I'm facing a situation where my dad's accounts are being accessed without our knowledge since he passed away. The 1st wife and her children have taken control of his personal account, debit card, and even his pension. It's important for everyone involved to be aware of what's happening with the accounts. I want to approach them calmly and respectfully to discuss this matter and seek transparency. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated...

You need to come out open and say d full story so we can advice.... Abeg state your position and others let's put the angle of the point on 360°

Dad married 3 wives, 3rd wife is no more but left a child behind, 2nd wife have 4 children including me, 1st wife have 5 children and this 1st wife and her kids have been taking everything that has to do with dad to themselves without our knowledge, they have access to dad's phone and account and they aren't telling us anything concerning the account...

Familymatterss:


I'm facing a situation where my dad's accounts are being accessed without our knowledge since he passed away. The 1st wife and her children have taken control of his personal account, debit card, and even his pension. It's important for everyone involved to be aware of what's happening with the accounts. I want to approach them calmly and respectfully to discuss this matter and seek transparency. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated...

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Here are some steps you could consider taking to address this sensitive issue with your dad's first wife and her children:

- Prepare for the conversation by gathering all relevant information and documentation related to your dad's accounts and assets.
- Approach the conversation with an open mind and try to remain calm and respectful throughout.
- Clearly express your concerns about the unauthorized access to your dad's accounts and the importance of transparency for all parties involved.
- Listen to their perspective to understand why they have taken control of the accounts and try to find a peaceful resolution.
- Consider seeking legal advice or mediation if the situation becomes contentious and difficult to resolve amicably.
- Remember to prioritize the well-being of everyone involved, including your own emotional well-being, during this challenging time.

It's crucial to handle this situation with care and empathy, considering the emotions involved after the loss of a loved one.

Who is the first son? Are you? If not the wife will hold the account till the first son do other wise.. secondly who was with him in the hospital when he was sick... who was paying the BILLS.. who was looking after him

Martinsmine:
Who is the first son? Are you? If not the wife will hold the account till the first son do other wise.. secondly who was with him in the hospital when he was sick... who was paying the BILLS.. who was looking after him

First son isn't in Nigeria, second son is from the first wife.

Bills was being shared by everyone, at some point, second wife son paid the most of the bills, but the 1st wife is in charge of the account and everything that belongs to dad.

get some family elders....how much dey the acct sef

One of the biggest side effects of polygamy..

COMRADES, this guy should go and hustle for himself, what is pension? How much is in the account? Apart from landed properties, companies or any other huge investment, I don't see any reason why I will involve myself in fighting over inheritance

Pootle:
get some family elders....how much dey the acct sef

Follow this advice approach the elders in your family if there is will let them do the needful

Are you aware of your late father's estimated net worth?

Do you honestly believe it's worth the mental strain?

No will? try to involve family members and share the property once and for all

You can only attempt to politely pose some questions to the first wife, and I'm sure she has the answers ready.


With my experience ehn, Issues like this No dey end well and in most cases na TRAP. ( mentally)

Double your hustle and be whatever you wanna be. Life is too beautiful to dey stress.

There’s a way u go make an in life and nah dem go come dey use your late fathers property to beg u sef.

Familymatterss:


First son isn't in Nigeria, second son is from the first wife.

Bills was being shared by everyone, at some point, second wife son paid the most of the bills, but the 1st wife is in charge of the account and everything that belongs to dad.

Which part of Nigeria?
Una no get kindred group wey fit handle the matter?
If it can't be handled by the elders or kindred, get a lawyer.

Familymatterss:


I'm facing a situation where my dad's accounts are being accessed without our knowledge since he passed away. The 1st wife and her children have taken control of his personal account, debit card, and even his pension. It's important for everyone involved to be aware of what's happening with the accounts. I want to approach them calmly and respectfully to discuss this matter and seek transparency. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated...

This is a very sensitive matter

If you approach them you become their enemy

I think you should report to the bank, then the bank will block the account.

Then you guys will call for a family meeting where you all will inform them that you all need to know what's in the account

Tell them in that meeting that you guys will delegate people who will go to bank to know how to process the documents from the court, I think it's called administrator if he died without a will

Then the court will issue you guys letter to the bank on how to close the account and whatever that is there, has to be shared to the number of wives your dad have

If your dad didn't leave any will behind, the first wife and his children will always have upper hand in the ownership of the property. If the properties left behind are many you need to involve the family elders to intervene so that you and your siblings can get what belong to you.

Not the wives,all the children should come together and talk things out if there is no will.if there is more than 3 properties,the older the property,it belongs to the first wife kids and the second one belongs to 2 wife kids and the last one that struggles with him till his moment should takes the last property. The money in his account should be use to build a modern home in the village for the grandchildren and children to mingle on festive period and know each other.

No need approaching them because it might not end well since money is involved.

Don't worry it's only a matter of time before they lose access and control of his account cos his Atm card will soon expire and when it does they can't go and renew it so that part is blocked.

Now since they cant do physical withdrawal from the bank no more access to his money., isooner or later the bank will find out he's dead when his money keeps accumulating with no one coming forward to claim it and they may even begin to steal your dad's money. At this juncture I'll advise you make a formal announcement to his organization about his demise so they can stop his pension otherwise the bank will be the one zapping his money

Melagros:
COMRADES, this guy should go and hustle for himself, what is pension? How much is the account? Apart from landed properties, companies or any huge investment, I don't see any reason why I will involve myself in fight over inheritance

This was what am expecting from a brilliant comrade like you.

The guy is being lady and having sense of entitlement 🤔

Properties that can lead to fetish things like killing each other in d family

Lol polygamy, and this generation keep encouraging polygamy, now the end result is here for us to see, lol

My advice is you should remove your eyes from the finances of your late dad, cos in the eyes of the first wife and kids, you, your siblings and mother are inconsequential intruders who shouldn't be in the family in the first place, the only person connecting you all is your dad and he's dead, so therefore "To your tent o Israel"

Pele, such is life, you will be fine.

Ur dad loves women 3 wives and 10 children wow he try

It's your dad's sweats. There is no better way to go about it. But make sure you inform other family members too