MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws,

Tallesty1:
Everyone except the husband?

MisterBanny:


Women are always the initiators of this family issues

Dancebreaker:

By African culture, you are married into a new family.

In SW and SS, a traditional wife will call all her in-laws, boys, girls, old and you "my husband".

We first need to define how we want it. To be African or Westerners. We must decide.

@ MisterBanny

The truth is, a woman only loves her kids. The hubby is the vehicle to achieve her plans and tick the married box.
Remember that a woman marries the guy who seeks her out (at least the guy likes her enough to pick her), not the guy she would have liked. Yes, she can refuse but genuine and serious options are limited.

Hubby's family are by and large background noise and nuisance to most women. To avoid if possible.

A wise lady knows that a guy loves his parents, so he treats her in-laws right to please him. That's it.

Klass99:


To give you back hand slap through my phone dey sweet me ehn.......too bad I can't do it. Let me try and break it down for you as best as I can. Women have an innate gift called female intuition, we c and often behaved any how in your father's house. But somehow you still manage to spin it around as being the woman's fault.

MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws, and treats them with levity and disdain, yet claims to love her husband genuinely.
A once happy family could be in total disarray immediately some women get into that family.
Personally, I think if u love your husband, such love should be extended to every member of his nuclear and extended family members and same goes to the Man. I believe that genuine LOVE is infectious and contagious. I have seen a lot happening In today's marriages that I'm already scared of getting married. People can pretend throughout the dating and courting period, but immediately after the wedding, the beast and monster in them begin to Manifest. It's scary.

Almost all married woman are guilty of this. But the men almost do not have any issue with Loving their wive's families.
It even gets to the ugly point that, the wife makes a decree that no menmber of the man's family must ever visit them to stay for more than a day or two.

Juliearth:
Can a family love their son and not extend same to the wife?

MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws, and treats them with levity and disdain, yet claims to love her husband genuinely.
A once happy family could be in total disarray immediately some women get into that family.
Personally, I think if u love your husband, such love should be extended to every member of his nuclear and extended family members and same goes to the Man. I believe that genuine LOVE is infectious and contagious. I have seen a lot happening In today's marriages that I'm already scared of getting married. People can pretend throughout the dating and courting period, but immediately after the wedding, the beast and monster in them begin to Manifest. It's scary.

Almost all married woman are guilty of this. But the men almost do not have any issue with Loving their wive's families.
It even gets to the ugly point that, the wife makes a decree that no menmber of the man's family must ever visit them to stay for more than a day or two.

Teema4720:

MisterBanny pls keep quiet if you don't know what to type.

VULCAN:
This is yet another clear reminder that very few woman are capable of logical thought.

A man emanates from his family.

Whatever he is before marriage, part of it emanates from the family where he came from.

The woman saw him relating with his family and such started decades before she came on the scene.

So a woman claiming she loves a man while hating his family is delusional.

When you try to reverse this- you obviously see how stupid that turns out to be.

A wife is a stranger that a man brings into a family. She may have a completely different orientation from that of the family. Whether for good or for bad is secondary.

The woman is just knowing the man and cannot claim she knew him longer than his parents or siblings.

So the onus is more on her to connect with the family she is marrying into just like it is the responsibility of the man to connect with his in-laws as he has come as a stranger.

So therefore your question doesn't make much sense as my love for my brother may not extend to his wife if as a stranger she refuses to integrate into her new extended family

Cassandraloius:
It's very possible, cos most women tend to change after marriage, they will unveil their true colors.

Sometimes the in-laws tend to give her that negative energy and she returns it back with full force.😂

pocohantas:


I wonder why they are always obsessed with the woman loving his family when majority of Nigerian men do not call their in-laws in 500 years.

There was a thread saying your wife's family are not your "friends". You should have seen the comments from our resident males.

Klass99:


To give you back hand slap through my phone dey sweet me ehn.......too bad I can't do it. Let me try and break it down for you as best as I can. Women have an innate gift called female intuition, we can sense and see things from miles away that men are usually unable to sense or see.

We can often see the selfish and entitled mentality of your siblings/relatives, where most only know how to take and receive, never giving back anything in return. They are essentially parasitic in nature like that insect that gums itself to a dog's skin, sucking the blood out of it, then it falls off when it is full.

Once a man is rich or doing well his relatives buzz around him like bees to honey, they don't want to work or make a success of their own lives, in their shallow minds, their brother has money na so he should help them. That is when they carry blood is thicker than water on their heads like die! Let that same man fall critically ill, you will see all those siblings/relatives disappear into thin air, abandoning him to his wife and kids alone, to be taken care of. If the man is lucky they may visit him once or twice in the hospital.

The question I always ask is this - are your relatives' hands broken or are their brains malfunctioning that they cannot strive to make something of their own lives? Must they gum body to the one successful relative in the family for their existence and survival? There is nothing wrong with helping out your relatives, but when you carry their matter on your head like gala, you repeatedly allow them take advantage of you or disrespect your wife, and your wife and kids suffer, there is everything wrong with you and your relatives.

Women tend to see these things and when we try to shield you as wives from the parasitic pack of wolves you call family, you claim we hate your relatives and we are the ones causing division amongst you. No sir, it is not us but rather your selfish relatives who want to constantly use you as a meal ticket in this life, not caring if you have a new family of your own to take care of.

And when you die they all disappear not caring if you have kids who may need help in your perpetual absence due to death. They don't remember that blood is thicker than water, and they ought to help your children oooo. Why is this even a topic of discussion in 2024? Most of you (men) grew up in households like the one I described, where you saw your father's relatives disrespect him and your mothers, they took advantage and often behaved any how in your father's house. But somehow you still manage to spin it around as being the woman's fault.

theredaddy:



Asides love & care whatelse can a woman bring into Man's house/family

seems women no just get mind to contribute anything inside marriage, na everything dey hard dem

Dancebreaker:

By African culture, you are married into a new family.

In SW and SS, a traditional wife will call all her in-laws, boys, girls, old and young "my husband".

We first need to define how we want it. To be Africans or Westerners. We must decide.

@ MisterBanny

The truth is, a woman only loves her kids. The hubby is the vehicle to achieve her plans and tick the married box.

Remember that a woman marries the guy who seeks her out (at least the guy likes her enough to pick her), not the guy she would have liked. Yes, she can refuse but genuine and serious options are limited. So marrying a man does not mean she loves him. More men love their wives than the reverse. Doing wifely duties as custom demands is not equal to love.

Hubby's family members are by and large mere background noise and nuisance to most women. To avoid, if possible.

A wise lady knows that a guy loves his parents, so she treats her in-laws right to please him. That's it.

VULCAN:
This is yet another clear reminder that very few woman are capable of logical thought.

A man emanates from his family.

Whatever he is before marriage, part of it emanates from the family where he came from.

The woman saw him relating with his family and such started decades before she came on the scene.

So a woman claiming she loves a man while hating his family is delusional.

When you try to reverse this- you obviously see how stupid that turns out to be.

A wife is a stranger that a man brings into a family. She may have a completely different orientation from that of the family. Whether for good or for bad is secondary.

The woman is just knowing the man and cannot claim she knew him longer than his parents or siblings.

So the onus is more on her to connect with the family she is marrying into just like it is the responsibility of the man to connect with his in-laws as he has come as a stranger.

So therefore your question doesn't make much sense as my love for my brother may not extend to his wife if as a stranger she refuses to integrate into her new extended family

MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws, and treats them with levity and disdain, yet claims to love her husband genuinely.
A once happy family could be in total disarray immediately some women get into that family.
Personally, I think if u love your husband, such love should be extended to every member of his nuclear and extended family members and same goes to the Man. I believe that genuine LOVE is infectious and contagious. I have seen a lot happening In today's marriages that I'm already scared of getting married. People can pretend throughout the dating and courting period, but immediately after the wedding, the beast and monster in them begin to Manifest. It's scary.

Almost all married woman are guilty of this. But the men almost do not have any issue with Loving their wive's families.
It even gets to the ugly point that, the wife makes a decree that no menmber of the man's family must ever visit them to stay for more than a day or two.

baby124:

Wetin your mama contribute to marriage and the world? Dem suppose ask since she be stranger for your family too. Una go just talk anyhow without reason. SMH. De think before you talk abeg. Stop disgracing yourself outside.

Klass99:


+234 819 999 9999

theredaddy:



I love that question, My mother brought love & care into my father's house

asides my dad lil sister, their is no one in my father house that does not adore my mom,

my mother can use food n kill you anybody sef

baby124:

When you born your own son too, open mouth ask am wetin your wife, him mama bring to the table if he no deal with you.

Juliearth:







Your point of view is valid and I accede 100 percent (I wont take to heart your first paragraph).

My thought however, is borne out of the possibility of the wife trying her best to fit in and take her new-found family as hers, yet gets condemned and rejected unjustly by her in-laws. It is easier to love your in-laws when they are willing to accept you. I know you dont live in Lalaland. Thus, you may have heard or seen certain members of a family frustrate their daughter in-laws/sister in-laws. How can love thrive under such toxicity?

theredaddy:



why body dey pepper you, if you know you carry value you won't feel these agitated ...

Money una no get, Just bring care & love una go still dey nag ... thunder kill ya there

baby124:

Na your mama no get all these things na why you fit open mouth talk to and about women anyhow. Small rat like you. Make thunder faya your mama for giving birth to you. Idiot

theredaddy:




You just being Bias, why make it all look as though the problem can only come from the inlaws,

Is it a known fact that women are territorial, most of my married friends we hardly meet in each others house sef ... cos women are just something else when it comes to space

How many of ladies we have now even have home training not to talk of respecting anybody