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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by jayAjoku(m): 1:04pm On Nov 15, 2023

While it will be a good thing to retire your parents . No parent should depend on their children for their retirement if they do for you good if they don’t no wahala. Everybody suppose hold him side

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by freedomchild: 1:05pm On Nov 15, 2023

That's the mistake my parents made which I'll never make. My parents couldn't wait for me to balance well after my graduation as a healthcare professional before they unleashed there retirement agenda on me. I'm the first child among 5 siblings.
He was never serious as a businessman during his active time in business.
Now that the economy is not good and everyone is trying to manage vis-a-vis the inflation, I do pity him because I know I'm not doing enough.

Nigerian parents especially the poor ones are fund of that nonsense. Especially now that Nigeria is not predictable.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Jeezuzpick(m): 1:05pm On Nov 15, 2023

HELL NO!!

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by GrammarNazi1(m): 1:05pm On Nov 15, 2023

Figger:
Old age can be scary, to those praying to leave long, life can be so miserable at that stage. Me I want to go at 75, nothing dey this life.

I want to go at 60+

Nothing in life to hold on to.

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by viodemus: 1:07pm On Nov 15, 2023

No.

from 20 to 70, is suppose to be your retirement plan.

The children no try sha.

We never know which kind situation dem dey, that could cause them this kind of decision to move on without their mum.

If many parents fit do am again, many children would have accidently fell on their heads at birth. And if many children could choose their parents before birth, many parents would have been childless Na Dangote and people like that, for get all the children.

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by CondemnBattery(f): 1:07pm On Nov 15, 2023

No wahala, just make sure you too, you leave properties and wealth for your grand children.

Alot of these generation don't know how hard it took their parents to careter for them, depriving themselves of the good life.
Smh

jmoore:
Parents should leave wealth that even their grand children will inherit.

It is an error to intentionally make your children as your retirement plan.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Nobody: 1:08pm On Nov 15, 2023

Yes!

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by okine4real: 1:09pm On Nov 15, 2023

nothing on this earth will make me spend all my money on my children. i must plan for myself and my wife for old age. i repeat nothing in this world, i must reserve money and fortunes for my old age, cant be begging my children for 100k and them go dey tell me story. as i be big baller now when i dey young, i must be a bigger baller for old age and till i DIE.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Absuchat(m): 1:10pm On Nov 15, 2023

It happens. But karma will surely take a toll on her children (that's if it's not karma that made the kids abandon her).

Which ever way, 73 by my wishes....is the best time to take a bow and exit this meaningless place we are in.

I lost my dad when he was 43....my mom left at 52

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Greenfaces: 1:13pm On Nov 15, 2023

gunners160:
The topic and the message are two different things. Mama this and mama that , please don't blame the children completely. We are in a busy world right now were verybody is struggling to survive.
You wi have 500k today and next week you are looking for a friend to borrow you 5k to buy food. We all pay bills everyday..The only fault the children had was not getting r a house help..

You are really experienced. The life in this country is a complete mess

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by SALLYBERRY01(m): 1:13pm On Nov 15, 2023

parents are trying if they choose to use their children as retirement let it be so , as far as they have played their part as parents, the right thing to do as the child is to repay them back.

My father a civil servant usually secure loan just to pay our i and my siblings school fees, he will prefer to drink garri and wear rag just to make sure is family are comfortable and not lacking behind.

if he choose to use me as his retirement plan i dont have problem with that, my prayer everyday is to be successful so i can take good care of them at their old age as they have done for me when i was baby.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Jeezuzpick(m): 1:14pm On Nov 15, 2023

jayAjoku:
While it will be a good thing to retire your parents . No parent should depend on their children for their retirement if they do for you good if they don’t no wahala. Everybody suppose hold him side

If na by dat ya last sentence, ehn.....pipu no go born pikin again, make den just quietly hold den side, enjoy life, die go.

Pikin suppose give dem Palee and Malee as den begin old oooo, but no be say make den turn de pikins to only source of income, because sometimes, pikin dem sef dey hear weeen for streets....

Make parents also get plan for in case den pikins dem no too find am easy.....in fact, e get pipu wey na dia parents dey epp dem wen road no too clear.

As for me, I dey hustle to get investment wey I no go need wait for pikin before I chop.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by jmoore(m): 1:15pm On Nov 15, 2023

CondemnBattery:
No wahala, just make sure you too, you leave properties and wealth for your grand children.

Alot of these generation don't know how hard it took their parents to careter for them, depriving themselves of the good life.
Smh

If you like go and born six and be struggling. Born the one you fit take care without burden.
Taking care of a child should not deprive the parents from having a good life.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Papayaayasager(m): 1:17pm On Nov 15, 2023

Noooooooooooooooooooooooo

My Mother needs to see this.

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by delpee(f): 1:18pm On Nov 15, 2023

Sometimes, a child's circumstances makes it difficult to give adequate attention to parents. However, there are social welfare organisations now that manage the elderly. You can have resident carers or opt for a well managed old people's home. Most parents (if not too lonely) are happier and do better being cared for at home by trained carers. Not random househelps please.

In addition, health insurance takes care of medical matters. All they need is to jointly arrive at the best option and raise funds to carry out their plan.

A good child who is unable to visit regularly or accommodate a parent can opt for this. Good parents sacrifice a lot to look after their children. Abandoning them in old age isn't fair. Even if they're rich, being in touch with them and providing meaningful advice helps them to live a good life notwithstanding old age challenges.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Figger(m): 1:19pm On Nov 15, 2023

Enemyofpeace:
you plan to go at 75 because you no get money. If you're rich and wealthy like us, you won't like to die self. Death no go hungry you at all.

It's not all about money, what's the point in having money but at that stage ur money won't give u joy again. Pvsyy u no go back, ur favorite meal would probably become ur worst poison cos doctors told u to avoid them, from one medication to another, etc. Money no be everything.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by DEBJOCH1(m): 1:20pm On Nov 15, 2023

IN CONCLUSION TO YOUR STORY, MAMA’S CHILDREN ARE VERY USELESS AND IRRESPONSIBLE CHILDREN, MAY CHILDREN ALSO DO WHAT THEY DID TO MAMA TO THEM ALL. I WISH THAT MY MOTHER WILL STAY (LIVE) WITH ME AND MY FAMILY, BUT EACH TIME SHE CAME VISITING AFTER SHE HAS MANAGED TO STAY FOR ONE MONTH, YOU WILL HEAR HER TELLING YOU HOW HER COMPOUND IN THE VILLAGE HAS BEEN OVER GROWN WITH GRASS, HOW HER FARM HAS BEEN OVER TAKEN BY FOREST JUST FOR ONE, EVEN WHEN YOU TRY TO CONVINCE HER TO STAY THE MORE THAT YOU WILL CALL PEOPLE IN THE VILLAGE TO GO AND TAKE CARE OF THE COMPOUND AND FARM FOR HER, SHE WILL TELL YOU NO, THAT THOSE PEOPLE CAN’T TAKE CARE OF THE COMPOUND AND FARM THE WAY SHE WILL.
CURRENTLY SHE HAS BEEN AT A BROTHER'S PLACE IN ANOTHER STATE, SHE HAS BEEN THERE FOR THREE (3) AND THAT MY BROTHER TOLD HER IF YOU LIKE LET ALL YOUR FARM AND COMPOUND BE OVER TAKEN BY ALL THE FOREST IN THE WORLD, YOU WILL STAY HERE TILL DECEMBER, EACH TIME SHE CALLED ME, SHE WILL BE BEGINNING TO KINDLY BEG MY ELDER BROTHER TO ALLOW HER GO BACK TO THE VILLAGE THAT INFACT SHE HAS A LOT OF THING SHE NEED TO DO THERE.

SOME CHILDREN ARE JUST BUT A MISTAKE. MAY THE SOUL OF THE MAMA REST IN PERFECT PEACE, SHE DID HER BEST BY TRAINING HER CHILDREN BUT THE UNCARING CHILDREN HAS SUDDENLY FORGOTTEN THAT THE TIDE MIGHT TURN THE OTHER SIDE.

MAY GOD BLESS OUR PARENTS.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Maxcollins042(m): 1:22pm On Nov 15, 2023

Olarewaju89:
Yes

Those children are wicked.

Very wicked and ungrateful

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by blingxx(m): 1:22pm On Nov 15, 2023

onadana:
It's a product of life style and environment.In western countries people live up to 90years they stay alone and still drive themselves...if need be they check into an old people's home But here in Nigeria, entitlement mentality reins supreme.

Westerners have retirement homes for elderly, their pension are being paid regularly not like Nigeria..retired military vets benefit the most in the west sha

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Deepspirituals: 1:23pm On Nov 15, 2023

eepeepook:
Nothing dey Nairaland today. Rehashed topics everywhere. Na to burn some hours using sleep then return in the hope of seeing something interesting.

You can bring up Interesting Stories Up ..

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by easzypeaszy(m): 1:24pm On Nov 15, 2023

FuckingMachine:
This poverty mentality is why Nigeria is a mess.
Poor man has 7 children contributing nothing to society.

You are supposed to make enough money in your youth to retire on.

on dis topic or divert ur sense n gv general advise bc if na on dis matter ur comment like dis.. Pls don't reproduce bc d future.

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by LordIsaac(m): 1:28pm On Nov 15, 2023

Hmmmmm….I understand the deep meaning of this piece, for I have been very close to the aged!

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by EmeeNaka: 1:28pm On Nov 15, 2023

samuelson06:
I don't really have a problem with children being their parent's retirement plan. The design is that children should take care of their aged parents and I don't see anything wrong with that. Where I seriously have a problem is when parents don't invest in their children to become successful in life and simply focus on making more children and by God's grace one of the children escapes poverty with little or no contribution from the parents, then you see them coming to lay claims of the child and complaining to the world how the child has abandoned them.

For God's sake, this is a child that suffered so much and alone to become successful and instead of you allowing the child to begin investing in their future and family and stamp out poverty in their own lineage, you are coming to complain about negligence. Must everyone be poor in the family?

From my observation in Nigeria, poor parents don't care about their children. They don't even pray for them to succeed. All they are interested about is what they can get from the children because they feel it's the children's responsibility to take care of them. They don't care about lifting even one to escape poverty in the family so in future, that one can also save others. They care only about themselves. They don't care about the endemic poverty in the family.

Did you read the topic very well? Your attack on poor parents are scathing and bears no semblance of understanding of their respective situation nor semblance of evidenced study.

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by beardedboy(m): 1:28pm On Nov 15, 2023

FuckingMachine:
This poverty mentality is why Nigeria is a mess.
Poor man has 7 children contributing nothing to society.

You are supposed to make enough money in your youth to retire on.

Money is one of the least needs in old age. More important things are companionship and care. At that age they're basically toddlers. Just as a kid cries when his mother is away, that's how old people weep when they're alone.

Unfortunately, the children of this generation are so much fixated on 'hustling' to the extent that they neglect family and parents.

What a world!

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Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by gunners160(m): 1:34pm On Nov 15, 2023

gunners160:
The topic and the message are two different things. Mama this and mama that , please don't blame the children completely. We are in a busy world right now were verybody is struggling to survive.
You will have 500k today and next week you are looking for a friend to borrow you 5k to buy food. We all pay bills everyday..The only fault the children had was not getting r a house help..

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Kobojunkie: 1:34pm On Nov 15, 2023

gunners160:
The topic and the message are two different things. Mama this and mama that , please don't blame the children completely. We are in a busy world right now were verybody is struggling to survive.
You wi have 500k today and next week you are looking for a friend to borrow you 5k to buy food. We all pay bills everyday..The only fault the children had was not getting r a house help..

Because House helps in Nigeria always work out. undecided

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by GreatAchiever1: 1:38pm On Nov 15, 2023

A Child is meant to honor their parents even in their old age as best as they can.

‘Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, that your days may be prolonged and that it may go well with you on the land which the Lord your God gives you.
— Deuteronomy 5:16

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by Free2Fly: 1:41pm On Nov 15, 2023

ednut1:
Many parents that made their children retirement plans are financially better than those kids today. Money never reach for pikin to chop you wan retire for them head lol

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by samuelson06(m): 1:42pm On Nov 15, 2023

EmeeNaka:
Did you read the topic very well? Your attack on poor parents are scathing and bears no semblance of understanding of their respective situation nor semblance of evidenced study.

You are speaking grammar because I know I'm not attacking them but their attitude towards the survival of their children when they truly know they practically brought and raised poverty in the family.

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by ogawisdom(m): 1:47pm On Nov 15, 2023

Re: Should Children Be Their Parents' Retirement Plan? by samuelson06(m): 1:47pm On Nov 15, 2023

Absuchat:
It happens. But karma will surely take a toll on her children (that's if it's not karma that made the kids abandon her).

Which ever way, 73 by my wishes....is the best time to take a bow and exit this meaningless place we are in.

I lost my dad when he was 43....my mom left at 52

See how you can plan to make meaning out of your own life. Your parents lived their life and bowed out. Don't use the excuse of your parents not living so long on earth to live recklessly.

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