Kobicove:


I agree with you, most TV shows these days glorify adultery especially those on Telemundo

Exactly, I have never thought of it that way and they also make it feels intrinsic.

thesicilian:

Why would anyone come out and say their life is perfect? So that the evil ones can spoil it for them? Can you tell your suffering colleagues that you're rich?

I will help my suffering colleagues on the low, and there time when it doesn't even take riches but basic connection.

RickyJesus:

I will help my suffering colleagues on the low, and there time when it doesn't even take riches but basic connection.

True sha
Some Nigerians are very superstitious (sometimes with good reason) so they keep their good news to themselves.

lordnkem000:

Look why be so scared when you trust each other? No wonder many are influenced by the negatives of marriage

You can never truly trust anyone
I can't even trust myself not to behave in certain ways sometimes

thesicilian:

True sha
Some Nigerians are very superstitious (sometimes with good reason) so they keep their good news to themselves.

With good reasons? Care to mention some.

lordnkem000:

I come from a broken home, nothing inspiring about it. So I look to others for inspiration

Sorry about that....

My parents have been married since 1982....
They quarrel and settle and still going strong..

I take my inspiration from them.......I have done 2 and half years and will surpass them by God's grace.

thesicilian:

You can never truly trust anyone
I can't even trust myself not to behave in certain ways sometimes

I knew something was wrong with you. Thank God you just confirmed that.

Don't bother quoting me....psychos everywhere

thesicilian:

Like everything else, the bad eggs tend to be more visible than the good ones. There's a whole lot of happy, disciplined, committed married couples out there.

They are fewer truly happy married men, and more happy single men with baby mamas and premium knacks.

And if we're being truly logical, modern marriages are of no benefit to a man...

lordnkem000:
I have been observing my married friends, colleagues & even neighbors around and I noticed deep down their marriages were all lacking discipline, they cheat on each other, lie, they pretend and most of them are so miserable.

Funny thing is two of my friends are not even up to 3yrs in marriage and they are so tired. Yesterday I met an old classmate of mine and he told me the girl I saw him with wasn't his wife, just for knacks, that he's been married for 1yr and 9months but he's tired of his marriage. It made me scared because here i am thinking of finding a wife and people in it are wanting out.

So I'm asking, what could be the problem with staying married these days?

People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

There have been cheatings in marriages the past 3000 years, so nothing new. David even cheated with Batsheba and even had the husband killed.

So true

Afrobasic:
I've said this before and I will say it again.

Na MUMU dey marry.

and your father and mother married o

Dynamicscholar:
■ He who findeth a wife finds a good thing. Probably they married for the wrong reason. Sometimes people need to start asking themselves why they want to marry and if the prospective woman or man is not an answer to the questions. Keep on searching. It is better to be single than to marry a disaster.

They found for themselves wives and married said wives meaning they found what you claim are good things— the woman can only be a good thing after you have married her as a wife—, so what in the world do you mean by marrying for the wrong reasons when they found for themselves good things? Make una dey try openmindedly digest the sort of things wey una dey like to believe. How can the wives be the problem if the wives are good things?

Afrobasic:
I've said this before and I will say it again.

Na MUMU dey marry.

Have you told your parents this

Afrobasic:


You still dey ask? No be you create topic?

Don't you see how bad modern marriages/women are? I will rather be single for life and enjoy my wealth alone, than to carry one liability in the name of love.

then marry a career, hardworking and money-making lady

You should use the word some marriages. There are still a lot of faithful married partners in Nigeria.

They were made for each other since it’s both parties. I don’t see the problem.

Marriage is sweet when you find the right partner. Marry the one you admire her physical attributes and attitude. A woman with good morals will make a better home and make you enjoy marriage.

lordnkem000:
I have been observing my married friends, colleagues & even neighbors around and I noticed deep down their marriages were all lacking discipline, they cheat on each other, lie, they pretend and most of them are so miserable.

Funny thing is two of my friends are not even up to 3yrs in marriage and they are so tired. Yesterday I met an old classmate of mine and he told me the girl I saw him with wasn't his wife, just for knacks, that he's been married for 1yr and 9months but he's tired of his marriage. It made me scared because here i am thinking of finding a wife and people in it are wanting out.

So I'm asking, what could be the problem with staying married these days?

People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

end time attitudes.

Even when uncommitted, they cheat too.

CodeTemplar:
end time attitudes. Even went uncommitted, they cheat too.

LOL.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 It is bound to get worse before people finally start settling on what it is they want in marriage and how they will go about ensuring the contract works for both individuals in the marriage.

Bring back arranged marriages.

It works.

lordnkem000:
I have been observing my married friends, colleagues & even neighbors around and I noticed deep down their marriages were all lacking discipline, they cheat on each other, lie, they pretend and most of them are so miserable.

Funny thing is two of my friends are not even up to 3yrs in marriage and they are so tired. Yesterday I met an old classmate of mine and he told me the girl I saw him with wasn't his wife, just for knacks, that he's been married for 1yr and 9months but he's tired of his marriage. It made me scared because here i am thinking of finding a wife and people in it are wanting out.

So I'm asking, what could be the problem with staying married these days?

People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

advanceDNA:


Lol ....u can't cook stew with sand, stones & water and get fine egusi with stock fish at the end... The problem is garbage in garbage out ...

D people getting married now are d highly corrupt, crazy, generation, i.e millennials & GenZ.....the two generation that the internet & media hijacked their parenting from their real parent.....

Una never see anything....just wait for the offsprings of GenZ to take over the marriage institution.....

Kudos ...

Solution is go and learn from the very elderly ones around u who have a good marriage. Goan learn their discipline, commitment to each other, respect for each other, forbearance for each other & allowance for each other.
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You think your ancestors are fools for marrying strictly virgins?

It is well

lordnkem000:

It's not a laughing matter, myself, I detest American type of almost everything, are they not the one they legalize gun freedom? See how it's going now? I remember how I grew up seeing people work hard and fight for their marriage, people put in efforts to be better then, today at 34 i can't even recognize that same marriage institution again, people don't put efforts, women don't even act like women in marriages anymore and as for our men, majority are a disgrace to the gender.
We need answers and solutions. We owe it to our kids to correct this anormaly

My take is the way you make your bed you lie on it. Forget about others and make yours work ?
What principles do you practice that will make you a better father, husband if you were to be married ?
There are lots of healthy marriages out there but like someone said above, they’re not publicised cos those in it don’t need to.

lordnkem000:


People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

The secret is simple; just pretend that your partner is not cheating as far as you no see with your eyes.

Stupid thread for little boys and girls to ma-stur-bate on.

Grow and become a responsible man!

killsmith:
You think your ancestors are fools for marrying strictly virgins?

They married strictly virgins and ended up having a turn a blind eye to much of what those same virgins did to them. Do you think say those old traditional laws that gave rights to all children born in a particular marriage to the husband of the woman in question came from nothing? Your forefathers tried but their way did not work at all because, in the end, they had to accept even paternity fraud as their lot in marriage. So, unless you are willing to accept paternity fraud too, you better be thinking of a better way.

HenryTimes:
■ The secret is simple; just pretend that your partner is not cheating as far as you no see with your eyes.

Denial? Really?

Raylight2:
then marry a career, hardworking and money-making lady

Those ones with their bad character? No, thanks 👎

There are very little happy marriages out there, most people are either pretending or managing each other because of selfish reasons. Give most husbands money and fame, they will start fuccking like dogs out there. Give their wives money and freedom, they will start misbehaving. Don't be deceived.

too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons... due to social/religious/family/peer pressure, and therefore have no respect for marriage nor their partner.