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Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by DiskJokeyManic: 1:09pm On Feb 09 |
Mm |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by baby124: 1:11pm On Feb 09 |
Yes. Because she came there to love her husband and kids. Not anybody else. Some in-laws you try with them and all of a sudden they start interfering in your home and want to tear it down. If you don’t fight back and keep distance they will almost ruin you mentally. They do not appreciate being treated well. A lot of people don’t understand boundaries and they think nice people are to be taken advantage of. If your family is nice to that woman I am not sure she would be fighting. Some of you pack witch and mad woman full house. Then you let them rubbish your wife only to turn around and blame her when she does not allow it to cover that the people in your family are mad. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by NoToPile: 1:11pm On Feb 09 |
Husband's don't even see their wife as family, their own blood family comes first. Husband's relatives don't see the wife as family she's an outsider. Wife doesn't see the husband's family as family. Husband doesn't see the wife's family as family. It's a cycle in some Nigerian marriages. 9 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Resetinc: 1:12pm On Feb 09 |
It depends on the initial relationship between her and the husband family members But las las you’re married to him, not his family |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by pocohantas(f): 1:13pm On Feb 09 |
NoToPile: I wonder why they are always obsessed with the woman loving his family when majority of Nigerian men do not call their in-laws in 500 years. There was a thread saying your wife's family are not your "friends". You should have seen the comments from our resident males. 4 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by pongwa(m): 1:13pm On Feb 09 |
MisterBanny:love and respect goes hand in hand. The fact that your wife disdains your family means she does not respect them and by extension she cannot love them. Now back to you, if she doesn't respect or love your family and claims to love you then in actual sense what she loves is the services you are rendering. If you are not a provider she will extend that disdain to you 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by luminouz(m): 1:14pm On Feb 09 |
Klass99:Bullshiit!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by luminouz(m): 1:15pm On Feb 09 |
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Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by luminouz(m): 1:17pm On Feb 09 |
baby124:Bla bla blaaaaaaaa 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Fiscus105(m): 1:18pm On Feb 09 |
First, not almost all married women hate husband family. I have seen more than enough wives that love their husbands families, infact, almost more than their own husbands. Just like few Marriage failures that always overshadowed several successful MARRIAGES, few wives that hate inlaws, people do project such scenarios as if, all women hate husband' family. Secondly, 70% of wives that hate husband family, caused by the husbands. Many of the HUSBANDS treat their own family with disdain, wen u don't treat ur own family with respect, what are u expecting from stranger? Lastly,woman is like a kid, how you want her to relate and behave, either with u, or with ur family, is largely dependent on you, and u must enforce it from "very very very" beginning, having succeeded in doing that, I think u have reduced Marriage failure by 70%. 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by DrAda(f): 1:19pm On Feb 09 |
Yes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by gigabyte13: 1:20pm On Feb 09 |
Na wertin dey break many homes be that Most women want the husband to love them and their family but abandone his own family for theirs.... . First wahalaaaaaa loading... If you be woman and you dey reason like this You go get problem in the future ooooooo If not immediate..... Na matter of time Let the man love his wife family members and vice versa, but avoid unnecessary inference from both at the same time. 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by stallionng: 1:20pm On Feb 09 |
You said the absolute truth in about 80 _90 percent of women.recently a wife ordered that if her husband,s mom comes visits them,she will go stay in her father's house,the man should choose either the mom comes or she stay in her father,s house till the mom goes. Hey,any man who accepts such rubbish orders from the wife is a fool.maybe it's the woman that married the man .complete fool. Even if after giving birth to children and comes up with such rubbish.sorry for you,another woman will take your place.thy place let another take 3 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by nautybride: 1:21pm On Feb 09 |
No sane woman would love the husband minus his family if they are good and accommodating. 2 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Anguldi(m): 1:23pm On Feb 09 |
After devil na woman |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by nautybride: 1:23pm On Feb 09 |
luminouz:She is quite right. She is probably writing from experience. 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by na2016: 1:23pm On Feb 09 |
Cassandraloius: Not possible. You can't say you love a man and not love his immediate family. |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Excellentmind: 1:24pm On Feb 09 |
MisterBanny: Women don't actually understand what love means. Although, they use the word most often, it is all deceptive move to grasp as much as possible. one who doesn't understand love can not be expected to love! 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Azazyel: 1:24pm On Feb 09 |
MisterBanny: My brother, that's the way women are generally wired. They are territorial after marriage. Na you go use your own wisdom bring peace. It's not a new thing. Family members too can be quite wicked and unreasonable. Protect your home but don't let your wife totally drag you away from family. Women generally want space with their husbands and kids so it shouldn't be strange to you. Don't favor her family over yours cos that would be a big mistake. Whatever rules you set in your home should also apply to her family as well. If she's not okay with it then you'll know you have married a bad wife. You're the head of the house, run your home with authority 3 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by isokey: 1:29pm On Feb 09 |
Juliearth:I keep wondering 🤔 |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by allthingsgood: 1:29pm On Feb 09 |
Women are very selfish and greedy when it comes to love. They want a mans love all to themselves and no one else. Bottomline: avoid women if u can! 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Winneygirl(f): 1:30pm On Feb 09 |
The love stems from respect. Most men are respected by the womans family, and are treated accordingly. A lot of women face automatic disrespect and condescension from the mans family. They heap a lot of unrealistic expectations from the woman and in many cases, continually treat her like an outsider. You cannot love people who don't treat you well. Welcome a lady into your family. Make her feel comfortable and loved. Get to know her as a person and wish that your son/brothers marriage succeeds. She is not an automatic housemaid or house servant. 8 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by NoToPile: 1:32pm On Feb 09 |
pocohantas: It's a give and take situation, you can't claim your wife is not your blood, hate her family and expect her to love yours. Also your family can't be oozing hatred towards the wife and expect her to love them. Respect them she will because she wants to keep her marriage but that love can not happen. We are humans, we will always react subconsciously. My cousin's wife saw hell from my other older female cousins you know when females with one rich brother gang up against a wife, then they labeled her a bad wife, transferred their hatred even to the children. Incidentally the same 'bad wife' loves me and my mum like mad always asking when we would come visit but she was always dreading their own visit. The day she narrated to me all what they did to her she broke down in tears, this woman is about 20years older than me. Years have passed but the crack has not been mended their children are all in the uni now but the crack is still there. Wife-inlaw relationships needs a lot of improvement in Naija, some families are getting it right though. Until you as an inlaw sees that wife as a daughter or a new sister and that husband as a son or a brother. Things won't get better. 10 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by sylve11: 1:33pm On Feb 09 |
JASONjnr: True! |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by stallionng: 1:35pm On Feb 09 |
Most importantly,note,the woman,s brothers wife's,will also treat their own parents same way they treat the parents inlaws.simple |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by peace0813(f): 1:38pm On Feb 09 |
Juliearth: Good question |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by peace0813(f): 1:41pm On Feb 09 |
DiskJokeyManic: Make your family self love your wife too oo |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by davmore750(m): 1:44pm On Feb 09 |
I have a sister like that, very painful anytime I see her 1 Like |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Ishilove: 1:46pm On Feb 09 |
Some families are unloveable 2 Likes |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Tallesty1(m): 1:46pm On Feb 09 |
Cassandraloius:People don't change after marriage, they become real. The change happens before not after. |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Tallesty1(m): 1:47pm On Feb 09 |
Ishilove:Everyone except the husband? |
Re: Can A Woman Love Her Husband And Not Love His Family? by Dancebreaker: 1:50pm On Feb 09 |
Resetinc:By African culture, you are married into a new family. In SW and SS, a traditional wife will call all her in-laws, boys, girls, old and young "my husband". We first need to define how we want it. To be Africans or Westerners. We must decide. @ MisterBanny The truth is, a woman only loves her kids. The hubby is the vehicle to achieve her plans and tick the married box. Remember that a woman marries the guy who seeks her out (at least the guy likes her enough to pick her), not the guy she would have liked. Yes, she can refuse but genuine and serious options are limited. So marrying a man does not mean she loves him. More men love their wives than the reverse. Doing wifely duties as custom demands is not equal to love. Hubby's family members are by and large mere background noise and nuisance to most women. To avoid, if possible. A wise lady knows that a guy loves his parents, so she treats her in-laws right to please him. That's it. 3 Likes |
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