Hello my name is sunny, I am a single man and I have never been married before and I don't have any child yet, I am 44 years old and I am from akwa Ibom State, so I am considering of getting a single mother of maybe one or two at least and she could also give me a child of my own too... Am looking for a serious minded woman..08163341407 I can be reached
Please no insult or abuse on this..
Thank you

Sunnyrado:
Hello my name is sunny, I am a single man and I have never been married before and I don't have any child yet, I am 44 years old and I am from akwa Ibom State, so I am considering of getting a single mother of maybe one or two at least and she could also give me a child of my own too... Am looking for a serious minded woman..08163341407 I can be reached
Please no insult or abuse on this..
Thank you

A single mother will always put her child before you. She'll even put her previous child before the one you have together. Look before you leap.

Thank you, I appreciate you... But that's what am thinking of, am looking at old age, that's why am considering this option. Now that am not even married or have a child yet... because I have thought about this..by the time am 60 my first child will be like 16 or there about.. that's if gave birth next from next year..

Sunnyrado:
Thank you, I appreciate you... But that's what am thinking of, am looking at old age, that's why am considering this option. Now that am not even married or have a child yet... because I have thought about this..by the time am 60 my first child will be like 16 or there about.. that's if gave birth next from next year..

lol. You have calculated the future. Just look for a lady above 30 that is willing to settle down.

Intergrated:
lol. You have calculated the future. Just look for a lady above 30 that is willing to settle down.

Go with this advise. Not that your previous solution is not good, but just to avoid unforseen problems

Thanks again, i think that's what i will do, but thing is I have a lady like that, she's on wheelchair from kogi state and she's 36 and we've been a long for a while, and she's very serious with me, but when I presented her matter to my but they didn't like it, they were saying all manner of things about her, something like how will she do it when she start giving birth and who will be doing the house chores stuffs like that I thought about it and I think they were right in Thier words, and she's the only serious person I have for now. So that's one of the reasons why am contemplating about finding a single mother.

Why will any young man want to start his marriage life on hard mode? Do you know what you are asking for?

Dogalmighty could you please explain better for better understanding please..
Thanks

But to be honest, why don't you look for a single lady above 30yrs?

I observed certain things about you, but I don't want to hurt your feelings. So, I will keep it to myself.

But on a serious note, you need to build self confidence and courage. I've seen older men getting married to young virgins. Why would a single guy in his 40th desire a single mom?

Are you financially buoyant to take care of a single mom and her child/children? Because that's the first perioty of every single mom. To have a man who can love them and their children. Do you have extra love and care to share?

Thank you so much I really do appreciate, Yes I have more love and care to share.. it's not am I don't like a single lady/woman to marry but what I am looking concern about is the child bearing at probably 44 and I will be 45 by next year God's grace, so I have calculated that by the time am 60 years old, my first child will be at the age of 16 I don't know if you get my message so when am 70 the child will be in 20s so so that's why why am considering a single mother...I am here for advice and if you have someone you can connect me with I don't mind... Thank you

Sunnyrado:
Thank you, I appreciate you... But that's what am thinking of, am looking at old age, that's why am considering this option. Now that am not even married or have a child yet... because I have thought about this..by the time am 60 my first child will be like 16 or there about.. that's if gave birth next from next year..

Lol. You should be more concerned about the physical, verbal and mental abuse you'll suffer from her children when you're 60 and her children at 25 and you try to complain and correct their mother.

I have seen this script before with a neighbor growing up. She came with 3 male children before having two girls with the man. When we became their neighbor, the two daughters were already in their husband's house while the men still stayed with the parents.

It was funny seeing that a man in his late 60s carrying plates up and down everyday to buy food until i discovered the reason. Apparently, anytime he complains about the woman leaving home for long or not making food arrangements before she goes for her catering job, he is usually met with blows from her hefty boys in their late 20s and early 30s.

Is this the future you want for yourself? Ask yourself. Btw, work on your self-esteem. First, a disabled, now a second-hand. Perhaps you are leaving what's wrong with you out.

Thank you, I really appreciate and do understand you.. Honestly nothing is wrong with me, you see we that comes from the east, I mean the Igbos, akwa Ibom and co, we have a mindset that as a man before you can marry you need have money have car or house, you stuffs like that.. so we believe until you plenty money before you can be married,
Unlike some tribe that even if you are living in one room apartment you can marry and have children but some people can't even married in a room and parlour shey you see the mindset.. nothing do me o..I gallant. But anyways what's gon be is gon be.

Sunnyrado:
Thank you, I really appreciate and do understand you.. Honestly nothing is wrong with me, you see we that comes from the east, I mean the Igbos, akwa Ibom and co, we have a mindset that as a man before you can marry you need have money have car or house, you stuffs like that.. so we believe until you plenty money before you can be married,
Unlike some tribe that even if you are living in one room apartment you can marry and have children but some people can't even married in a room and parlour shey you see the mindset.. nothing do me o..I gallant. But anyways what's gon be is gon be.

Do u av the money very well now.

It's not how far, but how well. Start with a lady that is ready to settle down and possess all the qualities you want. Not just anyone.

Your peace of mind should be your priority.

Don't be too desperate to find a single mom that will finish all your resources and still jilt you at that your 60years you're so scared of.

@foodqueen, thank you for your words of advice you've spoken well, well according to the question you asked if I have money now, no I have not..but woman of nowadays are not serious the way I see them sorry to say... I think you are someone that has a good reasoning.. see I have said it before and I will say it again, the only person I have that is serious is a Lady on wheel from Kogi state we have been talking for almost year now, but am considering some factors that sorrounds it., I tried to tell some of my family about her but the kicked against it that why will I go for a disabled person.. and thas has really makes to be thinking all manners of thing..but I like the Lady because she's serious type. And distance is also a barrier. All those things just makes it to be somehow

Sunnyrado:
Thank you so much I really do appreciate, Yes I have more love and care to share.. it's not am I don't like a single lady/woman to marry but what I am looking concern about is the child bearing at probably 44 and I will be 45 by next year God's grace, so I have calculated that by the time am 60 years old, my first child will be at the age of 16 I don't know if you get my message so when am 70 the child will be in 20s so so that's why why am considering a single mother...I am here for advice and if you have someone you can connect me with I don't mind... Thank you

I don't think you are too old to go for single ladies at 44 I'm not saying marry a single mother is wrong but your reasons for making that choice is what I don't buy.

I will advise you stick to the fact that you are looking for a partner to settle down with and stop trying to make a lady you intend to marry think it's because you are in your 40s that's making you so desperate to settle down.. you won't like the outcome.

You have low self esteem written all over your post. If you’re not careful, two things will either happen. Either the woman you end up marrying, if she senses this low self esteem, she will control you to the last drop.
Or your family (mother/siblings) will dictate everything that happens in your home.


I don’t have any advice for you. Marry as you want.

You never talk wetin dey do you. From a lady in a wheelchair to a single mother of two, it is obvious you are not in the right frame of mind to be honest. Age isn't the only factor at play here. What else about you haven't you mentioned? Are you facing financial or physical challenges? Pls note that having a physical/financial challenge or being a single mother of two is not a problem. I have absolutely nothing against either. The real issue lies in confining yourself to difficult situationships. I wouldn't be surprised to see another post from you begging a m a d woman on the street for marriage.

Even if you were broke or facing physical challenges, you should seek someone who can alleviate your situation. If I were a single of two or even 20, I will consider you a red flag.

StPete:
You have low self esteem written all over your post. If you’re not careful, two things will either happen. Either the woman you end up marrying, if she senses this low self esteem, she will control you to the last drop.
Or your family (mother/siblings) will dictate everything that happens in your home.


I don’t have any advice for you. Marry as you want.

I swear….his low self esteem soaks for a 44 year’s old man.

I don't know why reading comments on this thread is making me super angry. What is wrong with dating a disabled lady? Ok, what if he married a so-called normal lady and the lady later has an accident and landed permantly on a wheelchair? It will be you hypocrits that will start condemning him if he divorces her.

You all that are typing anyhow, if you or a your love one become disabled, should the opposite gender avoid you?

However i agree that the op has low self-esteem, one been that he refuse to follow his heart and is looking for a single mom instead of looking for a good lady and settle down irrespective of her status a receipt for disaster if you ask me.

People even adopt children, so if your choice is life with a single mother, then fine. Hopefully you will be able to search and find a good one. You can add one or two biological children of yours to the family.

At 44, if your family members are controlling you by stating who you should/should not marry, then I don't think you are mature enough to get married. Age is not maturity.

Good day bro...

All what you want are still desire but those reasons you made for wanting to marry are things that raised too manu questions.

You don't need those stuff to marry. Improve in your self esteem. Marriage is what matters but do you have the financial capabilities? If you have, of cos you can marry as many single mothers as you can so far it's what make you happy and you have the means and mental health to take up responsibilities.

But why must you think about single mother? And you don't like raising your own child with the fear of the future age. And why you don't want to marry single lady or even the one in wheel chair as you discussed? Do you have infertility problems? Then, your family. You are the one to take responsibility of of whom you want to marry. So you decide who you want to marry and present to your family that's why you need to work on your self esteem.

Besides i don't know what give us impression that until we marry or have a child, or be wealthy that we have a fulfilled life. It should not be. These worldly things are what kill us the most money, women, children and wealth.

I believe we can live a life, be better person, be fulfilled with few or without all these things.

The reason for you wanting to marry not encouraging... You need to change your mindset cos many women won't buy the idea. So improve your self esteem it's affecting you.

whats in 60 years that u dey afraid of that age?


Do u have such terrible genes that u see urself incapable of doing anything at 60 without relying on ur kids?.

Mind u, my grandpa died at 95 & he was still riding his bicycle to his farm & refuse to be driven with car( despite having a standby driver) unless on special occasion.

Besides, thier is something really bothering me about u, are u sure u are really above 40, cause u lack that confidence & maturity exuded by men of that age range.