₦airaland Forum

reiddecuti:
As bad as what I have to say is, men are the cause of any mess they witness in their marriage. Men are created to lead while Women are created to follow. When as a man you can't lead your wife, she despises you for that and will punish you for that error by finding a path for herself.



When a man is weak never to lead, his life becomes messy, and that's the consequences of not taking actions to call her out and discipline her.

i disagree. This your mentality is the reason why Nigeria remain a 3rd world nation, underdeveloped and poor. There are lots of developed nations that women lead and they're doing pretty fine. Even your so called leaders run to those nation to acquire education for themselves and kids, healthcare, vacation, bought properties et al.

Men has been leading Nigerians for donkey years, what has been the outcome?

EreluRoz:
There's this very nice married senior colleague of mine who is having a very messy marital life, my other colleague hinted me about it and I actually got close to him and eventually gets him to pour out his heart to me.

According to him, he got married at early 40s to his very young wife as at then who was 19years. Infact he said his mother-in-law never approved of their marriage but his wife insisted and with the support of the father-in-law they got married. However after their first child, he enrolled the wife in a university to further her studies as she married him as a secondary school dropout. That was the beginning of his chaos, that was the beginning of seefinish according to him, that was the beginning of nightmares in his home.

It started by getting reports from people who knows him(he's rich and popular in his home town) about his wife's wayward lifestyle with lecturers and administrative staff, so many nasty reports and how she throws herself at some of these people which many people never believed she was married. Eventually she graduated and came back home, he never confronted her because he really loved her, so he let everything slide. She got pregnant for their second child and when she was due for delivery she had an accident that almost claimed her life, fortunately she was saved and her baby survived as well but unfortunately she won't be able to have more children. She started complaining about everything and how this man has reduced her beauty and even reporting him to his friend about everything happening in their home. The friend always advise him to send her away but he couldn't do it for the sake of his children.

So she advanced by telling this man that they should no longer welcome visitors in their home, family members are not welcomed as well and if you want to see him, he will give you a location to meet him but definitely not his house. This man became a shadow of himself that he refused family interference as well.

He told me she dresses provocatively and goes out and comes back at will. Then he decided to hack her WhatsApp and what he saw was a mess that he couldn't ever imagine in his life. This woman sends her nude and indulge in sex videos with different kind of men, some are way younger than her and all other sorts of dirty activities.

Having discovered all these things about his wife, he still has not summoned the courage to chase her out, she even goes to her room and lock herself to do nude videos to send to different men but he's still saying whenever he wants to chase her away he thinks about his kids and won't be able to do so.

The recent one she's doing is planning to relocate abroad to meet one of her lovers and she's already processing visa and even threatening the man that soon she'll leave him to go enjoy her life. As it stands now, they are just living together and don't talk to each other or even cook for him. She threatened the man that she'll kill him if he dares stand against her plans and he has gone to the police station to make report concerning this.

He asked me what I think he should do and I told him it's quite a pathetic story that will need the advise of an experienced person, I actually played smart on him because I was told he doesn't take advise and that he has been advised severally to end the marriage with her but he always have no courage doing that. This man has developed blood pressure due to all he's facing from his wife.

What grip could this woman be having on him?

What is the best way out for him and if the wife's relocation eventually fails, should this man continue to live with this woman?

He obviously need help but unfortunately he has chased his family away and stopped friends from getting close, how would you help this kind of man who unfortunately found himself in this deep mess?

This is a fake story from the senior lamba catalyst on Nairaland.

Believe it, you will believe anything, so says James Hadley Chase.

Lovey dovey
He still dey ask what to do abi...?
He don marry national budget na
Everybody just dey cut their share chop
His life is at risk and he is still asking what to do.....??
If he die
His ghost go do the needful
Chai this guy don suffer
Nothing again pass suffering.

But which kind useless love be this
This guy needs help oooooooooo
One Man going, going, going

odoemenacelevian:
He should pursue out of his home..
Even the bible said you should divorce a woman that has extramarital affair..
Kick her out of your life

i hope the same Bible also said the same thing for men that has extramarital affair too?

He's a Mumu. Pls tell him for me.

EreluRoz:
There's this very nice married senior colleague of mine who is having a very messy marital life, my other colleague hinted me about it and I actually got close to him and eventually gets him to pour out his heart to me.

According to him, he got married at early 40s to his very young wife as at then who was 19years. Infact he said his mother-in-law never approved of their marriage but his wife insisted and with the support of the father-in-law they got married. However after their first child, he enrolled the wife in a university to further her studies as she married him as a secondary school dropout. That was the beginning of his chaos, that was the beginning of seefinish according to him, that was the beginning of nightmares in his home.

It started by getting reports from people who knows him(he's rich and popular in his home town) about his wife's wayward lifestyle with lecturers and administrative staff, so many nasty reports and how she throws herself at some of these people which many people never believed she was married. Eventually she graduated and came back home, he never confronted her because he really loved her, so he let everything slide. She got pregnant for their second child and when she was due for delivery she had an accident that almost claimed her life, fortunately she was saved and her baby survived as well but unfortunately she won't be able to have more children. She started complaining about everything and how this man has reduced her beauty and even reporting him to his friend about everything happening in their home. The friend always advise him to send her away but he couldn't do it for the sake of his children.

So she advanced by telling this man that they should no longer welcome visitors in their home, family members are not welcomed as well and if you want to see him, he will give you a location to meet him but definitely not his house. This man became a shadow of himself that he refused family interference as well.

He told me she dresses provocatively and goes out and comes back at will. Then he decided to hack her WhatsApp and what he saw was a mess that he couldn't ever imagine in his life. This woman sends her nude and indulge in sex videos with different kind of men, some are way younger than her and all other sorts of dirty activities.

Having discovered all these things about his wife, he still has not summoned the courage to chase her out, she even goes to her room and lock herself to do nude videos to send to different men but he's still saying whenever he wants to chase her away he thinks about his kids and won't be able to do so.

The recent one she's doing is planning to relocate abroad to meet one of her lovers and she's already processing visa and even threatening the man that soon she'll leave him to go enjoy her life. As it stands now, they are just living together and don't talk to each other or even cook for him. She threatened the man that she'll kill him if he dares stand against her plans and he has gone to the police station to make report concerning this.

He asked me what I think he should do and I told him it's quite a pathetic story that will need the advise of an experienced person, I actually played smart on him because I was told he doesn't take advise and that he has been advised severally to end the marriage with her but he always have no courage doing that. This man has developed blood pressure due to all he's facing from his wife.

What grip could this woman be having on him?

What is the best way out for him and if the wife's relocation eventually fails, should this man continue to live with this woman?

He obviously need help but unfortunately he has chased his family away and stopped friends from getting close, how would you help this kind of man who unfortunately found himself in this deep mess?

Simp Man

OP are you male or female?

You sound like you may be a female who may be ready to become the new wifey

EreluRoz:
If you see this man outside you won't ever believe he's facing hell at home. I felt so much pity for him.

U and I know what's on ur mind....

.I know u like older men that will be responsible for 100%,

.. ........u better swoop in before another woman chance you...

Scholace:
i hope the same Bible also said the same thing for men that has extramarital affair too?

Well too bad...women don't like paying for rent...how u will chase the man out of his home in Nigeria..

Zooposki:
A 20year old girl marrying a 40year old agbaya and you expect her to love you. For what na? They have nothing in common. Limit age gap to maximum 5years. If desperate and an agbaya and a paedophile, limit to max 10years.

omotola jolade ekehinde was 18 and a virgin when she got married to her husband, a successful pilot. Their marriage is blessed with four kids and they still live happily. My cousin sis was 21 while her husband is 46. Their marriage is blessed with 3 kids and they still live happily. My cousin sis husband is not even rich. There are lots of marriage with same age bracket group having issues. It's all depends on individual persons. There's no formula or guarantee that if you're old as a man and you marry a small girl the marriage will scatter or there will be problem in the marriage.

advanceDNA:
Well too bad...women don't like paying for rent...how u will chase the man out of his home in Nigeria..

women has been divorcing their husband in Nigeria for one reason or the other. They packed out of the house.

ednut1:
A man in his 40s marrying a 19 years old woman is a big fool sha

omotola jolade ekehinde was 18 and also a virgin when she got married to a successful pilot. Their marriage still blossom till date.

I met an engineer in his 50s sometime ago in Abuja who bared what he was going through with his wife,she woke him up one night with a knife in hand she would kill him if he doesn't give her a divorce because she just realized she's been suffering for 12years in her marriage, after listening to him I just told him if he doesn't want to die young ,he she should quickly grant her wish . Some people want to salvage their relationship by all means, unfortunately once it's broken , don't mend it. That's my approach to relationship matters, life sweet abeg.

EreluRoz:
He keeps saying it's because of his kids he still have her in his house, the annoying thing is this man is financially responsible for her 100% , takes care of her siblings too. Na him be their big in-law for her family. If you see this man outside you won't ever believe he's facing hell at home. I felt so much pity for him. If he were to be my uncle or related, that woman will be herself pack her things and never return. Sometimes I dislike this idea of minding one's business as that's what exactly his family is doing knowing fully well this woman is killing him gradually. Not me sha, I'll sooooo interfere and unremorsefully scatter that hell he calls marriage. Very sad situation

Well, if you know what most happily married men are facing in their house. Most face less than this. This is extreme. But they keep mute. Because they are not cheaters and won't cheat, the women take them for granted.

Scholace:
women has been divorcing their husband in Nigeria for one reason or the other. They packed out of the house.

I thought we are talking about sending out the cheater....but anyways ....let's have it ur way...

She cheated: she packed out ...and start paying bills alone

The man cheated: ..she packed out and still have to pay all her bills alone

Disadvantage of early marriage, especially the girl

EreluRoz:
Ogiame he needs help but helpless in getting the needed help. Unfortunately nobody is ready to break barriers and save him as he has practically asked his siblings and other family members not to interfere in his marriage. All these are manipulation from his wife , it's sad his family fell for it

I believe no one should tell a man to quit a relationship. He should do that on his own or face the consequences. When a man quit a relationship, especially one with kids involved, their are sad consequences. He alone should make his decision and no one else.

Scholace:
omotola jolade ekehinde was 18 and a virgin when she got married to her husband, a successful pilot. Their marriage is blessed with four kids and they still live happily. My cousin sis was 21 while her husband is 46. Their marriage is blessed with 3 kids and they still live happily. My cousin sis husband is not even rich. There are lots of marriage with same age bracket group having issues. It's all depends on individual persons. There's no formula or guarantee that if you're old as a man and you marry a small girl the marriage will scatter or there will be problem in the marriage.

Live happily? lol.

Either d story is fake or u added ur own Maggie n curry in d story. But if true, he doesn't need advice.

Lemme see this fat and ugly man

Zooposki:
Live happily? lol.

do you expect otherwise?

I'd rather wait to hear from the said woman than draw conclusions unless of course we are the said devil.
Who has ever seen a wayward woman outside our fictious stories?? Pay her more for upkeeps that could be reason for her behavior.

smasher1:
Well, if you know what most happily married men are facing in their house. Most face less than this. This is extreme. But they keep mute. Because they are not cheaters and won't cheat, the women take them for granted.

Any happy home u see in this 21st century
..one person has been playing mumu...

Panda7:
Who has ever seen a wayward woman outside our fictious stories?? Pay her more for upkeeps that could be reason for her behavior.

I've seen captain, major, general....all this while, I've not seen any rank higher...



I've finally found the field Marshall of Simping..

AllahOfBlood:


I'm suspecting jazz

Jazz is at work here

How could a grown man of over 40years allowed a small girl to control him, or is the pussy?
Is pussy that powerful to control a matured and intellectual man?

Not necessarily so. Any such things expire after a few years. Everyone knows what they are protecting or afraid of starting all over again. And any responsible man would always want his kids with him even if the mother may not be nice.

EreluRoz:
There's this very nice married senior colleague of mine who is having a very messy marital life, my other colleague hinted me about it and I actually got close to him and eventually gets him to pour out his heart to me.

According to him, he got married at early 40s to his very young wife as at then who was 19years. Infact he said his mother-in-law never approved of their marriage but his wife insisted and with the support of the father-in-law they got married. However after their first child, he enrolled the wife in a university to further her studies as she married him as a secondary school dropout. That was the beginning of his chaos, that was the beginning of seefinish according to him, that was the beginning of nightmares in his home.

It started by getting reports from people who knows him(he's rich and popular in his home town) about his wife's wayward lifestyle with lecturers and administrative staff, so many nasty reports and how she throws herself at some of these people which many people never believed she was married. Eventually she graduated and came back home, he never confronted her because he really loved her, so he let everything slide. She got pregnant for their second child and when she was due for delivery she had an accident that almost claimed her life, fortunately she was saved and her baby survived as well but unfortunately she won't be able to have more children. She started complaining about everything and how this man has reduced her beauty and even reporting him to his friend about everything happening in their home. The friend always advise him to send her away but he couldn't do it for the sake of his children.

So she advanced by telling this man that they should no longer welcome visitors in their home, family members are not welcomed as well and if you want to see him, he will give you a location to meet him but definitely not his house. This man became a shadow of himself that he refused family interference as well.

He told me she dresses provocatively and goes out and comes back at will. Then he decided to hack her WhatsApp and what he saw was a mess that he couldn't ever imagine in his life. This woman sends her nude and indulge in sex videos with different kind of men, some are way younger than her and all other sorts of dirty activities.

Having discovered all these things about his wife, he still has not summoned the courage to chase her out, she even goes to her room and lock herself to do nude videos to send to different men but he's still saying whenever he wants to chase her away he thinks about his kids and won't be able to do so.

The recent one she's doing is planning to relocate abroad to meet one of her lovers and she's already processing visa and even threatening the man that soon she'll leave him to go enjoy her life. As it stands now, they are just living together and don't talk to each other or even cook for him. She threatened the man that she'll kill him if he dares stand against her plans and he has gone to the police station to make report concerning this.

He asked me what I think he should do and I told him it's quite a pathetic story that will need the advise of an experienced person, I actually played smart on him because I was told he doesn't take advise and that he has been advised severally to end the marriage with her but he always have no courage doing that. This man has developed blood pressure due to all he's facing from his wife.

What grip could this woman be having on him?

What is the best way out for him and if the wife's relocation eventually fails, should this man continue to live with this woman?

He obviously need help but unfortunately he has chased his family away and stopped friends from getting close, how would you help this kind of man who unfortunately found himself in this deep mess?

Title of the movie please?
Guess the man will be close to 50 now and still don't know what to do to a woman who wants him dead. The children he is clamoring for will eventually be another man's children if you die. Alaaye, ja ra e and do the needful to a promiscuous woman jare

advanceDNA:
I've seen captain, major, general....all this while, I've not seen any rank higher...



I've finally found the field Marshall of Simping..

Nyashing and encouraging every olosho on the streets and social media isn't the ultimate solution to your problem, it simply shows how wayward you are yourself, and even from your misconception, it doesn't guarantee you are wise yourself, it simply means your own woman could be laid at the slightest opportunity since you already have the olosho spirit in you.

That woman is not mature enough to handle marriage, you cannot force love maybe she see him as an old man sef, girls I think that are mature enough to me for marriage at least 27 years upward, he married her at 19, he suppose to be superior in the marriage instead of being soft, at least let her see you get angry confront her or discipline her control her.
What I advise is that if he can take care of the children just let her go jumping up and down instead of caring for her family, trust me she may regret it, those children will only know their dad and will take care of him later and give him a happy life one day.

Panda7:
Nyashing and encouraging every olosho on the streets and social media isn't the ultimate solution to your problem, it simply shows how wayward you are yourself, and even from your misconception, it doesn't guarantee you are wise yourself, it simply means your own woman could be laid at the slightest opportunity since you already have the olosho spirit in you.

Yawn!!!!
Out of context...
Infact no context....
Conclusion: no point.

..I no say e pain u.......nor vex

There's no misconception here.....u comment shows how bad ur simping level is.......
See..ehn...I am not totally against Simping ..but at least ...simp for a good woman....

EreluRoz:
I don't take such thing seriously. I actually find it funny when people get angry over being gossiped about, it's nothing serious.

Oh really

EreluRoz:
Then you don't know me, I hardly get angry over anything, infact the highest form of anger I have is silence. It'll take you hell to get me to react angrily over anything. I will just 😁 and let them have their fun. I have heard worst things being spread about me but the Koko be say are they true? So gossip and gist are all fun to me

Wao! I like your kind.
Can we be friends already?