My wife left home in the evening around 6pm with my baby girl on 6th January, 2024 though I was on bed sleeping. Around 7pm, I called her to know her whereabout but didn't answer my call. So worried, around 10pm I called her uncle but didn't answer my call either.

I went straight to my landlord to discuss this issue perhaps he might advise me on what to do. He told me to stay calm until morning.

On 7th January 2024 Monday morning I called her phone, rang still didn't answer the call. I called her uncle again, this time he answered my call. He told me he would call her. Some hours later, he called me and said she was staying with a friend around.

A day before she left home we only had slight quarrel and it all dwell on issue relating to a story of her friends husband who was kidnapped but later freed with a ramson of 200k. I only advise her to avoid keeping late night company especially in the area we live and she took quarrel from that I also came home late at times from work. Since the quarrel, i never had any conversation with her, I was afraid she might start verbal abuse. I kept low key all through the day until night she left with the baby. Unfortunately, she didn't pick any of her luggages. She ran away

Prior to the day she left, I gave her 35k for baby school fee to send to the school account and forward the receipt to me. She never did. The school would resume a day she left. Have already washed the baby, iron and hung the baby clothes the day.

Two days after I called her dad, he told me he would call her.

Long story short her dad told me to organize meeting between my family and her family to settle matter.

To be sincere I'm not interested in the meeting for any settlement but only my baby girl she ran away with.

Over the years I have faced her verbal abuse, provocation, lies, chronic insult, treat that she would Japa with my baby without looking back.

Sometimes I would be at work, she would lie to me she was pregnant she had done test here and there. I would be happy after a while nothing will be in stomach. She had said this at least six times especially when I would be at work cos I travel every week and come back weekend. At a point I never believed her. But closely I felt she aborted the baby.

At a point in time, I reported her to her family. Why I knew was lying, whenever we had quarrel she would say even if she has pregnant for me again she would rather abort it than remain in her womb.

The marriage was just 5years with a baby. Two weeks before she left we went to lab for pregnancy test on her request. She was positive. We were asked to come back for scan in January to know numbers of weeks of pregnancy.

Now she ran with my baby. I don't know if she is still pregnant or has aborted it.


I tried my best to remain in the marriage especially for the little baby. I don't want a situation where my baby will be trained by a single mother. I know what this our society has become of children raised by single mother or children with broken homes. I don't want that for myself. I don't want in future where my child will point at me and say why did you give me life when you couldn't care for me and see what I have become out of broken homes.

This has just happened to me. I don't know if marriage really worth it or deserves seeking for when eventually it ended in divorce or separation.

I witnessed my parent raised their children up each one struggling to make a living for a better and responsible children. Though they had fight every minute but no matter the weight of their fight, my mom would stay back not for anything but for her children. Now my dad died, with all the wives he had, my mum was the only one who stayed and took care of my dad on his sick bed

She now became landlady after the demise of my dad.

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If I was the one, I will relax and be calm. As long as it has been verified that she was not kidnapped and nothing happened to her. And her family is aware. Since she didn't carry her luggage and left with only 35k in this economy, she'll definitely come back.
I will refuse to organise any family meetings. I will change the locks in the house so she won't have any choice than to call me in case she sneaks back when I've gone to work to pack her clothes.
Because I know that this is a test run in the challenge for who is more masculine in the house.
Because I also know that after this, there'll be more to come. So the stand now will set the tone for future references.
But then again I'm just talking about myself.

Na wa oo

If the woman is tired of the marriage, mk she talk.
Mk she come give you ur baby joorr!! . Waka still dey her leg. Las Las she go tire, na there way.

Bro don't panic... Give her just one month and she will be back begging... You need to man up too, you made her see how vulnerable you were in that relationship reason why she's threatening you here and there. Start behaving like you don't care about her and see how she comes back to her senses

learn to co-parent the child and be done with the emotional misery

MrBrownJay1:
learn to co-parent the child and be done with the emotional misery

How is this possible when I can't find her.? I sent her WhatsApp messages, she not reply. I called her, she didn't pick call.


I was deranged for a week when she left cos I wasn't prepared for this. At a point, I thought she was kidnapped not until her uncle told me she was around with a friend. A week after she left, her dad told me she is now with him.

What can I make of this?

maxkenny:
How is this possible when I can't find her. I sent her WhatsApp messages, she not reply. I called her, she didn't pick call.
I was deranged for a week when she left cos I wasn't prepared for at a point I thought she was kidnapped not until her uncle me she was around with a friend. A week after her dad told me she is now with him.
What can I make of this?

your only solution is to organize meeting between yoru family and her family to settle matter (or at least know what this woman want and/or why she left). you dont want her but you will have to try to be civil with her. she left, so let her come and explain herself, and divorce her once and for all.

MrBrownJay1:


your only solution is to organize meeting between you family and her family to settle matter (or at least know what this woman want and/or why she left). you dont want her but you will have to try to be civil with her. she left, so let her come and explain herself, and divorce her once and for all.

My family won't join me in a meeting for a divorce. They won't, they prefer we settle. We spent so much money for the marriage. So they won't join me. I knew within myself the marriage is over once she decided to leave on her own. Cos I don't know what she would bring back where she went to. I felt so bad about it especially my lil girl

maxkenny:
My family won't join me in a meeting for a divorce. They won't, they prefer we settle. I knew within myself the marriage is over once she decided to leave on her. I felt so bad about it especially my babe

reason with your family and explain to them that the marriage is over and done, but in order for you to have possible future contact with your daughter, they MUST come to help you settle this matter.

MrBrownJay1:


reason with your family and explain to them that the marriage is over and done, but in order for you to have possible future contact with your daughter, they MUST come to help you settle this matter.

I think I will opt for this though her family lives in another state...

Let's hear her own side of the story first.

since she lies about pregnancy all the time, how are u sure u are the biological father of the girl.

There’s more to this story.

Tell her daddy you are no longer interested the marriage and the only reason you family will be meeting his is to come collect the bride price you paid, make sure she never set foot in your house again, collect your daughter from her if she no wan drop the girl, leave it with her until she’s of certain age like 10 or aboveC I know she will attempt to brain wash her tho

But never allow that woman into you life if you want to live long and in peace

The child she is carrying is not yours bro plus make sure you do DNA for the first girl cos I’m sure she ran to meet the real father of the kids and her family just knew about it.

The baby girl is also her daughter. Ya all can seperate and come to a settlement on how to co parent.

She probably have her own side of the story and she is tired of your shit as well.

sameoldguy:
The child she is carrying is not yours bro plus make sure you do DNA for the first girl cos I’m sure she ran to meet the real father of the kids and her family just knew about it.

How can you be so sure of this? Don't destroy someone's home with your daft predictions

Go to her father's house and carry your daughter go home

Simple !!!

thesicilian:
If I was the one

I understand that it may not be your fault because I've witnessed something like this 4 times in my life time.
One happened to my uncle, my mum's immediately younger brother. I dey hear live update as the matter dey go.

One happened to a guy(the married couple) opposite my room when i was living in a face me I slap apartment during my undergraduate years.

The other two should remain private

Lemme tell you the truth. The moment you call on your family to settle. You have already lost the battle. She left with your child on purpose because she knows how fathers are emotionally attached to their daughters.

If she doesn't contact you. Don't ever contact her first. Don't even talk about it. Just do your thing. Under no circumstances should you take her in again, even if she begs her life out. I tell you, I've seen these things in real life.

Give yourself 6 months to heal up so you dont act on emotions. Then find a strategy to retrieve your daughter. After then, find you another woman to birth your children

Most times women leaves her house to friends house to flex with other men
Ignore her, change ur house locks.
The tin wey sweet her outside thinking us gold
Will soon backfire then she will knw she had a gold in the house and went to chase carcass.

I wish I can advice you.

She left your home with your daughter,mark my words even if she comes back she will leave again.

Ignore her, she can have the baby, focus on building yourself and making yourself a better man.

You can have more babies as you wish or stay alone. But never call for settlement or for her to return.

thesicilian:
If I was the one, I will relax and be calm. As long as it has been verified that she was not kidnapped and nothing happened to her. And her family is aware. Since she didn't carry her luggage and left with only 35k in this economy, she'll definitely come back.
I will refuse to organise any family meetings. I will change the locks in the house so she won't have any choice than to call me in case she sneaks back when I've gone to work to pack her clothes.
Because I know that this is a test run in the challenge for who is more masculine in the house.
Because I also know that after this, there'll be more to come. So the stand now will set the tone for future references.
But then again I'm just talking about myself.

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💯

sameoldguy:
The child she is carrying is not yours bro plus make sure you do DNA for the first girl cos I’m sure she ran to meet the real father of the kids and her family just knew about it.

Look into this comment. It might open your eyes to some important lead.

maxkenny:

Long story short her dad told me to organize meeting between my family and her family to settle matter.

To be sincere I'm not interested in the meeting for any settlement but only my baby girl she ran away with.

This is the only part I want to advise you on.

Tell her dad to call your family himself.
They are the ones that want meeting, he should arrange it.

crackhaus:

This is the only part I want to advise you on.

Tell her dad to call your family himself.
They are the ones that want meeting, he should arrange it.

Fear God crackyjoe

maxkenny:
My wife left home in the evening around 6pm with my baby girl on 6th January, 2024 though I was on bed sleeping. Around 7pm, I called her to know her whereabout but didn't answer my call. So worried, around 10pm I called her uncle but didn't answer my call either.

I went straight to my landlord to discuss this issue perhaps he might advise me on what to do. He told me to stay calm until morning.

On 7th January 2024 Monday morning I called her phone, rang still didn't answer the call. I called her uncle again, this time he answered my call. He told me he would call her. Some hours later, he called me and said she was staying with a friend around.

A day before she left home we only had slight quarrel and it all dwell on issue relating to a story of her friends husband who was kidnapped but later freed with a ramson of 200k. I only advise her to avoid keeping late night company especially in the area we live and she took quarrel from that I also came home late at times from work. Since the quarrel, i never had any conversation with her, I was afraid she might start verbal abuse. I kept low key all through the day until night she left with the baby. Unfortunately, she didn't pick any of her luggages. She ran away

Prior to the day she left, I gave her 35k for baby school fee to send to the school account and forward the receipt to me. She never did. The school would resume a day she left. Have already washed the baby, iron and hung the baby clothes the day.

Two days after I called her dad, he told me he would call her.

Long story short her dad told me to organize meeting between my family and her family to settle matter.

To be sincere I'm not interested in the meeting for any settlement but only my baby girl she ran away with.

Over the years I have faced her verbal abuse, provocation, lies, chronic insult, treat that she would Japa with my baby without looking back.

Sometimes I would be at work, she would lie to me she was pregnant she had done test here and there. I would be happy after a while nothing will be in stomach. She had said this at least six times especially when I would be at work cos I travel every week and come back weekend. At a point I never believed her. But closely I felt she aborted the baby.

At a point in time, I reported her to her family. Why I knew was lying, whenever we had quarrel she would say even if she has pregnant for me again she would rather abort it than remain in her womb.

The marriage was just 5years with a baby. Two weeks before she left we went to lab for pregnancy test on her request. She was positive. We were asked to come back for scan in January to know numbers of weeks of pregnancy.

Now she ran with my baby. I don't know if she is still pregnant or has aborted it.


I tried my best to remain in the marriage especially for the little baby. I don't want a situation where my baby will be trained by a single mother. I know what this our society has become of children raised by single mother or children with broken homes. I don't want that for myself. I don't want in future where my child will point at me and say why did you give me life when you couldn't care for me and see what I have become out of broken homes.

This has just happened to me. I don't know if marriage really worth it or deserves seeking for when eventually it ended in divorce or separation.

I witnessed my parent raised their children up each one struggling to make a living for a better and responsible children. Though they had fight every minute but no matter the weight of their fight, my mom would stay back not for anything but for her children. Now my dad died, with all the wives he had, my mum was the only one who stayed and took care of my dad on his sick bed

She now became landlady after the demise of my dad.

You worry too much that's why she is playing lido game on you

You see that your wife ,just relax and plan on how to start a life without her

From whqt I read ,she is toxic and you are yet to notice that

Leave her alone she will come back and by the time comes back ,keep observing her

One day she will pack out and before she will come back ,you too will pack out and relocate to another place, just keep her belongings there and give the key to the landlord

How could she be traumatising you are yet she is not feeling the pains of what she is doing to you ,the next thing you will develop BP for nothing

As for your daughter ,leave her with her she will definitely survive and whatever you have send to her for your daughter and keep the receipt

Get a lawyer and involve the court.. Divorce her but you must have access to your kid .. which is if the girl has to spend two weeks with you in each month..

Failure to do that, she'll be sued ..

2. Make sure you both are responsible for the financial upbringing of the kid .. if na 50/50 una wan do am or 60/40, 70/30. Whatever you guys agree on ...


Na that time are eye go clear ..

You can have you list up some do's and don't she has to follow up .. failure to adhere to it she gets served ..

I'd implore you to take the route, you go get peace of mind and still spend quality time with your daughter .

This part got me laughing.

l witnessed my parent raised their children up each one struggling to make a living for a better and responsible children. Though they had fight every minute but no matter the weight of their fight, my mom would stay back not for anything but for her children. Now my dad died, with all the wives he had, my mum was the only one who stayed and took care of my dad on his sick bed
She now became landlady after the demise of my dad.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol, wish ur dad is alive and healthy, she did be the least one and never got the chance to be a landlady. He will still pick other women over her.

Your story, is one sided. Are you saying it was just a slight argument and you didn't lay hands on her or even started giving her silent treatment?

By the way, is she not working? Sometimes idleness can make a woman unnecessarily troublesome and irresponsible . Let her try and get something doing if you guys eventually come back together.

maxkenny:


At a point in time, I reported her to her family. Why I knew was lying, whenever we had quarrel she would say even if she has pregnant for me again she would rather abort it than remain in her womb.

You see that bolded? It came from her heart and she means it. That woman you call your wife resents you.

There's a very, VERY good chance that she's seeing another man right now, that's how women often misbehave when an outside man is turning their heads. That would also explain the bolded and she's probably with the man now (her family may even know this but they won't tell you so you won't ship her back to their house).

End that marriage. You don't want your child to be raised by a single mom but you wouldn't want that child to be raised in a toxic home either. If that woman comes back and continues to live with you, your life is at risk (that's not an exaggeration). Do DNA test on your daughter (forget sentimentality) and definitely on the next child if it's born.

If the test shows your daughter is yours then, by force or by law, take custody of your child lest her mother fills her head with lies and resentment towards you. Then your ex-wife should be free to find her Disney Prince.