Impatient, that's all i see.

''Being happy is not an achievement...''
Hello??

If u have all those things u listed: money, assets, standard of living etc and u are depressed or sick, u go know what happiness means.

Obviously u are still a yungin.....at least in mind.

Puss360:

Better reanalyse your life... Your child is not an achievement... Any potent man and fertile woman can conceive regardless of their financial status...
So your child won't make your life better or worse... Maybe seeing them gives you joy, that's fine, but being happy isn't an achievement....
Are your living well?
Is your standard of Living high/good?
Do u have assets,?
Consider all those....

What's your plan
Getting man isn't her problem, she's only focus/fixated with the negative aspect of relationship.

Why do you think she'll even like random guy like you, THAT'S EVEN IF YOU HAVE PURE INTENTION

vikkogg:
Yes, you're older than me, but I don't mind getting close to you. If you don't mind also, send me your contact on mastervikk@gmail.com

Marriage is not for everybody..I don’t even think I can get married but baby mama is alright tho..If my babe sef stay 1week with me Na to find excuse pursue her..Now marriage for life,haba.I no sure that can work..

Getting married is purely a grace from God. If everyone decided not to marry you wouldn't have been born.... The same is instituted by God for reproduction and a woman having a crown over her head.

If you had committed it to God's hands... you would have found a better suitor. Mind you, it's not a bed of roses..... Every woman must be ready to bear it, starting small with a man to become great.

From the Bible, a woman was created to be a help need for man..... What makes you think a man must provide everything for you??.... Every single women today have one problem in common... (They need a man who can provide everything for them) Whereas, the devil will use financial problems to make your crown looks like a broke ass, like you girls will say.... whereas he only needs your support to become the real man he was destined to be.

My advice : its not too late... commit it to the hand of God for 30days..... you'll see God's plan for you...

I wish you well.

Jewessgratitud3:


For you and your likes who see singlehood as a plague but go ahead and marry problems and divorce under 1 year or run a d abandon your family because you can't cope with responsibilities.

Go and check the statics of married men who have dumped their family and run away.

Which is a problem and is supposed to cause depression between these two situations?

Every body sha wan talk.

I don't have a problem with you being a spinster at 42 but I have a problem with you condemning the institution of marriage and saying wild generalizations like married men are dumping their families. Stop trying to console yourself by imagining that all married people are unhappy and you are better off. THAT IS A BIG LIE!!

Abagworo:


When small or inexperienced children talk you'll know. I don't know aboit others but to me love does not exist but rather tolerance and compromise. If eventually you think you love someone and marry him your eyes go clear in one year and you will divorce and start looking for another love .

Here are mine thinking that, I am the only one that have this mindset.

Only God is capable of love, anyone that say they love someone in my books are committing sacrilege.

What we humans call love is actually LIKE, like @ jewessgratitud3 stated, she is looking for her ‘spec’, her spec is the person that checks most of the boxes in her laundry list of ‘what it is to be a good man’.

Every lady have this list and they defer one from the another, guys also have this list….and when we find the person that checked the most boxes, we say we are in ‘love’ no you are not in love, you just found someone that checked off most of your list.

If you settled with your supposed lover now, the truth is, tomorrow you can still walk into someone that checked more of your boxes or your current lover can even uncheck some of the boxes that were previously checked with time as a result of nature, age, circumstances, etc, so what do you do when that happens?

God is love and loves us unconditionally and He is the only one capable of love…at our best, we can only love conditionally and conditional love is LIKE because it is based on existing conditions that may or may not be there tomorrow.

Come to think of it, we even loved God conditionally talkless of our fellow human beings.. We loved him because He first loved us and gave His Son to die for our sins….if not for that sacrifice, we wouldn’t have loved God….therefore we don’t even love God, we only LIKED Him because He sent His Son to died for us, we liked Him because He will protect us, we liked Him because He will take us to heaven with mansions, we like Him because He forgives our sins, the boxes goes on and on.

I'll still implore you stop focusing on the negative aspect and tolerate fair suitor, get married BECAUSE WE CAN'T BE 100%.

Get married and have your own kids. If you were okay with it now, consider old age.

Jewessgratitud3:


Really? Hey God. I wish youre close to me. You'll know that I'm the happiest soul on earth. I only withdraw when people become toxic to me.

Make I tell you my best friends, children. If you where we are playing and discussing you'll think we are mates. Im not only happy but a joyful soul.

Jewessgratitud3:
author=Newborn27 post=126658739]Wow!


This is deep!

I don't even know what to say or where to start from... truly you're courageous and strong.


At this point, if it comes fine, if not, fine. I'm not the one to make such plans. If I get what I want, oh.. why not but if not, men e go hard o. Like I said... In this year alone, I've had two suitors. A very responsible guy and a man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, it will be very difficult. These two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage all because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it.



Like I told you before, what tickles every one's fancy is different likewise what bothers them.
You may fancy all the bolded and I may not. What you want out of marriage is different from what I want. So it's not a one size fits all" thingy or compulsory that we all must like to do or have things the same way. That is why you will never see me envy married people or people with children because to me it's really nothing. Now, my Mom married at the age of 10 . Had all of us before 30 but died in her Early 40s. So of what use was her early marriage and child-bearing to her? Fine they use us to remember her but she as person, what did she enjoy in her life for achieving those? Just suffered to raise children that she didn't live to see even one grandchild? Abeg abeg.


Why? That's like saying I regret.. I have saidvit countless times that I've never regretted it for once . Ok let me even pause for a moment and try to remember if I ever wished I did.......... 🤔 🤔 🤔.... Ogbeni nothing like that o. Rather I've always thought that if I had married maybe by now I would have left the marriage cos e for don taya me and that's the truth. In fact.. sometimes I used to silently thank my stars that I'm not married with kids in this economy because I can't endure suffering and hardship with children. Not like Im wishing myself hardship but men in this present economy, everyone is facing it and someone like me can't take the heat with such responsibilities even when shared.
There's a friend of mine that always wish to switch places with me saying I'm enjoying because I don't have anything bothering me and I'll tell her I'm glad I don't have those bukata.



Stigmatization? LoL.. see so far e no affect my pocket, whatever anyone says in that regards does not bother me. it's when you listen or go close to people they'll stigmatize you. I don't keep companies. I'm a loner and it helps a lot to stay away from such. No be if I smile with you you come know wether I don marry or not. I feel free saying it here because no body knows me in person and it all ends here. Of course some people in the past have said some things like your twin is married you're here forming oge, but I didn't give a damn because when I look at their lives im doing far better than them and living life to the fullest. Abi What is life about? No be enjoyment? See it's all in your head o.life no hard reach like that




I love my family. They will never pressure you. My dad before he died would be like, if you do anyhow I'll take my daughter back ( referring to my in-laws.) So all his inlaws are pals with him. They'll be like ogor, oya make we go chill. He will tell you, don't stress them for me o. As for the single ones he'll make sure he provides our needs so we don't look outside. Even as a working class lady, my dad when he collects his pension, he will buy a bag of rice and share to every one of us in our various houses. He was still giving me money till his death in 2012 ( miss you pop). My dad na guy man. Him no send o.

Forget, this life is what you make of it. I try as much as I can to enjoy myself and make every minute of it count

I love this post. You are a free bird just like me. I'm a renegade when it comes to following certain cultural 'norms' Stay free and do whatever makes you happy. That's the most important thing in life. People take things too seriously but for real, nothing really dey this life like this. Bless you🙂

You may be wrong because u can't detect her age from mere look, she's way younger than her age

3ice9ce:


Just listen to this old glutton . Men want to nack this one and she's calling them suitors. Imagine the nonsense a 42-year old is typing.

If na ring you want, men will give you ring, nack you and dump you and your pot belly since you no wan get sense.

I don't know why but your story is hilarious 😂
You write in a funny way.

Carry go OP, nothing do you♥️
You look very young too, like you're in your late twenties.

This is the path I want to take too. I'm not interested in getting married. I'm going to focus on me and build myself because I'm all I have in this world. May the odds be in my favor. Amen.

Jewessgratitud3:

I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

You're a loser with nothing to show for your existence apart from a protruding tummy which is a symbol of your gluttony.

One day, you will want to play with your siblings' children and their parents will fabricate reasons to keep them away from you. You will remember this post that day.

Jewessgratitud3:
Hopefully someone leans from my story. I don't regret any of my decisions so far. I'm happy that in all, I wasn't consumed, used to a point of no return in fact if you see me, you'll hardly believe I'm 42. apart from say I get small protruding stomach ( which almost everyone has) and it's only when I eat. Otherwise its normal. So it's caused by food and I overeat.

I also don't regret not having children outside wedlock cos it would have reduced my chances of getting attention from men even at my age. Yes.. I still get attention like serious advances from single men. This is not to make a boast. In this year alone, I've had two suitors. Very responsible guy and another man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage just because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it. Call me anything you like, your opinion. I don't kia!


Modified

I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

Empty skull

I am glad you said you are a Catholic, I am too and it gladdens me when I see those who struggle to live their faith, it can be quite tough in the modern age. However, there is one thing I wish to draw your attention to, irrespective of what it looks out there, we must loose on the virtue of faith and hope. What the mother Church teaches is that we don't focus on our on strength and weakness, we must never be deter by what our eyes perceive around us, God always come through for those who loves him and walk according to his purposes. Whatsoever you desire, put it in prayer and leave God to fanthom out the way to make it come true. Stop allowing the sight of the negativity around you overshadow your eyes of faith...Goodluck to you.

Going by your word about your oil company bf “ he went to meet a lady, to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left and by the time he came back his thing has gone down” Are you kidding me?? You expect his “thing” to be up forever? I can’t imagine what you look like.


See your better off single. If you get married Na you go destroy am.

franchasofficia:
Whenever a guy or a girl feels he or she is too special and better than others to commit to anybody, they always end up miserably single for long if not forever.


Only fools find love.

People who sometimes allow themselves to be deceived end up having meaningful life than those who always overthink life and always on guard against being cheated or used by others.



I was brought up just like you, very strict family, them no born you well to keep a male friend to talk of a female friend while growing up. My only friends were my siblings and few cousins.


I lived a miserable life growing up and even missed amazing people I would have become friends and acquaintance with while I was thinking I was too good and far better than anybody else.


Until I unlearned some of the wrong things I was inculcated into while growing up as a child, I lived a very miserable life; found it hard to talk to girls, avoided girls, always too shy around girls and even guys. My only companion was my book, house chores and my siblings. But when I unlearned and started being open and allowing myself to mingle and sometimes be deceived by others, I began to grow in all ramifications of life and I became more street smart and to the glory of God I ended up a great man with great wife, amazing kids, awesome friends, quality life and more than what I asked from God.


The only thing giving me stress in life now is the useless Nigerian government that always keep me angry at most Nigerians and my new academic study (a cross I carried oh in the name of growing my academic qualifications for bragging rights ).


So op, you made a lot of mistakes, you had lots of things you should have done differently.


Your quick in breaking up is a curse you need to pray over and break out of if not

This is the second post on this thread I am learning a lot from....especially your last sentence... I have a lot of work to do in that regard...

I've never seen a courageous woman like you.
I like your boldness and unwillingness to compromise your standard or thinking of having child outside wedlock.
May your partner locate you this year and may you not be careless to lose him when he comes.

Nice story,life is all about choices.only you knows what will make you happy and it is not dependent on marriage. For me,I will like to have like 2 kids.but marriage.. I don't tink I can stay In the same house with a woman because I dont have patience to tolerate their issues.I was almost dating a lady of your age too early this year but what baffled me was that ,there was no aspect of her life that is functioning well,she was 43,no husband, no kids,no job,no house,staying in church house.it was weird to me because at least she should be doing something,so I just blanked her.i cant deal with a liability at my stage now.beem there,done that.All the best in pursuit of happiness.

Jewessgratitud3:
Hopefully someone leans from my story. I don't regret any of my decisions so far. I'm happy that in all, I wasn't consumed, used to a point of no return in fact if you see me, you'll hardly believe I'm 42. apart from say I get small protruding stomach ( which almost everyone has) and it's only when I eat. Otherwise its normal. So it's caused by food and I overeat.

I also don't regret not having children outside wedlock cos it would have reduced my chances of getting attention from men even at my age. Yes.. I still get attention like serious advances from single men. This is not to make a boast. In this year alone, I've had two suitors. Very responsible guy and another man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage just because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it. Call me anything you like, your opinion. I don't kia!


Modified

I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

Empty skull

I no come understand ur story. U come later change church? Because that aspect of only meeting in church dey make doubt the story

I just checked your profile, you are mostly active on family section, romance section and crime section

Why?
Psychologically you are suffering and you need a family of your own, you need a romantic life before you comit suicide (crime)

Forget about the economy, accept that man and work out things with him . You are not fulfilling the will of God, and you are disobeying God . Repent, get married, contribute your quota to existence.

siofra:
I don't know why but your story is hilarious 😂
You write in a funny way.

Carry go OP, nothing do you♥️
You look very young too, like you're in your late twenties.

This is the path I want to take too. I'm not interested in getting married. I'm going to focus on me and build myself because I'm all I have in this world. May the odds be in my favor. Amen.

Congrats on deciding to take the less travelled path. Do not let anyone force you into becoming a mother if you are not so inclined....not every woman is meant to be a mother...

But be aware of its adverse consequences like loneliness in old age etc...

Someone that is past her prime is still feeling cocky, you're almost 50, lonely, sad, bae-less and bragging, I pity you, menopause soon and you go be granny, dey play, wey girls plenty like sand this ngbeke is feeling funky.

MaverickA3:
I stopped reading the moment I discovered the op is a woman.

Lol 🤣😂🤣

That this woman feels a need a come and tell her story just says deep down she is not happy. Misery loves company. If you are truly happy with yourself you don’t need to explain yourself to anyone talk less strangers. Freud the renowned psychologist will probably say this is her way of coming to terms with her reality.

It is like a man coming to the internet to tell us why he is happy being poor. Yeah right.

franchasofficia:
Whenever a guy or a girl feels he or she is too special and better than others to commit to anybody, they always end up miserably single for long if not forever.


Only fools find love.

People who sometimes allow themselves to be deceived end up having meaningful life than those who always overthink life and always on guard against being cheated or used by others.



I was brought up just like you, very strict family, them no born you well to keep a male friend to talk of a female friend while growing up. My only friends were my siblings and few cousins.


I lived a miserable life growing up and even missed amazing people I would have become friends and acquaintance with while I was thinking I was too good and far better than anybody else.


Until I unlearned some of the wrong things I was inculcated into while growing up as a child, I lived a very miserable life; found it hard to talk to girls, avoided girls, always too shy around girls and even guys. My only companion was my book, house chores and my siblings. But when I unlearned and started being open and allowing myself to mingle and sometimes be deceived by others, I began to grow in all ramifications of life and I became more street smart and to the glory of God I ended up a great man with great wife, amazing kids, awesome friends, quality life and more than what I asked from God.


The only thing giving me stress in life now is the useless Nigerian government that always keep me angry at most Nigerians and my new academic study (a cross I carried oh in the name of growing my academic qualifications for bragging rights ).


So op, you made a lot of mistakes, you had lots of things you should have done differently.


Your quick in breaking up is a curse you need to pray over and break out of if not

You spoke facts!!

Wish it was possible to bookmark posts on this site, would have done it.

So many people including the OP needs to read it.

You still dey break up with man because you caught him with another girl? . Omo, you go single tire o. Just turn reverend sister

Your problem is pride, combine with village and city people

Britishpea:

Going by your word about your oil company bf “ he went to meet a lady, to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left and by the time he came back his thing has gone down” Are you kidding me?? You expect his “thing” to be up forever? I can’t imagine what you look like.


See your better off single. If you get married Na you go destroy am.

This na Wahala.

Good story and highly commendable Spirit of Honesty and puritan radicalism. Can u marry A alhaji and be his second wife Now. If ur spirit permit.

BigBashiru:

She is full of herself...

It is called "self worth." YOU can afford to go with every Tom and Harry because you don't have have self worth. It's not my fault dear.

Permit me to ask....how do you cope with Sexual urge

Jewessgratitud3:


You're a fool. You think I didn't know you're following me and would will see it before posting? Did it stop me?

Do you also think I don't know that whoever you're calling will eventually see it and still posted it anyways? You see how low your IQ is.

I'm not going to pause to think of whoever is watching before I make any post here so stop acting like the low life you are know that [b]I'm not here for you or any god-damned fool. [/b]I'll do whatever I want with my post and like I've always told you lots, you can not shame the shameless. So keep drooling over my post for all I care. Be my guest.

You don't sound like a dedicated Christian sister you claim to be.

"Come, let's go see our friend" is it an offensive statement? Ha!

Be calming down jare, "You are our "Fiend ""
jor.

You go just dey, dey pepper your mind over talk wey no be anything.