Klass99:


You can quote me all you want, from now till they kingdom come, but you will be soundly and perpetually ignored.

The post quoting me and mentioning me will not even be read because I choose carefully what I read and who I engage with here.

Too bad Seun has refused to create a block option/button. 99.9% of the logical gender would have been blocked ages ago because majority are not as logical as they like to think.

Why are getting work up and emotional on a faceless forum

You are the one not logical here cos you refuse to balance things.

Is it only the husband relatives that feel entitled ??

Should a man also do same to his wife by blocking her relatives from having access to her cos he feels they are leeches

One again stop been bias and clearly you ain't even near been married.....I guess you still a teenager.

baby124:

When you asked your wife to marry you, did you pour all this out? Please do before proposing to any woman. When you want to marry, you say marry me! Not marry my family members. She’s there for you otherwise she would not be affiliated with your family.

Stranger indeed. Why not ask your mother and sister to give birth to your kids, cook and nurture your family to old age. If they try it, even you go japa as the kids will not be normal and the drama go make life tire you. Keep yarning and believing dust there.

Since he asked her to him and not his family.

If your husband also want to cut all ties you have with your family and stop them having access to you just keep this same energy.

Men you guys must learn to agree that some of your families are ingrate.
I personally sponsored my brother in law to Thailand before the covid because I had little brothers. My aim was to open up the financial porter of the family. During the covid it was hubby and I that kept sending money to sustain him but know he is making money to call me on phone is a taboo. Even my mother in law is not addressing the issue rather she tells me the son has no money but he is buying lands everywhere.

After the Christmas I advised myself because I have seen the highest level of ungratefulness.

I nolonger see myself as part of that family and will never displease myself for any member of that family tomorrow you will say women are destroying homes....what will you call this

Dancebreaker:

By African culture, you are married into a new family.

In SW and SS, a traditional wife will call all her in-laws, boys, girls, old and young "my husband".

We first need to define how we want it. To be Africans or Westerners. We must decide.

@ MisterBanny

The truth is, a woman only loves her kids. The hubby is the vehicle to achieve her plans and tick the married box.

Remember that a woman marries the guy who seeks her out (at least the guy likes her enough to pick her), not the guy she would have liked. Yes, she can refuse but genuine and serious options are limited. So marrying a man does not mean she loves him. More men love their wives than the reverse. Doing wifely duties as custom demands is not equal to love.

Hubby's family members are by and large mere background noise and nuisance to most women. To avoid, if possible.

A wise lady knows that a guy loves his parents, so she treats her in-laws right to please him. That's it.

Excuse me! Which one is SW and SS? Whats the relationship between yoruba and SS tribes? Are you for real.

Jeans601:


Since he asked her to him and not his family.

If your husband also want to cut all ties you have with your family and stop them having access to you just keep this same energy.

He ASKED her! Not her asking him. In fact a man is obligated to love and respect his wife’s family because they allowed him to marry their daughter and with the understanding she will be cared for and loved. Men have a lot of responsibility in marriage but you small boys think it’s a joke. And you can run around with your dirty mouth insulting women.

Look if you don’t like marriage or women, gay men are an option. You beg someone’s family and the person to marry you, only to gather your useless family to be torturing the person. Does it make sense? Did her family tell you she’s a slave where she’s coming from and they are giving her away to serve your family? Una go just de talk nonsense. Deal with your own family and promote peace otherwise you are not ready for marriage.

baby124:

He ASKED her! Not her asking him. In fact a man is obligated to love and respect his wife’s family because they allowed him to marry their daughter and with the understanding she will be cared for and loved. Men have a lot of responsibility in marriage but you small boys think it’s a joke. And you can run around with your dirty mouth insulting women.

Look if you don’t like marriage or women, gay men are an option. You beg someone’s family and the person to marry you, only to gather your useless family to be torturing the person. Does it make sense? Did her family tell you she’s a slave where she’s coming from and they are giving her away to serve your family? Una go just de talk nonsense. Deal with your own family and promote peace otherwise you are not ready for marriage.

Lol.

Is always funny hearing and seeing people still under there parent talking about marriage.

Even with my 6years in marriage am still learning everyday.

Don't worry when you get married someday reality will clear you.

Yest it's possible that's why they always don't want the husbands family to visit only their families do visit

MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws, and treats them with levity and disdain, yet claims to love her husband genuinely.
A once happy family could be in total disarray immediately some women get into that family.
Personally, I think if u love your husband, such love should be extended to every member of his nuclear and extended family members and same goes to the Man. I believe that genuine LOVE is infectious and contagious. I have seen a lot happening In today's marriages that I'm already scared of getting married. People can pretend throughout the dating and courting period, but immediately after the wedding, the beast and monster in them begin to Manifest. It's scary.

Almost all married woman are guilty of this. But the men almost do not have any issue with Loving their wive's families.
It even gets to the ugly point that, the wife makes a decree that no menmber of the man's family must ever visit them to stay for more than a day or two.

What amount of research has gone into this your biased write-up? You obviously are soooo naive and myopic. You would do better in the future if you do a thorough analysis before jumping to conclusions on any issues for that matter.

I don't hate my husband's family, I will not jump the moon for them either. I try to be civil with them. That's the level we are now.

It hasn't always been like that. We were cool, really cool or maybe I was the one thinking we were cool until they showed their true colour. You'd think it could be as a result of what I did or said but it's none of the above. That was why it hit so badly I felt betrayed. I was heartbroken and just went into my shell. I withdrew from everything and everybody.

My husband is a good man. He knows me, I am an introvert so I don't even talk much. He tried to shield me from any more hurt and he was cool with how I decided to handle it. It's like you dancing in a city where you are not loved, you will soon be shamed! I don't want to be shamed so I ran away.

I don't go visiting them, I don't attend family functions, (Event melo ni Jero mi nlọ tẹlẹ) I don't call. If they visit, I am civil. I offer them what I have and disappear to the rooms. My husband bonds well with them, he's their son. Of course they have disagreements here and there but that's normal.

My family has a good relationship with my husband, especially my mum. They've been exceptionally great together even before I was married. My dad takes my husband out to go drink, just the two of them and my siblings, (they're much younger) answer seven times if he calls them once. My side of the divide go all out to love my husband.

God is the overall being who watches over the affairs of men. He will judge us all accordingly. I know I didn't wrong them in any way. Of course they're trying to make up now but I'm like WTF did I do!

Juliearth:
Can a family love their son and not extend same to the wife?

Hmmmnn! I don't think my husband's family like him cause if they did, they should extend the love to me. Meanwhile, my own family likes him so much, even the little ones like nieces and nephews, babies in the family are growing up to like him.

NoToPile:


It's a give and take situation, you can't claim your wife is not your blood, hate her family and expect her to love yours.

Also your family can't be oozing hatred towards the wife and expect her to love them. Respect them she will because she wants to keep her marriage but that love can not happen.

We are humans, we will always react subconsciously.



My cousin's wife saw hell from my other older female cousins you know when females with one rich brother gang up against a wife, then they labeled her a bad wife, transferred their hatred even to the children.


Incidentally the same 'bad wife' loves me and my mum like mad always asking when we would come visit but she was always dreading their own visit.


The day she narrated to me all what they did to her she broke down in tears, this woman is about 20years older than me.

Years have passed but the crack has not been mended their children are all in the uni now but the crack is still there.


Wife-inlaw relationships needs a lot of improvement in Naija, some families are getting it right though.

Until you as an inlaw sees that wife as a daughter or a new sister and that husband as a son or a brother. Things won't get better.

Your comment drew tears from my eyes. Yes, the crack don't always go away. I was pregnant after the first year of marriage but it was a traumatic one which I eventually lost. It was life threatening so the doctors took it away. I was bedridden for months in the hospital. Some of my husband's family members don't live far away from us, maybe two or three bus stops away but I never saw any of them all through. The one that managed to call said something mean to me on my sick bed. I couldn't tell my husband or mum what he said cause they'd both raise hell. I sucked it in. Since then, I kept to myself. What did I ever do for them to hate me that much?

My MIL was alive then but very old and wasn't even conscious of her environment anymore. I totally absolve her of any blame. Even while she was still herself, she was a good woman. I can't say the same for the rest of them.

It's been years but the crack won't just go away. I don't feel comfortable to be in the same gathering with them. I hide myself to stay sane.

placeofallure:


Hmmmnn! I don't think my husband's family like him cause if they did, they should extend the love to me. Meanwhile, my own family likes him so much, even the little ones like nieces and nephews, babies in the family are growing up to like him.

The woes of a Nigerian wife.

I'm sorry about your ordeal, sis. What was your relationship like with them before you married their son? If it was good, at what point did it start going sour? What caused it? Can the situation be salvaged?

If the current situatio can be salvaged, please leave no stone unturned in achieving this. Marriage is a lifelong enterprise, so its best you run it with wisdom and patience. They may be wrong, but it is on you to make attempts at peace. I pray God gives you the wisdom to turn things around for good.

MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws, and treats them with levity and disdain, yet claims to love her husband genuinely.
A once happy family could be in total disarray immediately some women get into that family.
Personally, I think if u love your husband, such love should be extended to every member of his nuclear and extended family members and same goes to the Man. I believe that genuine LOVE is infectious and contagious. I have seen a lot happening In today's marriages that I'm already scared of getting married. People can pretend throughout the dating and courting period, but immediately after the wedding, the beast and monster in them begin to Manifest. It's scary.

Almost all married woman are guilty of this. But the men almost do not have any issue with Loving their wive's families.
It even gets to the ugly point that, the wife makes a decree that no member of the man's family must ever visit them to stay for more than a day or two.

please everyone i need your advice, I'm facing this right now.
There was a time my mom was complaining about feeding and how dad family are maltreating her in our home town,and I discussed with my wife,we both have 4kids together,so she agreed that My mom should come over,we're living in room and parlour then,and i brought mom home,this happened in 2020.
All of a sudden my woman started issue with mom,to the extent that mom I'll report her to me that she's not greeting her,as in early morning greeting from a well trained woman, but I will beg mom, because sometimes i also notice such character from my wife.
This issue continue like that,until one day.
Mom don't eat Eba,Cuz my mom is from Ekiti,so either pounded yam,semolina or Fufu,and by God grace I manage to get some at home,just to satisfy mom,One very evening like that,i went to watch Chelsea match, immediately i returned home,i see mom outside, and I asked her if she have eaten,but she replied No,and i asked why, she said that My wife make EBA for her and she can't eat it .
Immediately I went to the kitchen and asked my woman,why did you prepare Eba for Mama, Instead of her regular food,my wife replied that,she didn't make EBA for mom,but Semo.
And I asked her to show me the semo,to my surprise,My wife is showing me Eba,and she's claiming that its Semo,I was very angry,cuz as I was asking her,that what's the meaning of this,she keep telling me that is Semo,i get mad at her and slapped her,I never knew that she intentionally planned it, she knows that I'll be mad at her ,she wanted everything to scatter,cuz she knows that I don't joke with my mom,mom started begging me that night,and her brother have to show up and settle it for us,and i later I went ahead to get Fufu for mom.
Two days later,.mom told me she's going ,though she didn't said is because of my woman,but i understand,to my surprise,mom is going back with her load and with what i get for her, almost, 4 bags, altogether,i carried 2, while mom also carried 2,my wife just looking at us as we re going, nothing like her to see mama off,or even said Bye Mama .fast forward to 2021,mom died and we went for the burial.
After some years,maybe 2 years ago,her own mom came to Lagos,after leaving her brother's place,she stayed In our house for 4 to 5 months,which I take good care of her very well,even she keep telling other siblings that I'm the best.
This is the main point now,This same my mother inlaw now had stroke,she's down with stroke, Though we had a meeting together, that her mom I'll stayed in their elders brothers place for a month,and come to live in my house,(mini flat with 4 kids)for a month also, and will from their go to another siblings house, after a month.i once asked my wife that which mattress her mom going to use when she get here,and she said,our own mattress,this hurt me,cuz i can't immagine, sleeping on the same bed, maybe after she leave.
Please who can tell me what to do,as for me,I'm not happy about this,cuz anytime I remembered how she treated my mom,this saddened me,and i also don't want my kids to be affected thru this sickness........ please I need everyone's advice .

The major problem is the fact that many women go into marriages expecting a wicked mother in law. So, way before the marriage even happens, many already built a defence system and resistance against a family or mother-in-law they don't know. Thus, preventing any form of positive energy or love to thrive.

Question is, if you think that your own family is lovely, why do you expect mine to be wicked? For many of you, only your mother is the best thing after sliced bread. Every other woman out there is a potential evil mother-in-law.

It is a societal menace we all need to kick against, first by preventing our daughters from seeing those useless Indian and Nigerian movies that paint mother-in-laws as wicked witches.

placeofallure:

God is the overall being who watches over the affairs of men. He will judge us all accordingly. I know I didn't wrong them in any way. Of course they're trying to make up now but I'm like WTF did I do!

Make Me No Lie, U Ma sef Gather for Body ooo .... As per Your Posts ... U carry for Pocket jhare ... O buru... Those Things You ain't Saying By Mouth Must Be Reflective On Your Body languages Which Your Inlaws Would Also Subconsciously Picked The Rhythms & Counter-Fire You Before You Unleashed

You are an Introvert That's what You Did.... You see Yourself as Introvert while They see You as Arrogant That Must Be Tamed & Taught Lessons That Wasn't Taught from Your Famz .... ThanGod, You ain't Competing their Son with Them Trust me .. Dem go Stress You till Death ooo ... !

They will also see Your Husband as a "Simp" Thus They would go On Defensive Trying to Rescue their Son from Your Bondage Because You have snatched his Emotions Away ....

I already sensed My Families are Pepperish & Would Show My Wife Shege So I Suspend Marriage & Foremost Went Mad(Weyrey) on all of Them & Take Over the Overall Management of the Entire Family even as a Grandchild Na Dem dey fear Me Now Cuz They All Know They Would Collect Once They Cross Unto My Lane.. Dem Be Witches But Wizard na ihm be Husband to Witches ... Oso loko awon Aje !

When I marry ... God Helps The One that Would Disturb My Wife & God Helps My Wife Showing Weyrey to Anybody cuz Gen Z no too well Like That while Majority of Those Families Belongs to Old Civilisations where Wife/Wives are Treated Like Slaves ....

No Gen Z go Gree that Kind Sheettt in 2020s

.... Nevertheless, Everything na just in the Hands of the Husband Sha ... I already laid the Foundations for me to be Dreaded by Them All So My Fiancee/Families can Put Their Hands in my Desire States Make dem no kill me with Hypertension(Depressions) ...

I can't be waisting My time & Brain Fluids Settling Quarrels between Adults Over Some Stupidities Anyone wey disturbed my Peace Go see Hell among Them.

Most inlaws Families are "Demonic" .... Fuelled by Immaturities!

Future World is gon be Better ... for Now, Weyrey loko Weyrey(Madness is Husband to Madness) if Not They Will Use Depressions Kill You

Welcome to Yoruba Race In-laws... Dem go dey Do You & Dem go dey Follow You dey Laugh.

Realme111:
please everyone i need your advice, I'm facing this right now.
There was a time my mom was complaining about feeding and how dad family are maltreating her in our home town,and I discussed with my wife,we both have 4kids together,so she agreed that My mom should come over,we're living in room and parlour then,and i brought mom home,this happened in 2020.
All of a sudden my woman started issue with mom,to the extent that mom I'll report her to me that she's not greeting her,as in early morning greeting from a well trained woman, but I will beg mom, because sometimes i also notice such character from my wife.
This issue continue like that,until one day.
Mom don't eat Eba,Cuz my mom is from Ekiti,so either pounded yam,semolina or Fufu,and by God grace I manage to get some at home,just to satisfy mom,One very evening like that,i went to watch Chelsea match, immediately i returned home,i see mom outside, and I asked her if she have eaten,but she replied No,and i asked why, she said that My wife make EBA for her and she can't eat it .
Immediately I went to the kitchen and asked my woman,why did you prepare Eba for Mama, Instead of her regular food,my wife replied that,she didn't make EBA for mom,but Semo.
And I asked her to show me the semo,to my surprise,My wife is showing me Eba,and she's claiming that its Semo,I was very angry,cuz as I was asking her,that what's the meaning of this,she keep telling me that is Semo,i get mad at her and slapped her,I never knew that she intentionally planned it, she knows that I'll be mad at her ,she wanted everything to scatter,cuz she knows that I don't joke with my mom,mom started begging me that night,and her brother have to show up and settle it for us,and i later I went ahead to get Fufu for mom.
Two days later,.mom told me she's going ,though she didn't said is because of my woman,but i understand,to my surprise,mom is going back with her load and with what i get for her, almost, 4 bags, altogether,i carried 2, while mom also carried 2,my wife just looking at us as we re going, nothing like her to see mama off,or even said Bye Mama .fast forward to 2021,mom died and we went for the burial.
After some years,maybe 2 years ago,her own mom came to Lagos,after leaving her brother's place,she stayed In our house for 4 to 5 months,which I take good care of her very well,even she keep telling other siblings that I'm the best.
This is the main point now,This same my mother inlaw now had stroke,she's down with stroke, Though we had a meeting together, that her mom I'll stayed in their elders brothers place for a month,and come to live in my house,(mini flat with 4 kids)for a month also, and will from their go to another siblings house, after a month.i once asked my wife that which mattress her mom going to use when she get here,and she said,our own mattress,this hurt me,cuz i can't immagine, sleeping on the same bed, maybe after she leave.
Please who can tell me what to do,as for me,I'm not happy about this,cuz anytime I remembered how she treated my mom,this saddened me,and i also don't want my kids to be affected thru this sickness........ please I need everyone's advice .

Chai... This story is pathetic. I'm sorry for the loss of your Mum. Your wife is wicked and evil. Pls don't ever let her mum come and live with you. Her mum isn't more important than your own late mum whom she maltreated when she was alive. If not that she already has four kids, I would have suggested u send her out.
Don't let her in. Period!

placeofallure:


What amount of research has gone into this your biased write-up? You obviously are soooo naive and myopic. You would do better in the future if you do a thorough analysis before jumping to conclusions on any issues for that matter.

I don't hate my husband's family, I will not jump the moon for them either. I try to be civil with them. That's the level we are now.

It hasn't always been like that. We were cool, really cool or maybe I was the one thinking we were cool until they showed their true colour. You'd think it could be as a result of what I did or said but it's none of the above. That was why it hit so badly I felt betrayed. I was heartbroken and just went into my shell. I withdrew from everything and everybody.

My husband is a good man. He knows me, I am an introvert so I don't even talk much. He tried to shield me from any more hurt and he was cool with how I decided to handle it. It's like you dancing in a city where you are not loved, you will soon be shamed! I don't want to be shamed so I ran away.

I don't go visiting them, I don't attend family functions, (Event melo ni Jero mi nlọ tẹlẹ) I don't call. If they visit, I am civil. I offer them what I have and disappear to the rooms. My husband bonds well with them, he's their son. Of course they have disagreements here and there but that's normal.

My family has a good relationship with my husband, especially my mum. They've been exceptionally great together even before I was married. My dad takes my husband out to go drink, just the two of them and my siblings, (they're much younger) answer seven times if he calls them once. My side of the divide go all out to love my husband.

God is the overall being who watches over the affairs of men. He will judge us all accordingly. I know I didn't wrong them in any way. Of course they're trying to make up now but I'm like WTF did I do!

Thanks for your insults

JASONjnr:
Even tho I don't support family rivalries.... I believe, it's very possible for a woman to want to cut off her husband from his family members because she feels insecure when they come around.

With the tradition we practice, taking your child's wealth from his wife and children is why women grew with the mentality of securing her future.

But as a man, if my wife hates my family members, na to follow hate her family members too. You don't want my mother around, then yours won't come around.

One big bottle of Alomo bitters for you.


In fact, plus another Big Bottle of Origin bitters.


The truth is bitter.!

The reverse is the case. They love their family and hate their husband. Go and check.

luminouz:

*Sighs*

Not again, mudafucker!!!

He did Nothing Wrong Chairman ... She said No, He Moved On ....

Why u dey craze untop Another Man Matter

Redpilling go wound una brain finish ... Imagine u Feeling Pained & Insultive because a Dude asked for a Girl No & She said No .. Lol! ..

If he asked for sex ... she said No .. Una go still Curse him ....

Life no go Far ooo ... Oyinbo go destroyed una African Brain Finish .... You dey do Yanga to the Gender you are Meant to Cater & Care For While Managing Her Madness 😠

Realme111:
please everyone i need your advice, I'm facing this right now.
There was a time my mom was complaining about feeding and how dad family are maltreating her in our home town,and I discussed with my wife,we both have 4kids together,so she agreed that My mom should come over,we're living in room and parlour then,and i brought mom home,this happened in 2020.
All of a sudden my woman started issue with mom,to the extent that mom I'll report her to me that she's not greeting her,as in early morning greeting from a well trained woman, but I will beg mom, because sometimes i also notice such character from my wife.
This issue continue like that,until one day.
Mom don't eat Eba,Cuz my mom is from Ekiti,so either pounded yam,semolina or Fufu,and by God grace I manage to get some at home,just to satisfy mom,One very evening like that,i went to watch Chelsea match, immediately i returned home,i see mom outside, and I asked her if she have eaten,but she replied No,and i asked why, she said that My wife make EBA for her and she can't eat it .
Immediately I went to the kitchen and asked my woman,why did you prepare Eba for Mama, Instead of her regular food,my wife replied that,she didn't make EBA for mom,but Semo.
And I asked her to show me the semo,to my surprise,My wife is showing me Eba,and she's claiming that its Semo,I was very angry,cuz as I was asking her,that what's the meaning of this,she keep telling me that is Semo,i get mad at her and slapped her,I never knew that she intentionally planned it, she knows that I'll be mad at her ,she wanted everything to scatter,cuz she knows that I don't joke with my mom,mom started begging me that night,and her brother have to show up and settle it for us,and i later I went ahead to get Fufu for mom.
Two days later,.mom told me she's going ,though she didn't said is because of my woman,but i understand,to my surprise,mom is going back with her load and with what i get for her, almost, 4 bags, altogether,i carried 2, while mom also carried 2,my wife just looking at us as we re going, nothing like her to see mama off,or even said Bye Mama .fast forward to 2021,mom died and we went for the burial.
After some years,maybe 2 years ago,her own mom came to Lagos,after leaving her brother's place,she stayed In our house for 4 to 5 months,which I take good care of her very well,even she keep telling other siblings that I'm the best.
This is the main point now,This same my mother inlaw now had stroke,she's down with stroke, Though we had a meeting together, that her mom I'll stayed in their elders brothers place for a month,and come to live in my house,(mini flat with 4 kids)for a month also, and will from their go to another siblings house, after a month.i once asked my wife that which mattress her mom going to use when she get here,and she said,our own mattress,this hurt me,cuz i can't immagine, sleeping on the same bed, maybe after she leave.
Please who can tell me what to do,as for me,I'm not happy about this,cuz anytime I remembered how she treated my mom,this saddened me,and i also don't want my kids to be affected thru this sickness........ please I need everyone's advice .

Your wife is Your Husband ... Welcome to Reality !

I always Advice Male Not to Marry as Boys ... Be a Man First & Formost ....

Avoid Luminouz & Redpillers Geng ... They will destroy your mental Spheres with Overcarefulness .......

You have failed to Trained Your Wife Life Management which her family has failed to Trained Her .... she will destroy you & Destroy your children with her pepperish .... now your children would go onto the street of Life to operate your wife's Maturities & Behavioural Tendencies since they are used to Locking people & Having their ways ... The Street is going to treat your Children's Fvcked Up cuz The Street is Cruel ... Street ain't You ...

You can see the Future Outlook of Your inability to Manned Your Woman .... Let the Fvck Continue... e no dey yield better fruit when you allowed Women to Rule Your Manhood .... You are Cooked !

Call God & Go to twitter to read about "Warriors" .... Right now ... You are a Boyish Maturities in Men's Age Bracket .... !

Go & Grown to become a Masculinity Maturities... someone Reasonable & Responsible While Also Fvcking Your Wife Vagina to Your Desire Choices ... She will Obliged You Without Questions !

If they are a threat to her marriage

DonroxyII:
He did Nothing Wrong Chairman ... She said No, He Moved On ....

Why u dey craze untop Another Man Matter

Redpilling go wound una brain finish ... Imagine u Feeling Pained & Insultive because a Dude asked for a Girl No & She said No .. Lol! ..

If he asked for sex ... she said No .. Una go still Curse him ....

Life no go Far ooo ... Oyinbo go destroyed una African Brain Finish .... You dey do Yanga to the Gender you are Meant to Cater & Care For While Managing Her Madness 😠

K

Realme111:
please everyone i need your advice, I'm facing this right now.
There was a time my mom was complaining about feeding and how dad family are maltreating her in our home town,and I discussed with my wife,we both have 4kids together,so she agreed that My mom should come over,we're living in room and parlour then,and i brought mom home,this happened in 2020.
All of a sudden my woman started issue with mom,to the extent that mom I'll report her to me that she's not greeting her,as in early morning greeting from a well trained woman, but I will beg mom, because sometimes i also notice such character from my wife.
This issue continue like that,until one day.
Mom don't eat Eba,Cuz my mom is from Ekiti,so either pounded yam,semolina or Fufu,and by God grace I manage to get some at home,just to satisfy mom,One very evening like that,i went to watch Chelsea match, immediately i returned home,i see mom outside, and I asked her if she have eaten,but she replied No,and i asked why, she said that My wife make EBA for her and she can't eat it .
Immediately I went to the kitchen and asked my woman,why did you prepare Eba for Mama, Instead of her regular food,my wife replied that,she didn't make EBA for mom,but Semo.
And I asked her to show me the semo,to my surprise,My wife is showing me Eba,and she's claiming that its Semo,I was very angry,cuz as I was asking her,that what's the meaning of this,she keep telling me that is Semo,i get mad at her and slapped her,I never knew that she intentionally planned it, she knows that I'll be mad at her ,she wanted everything to scatter,cuz she knows that I don't joke with my mom,mom started begging me that night,and her brother have to show up and settle it for us,and i later I went ahead to get Fufu for mom.
Two days later,.mom told me she's going ,though she didn't said is because of my woman,but i understand,to my surprise,mom is going back with her load and with what i get for her, almost, 4 bags, altogether,i carried 2, while mom also carried 2,my wife just looking at us as we re going, nothing like her to see mama off,or even said Bye Mama .fast forward to 2021,mom died and we went for the burial.
After some years,maybe 2 years ago,her own mom came to Lagos,after leaving her brother's place,she stayed In our house for 4 to 5 months,which I take good care of her very well,even she keep telling other siblings that I'm the best.
This is the main point now,This same my mother inlaw now had stroke,she's down with stroke, Though we had a meeting together, that her mom I'll stayed in their elders brothers place for a month,and come to live in my house,(mini flat with 4 kids)for a month also, and will from their go to another siblings house, after a month.i once asked my wife that which mattress her mom going to use when she get here,and she said,our own mattress,this hurt me,cuz i can't immagine, sleeping on the same bed, maybe after she leave.
Please who can tell me what to do,as for me,I'm not happy about this,cuz anytime I remembered how she treated my mom,this saddened me,and i also don't want my kids to be affected thru this sickness........ please I need everyone's advice .

I have seen a story similar to this.

My advice is simple. You were too weak and allowed your wife dictate terms in your home on issues you should have put your foot down. Now, concerning her mother, I am also saying NEVER LET HER MOTHER STAY WITH YOU. Remind her of what your own mother did and put your foot down.

N.B: Your mom was from my state. The fact that your wife can treat your mom like that and you didn't make her regret such was so bad and sad. Ekiti men had balls. Where did you come from bro? How can you be so weak that your wife is now dictating terms of how, when and how long her own mom will stay in your own house and you are coming to ask us for advice? You disappoint me if this story is true.

I have said it before. The day you allow a woman to disrespect you and get away with it is the day you lose your value. It always goes downhill from there.

DonroxyII:
Your wife is Your Husband ... Welcome to Reality !

I always Advice Male Not to Marry as Boys ... Be a Man First & Formost ....

Avoid Luminouz & Redpillers Geng ... They will destroy your mental Spheres with Overcarefulness .......

You have failed to Trained Your Wife Life Management which her family has failed to Trained Her .... she will destroy you & Destroy your children with her pepperish .... now your children would go onto the street of Life to operate your wife's Maturities & Behavioural Tendencies since they are used to Locking people & Having their ways ... The Street is going to treat your Children's Fvcked Up cuz The Street is Cruel ... Street ain't You ...

You can see the Future Outlook of Your inability to Manned Your Woman .... Let the Fvck Continue... e no dey yield better fruit when you allowed Women to Rule Your Manhood .... You are Cooked !

Call God & Go to twitter to read about "Warriors" .... Right now ... You are a Boyish Maturities in Men's Age Bracket .... !

Go & Grown to become a Masculinity Maturities... someone Reasonable & Responsible While Also Fvcking Your Wife Vagina to Your Desire Choices ... She will Obliged You Without Questions !

K!!!

luminouz:

I have seen a story similar to this.

My advice is simple. You were too weak and allowed your wife dictate terms in your home on issues you should have put your foot down. Now, concerning her mother, I am also saying NEVER LET HER MOTHER STAY WITH YOU. Remind her of what your own mother did and put your foot down.

N.B: Your mom was from my state. The fact that your wife can treat your mom like that and you didn't make her regret such was so bad and sad. Ekiti men had balls. Where did you come from bro? How can you be so weak that your wife is now dictating terms of how, when and how long her own mom will stay in your own house and you are coming to ask us for advice? You disappoint me if this story is true.

I have said it before. The day you allow a woman to disrespect you and get away with it is the day you lose your value. It always goes downhill from there.

This guy is single to stupor and can’t even get a call back just FYI @Realme111. This is why you have to be very careful where you take your problem to for advice.

baby124:

This guy is single to stupor and can’t even get a call back just FYI @Realme111. This is why you have to be very careful where you take your problem to for advice.

K

MisterBanny:
I always kept wondering about this. I have seen many homes break as a result of marrying a woman who despises her In-laws, and treats them with levity and disdain, yet claims to love her husband genuinely.
A once happy family could be in total disarray immediately some women get into that family.
Personally, I think if u love your husband, such love should be extended to every member of his nuclear and extended family members and same goes to the Man. I believe that genuine LOVE is infectious and contagious. I have seen a lot happening In today's marriages that I'm already scared of getting married. People can pretend throughout the dating and courting period, but immediately after the wedding, the beast and monster in them begin to Manifest. It's scary.

Almost all married woman are guilty of this. But the men almost do not have any issue with Loving their wive's families.
It even gets to the ugly point that, the wife makes a decree that no menmber of the man's family must ever visit them to stay for more than a day or two.

Absolutely 👍🏻 yes.
Especially when his family are ogbanje

Or maybe the onus is on the family to welcome her seeing as she’s a stranger in a strange place? Isn’t it the responsibility of landowners to be friendly, accommodating, hospitable and kind to strangers who come into their territory. Stupid brainless people

Go and tell your mother she’s incapable of logical thinking.

VULCAN:
This is yet another clear reminder that very few woman are capable of logical thought.

A man emanates from his family.

Whatever he is before marriage, part of it emanates from the family where he came from.

The woman saw him relating with his family and such started decades before she came on the scene.

So a woman claiming she loves a man while hating his family is delusional.

When you try to reverse this- you obviously see how stupid that turns out to be.

A wife is a stranger that a man brings into a family. She may have a completely different orientation from that of the family. Whether for good or for bad is secondary.

The woman is just knowing the man and cannot claim she knew him longer than his parents or siblings.

So the onus is more on her to connect with the family she is marrying into just like it is the responsibility of the man to connect with his in-laws as he has come as a stranger.

So therefore your question doesn't make much sense as my love for my brother may not extend to his wife if as a stranger she refuses to integrate into her new extended family

baby124:

When you asked your wife to marry you, did you pour all this out? Please do before proposing to any woman. When you want to marry, you say marry me! Not marry my family members. She’s there for you otherwise she would not be affiliated with your family.

Stranger indeed. Why not ask your mother and sister to give birth to your kids, cook and nurture your family to old age. If they try it, even you go japa as the kids will not be normal and the drama go make life tire you. Keep yarning and believing dust there.

But you forget his mom is a stranger to his family as well seeing as she wasn’t born from the same belly as his dad.

Oh wait! His grandma is a stranger too. Hmm . I wonder who makes up this proverbial family the wives are marrying into then since all the women are strangers

First of all Nigerian families need to drop high expectations and double standards they have when it comes to women.

The women expect it because they know the society they live in and some of them have even possibly contributed to those practices in their own families. Everyone just needs a brain reset simple

Acidosis:
The major problem is the fact that many women go into marriages expecting a wicked mother in law. So, way before the marriage even happens, many already built a defence system and resistance against a family or mother-in-law they don't know. Thus, preventing any form of positive energy or love to thrive.

Question is, if you think that your own family is lovely, why do you expect mine to be wicked? For many of you, only your mother is the best thing after sliced bread. Every other woman out there is a potential evil mother-in-law.

It is a societal menace we all need to kick against, first by preventing our daughters from seeing those useless Indian and Nigerian movies that paint mother-in-laws as wicked witches.

MisterBanny:


Thanks for your insults

Ma binu but journalists talk from both sides of their mouths.