There was a trend I made about igbo woman packing her bag , taking the kids and leaving the husband just like that ,and how it happened to me,most people think I don't like igbo people,most people insulted me here,I had one bastard following me and insulting me back to back,now another man has come out to say his own.
When u read through the colume ,it's says broken marriage pls advice ,is it that when a man is going through ups and down,some igbo woman will japa ,how will a woman just carry a man's kids to an unknown destination, hiding the kids from the father , making the man useless, without his fruit of labor, isn't it wickedness , without the man chasing her away,I understand that every family struggles in one form or another,but if a woman intend to leave ,why not leave on your own,why involves innocent kids,most woman don't have the patience.
When u are getting married to an igbo lady,they tell you they don't sell there daughter o,those word is just a form to put the daughter in an equilibrium position to justify her coming back home,when lil challenge happen,a good parents will send her back seeing the circumstances at which she left if it's not too risky for her,aside violence,and starvation,no reason should make a woman just childishly left the husband with the kids,if u are going, leave the kids and go your way.
The funny thing is that the mother would tell the kids diff wrong stories about the husband,they would grow up thinking their father is a bad man,not knowing the mother has her own shortcomings too.
This lady has left this man for long yet he wants her back,most woman find it hard to forgive,but yet they are the ones who pray pass,or seat at front seat in church to say ride on pastor,she left and determine on her own she will make it without the husband and train her kids alone,look at Tonto dike case,now as the kids grows up,they find other families doing well ,from secondary sch to university,they shed silence tears, seeing friends and their parents paying them a visit at school, making them happy always and are there for them,if their dad did not call there mom will call,send gift,they would have a wonderful time schooling,but the other kid with one parents cries from within, wishing,there had both parent,but no ,a selfish woman who thinks of herself has made it possible for her kids to be fatherless,
You can never compear a kid who had both parent and a kid who had one parents
So my point is,why is the igbo culture too complex to handle, mostly why is this too common in igbo land,even as most men pay a huge bride price,most igbo ladies want to take the position of a father and mother
If it was in yoruba land or Hausaland the ladies parents would only retain or settle the marriage with the best of every one good intentions,you can't be a yoruba in-law and your wife will return back home,no yoruba in-law would take this,they will send the kids back to you or settle the marriage,but the igbo own is too complex.

Inferiority complex

The usual troll, and you expect IGBOS to take your shit? You are mistaken, and you continued with more trash? Do you think that there are more divorces in IGBO land than your tribe or any other tribe? How about you tell us your own tribe and tell us how it's better than IGBOS in terms of marriage?
If you can do it then, it would have been better fit you to tell your story without involving or mentioning tribe, you are a tribal bigot and may those that cursed you before add more curses.
Nonsense

It's worse in the north

The main problem is the women.
Men are indeed very simple. All a man wants is loyalty and respect - respect covers a lot of other things...
I ALWAYS SAY IT THAT THE SUCCESS OF MARRIAGE DEPENDS MOSTLY ON THE WOMEN.
THE MOMENT A WOMAN WANTS OUT OF THE MARRIAGE, THERE'S NEARLY NOTHING THE HUSBAND CAN DO ...

Past lives and records is the major factor that can decide the success and future of a marriage.

The biggest mistake a man can make in his life is to marry the wrong girl.
Who is a wrong girl?

A wrong girl is any girl with low moral values. Religion, race etc doesn't matter and doesn't determine if a girl is of good moral or not.

A girl with numerous BODYCOUNT, numerous EXs, numerous breakups can never ever make a good wife.
The more BODYCOUNT, the more a girl loses her ability to form bond with her partner.

There's an adage that says that the size of a snake to a girl doesn't matter if she has not seen a snake before, she'll still be terrified by it.

No girl is born with a manual on how she should be sexed or pleased in bed.
IT'S ONLY WHEN THEY'VE HAD NUMEROUS EXPERIENCES THAT THEY START COMPARING....

She'll compare you with that guy with big dìck
That married man that used to lavish money on her
That Randy guy that can sex her for 2 hours
That guy that usually apologies to her even when she's the one at fault. Etc

THERE WILL BE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO PLEASE HER, SHE CAN ONLY PRETEND THAT SHE'S SATISFIED.

NEVER MARRY A WHORÉ AND ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT IS A WHORÉ.

90% of women that will leave like that usually start doing HOOKUPS.
THAT'S WHY IT'S VERY STUPÌD OF ANY MAN TO TAKE A WOMAN THAT LEFT BACK.
YOU'LL ONLY BE TAKING BACK A MORE BROKEN AND DAMAGED WHÓRE.
SHE'LL NEVER GIVE YOU REST OF MIND.
Don't even consider it for any reason, EVEN BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN.
IF YOU DIE, YOUR CHILDREN WILL LIVE ON AND LIVE THEIR LIFE...

Most of these wayward and careless women leave only to start sleeping with other married men.

When they now realise that no man will want to take them and their baggages (children), they'll start looking for a way to go back to that man they left.

UncleKoboko:
90% of women that will leave like that usually start doing HOOKUPS.
THAT'S WHY IT'S VERY STUPÌD OF ANY MAN TO TAKE A WOMAN THAT LEFT BACK.
YOU'LL ONLY BE TAKING BACK A MORE BROKEN AND DAMAGED WHÓRE.
SHE'LL NEVER GIVE YOU REST OF MIND.
Don't even consider it for any reason, EVEN BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN.
IF YOU DIE, YOUR CHILDREN WILL LIVE ON AND LIVE THEIR LIFE...

Most of these wayward and careless women leave only to start sleeping with other married men.

When they now realise that no man will want to take them and their baggages (children), they'll start looking for a way to go back to that man they left.

You have a good point...

It's not about the tribe but individuals... Prominent among Igbo and Yoruba women

edunaragold:
There was a trend I made about igbo woman packing her bag , taking the kids and leaving the husband just like that ,and how it happened to me,most people think I don't like igbo people,most people insulted me here,I had one bastard following me and insulting me back to back,now another man has come out to say his own.
When u read through the colume ,it's says broken marriage pls advice ,is it that when a man is going through ups and down,some igbo woman will japa ,how will a woman just carry a man's kids to an unknown destination, hiding the kids from the father , making the man useless, without his fruit of labor, isn't it wickedness , without the man chasing her away,I understand that every family struggles in one form or another,but if a woman intend to leave ,why not leave on your own,why involves innocent kids,most woman don't have the patience.
When u are getting married to an igbo lady,they tell you they don't sell there daughter o,those word is just a form to put the daughter in an equilibrium position to justify her coming back home,when lil challenge happen,a good parents will send her back seeing the circumstances at which she left if it's not too risky for her,aside violence,and starvation,no reason should make a woman just childishly left the husband with the kids,if u are going, leave the kids and go your way.
The funny thing is that the mother would tell the kids diff wrong stories about the husband,they would grow up thinking their father is a bad man,not knowing the mother has her own shortcomings too.
This lady has left this man for long yet he wants her back,most woman find it hard to forgive,but yet they are the ones who pray pass,or seat at front seat in church to say ride on pastor,she left and determine on her own she will make it without the husband and train her kids alone,look at Tonto dike case,now as the kids grows up,they find other families doing well ,from secondary sch to university,they shed silence tears, seeing friends and their parents paying them a visit at school, making them happy always and are there for them,if their dad did not call there mom will call,send gift,they would have a wonderful time schooling,but the other kid with one parents cries from within, wishing,there had both parent,but no ,a selfish woman who thinks of herself has made it possible for her kids to be fatherless,
You can never compear a kid who had both parent and a kid who had one parents
So my point is,why is the igbo culture too complex to handle, mostly why is this too common in igbo land,even as most men pay a huge bride price,most igbo ladies want to take the position of a father and mother
If it was in yoruba land or Hausaland the ladies parents would only retain or settle the marriage with the best of every one good intentions,you can't be a yoruba in-law and your wife will return back home,no yoruba in-law would take this,they will send the kids back to you or settle the marriage,but the igbo own is too complex.

mbaise1000:
The usual troll, and you expect IGBOS to take your shit? You are mistaken, and you continued with more trash? Do you think that there are more divorces in IGBO land than your tribe or any other tribe? How about you tell us your own tribe and tell us how it's better than IGBOS in terms of marriage?
If you can do it then, it would have been better fit you to tell your story without involving or mentioning tribe, you are a tribal bigot and may those that cursed you before add more curses.
Nonsense

Emeka quit wailing. The op is saying the truth.

edunaragold:

You can never compear a kid who had both parent and a kid who had one parents

I can always compare a kid who has both parents with that of a kid who has just one present parent because I daily work with children who are way better off without any of their toxic and dysfunctional parents.

Redirect your energy in working out a co-parenting template with the assistance of the social welfare of the State involved, so you and your ex-wife can push aside your hatred for each other and see to the wholesome development of the child/children between you two.

I'm not an Igbo person...but I detest the generalization on this thread Sir.

*Ko si ibi ti a o tin ko adiye ale*

It happens in all tribe... personality makes it different.

What do you say about men that abandon their kids and shy away from responsibilities only for the kids to grow up and they'd appear claiming rights?


Marriage is not a bed of roses and can only work when two agreed to be one.

If only a part is working for it's survival and the other feels selfish and unconcerned. ... then the high rate of divorce is certain....Amos 3:3



"Tackle the issue and not discuss people"

edunaragold:
There was a trend I made about igbo woman packing her bag , taking the kids and leaving the husband just like that
If it was in yoruba land or Hausaland the ladies parents would only retain or settle the marriage with the best of every one good intentions,you can't be a yoruba in-law and your wife will return back home,no yoruba in-law would take this,they will send the kids back to you or settle the marriage,but the igbo own is too complex.

Coming from someone that grew with his grandmum and has more persons with similar upbring in his tribe. If the union is excellent with your tribe why are they always packaged to grama?

Since this your igbo wife left you, you have become a valueless entity.


Kpele! Igbo women is not for everybody.

shortIGBOman:


Emeka quit wailing. The op is saying the truth.

Only people like you are the real waillers. Only people like you full of hate and jealousy are in pain, we will keep doing what we are doing and you will keep doing what you are good at jealousy. But if you are a little more intelligent, what you should have done is answer at least one of the questions I asked in my comment

shortIGBOman:


Emeka quit wailing. The op is saying the truth.

Only people like you are the real waillers. Only people like you full of hate and jealousy are in pain, we will keep doing what we are doing and you will keep doing what you are good at jealousy. But if you are a little more intelligent, what you should have done is answer at least one of the questions I asked in my comment.

shortIGBOman:


Emeka quit wailing. The op is saying the truth.

Only people like you are the real waillers. Only people like you full of hate and jealousy are in pain, we will keep doing what we are doing and you will keep doing what you are good at jealousy. But if you are a little more intelligent, what you should have done is answer at least one of the questions I asked in my comment. ...

Did i hear you say a woman is not supposed to take along her child when she is leaving? You want to keep the child behind for your future wife to maltreat and use as a slave? Mind you a female child is safer with her mother, alow your wife rest. The one who carried the child 9months owns the child.

mbaise1000:


Only people like you are the real waillers. Only people like you full of hate and jealousy are in pain, we will keep doing what we are doing and you will keep doing what you are good at jealousy. But if you are a little more intelligent, what you should have done is answer at least one of the questions I asked in my comment. ...

Mbaise Man, I hear say IGBO people run away from Mbaise women,. Is it true?

shortIGBOman:


Mbaise Man, I hear say IGBO people run away from Mbaise women,. Is it true?

You hear say,,,,
I know know say every mbaise woman will or man will prefer an mbaise person as a wife or husband before any other place and I know too that every IGBO man or woman will prefer an IGBO wife or husband BEFORE any person from any other tribe and many will prefert to remain single than choose anyone from where you come from. I don't mean this ad an insult, just check the facts and I know too that 95% of your women will prefer an IGBO man to your people and that your people are dying to have an IGBO wife, check that one too