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luminouz:
Let them come. We'll fight them together. I am Spartacus and you are Gannicus or is it Oenomaûs?

We go finish them

daylay7:
I came across this on the social media and I want to know the opinion of naira nations. The question is, is payback cheating okay in a marriage?

ADVISE HIM, ONLY FOR MATURE MINDS.
I cheated on my wife one time in our 3rd year of marriage.. she saw a text from the lady and confronted me crying and asking me where she went wrong.. she spoke to me in such a way that I felt useless and ashamed of my self.. indeed she’s a good woman who has stood by me all these years and this is how I repay her.. I went sober.. and very remorseful.. I confessed everything to her and exposed the lady In question.. She cried.. for several days and night.. she starved herself.. she was almost slipping into depression but with Gods help and my constant apologizing and actions she pulled through.. she told me she has forgiven me and I should not worry no soul will ever know about it.. I was like God thank you for the blessed wife you gave me.. she returned to being my sweet, loving and affectionate wife again and we were able to heal from the hurt .. I promised her and vowed to God never to ever cheat on her as long as I’m alive and this is our 7th year I have kept that promise by Gods grace.. two weeks ago my wife told me she was traveling to attend a wedding in another state.. her friends baby sisters wedding.. she even bought a lace.. sewed it, bought gele, and a purse.. I helped her book her flight, I drove her to the airport and even gave her extra money for spending.. I took care of the kids while she was away (she was supposed to be gone for 4 days ) the next day.. our fist daughter woke up with a high fever and I was panicking.. I rushed her to the hospital and they put her on admission instantly cos she had severe malaria.. then I tried to reach my wife at least to inform her.. her numbers were all switched off.. I’m not the type to be calling my wife’s friends but I had to call the friend she told me she was going to see just to inform her of the emergency.. so Was shocked to hear that my wife said she was coming to her place.. at first i greeted her and said ah ah madam how the preparation coming up? She was like what preparation sir?? I said your sisters wedding.. she said which sister? I immediately knew something was not right but I pretended so as not to embarrass my wife any further .. I cut the call and tried to keep my cool.. after series of medication she was stable.. my wife called me hours later and was apologizing that her and her friend (the one I called went to market to do some shopping and decided to leave their fones at home so it won’t get lost) I said okay no problem.. she encouraged me to be strong and even prayed over the fine and sang for our daughter.. she returned home after 3 more days and I was already disgusted by her presence.. I tried to be calm and act normal until our daughter was very strong and recovered fully.. one morning after I dropped them off at school I returned home to my wife who was still in bed..
Then I asked her to get up we needed to talk.. I asked her politely where she travelled to but she was acting clueless and pretending I went for my friends sisters wedding nau.. didn’t I tell you.. why are you asking me again
She even tried to call the friend to ask her but I told her it’s fine she should not worry because I already talked to the friend and she told me she hasn’t seen you in a very long time.. I became furious!! Because she was even trying to deny to my face.. I pressed and pressed her until she confessed that she travelled with her lover to Ghana !! I got the shock of my entire life.. my own wife did not just cheat, she travelled all the way to defile herself I asked her why and she said she’s sorry.. that she felt betrayed when I cheated on her.. and that she hasn’t been able to get it of her head.. that’s why she decide to get some distraction.. it’s been 4 years ago since that one Incident I had.. and she was the one who prayed with me and begged God to forgive me.. only for her to be plotting her own.. I o don’t even know what I’m feeling in my heart presently.. I left the house and I’ve been staying at my late moms house .. she’s been calling me and sending me lots of epistles but I’m too weak to even face her right now.. how could she? My chest literally feels like exploding with pain.. the upsetting part is that my wife is extremely beautiful and her body is beyond amazing.. the thought that another man has seen it all and touched it and felt it and been inside her is just killing me I want to die already!! For the first time in my marriage I cried profusely like a baby.. I can’t stand it.. I’m disgusted and perplexed!!!! I don’t even know what to do next..
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eazzzy1:
This isn’t revenge cheating. Even if the OP never cheated she would still have cheated. Some of your wives are getting ready for the return of their abroad based lovers this Christmas. They have perfected plans on the when, how and where.

If a woman’s cheating catches you by surprise in this decade, you must be living in Pluto. If person knack your own, find another person own knack.

Tyrone34:
Rum look marriage be like cage oo you will no longer have your freedom to associate and to top am up if you marry woman when nor dey forgive just know say you don enter one chance.am talking from experience and I have more then ten years I regret that act of marriage each day.

skj1377:
Oga , your wife travelled with her lover to Ghana??. Hmm. Anyways how old are you?. How does a woman with small kids and a husband travel with another man to another country?. You said your wife is beautiful with nice body, i guess she has constant male attention even after marriage. Anyways your wife is not the first or the last to do such as many cooperate ladies in financial institutions and high net worth companies also do such for financial and carrier gains. A good example is the story of the former FCMB boss who fathered two children in another man's marriage. You can imagine how many trips and hotels sessions she had with her boss and still went home to her husband afterwards.
I don't know what advice your looking for or what type of man you are but what happened to you happens alot in Nigeria.
My young men please and please avoid pretty ladies with great bodies . Go for the ordinary looking ladies intentionally. Don't allow a ladies beauty put you under pressure financially in relationship and marriage.

Newdawn30:
So because of that we shouldn't go out with pretty ladies? That's not a good enough reason

See all women cheat, I even dare say it's ugly ladies that cheat the most (they need male attention to boost they ugly ass ego) and it's painful when dey cheat on you because, you don't see it coming. The beautiful ones respect themselves more

Newdawn30:
So because of that we shouldn't go out with pretty ladies? That's not a good enough reason

See all women cheat, I even dare say it's ugly ladies that cheat the most (they need male attention to boost they ugly ass ego) and it's painful when dey cheat on you because, you don't see it coming. The beautiful ones respect themselves more

Reminderz:
if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

Reminderz:
if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

Pupanchy:
This is deadly if u don't avoid such woman

Justkatty:
You're even lucky she didn't kill you

If you're had Stayed faithful in your marriage, I don't think, the thought of leaving her kids and travel that far would have even come to her mind.

I keep saying it, know who you marry.
Some women may pretend to forgive you, waiting for the right time to strike, some may forgive and forget just because of the kids.

In marriage, it takes 2 to paddle.

I have never seen an award given to an unfaithful partner before.
The way you feel you cant be eating one soup everyday as man, some women feels same too.

elmagnifico411:
Oil dey your head, brother. You're a real G. Op messed up by confessing to his wife, walahi.. if he'd denied no matter how glaring the evidences, there's every possibility that his wife wouldn't have paid him back this way.

daylay7:
But at the end of the day, it is the women that is at the receiving end. They tend to lose all.

Newborn27:
This is disheartening!

The heart of human are desperately wicked!
What lesson is she going to teach her female daughters with such vengeance?
What if something bad happened to her on her way to Ghana?

Life no just balance sha!

Justkatty:
You're even lucky she didn't kill you

If you're had Stayed faithful in your marriage, I don't think, the thought of leaving her kids and travel that far would have even come to her mind.

I keep saying it, know who you marry.
Some women may pretend to forgive you, waiting for the right time to strike, some may forgive and forget just because of the kids.

In marriage, it takes 2 to paddle.

I have never seen an award given to an unfaithful partner before.
The way you feel you cant be eating one soup everyday as man, some women feels same too.

zexy2030:
T hat s content, soulish content

carolingian79:
I don't believe in payback cheating. I don't even believe in cheating to begin with. If she wants to cheat on me, she's free to do that but I will never not follow her down her path of willful stupidity

Justkatty:
Not at all
That's why you keep hearing some men saying "Men don't benefit anything in marriage"
A woman may accept to carry all responsibilities, if her husband tends to be fo*lish, at the end who suffers the most at the long run? if you want to be sincere to yourself
You see, one of the reasons you don't need to misbehave and think you can get away with it.

zexy2030:
Women dont think before doing some things.

Always check the content of the kind of woman you want to marry. That's her lifetime orientation then give her 6kids..she will be scared to cheat, till the kids are grown

sprag007:
What if this is a test?
She didn't cheat on you but just trying to see your reaction to what she forgave you for.

Or

She actually did.

Worst case scenario, you can forgive her knowing that you can't forget.
For your own sanity and mental health.


I have PTSD for yellow dresses cos I was cheated on. I nearly committed a heinous crime because of woman.
I have forgiven her since but I can't forget.
Yellow (ashawo) gown dey always trigger me.

eazzzy1:
This isn’t revenge cheating. Even if the OP never cheated she would still have cheated. Some of your wives are getting ready for the return of their abroad based lovers this Christmas. They have perfected plans on the when, how and where.

If a woman’s cheating catches you by surprise in this decade, you must be living in Pluto. If person knack your own, find another person own knack.