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Tallesty1:
Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

tolugar:
What business is that.

Maybe some people here or close can patronize you and help grow your business.

TB. Your honesty and good heart is the only currency that will make you progress. Pls bank on that. Well said dear, very well said.


Also if you happen to get nwa Boi never let him pass through what you witnessed

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
.
First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

Laird:
I am Igbo but a lot of Igbo small and medium scale business would be swept by modernisation if they refuse to embrace modern business practices and technology .

You agree to serve someone for years with no legal agreement and no legal contract and no lawyer involved.

Karleb:
You were dumb. Imagine if you had been stealing from him for 7 years, by now you wouldn't feel his betrayal.

Karleb:
Whats funny there.

The guy was practically managing the business.

That was how one guy said he increased his boss' business by 20 million or so, and the guy gave him what could not stock up a shop.

If he had stolen an accumulated sum of 5 or 7m over the years, the boss would still regard him as a good servant.

Miracle4325:
My guy was settled with 500k last year after 7yrs

Sctests:
You advise is evil. Stealing from him would make him poorer. You don't know the 'Chi' of the boss and how it works. You may import goods with all that money and then they are all seized. And you back to ground zero.

You may stock your shop, all of a sudden, a fire starts in the market and every kobo is lost.
There is a spiritual dimension in Igbo apprenticeship system. It is as deep as marrying a woman.

Oju4190:
or u come die

Karleb:
Chi ko, key ni.

The master stole from him, he should have stolen from the master too

Tallesty1:
Eight out of ten people who passed through this system have sufficient reason to hate women. I was telling someone the same thing just a couple of days ago. My senior bro went through the system, had a single boss when they started and everything was smooth. The man was full of praises, then boom! he decided to get involved with that which vexes all men.

Madam came and messed everything up. He told my brother in clear terms that he would go home with nothing, and there was no reason for that. No quarrels, no fights, no nothing. Just out of the abundance of her wickedness.

When they eventually settled with him, I, who was in secondary school at that time, had more savings than what he got. He swore that none of his siblings would go through that again.

My friend from Anambra has a similar story. He was four years into the agreement when his boss married. She made life hellish for him. It was the boss's mother who visited him briefly and then went home and told Anambra's mom to go and take her child before she kills him.

Chino, my man, was going through the same experience, but when it got to a level he couldn't take, he beat the woman, and that was it for him. The madam received a beating, but she was happy that her husband didn't settle Chino.

There is one I know in our line; he is about 15. He told me that his boss's wife only gives him fish heads, chicken legs and heads when they cook. I told his boss, and he told him to ensure he eats to his fill before going home after work.

Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

psalmsjob:
You just hit the nail on the head...all the igbo men I know are like that one even accept payment for goods in his shop to his wife account number only

chachanga:
They'll soon come for you even though there appears to be a correlation in your story with domestic abuse rates of madams against house helps figures attributed to women of South Eastern origin.

Seeing how advanced societies here get practical, vocal, intentional and tenacious with visibly tackling systemic racism, sexism and other forms of discrimination, one often feels ashamed at how Nigerian groups would rather get defensive and lash out stupidly rather than addressing manifestations of abberant social behaviors in their midst.

Draggun:
Bro,I was once in your shoes but I couldn't stay. Just like you, I finished secondary school in 2016 and went to serve an uncle in Lagos. It took me 2 weeks to know that I was living in hell because I was going through a lot. I washed, cleaned, cooked and did virtually everything. I had no money, like nothing.

I would use my lunch money to buy airtime to call my people home. I got tired of everything and decided to leave. Omo that was how I left Lagos and went back to my father's house. Did different menial jobs to survive, even worked at a factory. Omo story plenty but thank God for growth. God will help you and get you back on your feet.

Sirmwill:
How will you be on the same spot for 7 years?

emonis88:
😁😁😁😁 U think he was in same place for 7 years?, that is his advantage n he should see how to use it to his advantage. What he knows now in d business, money can't buy.

Akalia:
Igbo men are not weak especially in the context of marriage. We tend to cherish our family and it begins with our wives. A typical Igbo man sees his wife as a trophy and does whatever is within the ambit of his ability to keep that trophy glittering. Of all the tribes in Nigeria, Igbo men by far know how to treat a woman especially when a woman is deserving of the care.

Karleb:
Whats funny there.

The guy was practically managing the business.

That was how one guy said he increased his boss' business by 20 million or so, and the guy gave him what could not stock up a shop.

If he had stolen an accumulated sum of 5 or 7m over the years, the boss would still regard him as a good servant.

chiagozien:
To be a man is not a day job.


Op experience is what matters most here, utilize it.
Not everybody that start the race ends well, just do your part well.
Even in school not everyone graduates

And also pray things to go well for your boss,If your boss business don't grow,you don't expect him to now carry all that Left and give you.
Yes I know some are wicked, but mostly are because the funds are not enough.

I have one I dey house for two years now,he served his boss well,I dey the same line with his boss,the boss has issues in business that he left the market because everything vanished.
I have to take the boy in because he's doing well as a servant, he started his own business with Oso ahia and little goods we(other ogas in the line) used to support him.
Plus the credits he enjoys.

Today he's doing better and about to move out from my place.



Most of the things you complain up there is what you will still pass through Even if you are with your parents.

As for women and their wahala,no comment.



You have told us the wrongs they did to you but you didn't tell us the ones you did

Some servants are bad too, Imagine my neighbor's boy that's not up four months have already stealing.
Four hundred thousand found in his bag of clothes.



I am not surprised,I even saw one up there telling the OP he should have been stealing from his Boss, imagine if you carry that type to help him.



Just pray to survive in all you do

mariahAngel:
How are things going with you now?

Olasty:
Yinmu
Dey there dey deceive yourself

Sctests:
You are a killer of destiny. Your type are the ones who go to people's shop to deceive their apprentices and lead them astray. I am sure you will even tell the apprentices to give you the money to keep for them. Evil.

The devil who seeks to kill, destroy and plunder.

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.

https://www.nairaland.com/3208530/advice-young-apprentice-a.k.a-boi

First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
.
First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

weblord1900:
So 7+years ago I made this post seeking advice on a journey I was to embark on.
.
First of all pardon my English,
I'm here again to share my experience over the years of my apprenticeship and also the process. I know it's not all part of this country practice this system. It's more prevellent in the east.
For me there has been up and down and mostly down. This is something you can never understand until you personally experience it.. It will reshape your entire life especially your mind whether you like it or not.

I left my village by June to meet my Oga in the city. I spent 6months as testing. Like the first 6months were not counted as part of the agreement. I was even lucky because some spend 1year as testing. So I started in 2017 after agreement. This type of agreement just involve your oga coming to meet your parents with few eyewitnesses.. No lawyer or paper to sign. Just verbal agreement ,No fixed price .. They'll only discuss on how long you will work for him or her( the oga or madam).

When I started my Oga is still single so I was doing most of the works in the house including cooking .. We were living very happy .. I was eating very well .if you look at me then the evidence is there 😀 Sometimes my oga will come back with full fried chicken oh oh.. Only me and him .. Things where just smooth ..
Fast forward to 2019 my oga decided to my settle down.. I think I use like 4years senior my oga wife. At the first few months his wife was very angelic,calm and gentle. She serve us tea every morning..
Omo how she take change I don't know 🙆🏾‍♂️ I no offend anybody .. I'm very calm in nature .. My oga follow change too. Nobody day send me again ..

During 2020 covid 19 my eyes saw my ears .. I know things was hard then but mine was hard pro max. From 2018 I started suffering from chronic tonsillitis. I was taking drugs up and down including self medication .. I started noticing change from the way I speak because I don't know if it's the drug or the sickness that's affecting me .. I had no one to tell. By 2021 I gathered courage and told my oga 😪.. He carry me go meet aboki people make he carry scissors chop the two damaged tonsils in my throat .. Them just day price am 3k 5k I day one side day shed tears 😭 . I called someone and told him about everything. He told my oga to take me to a good hospital. The story long sha but at the end I went under tonsillectomy surgery .. I'm now fine

By 2023 which is supposed to be my last year my oga carry another problem come.. The way he was treating me caused problems between some of his brother and sister including some of his friends because they don't like the way he was treating me. They were all encouraging and giving me advice to persevere because I'm almost through its just a temptation.
I was settled this February with wetin my mouth not fit talk after serving for 7year chai😭 🤦. You can't even rent a shop with here with the amount I received. I haven't talked about buying the goods in this period every price has sky rocketed. I thank my family and friends it's all good.

Life is a journey ..I still have more opportunities ahead of me. I have seen more than 20 other people that have come to serve but didn't finish. Most of them doesn't last for 2years but I persist because I'm determined for success. With this energy nothing can stop me.

Let me tell you some key points in this system.
1. They don't tell you how much you'll receive at the end. Just be ready to take what you see.
2. It will greatly affect your mental health positively or negatively depending on how you are being treated.
3. There will be alot of temptations and peer pressure if you're not careful you'll be dismissed.
4. If at the end your oga decides not to settle you ,that's all for you. He cannot be procecuted by any law since there is no signed agreement.
5. You'll be blamed for some wrong things you didn't do.
6. There are some common thing you won't be allowed to do.. Like voting during election or going to the football field to play with your friends. You can only be at home or shop.
7. For example if you agreed to work for 5years you might see yourself still working for him after 7years with no settlement. I have seen lot of them.

I'm going to be 28 next month. I have seen and experience more, this is all I can say for now. I can't say i am at loss or profit here because I cherish the experience I gained over the year although I didn't get the finance which made to start the journey at the beginning. If I had money I would have just learn the business for less than a year and start my own but such is life. Some of my classmates are doing well while others never see food chop. Some of the females are married with 2 to 3 children. Mine isn't the worst tho. This life no balance.
I just hope this government make things easy for everybody. E come reach my turn to hustle everywhere come red 🔴😂 ..

I thank Se.un for Nairaland o.. Na here I day come read everything including the cruise, bash and banter. SE.UN abeg check if my story na front page material 😁

Tallesty1:
Eight out of ten people who passed through this system have sufficient reason to hate women. I was telling someone the same thing just a couple of days ago. My senior bro went through the system, had a single boss when they started and everything was smooth. The man was full of praises, then boom! he decided to get involved with that which vexes all men.

Madam came and messed everything up. He told my brother in clear terms that he would go home with nothing, and there was no reason for that. No quarrels, no fights, no nothing. Just out of the abundance of her wickedness.

When they eventually settled with him, I, who was in secondary school at that time, had more savings than what he got. He swore that none of his siblings would go through that again.

My friend from Anambra has a similar story. He was four years into the agreement when his boss married. She made life hellish for him. It was the boss's mother who visited him briefly and then went home and told Anambra's mom to go and take her child before she kills him.

Chino, my man, was going through the same experience, but when it got to a level he couldn't take, he beat the woman, and that was it for him. The madam received a beating, but she was happy that her husband didn't settle Chino.

There is one I know in our line; he is about 15. He told me that his boss's wife only gives him fish heads, chicken legs and heads when they cook. I told his boss, and he told him to ensure he eats to his fill before going home after work.

Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

Tallesty1:
Eight out of ten people who passed through this system have sufficient reason to hate women. I was telling someone the same thing just a couple of days ago. My senior bro went through the system, had a single boss when they started and everything was smooth. The man was full of praises, then boom! he decided to get involved with that which vexes all men.

Madam came and messed everything up. He told my brother in clear terms that he would go home with nothing, and there was no reason for that. No quarrels, no fights, no nothing. Just out of the abundance of her wickedness.

When they eventually settled with him, I, who was in secondary school at that time, had more savings than what he got. He swore that none of his siblings would go through that again.

My friend from Anambra has a similar story. He was four years into the agreement when his boss married. She made life hellish for him. It was the boss's mother who visited him briefly and then went home and told Anambra's mom to go and take her child before she kills him.

Chino, my man, was going through the same experience, but when it got to a level he couldn't take, he beat the woman, and that was it for him. The madam received a beating, but she was happy that her husband didn't settle Chino.

There is one I know in our line; he is about 15. He told me that his boss's wife only gives him fish heads, chicken legs and heads when they cook. I told his boss, and he told him to ensure he eats to his fill before going home after work.

Igbo men, many of them are very weak. Their women control them.

NoToPile:
Too much stories of woe trailing this apprentice system nowadays.

For a system that made many men, this is not good.

If not because no money to start business generally the best these days would have been to pay to learn the business from the oga for 6months - 1 year and then start your own.

The economy sef is also not smiling on these ogas but on the flip side agreement is agreement, your word should be your bond.

Akalia:
Igbo men are not weak especially in the context of marriage. We tend to cherish our family and it begins with our wives. A typical Igbo man sees his wife as a trophy and does whatever is within the ambit of his ability to keep that trophy glittering. Of all the tribes in Nigeria, Igbo men by far know how to treat a woman especially when a woman is deserving of the care.