
omooba969:


Very good! grin

My argument is that the Igbo customs, culture, and tradition CANNOT be greater than the humans involved in this case. Therefore, the humans (as in this case) take precedence over the Igbo customs, culture, and tradition.

For example, the created cannot be greater than the creator.

The law court has demonstrated this. cool


What even gave the court right is because they married under court Law's

But if it's just someone that goes and impregnate a woman without doing culture norms and no court legal binding

That pikin don go
Nothing the guy can do

I have such a case in my extended family
A distant relative had a child when she was ninteen
She had a boy

The father took custody of that boy
Today that boy will write his waec next June
And get into university
He is very smart

The impregnator can't even near the child whatsoever
After the family have raised the boy up as there own

Another big man an oil executive from Delta Igbo
One of his daughters had a child as a teen
The Man later accepted that boy after forgiving his daughter

That boy went to the best of schools
Doing university in the US

Then one efulefu will come to claim the boy

Arrant nonsense


See in Igbo culture
We don't play with children
Even though my Dad married my mum properly

Still my mother's people still own part of me

My kid Sister's did traditional wedding some weekends ago

Even my mother's people had a share in the bride price and things the in laws brought from the marriage list


That's how deep Igbo custom is
We don't do things anyhow

And that's why we prefer marrying ourselves

Like amongst my family even extended
We married ourselves igbos

My parents had 5 girls 4 are married
2 are doctors
But they are all married to Igbo Men
One from IMO
Another one from Abia
The other two from our Anambra State

So that's why we rearly marry outside
We marry those that value our culture

And all my married sisters are treasures to there husband's

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by jclassiq(m): 5:14pm On Oct 11, 2023
izzou:
I agree with the judge.

But what kind of man marries a woman for 23 years, without settling with the family?

23 years, and you could not pay bride price?
Yoruba Sabi wetin be bride price? If you just give woman belle she don become ya wife.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by TinubuDeDrugLor: 5:17pm On Oct 11, 2023
theophorus:
This people and their barbaric act.
Two adults having lived together for 23 yrs and raise kids together, one of them decides to pack the children and claim because dowry wasn't paid.

Mumu, you know say dem no pay dowry before but you open leg make dem plough your vineyard.
After 23yrs, you come still dey do more mumu acts, instead make your people correct you, dem still dey support your mumu doings.

Some of you Yoruba idiots always claim that your culture is better.

A useless culture that allows male and female to live together and start producing children without legally getting married?

Tueh for you people.

They never married in the first place so which marriage did the bastard, iresponsible, disgruntled and unrepentant Bigot magistrate dissolved?

Useless Oduduwa forge forge magistrate who doesn't know anything in law...he's better of as a charge and bail.

How can you disolve something that doesn't exist?


The woman should sue that shameless and irresponsible oponu called man in an Abia state high court...

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by guidelight: 5:21pm On Oct 11, 2023
In Igbo custom they are not married.

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Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 5:22pm On Oct 11, 2023
TinubuDeDrugLor:


Some of you Yoruba idiots always claim that your culture is better.

A useless culture that allows male and female to live together and start producing children without legally getting married?

Tueh for you people.

They never married in the first place so which marriage did the bastard, iresponsible, disgruntled and unrepentant Bigot magistrate dissolved?

Useless Oduduwa forge forge magistrate who doesn't know anything in law...he's better of as a charge and bail.

How can you disolve something that doesn't exist?

The woman should sue that shameless and irresponsible oponu called man in an Abia state high court...

Re: Igbo Custom On Bride Price Wicked, Evil Ungodly, Says Ondo Court by omooba969(m): 5:23pm On Oct 11, 2023
guidelight:
In Igbo custom they are not married.

Are you Igbo?

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