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Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Farfalla(f): 3:19pm On Nov 25, 2023

nairaland2:
I don't think a man wrote this.

Men are logical beings.

What part of his submission is "illogical" if I may ask?

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by phorget(m): 3:22pm On Nov 25, 2023

If you are well to do then I'll advise you dialogue with her,tell her to calculate the total amount she uses for firewood in a month...

Assuming total amount for firewood in a month is 100k,buy her a big cylinder of gas and that multi faces burner that caterers uses to cook. You'll only need to help her subsidize since the amount for firewood would have been out of the equation.

If she refuses those options then face her fire for fire.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Pharaoh4rin(m): 3:24pm On Nov 25, 2023

It's pathetic but I smell lies. How could she cook from 6am to 11pm? No restaurant cook like that. Does she cook for the whole Lagos state?

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Neddyogu(m): 3:29pm On Nov 25, 2023

1TrippleCee:
Different problens dey this life sha. Shey na Pythagoras theorem we go use take settle this imbalance like this now

Na quadratic equation we go use settle dis matter.

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Re: How Do I Handle This ? by obinna58(m): 3:39pm On Nov 25, 2023

If it’s been like that before you moved in, then it’s going to be a big fight for you

It’s not a worthy fight let it be and start making plans to move out

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by fineberry(m): 3:51pm On Nov 25, 2023

PedoBear:
Piss in a jug, store for two days and pour it on the ground few minutes the woman starts

Repeat everytime before she does business

what does this mean

Pharaoh4rin:
It's pathetic but I smell lies. How could she cook from 6am to 11pm? No restaurant cook like that. Does she cook for the whole Lagos state?

it's possible...when you have to cook different things

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by emmyN(m): 3:55pm On Nov 25, 2023

xavuv:
Leave the apartment. Don't bother meeting her. She wont reason with you at all. That is her source of living you are talking about. If you were to be that woman nko?

Me sef no like wahala

These people into cooking business make enough money to invest in industrial gas cookers, but they are stuck in their old ways while inconveniencing others. It's bad.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by emmyN(m): 3:57pm On Nov 25, 2023

Stevenbright:
She can't change to using gas because of you as it might not be profitable for her business.

If all the windows in your flat are not on that side, then you can find a solution to it for yourself. What I will suggest is during the day/early morning when she cooks, permanently lock those set of windows and only open them at night.

You can then plan your leaving that house if you can't manage it this way indefinitely.

These people buy firewood and it's not cheap either. Switching to gas would not affect her profits.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by mykeni: 4:14pm On Nov 25, 2023

You're in Lagos and never heard about LASEPA(Lagos state Environmental Protection Agency). Contact them and stay anonymous.....

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Sunywa(m): 4:45pm On Nov 25, 2023

Is it a rented apartment? If yes, then report the matter to your Landlord/Landlady. Let then confront the woman on your behalf. If that doesn't work, talk to an elderly person, preferably one who is like a father figure in that vicinity. Still, if it doesn't work, you have two options, first is to relocate; second is to report the matter to relevant Authorities (as applicable).

Sorry for the inconvenience bro.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by ruffhandu: 4:47pm On Nov 25, 2023

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

1. Open your Windows From 13 midnight to 5am only.ý
3. Think of errecting a kitchen that has a system of diverting the smoke if you must make her any offer. Unless you'll be buying the gas for her. Apart from these, don't even approach her

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by BennyDGreat: 5:01pm On Nov 25, 2023

judedwriter:
Simply go to her and say,

"madam, please your cooking with firewood is bringing too much smoke in my room. Please can you adjust your cooking to gas?"

Reason with her, she's isn't a monster, she won't eat you.

You can't go direct like that. She will blow things up

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Geobenny(m): 5:37pm On Nov 25, 2023

Bro, contact LASEPA. I had a issue with an ignorant neighbor who place his generator in his balcony opposite my Daddy's apartment. They are not aware of the health hazard they are creating and telling them me lead to you been harassed. All LASEPA need is good description, they will call you to follow up after action.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by MrDoGood(m): 6:29pm On Nov 25, 2023

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

You need to approach her before you die like a rabbit inside a hole smoked out.

She might not be aware of the damage, I'm telling you. Just imagine you have a baby, is that how you will keep quiet?

Tell her and see if she won't apologize and you can them suggest a charcoal to her. She might not be aware of how fast and less stressful a charcoal is

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Abdulsaddiq: 6:33pm On Nov 25, 2023

Empower her with gas of u are capable bro and God will rewards you

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by 9182736455O1999(m): 6:50pm On Nov 25, 2023

nairaland2:
I don't think a man wrote this.
Men are logical beings.

Are you saying this write up is ilogical?

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Re: How Do I Handle This ? by PotatoSalad(m): 6:51pm On Nov 25, 2023

bigdawg7:
make money so you can move into an estate poverty na bastard

Kids all over Nairaland.

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Re: How Do I Handle This ? by WantsandMore: 7:27pm On Nov 25, 2023

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

Go on Jumia there's a black Friday deal of a 20/30 solar combo deal comes with a fan and or 2 bulbs. 45k. Will save you alot of misyearn & heart ache until you can afford to pack out, because even if you complain she may change for a while only to resume after sometime. Save yourself the stress if you can afford it

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by REALretep(m): 8:02pm On Nov 25, 2023

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

From your writeup, you seem like a calm person who doesn't want trouble and does everything to avoid trouble.
In that case, I'll advise you reach out to your landlord to complain about this or you seek out relatively calm people like you that are closely associated with the woman and complain about this to them

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by one4GOD(f): 8:06pm On Nov 25, 2023

kcstyle40:
Exactly part of my major concerns ...

Currently I don't know any environmental agency to report to .

Thanks for your input

report to Lasepa check them on google they will intervene

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Fortune118005(m): 8:54pm On Nov 25, 2023

xavuv:
Leave the apartment. Don't bother meeting her. She wont reason with you at all. That is her source of living you are talking about. If you were to be that woman nko?

Me sef no like wahala

Source of living? Fine but the op is dying

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Fortune118005(m): 8:58pm On Nov 25, 2023

LoveJesus87:
omo I don't envy ur position and I don't pray to fall in such temptation

But as e be now, u have to do all within ur means to make sure it stops cos its clear u can't continue that way for too long... is that place ur own built house? If not, try moving to another location...
And if its ur house, approach her sincerely and let her know what you are SUFFERING... na just for her to change position nw... and If she no Gree...den go police station ooo cos na serious case. N
No be until u die from smoke poisoning before u take steps ahi don't u have children?

I support this

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Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Nobody: 10:43pm On Nov 25, 2023

PedoBear:
Piss in a jug, store for two days and pour it on the ground few minutes the woman starts

Repeat everytime before she does business

CHOi

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by BRATISLAVA: 11:39pm On Nov 25, 2023

Fryx:
I understand you.

I think I understand your point of view. However, I am a bit different. Even if I have a one on one convo with a ritualist. I will persuade them and they will listen to me.

I think it's a gift, so I must not expect others to be like me.

But how beautiful the world will be if we all have this ability.

Well, you can't persuade me from what I want to do, no matter how evil it is unless I have the conviction on my own internally not to do it.

To believe others will be talked out of it is dangerous as that is merely an assumption that who you are dealing with will care or feel any empathy.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by purejustice36: 11:47pm On Nov 25, 2023

One thing I’ve learnt in life
In fact the best thing I’ve learnt in life is to never handle anything with Emotions
Even that woman knows that she’s disturbing you
Call her one day and tell her that you’d like to show her something in ur flat
Convince her to ur room side and let her experience it with her own eyes
Anything that disturbs your peace of mind , you don’t handle it with emotions

After showing her and there’s still no result, just go they chop there everyday on credit

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by litaninja(m): 1:00am On Nov 26, 2023

Approach and have an amicable discussion first, see if they can move their cooking area or upgrade to the charcoal or gas.
If that doesn't work, take pictures and videos of the smoke while they're cooking and if possible showing how it's getting in your room.
Look up the LASEPA website and start reporting. You'll have to follow up and call a lot, they'll eventually take action by issuing warnings and if it continues, the possibility of shutting them down exists.

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by stanval02: 1:54am On Nov 26, 2023

I feel your pain too, I hate smoke be it from firewoods or cigarettes, I suggest you pray to God, to soften her mind, then calm down and talk to her, am sure she will listen to you. 🤗. You can't just stay in your house and conclude that she won't listen to you, go and talk to her. Pls give us update. Thank you boss and I wish you well🙏

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Fryx: 7:32am On Nov 26, 2023

BRATISLAVA:
Well, you can't persuade me from what I want to do, no matter how evil it is unless I have the conviction on my own internally not to do it.

To believe others will be talked out of it is dangerous as that is merely an assumption that who you are dealing with will care or feel any empathy.

You are right too.

This also confirm the fact that you think others are evil because you are too.

You think others won’t change from their evils because you also won’t.

You are right. And if you happen to be under me, and your evil plan will hurt others (especially me). And you won’t listen to me. I will silently execute you.

Either way, I will have my way.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by BRATISLAVA: 7:49am On Nov 26, 2023

Fryx:
You are right too.

This also confirm the fact that you think others are evil because you are too.

You think others won’t change from their evils because you also won’t.

You are right. And if you happen to be under me, and your evil plan will hurt others (especially me). And you won’t listen to me. I will silently execute you.

Either way, I will have my way.

This confirms the fact that you think you can play God and people will bow to your will.

You will be executed first without a blink. Not everyone will be your sheep to listen to you or what you think. You won't have your way in this world, because you don't own it.

Now, consider that when assuming the communication with strangers route.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by Fryx: 7:57am On Nov 26, 2023

BRATISLAVA:
This confirms the fact that you think you can play God and people will bow to your will.

You will be executed first without a blink. Not everyone will be your sheep to listen to you or what you think. You won't have your way in this world, because you don't own it.

Now, consider that when assuming the communication with strangers route.

You don’t even know who you are talking to.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by BRATISLAVA: 8:02am On Nov 26, 2023

Fryx:
You don’t even know who you are talking to.

Maybe you are Jesus, maker and breaker of the universe, he who must be known.

Re: How Do I Handle This ? by femi4: 11:20am On Nov 26, 2023

kcstyle40:
Good day beautiful people,
I am in a bit of a fix and need advice on how best to confront this situation .

There is this mama put restaurant besides my house in lagos but separated by a fence.
However the said restaurant is built attached to the fence in the next compound and that makes it awfully close to my windows and they cook with firewood not even charcoal but all manner of firewood.

The owner of the mama-put a yoruba woman ( very hard working ) starts cooking by 6 a.m up till 11 p.m with smokes going up and into the windows of my bedroom ( upstairs) and other rooms in my house making my room very stuffy and causing me to keep shutting all my windows .

Personally I can't stand any form of smoke be it cigarettes or smokes from burning stuffs

With the high cost of fuel I can't keep running Gen to keep my rooms ventilated and power supply is poor in my area .

I have thought of approaching her concerning this matter but from my observation the woman is very harsh n raze and I fear she might not reason with me .

I understand it's her means of livelihood but I am suffering cus of it and all my cloths in my wardrobes are all smelling smoke ... My room has smoke smell as a result of this , it only reduces if I keep my windows shut for weeks .
I hate problems and I avoid conflicts in every way ... But I have been suffering this for long now

Is there any authority I can report to ?

Or is there a better way to make her understand my plight and switch to cooking with gas without appearing like her enemy of progress ?

Please your advice is needed thanks

Approach her first, don't conclude yet, she might reason with you

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