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Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by starstaz(m): 12:50pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
franchasofficia: Wisdom. ππ 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by TheRedpillguy: 12:51pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Suzzytee05: Now what are the odds of something like that happening to a random person? She said she is comfortable single and she is not looking for a relationship. Which is peace of mind... 1 Like |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Yusufisraelj(m): 12:51pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Commendable writeup by the way. Agreed, but you're also part of the reason you're single, which you've rightly admitted. While you're still open to relationship I think you need to do some reading and praying. Why do I say this, Relationship life is stratified into four cadres: 1. Love relationship 2. Destiny relationship 3. Business/Work relationship 4. General relationship Understanding the principles that govern each remains the key to success as regards relationships, but as pertaining our topic, first of you need to know how to recognize and spot a good guy, keep that you feelings first aside, you can fall in love with anyone if given time to know that person and if the same have value system that you respect, how comes you've ended up with people who are cheats? It speaks to your person, especially if it happens up to three times, the first two can be a mistake but the third time you're part of the problem. You see I once dated a cheat, hopefully my first and last, when I now met a good lady, I was not so patient with her, so I called it off based on an initial reference, I knew this because, during prayer, God asked me to sit down with a pen and paper after prayer and think for three hours about my relationship life, at the end of that analysis I discovered I wasn't so much a patient person and I missed out on a good lady. You have limitations you need to work on if you want something different in your next relationship, it's not so much about the other person, if you've done your due diligence, you can sense bull shit from afar and call it quits while hoping on God to help bring sincere and progressive people your way. That will not take out the place of understanding that a man is different from a woman and how you relate to both are different, respect, proper communication, conflict resolution and making sacrifices on the basis of a committed relationship. There are men who will respect your body before marriage, yes there are (mind you they know how to fvck and make a woman cum), but finding them will now be the work of prayer and discernment, keeping them will now be the work of wisdom (reading to demonstrate sound judgement). Those kind of men too will be people God have worked on and have integrity as well. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by mariahAngel(f): 12:54pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
YoshihideSuga: Really? Well, I believe truly loving yourself is loving someone else (others). Love is something you give, not hold within. 1 Like |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by BigBashiru: 12:54pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:No it is not self worth...it is hypergamy...the number one thing that destroys women if uncontrolled... 6 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by vikkogg: 12:54pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
It's funny how some people think they can speak for other people. First off, my message wasn't directed at you. Secondly, where in my writeup did I say I want to marry her or have a relationship with her. Don't bother quoting me. Just read and pass. Thanks. LivingSage: 1 Like |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Obagreatdatoye(m): 12:55pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:Dey deceive yourself...I give u 3 more years. Your cry will start getting bitter. 5 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by YesDaddy1: 12:57pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Aaaaarghmed:That's why they should be married off at a early age to be mentored and molded by their husbands. The moment she crosses 15, peer pressure and social media will recolonize their brain. Even tho i be christian, early marriage na one of the thing I respect most in the Islamic religion. If your wife cannot revere you like she does her pastor/imam/boss, then u are on ur own. (I didn't include 'father' bcus not all women respect their papa). 6 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 12:58pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
correctguy101: Pay attention to who? To those morons that their own life is nothing to write home about and are hiding under someone's honest post to type trash and feel good about their miserable life? Are they feeding me? If e sure for them make them write half paragraph of their life history. Only then will I start listening to their useless talks. Till then, their talk no hold water and they are not better than me. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by franchasofficia: 1:01pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Dougad:Her strict parental upbringing was meant to protect her from the dangers of this world as a child. It was supposed to expire the moment she graduated from university at most. She was supposed to open up small and learn some street smartness that ought to have helped her make the best choice of man she would have ended up with happily, she was supposed to have allowed herself to be deceived at some point, its normal in life, its from being deceived or being fooled that most ladies and gents find love or meet their best partners. If you lock up yourself thinking you are better than everybody else, thinking you are more righteous than others and therefore deserve Angel Gabriel or Assistant Jesus or Assistant Virgin Mary as spouse or partner, you will definitely end up miserable in life except God in His mercy intervenes in your life for whatever reason. How can a girl be breaking up with good guys because of singular reasons without giving a second chance, is she God? Sometimes people appreciate your value the more when you give them a second chance after they wrong you, but most ladies learn from sadistic women they call mentors who themselves never lived a happy life. What's the meaning of life without being happy at the end ? No family, no kids, no legacy, no nothing just some bragging right that no man ever had sex with you, what sort of achievement is that? My advice to any single Nigeria lady reading this is this, if you must stay single forever, please make sure you are financially rich and living abroad so that you can be sending plenty money to your parents and siblings you failed as a child and sibling. Let them use the plenty money you will be sending to them to fill the empty spaces you left by staying single and unmarried. For you ladies info, no father or mother will ever feel fulfilled watching his or her daughter or son age without being happily married with kids, it breaks their heart even though they might be well understanding and enlightened not to complai, but know it that they are not happy 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by 1Sharon(f): 1:01pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
If it was yourself you posted in your picture the other day, you aren't 42. You're a troll. 5 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 1:02pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
djon78: Arey still living with your mum? If not, has depression finished her in old age? I rest my case 1 Like |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 1:05pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
jaksmillioniar: Children wey you no fit train. Come here dey make mouth after you'll go and worry your life out. Na true 2 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Farfalla(f): 1:07pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Primusinterpares: And what is the worst that could happen if they stopped coming? Loneliness for life? Shame for life? What exactly will happen? Death? The more you look at these things, the more you realize it's all in your head. Instead of running away from things like this just face them head-on. I can relate to the OP perfectly because I used to be referred to as "picky" during my dating days, and I was also prepared for the possibility of being alone for life had a desirable partner not showed up. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by koning: 1:08pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
You did those men you turned down a favour. They all just dodged a dangerous bullet. You are just too damned self-centered to marry any man for the rest of your life. Remain single. As for me, i fall for and need a TOTALLY SUMBISSIVE WOMAN. Not forced or fake submission, but women who are very happy being submissive. They are out there. 5 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by YoungBlackRico(m): 1:12pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Well this is something you don't get to see everyday |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Karlifate: 1:12pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: You people will always find a way to project your dilemma on others. Very typical. π Just like the yeyebrity in this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7892355/every-woman-abortion-once-twice 1 Like |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 1:13pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Abuchindugba: The way they are using the one you're going to marry, use your daughters and dump them. You think I'm a woman of easy virtue like the females in your blood line? If me and your so called overused 22 years old sisters stand, theyll pick me ten times over them. No cap. You think everyone is rotten like you. 2 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 1:13pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Ode. U dey blame religion & men, mugu. U have a work yet u can't pay ur bills u dey wait 4 man 2 pay ur bills..one simp even went as far as 2 borrow just 2 give u money 2 solve ur matters. Where is he now? What else did he benefit 4rm d relatshp apart 4rm sex? If Tinubu can proscribe the act of simping, declare them threat 2 national security, he will forever be remembered. Death to all simps 4 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Karlifate: 1:13pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Bluearrow: Bluearrow fired a blue arrow π― 2 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 1:15pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
nairanaira12: LoL.. you think that scares me? Ogar, my life no revolve around having children and doing what society feels it's the norm. Get that into your thick skull abi which language I wan use tell una this things again. 2 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by holusormi(m): 1:16pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
E no dey hard to sabi people wey get mental issues , continue !!! 5 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by InvertedHammer: 1:16pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:/ Your life your choice. There are people who regret being single too long and can't wait to get married. There are people who regret being stuck in marriages and can't wait to jump out. You could have had a child out of wedlock for the heck of it...and he turns out to be Bobrisky / 2 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by babzlim(m): 1:17pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Firstly marriage Is not for everyone if your truly the picky type trust me you might end up not getting anyone because I have aunt who's story is similar to yours now she's single without kids 55 plus yrs know one to call her own except we the cousins nephew and others. If your looking for the perfect men look inward first, are you also the perfect woman for that man, someone you only met when he has grown to an adult you expect him to be perfect immediately u guys met in few months. with all I red I noticed alot of red flag π© in your attitude. 1, you lack communication skills 2, you don't listen before judging 3, you don't give room for explanation 4, pride is written all over you 5, your full of yourself 6, your also a cheat 7, your upbringing is not the issue but you are the problem 8, your looking for fault and not partner 9, your confused about what you truly want 10, you need some repair not the guys you met. 4 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by zed7: 1:17pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
You're not single by choice or your upbringing, there are deep psycho social issues involved. There are lots of people that were 'caged' and still got married. Just mere reading this, I can diagnose, some level of 'superiority complex' which usually is actually inferiority complex. I will advice counselling and therapy. If you continue like this, depression is just around the corner. This is free medical advice, try therapy. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 1:17pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
greypencils: Na your family members be that. My case can never and will never be like theirs because for me if I choose to marry now now, it only takes a phone call or replying my dm. So, don't conclude yet. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Karlifate: 1:18pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
imagrg: All these shalaye jus cos of pΓΌssy LMAO! π π 3 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by BigBashiru: 1:19pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Ensa777:Not just dancing but spending millions... But the children are his too... |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by LivingSage: 1:22pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
You got me, I poked nose. Apologies vikkogg: |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Stevenbright(m): 1:22pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: What about all the relationships that pop-up on Nairaland here with the most recent one being with the "my German bobo"? None of those stories featured in this tell tale. Well, just asking for a friend! 6 Likes |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by Jewessgratitud3: 1:23pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Everbomb: Hmm... You seem to understand my personality. The thing is, they come anytime I talk to God about it but my fear is I keep getting what I don't really want. Like no feelings for them. Like now, as I was typing , one just called me. He's everything but the attraction is not there. I'm scared I don't want to enter and now regret. No feelings for him. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Making This Post Based On Demand: Why I'm Still Single At 42 by akpunda86: 1:24pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Sister Ur strong but I bet you a time will come when u regret it all,u see Ur flat Tommy and small breasts and feel on top of the world. Yes country is hard but does not stop u from getting married,a time will come when u will regret,Ur family ,Ur parents can't be there forever but Ur kids will be. Marriage don't guarantee happiness but find a way to adopt. I don't know if u are the lady I met in Enugu,Ur story sounds like hers she is 45,a manager in a federal govt establishment ,level 15 with two cars,beautiful but no husband begging me for marriage as I'm a divorced man,flaunts her wealth,chokes my kids with gifts but money nor wealth don't guarantee happiness,we have copulated for six months she can't take in,she has the money paying millions for IVF,will be donating for her on Tuesday after IVF fails she going for adoption. My elder sister 51,her story nearly like yours today marriage no,no relationship,no work a nuisance now to my aged parents 86 and 83 at home, My dear sister wish you the best but all that have kids is for a reason,even if Ur kids all not rich but they always there 4 u when u need them. Take kia but with Ur story u can't be managing at same time childless ,in all Ur a virgin congrats 5 Likes |
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