Sammiepro95:


It's okay bro I sent you a pm, please reply so we can discuss, I don't wanna drop my whatsapp number here. I have some tips you can use to make money as a freelancer on fiverr doing shopify website design I hopes this helps

Arijude:
pi mining? 😂😂😂😝😝😝 Chai some people ee

is been awhile since I see words on Mable on this site...
Maybe cause I seldom visit.
Nice one bro thumbs up man ✅

Fryx:


Don’t.


Don’t ever make the mistake of changing who you are to integrate into a circle that does not align with you by default. Instead, work on being the best in the circle that aligns with you.


I was once forced to leave my uncles care to hustle for myself. I found myself in an environment that is completely different from my personality. To survive, I have to adapt and start talking.

Bad decision. Very bad decision because it helped me nothing.

Sure, I was able to get them understand me with force. But, they simply just agree with me and they never understood me and are not completely happy with me. Last last, my relationship with them became so messy I had to leave.

Now, I was a very introvert that keeps my thought to myself. Zero social skills.

But the deal has been done. I have learn to spew my mind to the outer world. Not a good thing at all.

I think different. Very different (check my comments on this platform)

I have very different opinion and experience from people. It doesn’t make sense to share my thoughts with people because they can’t relate majorly.

I will be more respected and valued being my reserved self. But, I have become something I hate.


Till now, I am still hoping to completely be my old self. But till then, I will unfortunately continue being unpopular and weird.

So, never tamper with nature. You are your best as you are now.


Do this instead - love knowledge.


Don’t just love knowledge, take bold steps.


You don’t need courses to learn digital skills. Read, read, and read helpful free resources. The more you read, the more you know.


Practice then too. Yeah, it takes time without a mentor. But your experience will make you a mentor in the future.

Focus on what you know how to do best. The people that are not willing to accept you as you are now will never accept you, even if you change. They will even say you are looking for attention or trying to force yourself on them.

Don’t try it.
Love yourself. Believe in your self. Make books and online resources your best friends.

Those you are looking up to start somewhere. You don’t need them, it is not who you are.

Just be you, and stop caring about the rest of the world.


Get lost trying to make money online. You will, don’t just give up.

I had zero friend myself. And I get started with zero ₦. Had to do some odd job to get my first phone (which cost me 8k) and slowly, I ride up.

Do any other thing, but never try to integrate into a circle that does not love you.

USAfall2024:


Most times, you have to be valuable to someone to get value in return. Except you're his close Gee from his broke days or family, a rich/financially comfortable guy would hardly see any point relating with you or even worse taking his time to mentor you. He will always ask himself: Why? What is in for me to spend my time (and possibly resources) teaching this stranger?

My advice for you is don't envy these successful guys nor feel bad whenever you get aired by them. Everyone is out to avoid added liabilities while improving their current financial/societal standings to a higher level. First work hard on yourself to become more social. Try relating with normal average guys around you. Learn to build solid and genuine friendships with like-minded people (in form of true brotherhood). If you're not interested in learning how to build genuine friendship first, then you will always come off as just another selfish guy trying to leech off other people's success. Or better still, learn to navigate your life as a lone wolf which is the harder route but the best for a hardened introvert.

Drella:
Hello people.
I'm in my early twenties in a tertiary institution. I am this gentle guy that is mostly quiet.
I noticed that there are many financially okay guys as young as I am that are doing well unlike me. Now, I'm talking about the ones hustling legitimately.

I also want to be okay financially, but they tend to share information only with those they are close to.
There were updates about Arbitraging, Web 3 airdrop and testnet stuff that I only got to hear when it was too late.
I talk to these guys, roll with them, but they never see me as close enough to carry me along.

Even for those freelancing, they know techniques to get orders fast and constantly but will not share with me. One said I should bring 250k when I'm ready to start freelancing. I don't even have 50k in my name.
Whenever I tell them to "show me way" knowing they do legit stuffs, they tell me they too are looking for way.

Growing up, I was restricted so I suck at making friends and socializing. I have been trying to get better since I left secondary school but my social skills barely improved.

I researched online on my own to get updates but many were scam, overpriced classes/courses e.t.c. Though I have picked up a skill to learn but before I get good and start earning, I'll need sustenance.

Is it too late to improve my social skills in my early twenties? If no, how?
How can I move from just acquaintances to a friend that can be carried along in important things?

BiggyBB:
You might want to reach out to me. There's an update I'm working on presently which might be a huge starting point for you. If you are interested. I sent you an email.

sammiewrite:
Lots of great contributions so far but I want to add that rather than using YouTube and blogs for learning, consider Reddit. So, let's say you want to learn arbitrage, search something like "arbitrage reddit." I'm making this recommendation because with every update, Google is favoring the big publications who most times don't have experience, expertise or authority on the topic they're writing about. Additionally, they're writing for ad and affiliate revenue. In short, they are creating content and not adding (any or much) value. Reddit, however, is the direct opposite: nobody is trying to sell you anything, so whatever opinion you see there is often firsthand and value adding, plus there is a downvote button and the subreddits are heavily moderated.

And I'm sorry I will have to toe the line of your friends too by keeping things to myself. For a different reason, however. From my previous interactions with young people from Nigeria, many lack the mindset, discipline and work ethics. At my stage, I still dedicate at least three hours everyday learning about my industry. How many GenZ can be this committed? The last one I gave a test to read a 3000 page thread on a specific skill on Nairaland felt it was too much, so he never got back to me. So, for me, I feel it is a waste of time sacrificing my time for nothing. Wishing you good luck in your journey.

pansophist:


A sweeter way of saying ''Iron sharpen iron''. Good advice

Even if the poster knows it or not, he too avoids liabilities like a plague. It's a natural human response that is done subconsciously. Humans by nature are merchants behaviorally, that is, ''trade-by-barter'' is the fundamental coding that underpins human relationships.

If people start asking themselves basic questions like ''What do I bring to the table/into his life'', then connecting and rolling with other great people becomes easy.

As wretched as an Almajiri or touts are, they can at least give one vote. Politicians will beg them, dash them bags of rice, promise, and lie to them just to secure their vote. That's trade by barter. A noodle for your vote lol.

Also, it makes it easier not to fear being dumped, or rejected, because you also know that they will miss something when they decide to leave. When you are valuable, you respect yourself more. A greedy selfish mindset makes you disposable.

It is more blessed to give than to receive.' Acts 20.35.

UncleAyo:
My friend, the only friend you need is YouTube.com. This same friend taught me the skill with which I made $110 yesterday alone.

Up till today, I've not seen any person physically, doing the same skill except for online.

You will keep wasting your precious time following friends around. And at the end, they will introduce you to fraud and illegitimate means.

I used to buy courses on udemy and other course website until I discover that free course on YouTube are better.

Apart from the above, with YouTube, I've develop the confidence and skill of a software Engineer.

Also, if you know how to use the telegram app, you're on top of the world.

Albertone:


I'm always happy to read your posts. Thank you.

But Sir, what do you have to say in a situation where the people you need value from are all better than you and whatever value you're bringing, they already have easy access to it without needing you?

pansophist:


''intent'' and ''proportionality'' are the measures that are used to determine if the value a person brings should be accepted.

For example, if you rescue a boy who fell inside a well, will you be angry at the boy if he brings a biscuit to you the next day as an appreciation? Of course not.

You will smile and be happy, because you know it's coming from a good place (intention), and a biscuit is what the boy can afford (proportionality).

But if the same boy brought a chicken bone that he ate, you will be angry and feel insulted. You won't accept it, and you will further question the boy's intention for such a gift that could pass as an insult.

A good example of this is the biblical story called ''the widow's offering'' (Marke 12-41-44). Jesus told his disciples that the widow gave more than the rich, even though she gave the smallest because it was all she had (exceeding proportionality), and came from a good place (intent).

Another one is the story of Cain and Abel. God appreciated Abel's sacrifice because it came from a good place (intent) and he gave the best of his farm harvest (exceeding proportionality). Unlike his brother Cain, who gave God a sacrifice that he would have disposed of anyway.

I hope I am clear enough. I can understand if you are not religious, but biblical stories are just easy for me to pass a point. I read the bible from Genesis to Revelation, and I love many of the stories inside.

So as I was saying, just because Dangote has more bilions than you doesn't mean you cannot give him a gift because people always judge by proportionality and intent. It is you, the giver, that is in the spotlight, and you can't give what you don't have.

Conversely, if Dangote gives you 20k naira, then reject the gift. Don't collect it and be angry that Dangote, a billionaire insulted you by giving you 5k.

Also, the receiver always retains the right of rejection. If after your assessment, you think someone's gift doesn't befits you, then politely reject it. You can't be angry at me because I insulted you by giving you dog food. Why you chop am?

God didn't accept the gift of Cain because God considers it unworthy. There was a post that made the frontpage a few days ago, where a man was angry that his long-term friend that lived in the US for over a decade gave him just 20k Naira.

But where I faulted him is the fact that he accepted the money, and then angry. That's wrong, and also a betrayal of one's word. Your words and actions should always match.

Don't accept gifts that you consider not good enough. And if you will accept it, then appreciate it. That is consistency.

Olamilekxy:


Good respond but read his question again cos I think you diverse from the question.

pansophist:


I read his question again and can't seem to figure out how I diverted. Can you point it out?

pansophist:


''intent'' and ''proportionality'' are the measures that are used to determine if the value a person brings should be accepted.

For example, if you rescue a boy who fell inside a well, will you be angry at the boy if he brings a biscuit to you the next day as an appreciation? Of course not.

You will smile and be happy, because you know it's coming from a good place (intention), and a biscuit is what the boy can afford (proportionality).

But if the same boy brought a chicken bone that he ate, you will be angry and feel insulted. You won't accept it, and you will further question the boy's intention for such a gift that could pass as an insult.

A good example of this is the biblical story called ''the widow's offering'' (Marke 12-41-44). Jesus told his disciples that the widow gave more than the rich, even though she gave the smallest because it was all she had (exceeding proportionality), and came from a good place (intent).

Another one is the story of Cain and Abel. God appreciated Abel's sacrifice because it came from a good place (intent) and he gave the best of his farm harvest (exceeding proportionality). Unlike his brother Cain, who gave God a sacrifice that he would have disposed of anyway.

I hope I am clear enough. I can understand if you are not religious, but biblical stories are just easy for me to pass a point. I read the bible from Genesis to Revelation, and I love many of the stories inside.

So as I was saying, just because Dangote has more bilions than you doesn't mean you cannot give him a gift because people always judge by proportionality and intent. It is you, the giver, that is in the spotlight, and you can't give what you don't have.

Conversely, if Dangote gives you 20k naira, then reject the gift. Don't collect it and be angry that Dangote, a billionaire insulted you by giving you 5k.

Also, the receiver always retains the right of rejection. If after your assessment, you think someone's gift doesn't befits you, then politely reject it. You can't be angry at me because I insulted you by giving you dog food. Why you chop am?

God didn't accept the gift of Cain because God considers it unworthy. There was a post that made the frontpage a few days ago, where a man was angry that his long-term friend that lived in the US for over a decade gave him just 20k Naira.

But where I faulted him is the fact that he accepted the money, and then angry. That's wrong, and also a betrayal of one's word. Your words and actions should always match.

Don't accept gifts that you consider not good enough. And if you will accept it, then appreciate it. That is consistency.

Olamilekxy:


Meself don read am again, you're spot on✔

But sometimes, intention can't be seen and someone you showing love to may think you're looking for a soft landing from them or trying to explore them so that you can get more help.