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Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by NdubisiCharles: 2:38pm On Nov 14, 2023
Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl.
She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.

Yesterday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just called and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she needs my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....

Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price, he has visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke, "that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis, and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when asked my sis she confirmed it.

Please friends advice me on what to do

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Absuchat(m): 2:38pm On Nov 14, 2023
cheesy
Las las their body don calm down... she better go back to him

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by NdubisiCharles: 2:44pm On Nov 14, 2023
Absuchat:
cheesy
Las las their body don calm down... she better go back to him

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Absuchat(m): 2:49pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men
What is wrong with Nnewi men?

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by frndfghtr(m): 2:58pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

Am a nnewi man, we love our families, you are a liar
My advice to you is to hurry and beg the man, even if it last for thirty years, you just help the man to train his children, am a igbo man, once bride price is been paid, in our custom, the the man is the owner of your sis and the kids

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Mhizzard(m): 3:20pm On Nov 14, 2023
In one word your sis is a gold digger.she can't be a supportive wife to the man.before she married him she didn't know that he is not quite doing well??it left for your sis to decide what she will do.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Odin13: 3:26pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

Nnewi men are nevee know for rituals or quick money..
Any one can verify this statement..

Talk more of using ones blood..

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by YesDaddy1: 3:30pm On Nov 14, 2023
You have answered your own question bro.
All ur sister lacks/needs is patience.
cool
NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whom his husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl,
She single handed took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening,
Yersteday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just call and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she need my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....
Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids,that he paid my sis bride price, he have visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke," that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis,and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when ask my sis she confirmed it, please friends advice me on what to do
'Patience' is women's kryptonite!
cool

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Zooposki(f): 4:15pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whom his husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl,
She single handed took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening,
Yersteday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just call and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she need my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....
Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids,that he paid my sis bride price, he have visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke," that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis,and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when ask my sis she confirmed it, please friends advice me on what to do

He needs her back for the below. Tired of doing it himself.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Beremx(f): 4:23pm On Nov 14, 2023
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Blackmoran(m): 4:27pm On Nov 14, 2023
For the sake of those children..... She should consider the reunion....
But am not so sure the bond will be like before if there was ever a bond.,.. but what woman will leave her husband because he is broke... That if the story is true..
And this should be a lesson to men when in a relationship with a lady don't let your ego and motivation be based on been a provider... The day things aren't working your eyes will clear that you just hiring a escort as a wife... When the money dries down your eyes will clear...
My dad is case is a case study to me...

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by shortIGBOman: 4:41pm On Nov 14, 2023
Odin13:


Nnewi men are nevee know for rituals or quick money..
Any one can verify this statement..

Talk more of using ones blood..


They are the original rutualist and drug pushers

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by alizma: 4:45pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whom his husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl,
She single handed took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening,
Yersteday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just call and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she need my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....
Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids,that he paid my sis bride price, he have visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke," that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis,and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when ask my sis she confirmed it, please friends advice me on what to do
Tell him to give you 3months to prepare your sister's mind either towards accepting his please or otherwise. Within this period, you should be able to do some underground work to know what he has been doing and the kind of life he had been leaving all this while. If he really wants them back, he should be able to even wait for one yr, besides he had been away for 8yrs.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 4:55pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:
Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids,that he paid my sis bride price, he have visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke," that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis,and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when ask my sis she confirmed it, please friends advice me on what to do
You are saying that the reason your sister abandoned this man for 8 solid years has to do with the man being poor? She chose to shoulder the burden of raising her 3 kids all by herself because the man did not have money. And now the same man is calling her back and she is considering it? Is the man now rich or what? Why exactly does your sister want to go back to a man she abandoned for a whole 8 years? The reason for the split does not seem solid. undecided

OP, this story wey you tell get K-leg abeg! undecided

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Nemesis0147(m): 5:07pm On Nov 14, 2023
Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense
go back and read the post again..
This time,,slowly.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Carcholce: 5:12pm On Nov 14, 2023
Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

Some of you will just comment with bitterness.

You read it clearly that it was the woman that took her bag and ran away because the said man was broke which was “then” (8years ago) the OP sisters confirmed the man’s allegations to be true.

Why are you bitter?

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Carcholce: 5:15pm On Nov 14, 2023
Kobojunkie:
You are saying that the reason your sister abandoned this man for 8 solid years has to do with the man being poor? She chose to shoulder the burden of raising her 3 kids all by herself because the man did not have money. And now the same man is calling her back and she is considering it? Is the man now rich or what? Why exactly does your sister want to go back to a man she abandoned for a whole 8 years? The reason for the split does not seem solid. undecided

OP, this story wey you tell get K-leg abeg! undecided

Are you calling the OP a liar or you are simply not okay with the fact that the woman is considering going back to being a married woman?. grin

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by vincenteger: 5:15pm On Nov 14, 2023
Your sister was the one who left in the first place on the basis that there was hunger in the house.
When she came back from her husband's house, what excuse did she give?
Did you guys call her husband to confirm her story?
Did her husband made any effort then to bring them back?

If you sister is not going back to him for reasons of hunger since 8yrs, then I think she's not telling the truth of why she left in the first place perhaps if she's not going back to the husband she should send the children to him; he didn't send her parking neither was the bride price returned.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Carcholce: 5:17pm On Nov 14, 2023
Nemesis0147:
go back and read the post again..
This time,,slowly.

Asin eh! As popular as the moniker is, I’m shocked She would attend to such sensitive post with bitterness. It tells a lot about some people on this sub!

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by vincenteger: 5:20pm On Nov 14, 2023
Beremx:
So it's because the man doesn't have money he's requesting for your sister to come back? Probably he has lavished all he had on women and he's now looking for his wife to come suffer with him.
Your sister should move on with her life and take care of the kids.
Nonsense

I wonder if you were able to comprehend what you read up there abi na my eyes dy pain me.

Just keep disgr.. ing yourself

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Kobojunkie: 5:31pm On Nov 14, 2023
Carcholce:
■ Are you calling the OP a liar or you are simply not okay with the fact that the woman is considering going back to being a married woman?. grin
It is quite possible OP is attempting to judge a situation without having all the details necessary to do so. undecided

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Neptunium(m): 5:39pm On Nov 14, 2023
He abandoned them for 8/9-years and now wants to return all of a sudden? What are his motives? Your sister should thread carefully before he comes back to destroy or steal everything she has worked for. She can allow him to be in his kids' lives as many divorced people do but she should not go back to being his wife, living with him, joining finances or anything of the sort. He may end up ruining everything she has built over the years.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Namaster: 6:16pm On Nov 14, 2023
Your sister acted like a fool for breaking up her home because of momentary poverty. She deprived the kids of their father's presence.

If she could train them herself while away from her husband. She could have trained them WITH the husband in the picture.

That said, the man is equally MAD for abandoning his kids for 8 years. Especially, given the fact that one of them was a newly born infant.

He's massively delusional for asking them to return to him. He knew your family house and never bothered to check on his kids for almost a DECADE.

He's insane.

Tell your sister to NOT return to him. The trust in their marriage is dead. Your sister acted like a gold digger who jumped ship when she realized there was no gold. The husband demonstrated his irresponsibility by failing to connect with his kids in 8 years.

Now that he's conquered poverty, he can support his kids with money. Pay for their upkeeps, medical and other bills.

He'll only pay for his KIDS. NOT your sister.

Then, he can spend time (maybe holidays and weekends) with his kids. But as for the marriage, it's dead.

Advise your sister in this way.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Chigozie321: 6:22pm On Nov 14, 2023
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frndfghtr:

Am a nnewi man, we love our families, you are a liar
My advice to you is to hurry and beg the man, even if it last for thirty years, you just help the man to train his children, am a igbo man, once bride price is been paid, in our custom, the the man is the owner of your sis and the kids
Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Freelancerr(m): 6:22pm On Nov 14, 2023
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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by NOC1(m): 6:23pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:

Am afraid if is he for real or did he has any evil thing in mind, u know all these Nnewi, Anambra men

Nnewi against the non-Nnewi, your sister should be careful, if you people are nwa dianni no problem.

But your sister looks like the case here, she confirmed that the man was cool only problem was the lack of money.
Probably the man is financially okay now and needs his family back, an average Nnewi man does not allow his kids to be raised outside.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Curiouscity(m): 6:24pm On Nov 14, 2023
NdubisiCharles:
Good day pals, I have a sister whom his husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now,
with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl,
She single handed took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening,
Yersteday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just call and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she need my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....
Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids,that he paid my sis bride price, he have visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke," that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis,and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when ask my sis she confirmed it, please friends advice me on what to do

Your 1st paragraph and last paragraph are contradictory.

1. When your sister told you or your family 8 years ago, that her husband abandoned her/children, did you verify? Did you or anyone within the family ask the man? Or you just believed your sister?

2. According to your last paragraph, did the man make any effort to reunite with the wife/kids? If yes, when? 8 years ago or recently?

3. Your sister confirmed that the man is not violent or diabolical, he was only broke. Does this sound logical that a broke man will abandon his loving wife and kids?

My take: Your sister painted the man as evil, you guys believed her without verification. Many families have been ruined by lies from women who couldn't stand by their husband during economic hardship. Except there are more to this story than you have shared.

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by ecolime(m): 6:24pm On Nov 14, 2023
Golden tips to knowing fake Nairaland stories created by the Mods to generate traffic.

1. Account is new
2. They add picture for illustration.


Person wey dey seek genuine advice no go download internet image dey add am for story

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by emmabest2000(m): 6:25pm On Nov 14, 2023
Odin13:


Nnewi men are nevee know for rituals or quick money..
Any one can verify this statement..

Talk more of using ones blood..


THE MAN IN OP STORY IS NOT MAN ENOUGH
It should be the woman begging him to accept her back not the other way around

Weak Men Everywhere

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Re: Broken Marriage, Please Advise me by Angelfrost(m): 6:26pm On Nov 14, 2023
Your story no complete, bros.

Has the reason for her leaving in the first place been resolved??! Is the man now financially capable of catering to the needs of his wife and kids??!

If not, what then is the basis for seeking reconciliation?!!

Well, if the woman is not happy or ready/willing for reconciliation, then forcing her back will likely not end well. The facts are all over the place.

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