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Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

they are not ur friends

Fact

I don't want to write an epistle, but you still have a lot to learn and a long way to go. Don't be discouraged, though

Just be u op
About airdrops, u can do ur own research online.
They're a lot of airdrops but just few are genuine.
Open ur eye.
Go YouTube, search airdrop related keyword,
Search Okx dapp too for airdrop

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

See in Life, Nobody will show you way or secrets on how they got rich, they will, you have to try to search well yourself.

Listen human help is overrated.
Mostly because you can't bank on getting it in the first place

Your best friend are your 2 hands.

Whatever you can't do for yourself, look away from.

If there's no way in tech face other things.

Never kneel before a man. Never. You will be despised for life. And you won't get what you're asking for.

Do what agrees to be done.

Leave the others alone

Lastly...CHEER UP!!!

No man is an island... 🏝️

You need people to succeed and people need you to help them succeed, QED.

Solve problems bro.

Be contented with what you have now, face your studies and be good in what you are doing. There are still offers based on merit outside there.
Nothing beats corporate lifestyle in the long run.
They can’t keep doing this in their forties if they have not built anything. Leave those distractions. What they do might be legit but I tell you it is not sustainable.

Don't feel bitter.

Don't get too far from them.

Don't form too much familiarity.

Don't rush.

Keep researching and improving on yourself.

Someday, somehow, one of them will need you. And you'll get more connected with time.

Even after your studies, you need such connections.

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

First, you need to start networking with whatever skills you have got. If you lack skills(technical know how) then acquire some. People will take you seriously if you share common values with them.

Fryx:
Don’t.


Don’t ever make the mistake of changing who you are to integrate into a circle that does not align with you by default. Instead, work on being the best in the circle that aligns with you.


I was once forced to leave my uncles care to hustle for myself. I found myself in an environment that is completely different from my personality. To survive, I have to adapt and start talking.

Bad decision. Very bad decision because it helped me nothing.

Sure, I was able to get them understand me with force. But, they simply just agree with me and they never understood me and are not completely happy with me. Last last, my relationship with them became so messy I had to leave.

Now, I was a very introvert that keeps my thought to myself. Zero social skills.

But the deal has been done. I have learn to spew my mind to the outer world. Not a good thing at all.

I think different. Very different (check my comments on this platform)

I have very different opinion and experience from people. It doesn’t make sense to share my thoughts with people because they can’t relate majorly.

I will be more respected and valued being my reserved self. But, I have become something I hate.


Till now, I am still hoping to completely be my old self. But till then, I will unfortunately continue being unpopular and weird.

So, never tamper with nature. You are your best as you are now.


Do this instead - love knowledge.


Don’t just love knowledge, take bold steps.


You don’t need courses to learn digital skills. Read, read, and read helpful free resources. The more you read, the more you know.


Practice then too. Yeah, it takes time without a mentor. But your experience will make you a mentor in the future.

Focus on what you know how to do best. The people that are not willing to accept you as you are now will never accept you, even if you change. They will even say you are looking for attention or trying to force yourself on them.

Don’t try it.
Love yourself. Believe in your self. Make books and online resources your best friends.

Those you are looking up to start somewhere. You don’t need them, it is not who you are.

Just be you, and stop caring about the rest of the world.


Get lost trying to make money online. You will, don’t just give up.

I had zero friend myself. And I get started with zero ₦. Had to do some odd job to get my first phone (which cost me 8k) and slowly, I ride up.

Do any other thing, but never try to integrate into a circle that does not love you.

Same here, unknowingly I've become a shadow of myself, I now talk anyhow, which was never my pattern all because of trying to integrate into the normal society way.

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

you are being mentally lazy. and you are thinking like a nigerian.
where are they getting their updates from? from onine forums, discussions groups, blogs on the internet. do not let anyone run you street and make you pay for what is available on the intenet for free.

whatever ypou claim to be interestd in - enter it into google. you can add reddit to the end and you will find you r self in discussion groups in reddit where people share info without gatekeeping it. and as Mrbrownjaysaid - do not be in a hurry to 'start hammering'

_{it however sounds to me like your real issue is that some yahoo boys do not want to bring you into their crew.}

Sonnobax15:

The street is cold bro.....

The update wey you dey find from dem so,if dem show you,you sure say your mind go dey?

gbam ... Naso I sabi one too wey dey into graphic design and a lil bit of coding ..


Guy guy show me way, teach me this thing make I dey like you ..


Bros was 50% legit, 50%gee guy ...

Op most of those guys mix up the hustle ... And they gotta know your mentality before they bring you into stuff like that ...
They know they're not fully legit like you think they're so dem no fit just bring you in on it like that except you get their kind mentality...

Only then would you be initiated into their circle...


From experience.

Early 20s... This is ur time 2 learn n grow.

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

Those guys you see don't give a free update.You go do HK for them by running errands, washing their clothes and sweeping their rooms before them go take you serious.

Omo don't put ur hopes on people
Just go to YouTube or check telegram for free courses on what you are interested in.

Since 2017 I learnt crypto, Forex, and currently learning front end development all From the Internet, Zero Mentor.

If You do mistake and pay dem shi, they will just brush the surface and tell you that is all there is to earning. No information gathering method. No update. Nothing

Sleep on the internet, You can become anything now with the help of the internet, just put in the work

Try to mingle or relate more,you can start this by first greeting guys , showing humility and kindness also open doors and want people to relate with you,don't be rigid also smile,and be accessible.

Also go to field to play football with guys,or go to game center to play either Ps, snooker or table tennis,if you drink or not go to bar take soft drink watch match with guys .

It's not only people with illegitimate stuffs you'll meet in these location,don't just go to these places without engaging in discussion or be interested in what there doing.

Wish you Good luck.

School friends are always like that, don’t let it get to you. Everything they know are online. You just have to research more, buy meaningful ebooks, watch YouTube channels, articles and anything relating to your field. It might be slow but you will all get there together at some point.

There are so many things you can learn online yourself if you’ve the time, money to spend on data and laptop.

Also, don’t allow guys to introduce you to yahoo because that’s what most of the folks are doing but they will lie to you.


@drella

Drella:
Hello people.

Get in touch with me let me carry you along Crypto Airdrop and Tesnet free of charge. Within days you will be on your own and can surpass me if you are serious because it's my side hustle but I don't joke with it. Please it's free. All you need is regular data to come online.
Send me a mail in my signature. Also,
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Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

It's okay bro

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

Forget them...

If you can drop your phone number via DM, I will make a call to you that will boost your confidence and also share resources with you that will keep you ahead of many of them.

Just tell me what path you want to follow.

jaymichael:
The first sentence says it all. That is the foundation to succeed in life.

Very true, I always take note of that when requesting for help, people would only want to help you if they can still get something in return, learnt it from 48 laws of power, now if I make request I would tell u what you would gain from helping me

Time and season happens to everything

A305:
I was once like you and still like you when it comes to being socially isolated due to being an introvert. Then I gained admission into UNIBEN and stumbled on one quote by a philosopher when I was taking a philosophy GST course.

"A man who doesn't need people but survive alone in isolation is either a god or a beast."

That quote struck me deeply, I began to engage more with people but it was still hard to break into their circle to feel among for them to share relevant information with you, you must atleast do things with them, party with them, engage with them in their lifestyle etc. I just couldn't do it but I figured it was easy to get along with guys I knew back home whom I met in UNIBEN at the time so one of them began teaching me stuff; he would see this post of mine and begin to smile because he is on Nairaland and I know he reads my comment.

It was that singular guy who showed me some money making techniques till we both graduated and one IMPORTANT thing I realized is that: if one person accepts you, you will be an automatic mutual friend to his friends provided you interact with his friends when they come around.

That's how you grow your social network.


Secondly, you have nairaland — Nairaland played a huge role in my success in life today. Begin surfing random thread of your interests and realize Nairaland is a gold mine when comes to information.


Thirdly, YouTube — After I went back to my reclusive lifestyle of no friends, YouTube , Twitter (X) and Nairaland has been keeping me going when it comes to Updates.

You only need the topic or trend of the update on any ones mouth but go on YouTube, Nairaland and X and dig deeper.

Which stuff he taught you?Na cultist abi yahoo.Na wetin full uniben.

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

Don't give any thief your 250k. Go to YouTube and learn how to use Excel, Google forms, PowerPoint infact Google workspace. Once you have learned it to some extent, register on upwork. Remote jobs are there that pay in dollars and other currencies. You can also learn about website testing. It's usually meant for people in the US and Europe but you can still do it provided you have a good VPN. You would have to register as a US citizen on those websites. I have tried

GloriousGbola:
you are being mentally lazy. and you are thinking like a nigerian.
where are they getting their updates from? from onine forums, discussions groups, blogs on the internet. do not let anyone run you street and make you pay for what is available on the intenet for free.

whatever ypou claim to be interestd in - enter it into google. you can add reddit to the end and you will find you r self in discussion groups in reddit where people share info without gatekeeping it. and as Mrbrownjaysaid - do not be in a hurry to 'start hammering'

_{it however sounds to me like your real issue is that some yahoo boys do not want to bring you into their crew.}

The truth there. There are some sincere teachers. Very few of them. But majority are scammers. He said they have techniques to get freelance jobs, but all the techniques are on NL Upwork thread. FOC.

Drella:
You have a point but it's not as easy as said.
As a student, getting a job means earning about 10k per month at the expense of my studies.

If others can get opportunities just because they are close with someone, I don't think wanting to be close to someone because of opportunities is a bad idea.

I appreciate your input

Guy all skills you need to learn in life is on YouTube free of charge, the only thing is the dedication to learn. At times it's not because we hate an individual that people donot teach for free, it's because when you give information for free people tend to commonise the information, so to speak and on't place value on it

Drella:
You have a point but it's not as easy as said.
As a student, getting a job means earning about 10k per month at the expense of my studies.

If others can get opportunities just because they are close with someone, I don't think wanting to be close to someone because of opportunities is a bad idea.

I appreciate your input

Sorry to say they are not your friends within u u may think u are their friends but behind u they gossip about u.

U are forcing urself on them trying to be like them but in reality they do not see u they way u see them.

To succeed there are many resources online that you can use to research a particular online business u want to venture.

I can not pay any body any dime to teach me anything online when I can get free of charge

If u have 250k that is a big cash that you can invest to make u million in a month.

Put more energy on ur education and come out better.

Be careful of those u call ur friend.

Silentgroper:
gbam ... Naso I sabi one too wey dey into graphic design and a lil bit of coding ..


Guy guy show me way, teach me this thing make I dey like you ..


Bros was 50% legit, 50%gee guy ...

Op most of those guys mix up the hustle ... And they gotta know your mentality before they bring you into stuff like that ...
They know they're not fully legit like you think they're so dem no fit just bring you in on it like that except you get their kind mentality...

Only then would you be initiated into their circle...


From experience.

Not totally true, no be everybody Wey make money online dae do shady stuff, if you say using VPN and IPS is shady then I would agree with you otherwise there are legit online updates that gives money