I have got an issue I’d like some inputs on from everyone.

I recently reconnected with an ex whom I had the best relationship with while I was still in Nigeria. To put it simply, I was the one who broke up with her at that time, though we still stayed in contact and only messaged from time to time. After moving abroad for a while, our conversations got somewhat serious and we started talking a lot more often.

She’s doing pretty well in Nigeria. She’s a lead engineer in a multinational, earning very well. She earns well into six-figures in naira monthly, so she is comfortable. I am also doing very well for myself in the “diaspora”. I earn well into six-figures annually in dollars. I’m not complaining.

When we saw that things were getting serious between us once again, we decided to take it to the next level. I have visited Nigeria a few times and we’ve gone on vacations together for the past two years. She has a good head on her shoulders. She pays her part of the vacation and I pay mine, though I’d usually take care of some of the extraneous expenses like dinners, exhibition visits, etc.

The thing now is that we have been talking even more seriously and have also talked about getting married this year. She is not getting any younger and I am also not. She is clearly the kind of person I want and I think we are both financially and mentally ready to be together.

The major problem now is that she wants me to visit her parents in Nigeria first before we finalize anything about marriage. That’s where the problem lies.

Her parents live in Ogbomosho which is in the hinterlands of Lagos. Going there will mean going by bus from Lagos, or at least going in part by bus from Ilorin (if one is able to get a flight that goes there from Lagos). Given everything I have read and been reading recently both here on Nairaland and some other news website (I have included links), I absolutely dread traveling by bus in Nigeria. Oh my God! It’s something I greatly fear. I have read so many incidents of encounters with Fulani herdsmen and kidnappers along most of the south-west roads that I cannot imagine myself traveling on those roads at any time.

I can help thinking. What if I’m kidnapped along the way? What if I end up being taken into a closed enclave and they start beating me and pressuring my family to pay a ransom? That’s something that can’t get past my head. All in the name of love?

I have tried to talk to her about this. But merely hinting it at all makes her angry. It makes her feel I don’t care about her at all. She is a Christian, so she believes if one prays before the journey everything will be fine. I know better. Not enough prayer will work if infrastructure is just bad. I don’t think I can mention it to her again. That’s not possible. She will likely just take it the wrong way. On her part, she has travelled many times on the road to see her parents and has never had any issues. So, she doesn’t understand what I’m yapping about.

Are my fears real? I have not been to Nigeria in more than 10 years and have never traveled beyond Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt, all areas one can use a plane to go to. The only time I traveled on the road in Nigeria was to Abeokuta several years ago. Have things changed enough for my fears to be unwarranted? How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

https://www.nairaland.com/8088522/watched-horror-abductors-shot-eight
https://www.barrons.com/news/kidnappers-seize-children-from-nigeria-school-bus-7765e21b
https://www./security-risk-analysis-kidnapping-hotbeds-south-west-nigeria-okereke

Follow your mind.

Your fears can actually materialize.

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No one abroad announces plans like this or talks about stuff like this publicly 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This story is so fake it's unbelievable!!! I interact with people in diaspora regularly and it will shock you how they are update with all insecurities in Nigeria more than you that lives here.

They are so private that they will never ,I repeat never ever post something like this publicly . 🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP go find work and stop making imaginary stories for likes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Streamz:
Follow your mind.

Your fears can actually materialize.

Hmm....that's for your input

CountinBlessins:
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No one abroad announces plans like this or talks about stuff like this publicly 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This story is so fake it's unbelievable!!! I interact with people in diaspora regularly and it will shock you how they are update with all insecurities in Nigeria more than you that lives here.

They are so private that they will never ,I repeat never ever post something like this publicly . 🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP go find work and stop making imaginary stories for likes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

That's okay. You don't have to believe. Thanks for your input, regardless.

hurtlery:

I have got an issue I’d like some inputs on from everyone.

Ordinary Lagos to ogbomosho..??

Guy,..U come dey fear?? .u sure say u get ready to marry abi u dey play...??

U are still going there again for the real wedding oooo....abi u nor know say na the woman side Dem dey do the ceremony??

If u dey fear, rent police.,...100k ....2 police go escort u to ogbomosho

hurtlery:

That's okay. You don't have to believe. Thanks for your input, regardless.

You didn't have to reply, scammer 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Post a picture now by your window showing us you are truly abroad then another with your Nairaland username then I will withdraw my comment that you are a scammer 🤣🤣

Don't show your face so no risk


Scammer !!?🤣

hurtlery:

I have got an issue I’d like some inputs on from everyone.

I recently reconnected with an ex whom I had the best relationship with while I was still in Nigeria. To put it simply, I was the one who broke up with her at that time, though we still stayed in contact and only messaged from time to time. After moving abroad for a while, our conversations got somewhat serious and we started talking a lot more often.

She’s doing pretty well in Nigeria. She’s a lead engineer in a multinational, earning very well. She earns well into six-figures in naira monthly, so she is comfortable. I am also doing very well for myself in the “diaspora”. I earn well into six-figures annually in dollars. I’m not complaining.

When we saw that things were getting serious between us once again, we decided to take it to the next level. I have visited Nigeria a few times and we’ve gone on vacations together for the past two years. She has a good head on her shoulders. She pays her part of the vacation and I pay mine, though I’d usually take care of some of the extraneous expenses like dinners, exhibition visits, etc.

The thing now is that we have been talking even more seriously and have also talked about getting married this year. She is not getting any younger and I am also not. She is clearly the kind of person I want and I think we are both financially and mentally ready to be together.

The major problem now is that she wants me to visit her parents in Nigeria first before we finalize anything about marriage. That’s where the problem lies.

Her parents live in Ogbomosho which is in the hinterlands of Lagos. Going there will mean going by bus from Lagos, or at least going in part by bus from Ilorin (if one is able to get a flight that goes there from Lagos). Given everything I have read and been reading recently both here on Nairaland and some other news website (I have included links), I absolutely dread traveling by bus in Nigeria. Oh my God! It’s something I greatly fear. I have read so many incidents of encounters with Fulani herdsmen and kidnappers along most of the south-west roads that I cannot imagine myself traveling on those roads at any time.

I can help thinking. What if I’m kidnapped along the way? What if I end up being taken into a closed enclave and they start beating me and pressuring my family to pay a ransom? That’s something that can’t get past my head. All in the name of love?

I have tried to talk to her about this. But merely hinting it at all makes her angry. It makes her feel I don’t care about her at all. She is a Christian, so she believes if one prays before the journey everything will be fine. I know better. Not enough prayer will work if infrastructure is just bad. I don’t think I can mention it to her again. That’s not possible. She will likely just take it the wrong way. On her part, she has travelled many times on the road to see her parents and has never had any issues. So, she doesn’t understand what I’m yapping about.

Are my fears real? I have not been to Nigeria in more than 10 years and have never traveled beyond Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt, all areas one can use a plane to go to. The only time I traveled on the road in Nigeria was to Abeokuta several years ago. Have things changed enough for my fears to be unwarranted? How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

https://www.nairaland.com/8088522/watched-horror-abductors-shot-eight
https://www.barrons.com/news/kidnappers-seize-children-from-nigeria-school-bus-7765e21b
https://www./security-risk-analysis-kidnapping-hotbeds-south-west-nigeria-okereke

Hi, there are 2 airlines you can join to ilorin. Airpeace and overland. I use airpeace. I go to ilorin often. Ilorin is 35mins by air. Then from ilorin to ogbomoso is less than 30mins. The road is good and safe.

You may also go by road, it's about 4hours and you will enjoy it also. Ojota to Ibadan (iwo road) very smooth road. Iwo road to Oyo not so good. Oyo to odo-oba junction is another stretch of good road. Odo oba is just few mins to ogbomoso. Go and have fun bro!

forget marriage country dey hot and our government can't do anything about it, even me sef here in diaspolagos no fit go anywhere pass sango if no flight available

Am from ogbomoso and trust me we are good people.

It is not a must to travel by road from Lagos.....you can just fly to ilorin and drive down to ogbomoso (20min drive from the airport).

Marry my ogbomoso sister and you won't regret.

hurtlery:

I have got an issue I’d like some inputs on from everyone.

I recently reconnected with an ex whom I had the best relationship with while I was still in Nigeria. To put it simply, I was the one who broke up with her at that time, though we still stayed in contact and only messaged from time to time. After moving abroad for a while, our conversations got somewhat serious and we started talking a lot more often.

She’s doing pretty well in Nigeria. She’s a lead engineer in a multinational, earning very well. She earns well into six-figures in naira monthly, so she is comfortable. I am also doing very well for myself in the “diaspora”. I earn well into six-figures annually in dollars. I’m not complaining.

When we saw that things were getting serious between us once again, we decided to take it to the next level. I have visited Nigeria a few times and we’ve gone on vacations together for the past two years. She has a good head on her shoulders. She pays her part of the vacation and I pay mine, though I’d usually take care of some of the extraneous expenses like dinners, exhibition visits, etc.

The thing now is that we have been talking even more seriously and have also talked about getting married this year. She is not getting any younger and I am also not. She is clearly the kind of person I want and I think we are both financially and mentally ready to be together.

The major problem now is that she wants me to visit her parents in Nigeria first before we finalize anything about marriage. That’s where the problem lies.

Her parents live in Ogbomosho which is in the hinterlands of Lagos. Going there will mean going by bus from Lagos, or at least going in part by bus from Ilorin (if one is able to get a flight that goes there from Lagos). Given everything I have read and been reading recently both here on Nairaland and some other news website (I have included links), I absolutely dread traveling by bus in Nigeria. Oh my God! It’s something I greatly fear. I have read so many incidents of encounters with Fulani herdsmen and kidnappers along most of the south-west roads that I cannot imagine myself traveling on those roads at any time.

I can help thinking. What if I’m kidnapped along the way? What if I end up being taken into a closed enclave and they start beating me and pressuring my family to pay a ransom? That’s something that can’t get past my head. All in the name of love?

I have tried to talk to her about this. But merely hinting it at all makes her angry. It makes her feel I don’t care about her at all. She is a Christian, so she believes if one prays before the journey everything will be fine. I know better. Not enough prayer will work if infrastructure is just bad. I don’t think I can mention it to her again. That’s not possible. She will likely just take it the wrong way. On her part, she has travelled many times on the road to see her parents and has never had any issues. So, she doesn’t understand what I’m yapping about.

Are my fears real? I have not been to Nigeria in more than 10 years and have never traveled beyond Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt, all areas one can use a plane to go to. The only time I traveled on the road in Nigeria was to Abeokuta several years ago. Have things changed enough for my fears to be unwarranted? How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

https://www.nairaland.com/8088522/watched-horror-abductors-shot-eight
https://www.barrons.com/news/kidnappers-seize-children-from-nigeria-school-bus-7765e21b
https://www./security-risk-analysis-kidnapping-hotbeds-south-west-nigeria-okereke

Book flight from Lagos to Ilorin, board a bus or book a car from Ilorin airport to Ogbomosho.
Its about 30-45minute to Ogbomosho from Ilorin airport. The road is safe as far as I am concerned.

South west is safe now. Without taking risk no gain.

Roads are good and safe
Happy married life in advance

hurtlery:

I How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

Did you seriously suggest the bolded?

Like they should come to Lagos, you pay their tfare so you can meet them officially there? Seriously?

It's not everything you throw money at bros.
People have suggested flights and routes for you above.

Give the girl belle. Her parents will come and visit you.

There is no qualms going to Ogbomosho, just take along your ransom money just in case.

And pray against head hunters.

Lol😂 people ply that road and nothing of such happens.

TT20:


Hi, there are 2 airlines you can join to ilorin. Airpeace and overland. I use airpeace. I go to ilorin often. Ilorin is 35mins by air. Then from ilorin to ogbomoso is less than 30mins. The road is good and safe.

You may also go by road, it's about 4hours and you will enjoy it also. Ojota to Ibadan (iwo road) very smooth road. Iwo road to Oyo not so good. Oyo to odo-oba junction is another stretch of good road. Odo oba is just few mins to ogbomoso. Go and have fun bro!

Nawaoo! The Ogbomoso no dey Lagos again?

Which state does it actually belong to, abeg?

So despite all the mass shootings and accidents in your so called diaspora, why do you still go out, do you lock yourself all day without stepping out?


Can't accident kill you in your disapora?

Oga if you're not ready to marry, leave that gentle woman alone or connect me with her since I dey the country.

Shebi if Nigeria is as worse as you think, you for still get people wey you dey ask this questions to?

Una go leave una country go another man country come dey feel say una country no be country again.

SMH..

hurtlery:

I have got an issue I’d like some inputs on from everyone.

I recently reconnected with an ex whom I had the best relationship with while I was still in Nigeria. To put it simply, I was the one who broke up with her at that time, though we still stayed in contact and only messaged from time to time. After moving abroad for a while, our conversations got somewhat serious and we started talking a lot more often.

She’s doing pretty well in Nigeria. She’s a lead engineer in a multinational, earning very well. She earns well into six-figures in naira monthly, so she is comfortable. I am also doing very well for myself in the “diaspora”. I earn well into six-figures annually in dollars. I’m not complaining.

When we saw that things were getting serious between us once again, we decided to take it to the next level. I have visited Nigeria a few times and we’ve gone on vacations together for the past two years. She has a good head on her shoulders. She pays her part of the vacation and I pay mine, though I’d usually take care of some of the extraneous expenses like dinners, exhibition visits, etc.

The thing now is that we have been talking even more seriously and have also talked about getting married this year. She is not getting any younger and I am also not. She is clearly the kind of person I want and I think we are both financially and mentally ready to be together.

The major problem now is that she wants me to visit her parents in Nigeria first before we finalize anything about marriage. That’s where the problem lies.

Her parents live in Ogbomosho which is in the hinterlands of Lagos. Going there will mean going by bus from Lagos, or at least going in part by bus from Ilorin (if one is able to get a flight that goes there from Lagos). Given everything I have read and been reading recently both here on Nairaland and some other news website (I have included links), I absolutely dread traveling by bus in Nigeria. Oh my God! It’s something I greatly fear. I have read so many incidents of encounters with Fulani herdsmen and kidnappers along most of the south-west roads that I cannot imagine myself traveling on those roads at any time.

I can help thinking. What if I’m kidnapped along the way? What if I end up being taken into a closed enclave and they start beating me and pressuring my family to pay a ransom? That’s something that can’t get past my head. All in the name of love?

I have tried to talk to her about this. But merely hinting it at all makes her angry. It makes her feel I don’t care about her at all. She is a Christian, so she believes if one prays before the journey everything will be fine. I know better. Not enough prayer will work if infrastructure is just bad. I don’t think I can mention it to her again. That’s not possible. She will likely just take it the wrong way. On her part, she has travelled many times on the road to see her parents and has never had any issues. So, she doesn’t understand what I’m yapping about.

Are my fears real? I have not been to Nigeria in more than 10 years and have never traveled beyond Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt, all areas one can use a plane to go to. The only time I traveled on the road in Nigeria was to Abeokuta several years ago. Have things changed enough for my fears to be unwarranted? How can I convince her that traveling to Ogbomosho is not that important? I have talked to her about the option of paying her parents’ travel expenses to Lagos and we can meet there, but she’s clearly against that because it’s not the traditional way to go about it.

https://www.nairaland.com/8088522/watched-horror-abductors-shot-eight
https://www.barrons.com/news/kidnappers-seize-children-from-nigeria-school-bus-7765e21b
https://www./security-risk-analysis-kidnapping-hotbeds-south-west-nigeria-okereke

so u don travel go port harcourt before but u dey fear ogbomosho

It’s just like saying u have killed a snake before but u fear a cockroach

Bro forget the noise, I schooled in ogbomosho for 6 years n I can tell u it’s d coolest city with better enjoyment

Go n u will not want to leave, explore student areas like under G, adenike, stadium, general n co

U will like it

ChybuzzDD:


Nawaoo! The Ogbomoso no dey Lagos again?

Which state does it actually belong to, abeg?

Oyo state