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Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nebes: 9:59am On Jan 05 |
I'll keep it short. We've had series of useless and lazy househelps. They are a necessary evil for us given our busy schedules, kids and big house. Last year we got lucky to get Rukky, a beautiful and hardworking young woman. Rukky has just informed my wife that she is not returning after the Xmas holidays and my wife is now blaming me. Her reason is shocking to me and I need the opinion of married women and ladies in general. My wife said that Rukky left because I made no attempts to flirt with her after 9 months. It was obvious Rukky liked me but I always acted like she was not there. How do I flirt with another woman under the same roof with my wife and kids? My wife believes that if I had given Rukky a little attention she would have stayed longer. She is just missing the girl's hardworking nature. I truly don't understand this. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Foodqueen(f): 10:08am On Jan 05 |
Is she blaming you for real or just joking around with it. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Little21: 10:09am On Jan 05 |
I don't think this is true. How will a woman want her husband to be having an affair with another lady under the same roof? Because of how hardworking she is? She is the only househelp out there and you simply can't get another househelp right? 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Jeffrey22(m): 10:11am On Jan 05 |
If this is true Maybe your wife is using reverse psychology on you She want to know why rukky don't want to return again 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Klass99(f): 10:20am On Jan 05 |
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Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Solofresh2: 10:21am On Jan 05 |
Wetin be this one again |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Onyiiobi7735(m): 10:24am On Jan 05 |
Nebes:Brother, don't mind your wife and househelp. Both of them are stupid,am sorry to include your wife,but that's the truth. Assuming that you are a man without self control and self discipline, and you go after the maid, and eventually impregnate her ,she will still be the one to play victim card, ranting that you slept with the maid and impregnated her. W That you betrayed her ,bla bla bla! Obviously she planned with the maid to tempt you. What sort of wife does that? That's how some stupid wives with their eyes bring their replacements to the attention and love of their wives. Just ignore her.Women can be very foolish and dramatic all at once,at times. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Lance008(m): 10:43am On Jan 05 |
U go need call the girl ask her urself She can never say so Maybe ur wife won hear ur mouth |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Sonnobax15(m): 11:16am On Jan 05 |
Women and confusion just be like Israel and Hamas.. 1 Like |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Obakoolex(m): 11:19am On Jan 05 |
So you didn't know your wife is having an affair with the security or driver and just want to balance the equation when caught 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by fyzaila: 11:40am On Jan 05 |
A full grown man start his year with lies. A very bullshit and horseshit story 😒 2 Likes |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nebes: 11:53am On Jan 05 |
Foodqueen: Some jokes are very expensive. If it's a joke I don't appreciate it at all. |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:56am On Jan 05 |
Either this is a fake story or your wife is a Moslem woman. She prefers Rukkiat to be the second wife for you. Take this to the religion section. Maybe you have been threatening your Moslem wife about a second wife. 1 Like |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nebes: 12:00pm On Jan 05 |
Klass99: I don't know the work you do, how much you earn and how much you save per month. Househelp work does not require any special skill and they're paid a minimum of 30k plus feeding, housing, toiletries and haircare with no transport to and from work plus occasional tips. A good saver will save all her salary for the month. I don't know if you consider it to be too small. Then your madam comes back from work late in the evening and clothes that were hung out in the morning had been beaten by rain, plates unwashed in the sink and the parlour scattered. If that is not being useless I wonder what else is. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Klass99(f): 12:20pm On Jan 05 |
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Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Beremx(f): 12:36pm On Jan 05 |
Maybe your wife is being sarcastic. Which sensible wife actually meant to say that? I mean who says that? I don't understand o! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Stevenbright(m): 1:12pm On Jan 05 |
Nebes: She might not mean "flirt" in the real sense of the word. She probably meant appreciating her presence and work and once in a while having a few honest chatter with her that shows you recognize her importance in the house. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nemesis0147(m): 1:18pm On Jan 05 |
Una don see us finish for this Nairaland. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nebes: 1:54pm On Jan 05 |
Klass99: I now understand why part of the story offended you. Let me paint a brief picture for you. Their work is to keep the house clean. They are not involved in the children's care, feeding or cooking major meals. We ( me, wifey and kids) all leave the house 7:30am (school runs) and return 5pm on a good day. Biko how stressful is it to sweep, wash plates and probably hang clothes out to dry and bring them in? The clothes are washed with the washing machine. They have almost 10 hours of unsupervised work a day. We their bosses don't have that kind of luxury. Their evening work is to help prepare dinner and wash up after. They retire 9pm on the average daily. My opinion is that my house gives them room to be very lazy as there's almost no work. My wife and I stand on our feet working almost throughout the day so we need some help in the evenings. Is that too much to ask for? We bathe, feed and clothe our kids ourselves. I can go on and on. They start begging when we ask them to leave but Rukky appreciated her work and the environment. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nebes: 2:00pm On Jan 05 |
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Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Eazie351(m): 2:06pm On Jan 05 |
Content. Na your wife chase am cos she noticed first. Women can smell another woman who likes their man from a mile away 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Clickairtravels: 3:48pm On Jan 05 |
I can relate, I 💯 understand your point clearly, I have had similar issues on many occasions. Helping a beautiful woman nowaydays is fast becoming a taboo if u refuse or fail to make advances cos the way they will react is quite shocking. The one I squatted last year just packed her load with her kids and left without prior notice to me or wifey simply because I refused to sneek her outside where I normally have quite time mid night. Others will just change and turn enemies overnight. Terrible folks 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by onumadu: 4:37pm On Jan 05 |
Funny how people are here shouting "how can a wife do this .." blah blah. Those people have never seen anything. Had a Kenyan house-help once, and she was exactly like the house-help in this story. She loved moi, but oga no play ball. Long story short, she left and my SO didn't like it, AT ALL. Maybe because she knew I don't "bite". Women are complex beings. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Jewessgratitud3: 5:31pm On Jan 05 |
I understand her worries perfectly well. Shes the lazy type and enjoys the way Rukky handles her job and is just suggesting you played along with her ( more like deceive her) just to satisfy her and keep her longer on the job to your wife's advantage, not necessarily dating her like having a fling with her. Let your wife rise up to the task before her. One thing she must come to terms with is No body will do it for her forever. So the earlier she braces up and get used to doing it the better for her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by brain54(m): 5:48pm On Jan 05 |
If this is true... Just know your wife let her go. But I know it's not! |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by jaszplus12(m): 6:56pm On Jan 05 |
Nebes:Lemme advice you like an experienced man I am. Never allow women's blaming you for anything affect you. Had you attempted to smile at the maid even once, you would have taken enough flak to down you! Women's emotional turbulence isn't what you want to even begin to analyze. Leave her to sweat out the work! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by jaszplus12(m): 7:02pm On Jan 05 |
Stevenbright:The same she who would have loved the idea will be the same who's going to say the idea was yours and you're planning to sleep with her! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Stevenbright(m): 7:12pm On Jan 05 |
jaszplus12: Yea, very true but I think he was too bland towards the lady to the extend of unsettling her. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Nicepoker(m): 7:24pm On Jan 05 |
Pls take those kids for DNA testing. Those kids are not yours |
Re: Am I To Be Blamed? My Wife And The Househelp by Cocolatti(m): 7:35pm On Jan 05 |
Women and their wahala. |
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