bemeruca:
She is not your maid.

I agree, that’s why I didn’t bother her at all. I didn’t ask for Omugwo.

Make all of una getat.

Just take a chill pill. Let time do justice for now

But seriously, you lose guard your momsi. E no get as you wan reason am. You lose guard her big time

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Tell your Mom, aunty, your siblings and the husbands to go to a community football field, vent all their issues there.......the field will accommodate all their frustration, vexatious eruptions and still have enough space for peace and harmony. From your narration, your mom and aunty are very hot 🔥 individuals...your husband should cover himself with blood of the lamb.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?


The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Sorry I have to say this, your family seems highly dysfunctional. Your mum is newly married and with a new man, you are married and with a baby…the issue isn’t just your relationship with your mum/family. Something is wrong…your mum’s younger sister being accused of husband snatching…your screenshot!! Who does that? Why would you screenshot your mum’s conversation with you and show to your aunty??

Madam, any reasonable person would avoid your family. You all display the RED FLAGS. Pls post your photo and details so we would all avoid you all. There’s so much acrimony, so much malice, so much gossiping, there’s just so much of all the negative vibes.

Put a huge sign in front of your house reading…AVOID THIS FAMILY FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

You are not a good daughter
You are not a good wife
You are not a good sister
You are not a good niece
Hardly for you to be a good grandmother
Hardly for you to be a good aunty
Hardly for you to be Mum
Hardly for people to trust
Unless you work on yourself

You are too emotional and judgemental.
You need a councilor before you can engage in any decision-taken.

Take your baby, your husband and your aunty, go to your mother's house and settle this issue as soon as possible. Ready to take some responsibilities

Aaaaarghmed:
This family problem too strong,na ancestors fit solve am

This one na real family issue, even the elders are lost

I don’t think your siblings are really on your mum’s side. She seems like the troublesome kind so they’re probably just supporting her so she can let them rest… lol

KosiGee:


Sorry I have to say this, your family seems highly dysfunctional. Your mum is newly married and with a new man, you are married and with a baby…the issue isn’t just your relationship with your mum/family. Something is wrong…your mum’s younger sister being accused of husband snatching…your screenshot!! Who does that? Why would you screenshot your mum’s conversation with you and show to your aunty??

Madam, any reasonable person would avoid your family. You all display the RED FLAGS. Pls post your photo and details so we would all avoid you all. There’s so much acrimony, so much malice, so much gossiping, there’s just so much of all the negative vibes.

Put a huge sign in front of your house reading…AVOID THIS FAMILY FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.

Like I said before, I sent the screenshot because other people started saying that my husband is wicked for not allowing my aunty to come and visit. I wanted to vindicate myself. We have had soo many visitors and we have an open home.

set of wicked family...

all of them should suck a d*ck

Your mother is simply obeying her husband's rules. Is your father alive or your mom divorced your dad and went to marry another husband?

egusi soup will settle the matter, add rico seasoning, alright, sai gobe.

Your mum needs to grow up and stop the tantrums. She's too elderly for this. You'll need to involve someone she listens to so she gets off this distraction she's taking more serious than holding her grandchild.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

FireUpNow:
Your mother is simply obeying her husband's rules. Is your father alive or your mom divorced your dad and went to marry another husband?

Divorced. I agree that she should obey her husband. That’s why I did not fight her with her not visiting.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Is yor mum lightskin sir??(no oofencse)

Just be calm focus on ur new born baby and husband.... With time you will get over it, since your husband No complain

You have a very bad mother.
She is capable of ruining your home.
Keep her at bay @ for now.
She has brainwashed ur siblings.

This will make a good script

Aaaaarghmed:
This family problem too strong,na ancestors fit solve am

Ancestors dey run from this kind one...this one na gods dey table am whether dem go fit solve am. Ancestors power no reach this one

It is your Mum that is the Husband snatch.
Deductive reasoning Ma!

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Stand on the truth my dear...Your mum is evil sorry to say this....

OmugwoAunty:


I agree, that’s why I didn’t bother her at all. I didn’t ask for Omugwo.

Don’t stress. Since your aunty and mom are close, I’m sure your aunty is not surprised. It’s possible your aunty’s husband has been warning her about your mom and your aunty refused to listen that was why he sent the screenshot to your mom, hoping to create some distance between them.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Send your siblings link to this your story. That way they get a clearer picture of who your mom really is.

Hmmm Maturity is far from you
How could you disclosed such ur mum told you to ur aunty knowning very well that it would cause havoc b/w ur mum & her sis.
You shuold only caution ur mum to stop saying such against her sis.

The truth is thank God your aunt knows the truth that's what matters as for your mum she's the one cooking everything so relax and look after your family your mum will come back to her senses if I am the one my mum will not see me for a while ...

Aaaaarghmed:
This family problem too strong,na ancestors fit solve am

🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆

OmugwoAunty:
I need to clarify. I told my mother that my aunty will not visit, but that I will still see her and greet her. My mother was still upset, she even mentioned that how can her sister meet her grandchild before her.

I insisted that I would still see her, that’s when she went to my auntys husband. I sent the screenshot because she started telling people that it’s my husband that won’t allow my aunty to visit. I wanted to vindicate myself and my name. People started asking me what kind of husband did I marry that will bar family from coming over. My home is always open. My uncle and his family even visited, only my mother refused to come.

I cannot visit her yet personally, because my baby is too young to travel long journey. I also don’t think it’s my place to be dragging my child up and down.

There is a saying that "wisdom is profitable to direct."

Sis, you lack wisdom especially in family relationship-conflict management. You have just bought market for yourself.

If you don't handle this case properly it may cost you your marriage.

Inform the elders and let it die natural death for now. Plszzzzzz and pls, be prayerful.

There are things those two women knew about each other that you don't know.

You are very childish. Sorry to say.
Is this the kind of behavior you want to use and keep your home?

A woman should be able to take all heat from around her and simmer it down, silently.

You talk here, you talk there. You did many needless things. so many errors.

You are the originator of all the issues.

Someone said your husband will use all these information about your family against you. It's true so prepare.

OmugwoAunty:


Like I said before, I sent the screenshot because other people started saying that my husband is wicked for not allowing my aunty to come and visit. I wanted to vindicate myself. We have had soo many visitors and we have an open home.

Sister, there’s so much going on in your family. The root cause hasn’t been tackled and until it’s sorted, this sort of problem will be happening.

If I may ask, where’s your biological father?
I noticed something, your mother is with her new man and I think she’s paranoid that leaving this man to attend omugwo for that length of time will open the door for this new man to explore and cheat and possibly make her lose her place. She doesn’t seem to trust no one…pls tell me that I’m wrong.

When she heard that her younger sister would be visiting you….JEALOUSY came in. She knew by tradition that she’s supposed to be there. It’s her role. Now she started feeling GUILTY. As we say in Igbo, she wanted to be ‘taller than her sister and shorter than’ her at the same time. She wanted to eat her cake and have it so the oyibo would say. She wanted to ‘tinye aka na abo na onu’ at the same time.

She resurrected her sister’s past to discourage you not to allow her visit because that visit would make her appear irresponsible and an inconsiderate mum. No…she’s not having that. Her duster must be stopped at all cost. I think she’s right about her sister. I think she does that as well.

All these are normal family politics till you messed things up to save your own head. You want to be the ‘good’ one and you were ready to sacrifice whoever even your own mum to look good.

You showed your aunty the screenshot and even had her listening with your phone on speaker…Chai chai chai…..this all sounds like Funke Akindele movie.

This family carry RED FLAG….People avoid, avoid and avoid.

Madam….Where is your father? What happened to him?

Like ...forget all of them and live your life jooooor. They are all not babies

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

See women and confusion? Na 5&6!!!

Can you imagine men behaving this way? It's impossible.

Reading the convoluted story gave me headache.


Cc Capricona.😂