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xin5:
Man your so depressed and fustrated about life generally.
I can sense your bad energy from a mile away oozing from this unwarranted attack
gosh.
because I see no reason for this your response to my post when all I just did was to come here and ask to know the truth.

Take your frustrations else where bro
Because at this stage you are nothing else can help you.

He is right, why dragging her elder brother into that.
For you to think bride price is the main reason why most guys are not married, shows your level of understanding

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

oga if you marry, marry don't use her elder brother as a yardstick......

xin5:
it don enter 10 thousand again?
But she say na #120 na

You’re not serious, you for no pay anything at all. You want to marry , you don’t know the difference between dowry and traditional marriage rites. You are not ready for marriage

xin5:
Man your so depressed and fustrated about life generally.
I can sense your bad energy from a mile away oozing from this unwarranted attack
gosh.
because I see no reason for this your response to my post when all I just did was to come here and ask to know the truth.

Take your frustrations else where bro
Because at this stage you are nothing else can help you.

I guess you are angry because that guy, talked nonsense to ur head. Well, that's what those, who don't know how to keep their private affairs private used to hear or see.

As the guy suggested, if you don't careful, you would find it hard to leave in peace with any woman.
......you are a man who can't take decision on his and by extension, a man who want get applaud from outside before taking his own personal decision.


I'm very sure, so many frustrated he-goats on nairaland would help you scatter ur smooth relationship.

first of all what sort of man bears such name? creamie?
secondly i pity a girl who even intends to marry a sellout like you because she did not task you now you are seeing her cheap and asking yeye questions....but you hAve been knacking her all styles with promise of marriage ...the audacity to even degrade her elder brother shows you have no respect for her or her family.....BE GUIDED

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

I really wonder when women would stop this nonsense of positioning themselves like cheap meat for marriage.

When this man doesn't respect her three years into the marriage, she would open a NL thread and her comrades would her to confirm all men are scum not knowing she chose the scum herself.

Bride prist is cheap but the other requirements for the bride price to be asked is what is expensive

You do knocking, buy things in the list then pay bride price

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

You have no biz with her but her father when it comes to bride price. It's what her family decides that is valid and it varies from family to family

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

You want to get married, bride price dey scare you. My brother, you never see the real scam. Marry first. Follow me, I go tell you how to handle the real scam when it start. Na inside the marriage that one dey.

Its true bro, no need to fear.

That's just the bride price, there are other materials you will bring like palm oil, yams, maybe a goat, palm wine and some other drinks

once that is done you are married, if you want to do big traditional wedding reception o, na you sabi.

For the brother, he may not have gotten a good woman to marry. I don't think it is just the money issue

DeGods007:
It's true na but that does not mean you won't buy drinks and cook food for some that will attend.

And the only encouraging thing here is that Urhobo women don't cheat in marriage. It's a very big taboo, reason why most of their women comes with a [b]very high mileage [/b]before marriage 😂😂

where did u get your statistic from

xin5:
Man your so depressed and fustrated about life generally.
I can sense your bad energy from a mile away oozing from this unwarranted attack
gosh.
because I see no reason for this your response to my post when all I just did was to come here and ask to know the truth.

Take your frustrations else where bro
Because at this stage you are nothing else can help you.

You see, you could have been a little more civil in asking. Your choice of words was wrong on all levels, uncouth, denigrating and disrespectful. Imagine your sisters husband to be came on social media to ask these "harmless" questions, calling your union a possible scam, and remembering to bring your unmarried elder brother into the story.
You may not meant to, but it wouldn't hurt any less if your bride-to-be saw this.

xin5:
I wouldn't want a case after going on, one kind huge list will be handed to me to fufill that's why I am asking.

You responses are really juvenile. You don't have anything doing in marriage at this age of yours.

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

Cost of wedding is the least thing that can keep guy from getting married. Marriage is not all about the wedding. In fact marriage starts after the wedding.

You have to first reorient your self. You sef never ready for marriage.

But, I don't pay anything for bride price

You are still a child. I pray that girl meets a man. Men don't bother about things that go in through the mouth and out into the loo. May the Lord deliver you from the spirit of poverty

na feminist drop this load of bullshit wey deh stink to high heavens

PrinceofSarcasm:
I sincerely feel sorry for any lady who marries you. This thread betrays your level of reasoning and shows how insecure, immature , unreasonable and unstable you are.

Your choice of wording and structure shows you lack any integrity of character, hence see the low level your mind went to.

You even don't have respect for her or her family hence you had to drag her elder brother into your nonsense.

I feel you are a danger to that young lady and her family.

You are uncouth and have no sense of boundaries or decorum. I suspect you are affiliated with street thugs or hooligans
As she would do well to avoid getting married to you at all costs or she may be a future murder victim.

Anyways for her to agree to even date talkless of marrying someone like you says a lot about her , she is probably a low level woman.

I would hazard a guess that she is either s treat hawker or a road side food vendor.
Likely she is an illiterate too?

CorrectionFLuid:
Cost of wedding is the least thing that can keep guy from getting married. Marriage is not all about the wedding. In fact marriage starts after the wedding.

You have to first reorient your self. You sef never ready for marriage.

At all. He's a child

advanceDNA:
U take things too serious

Someone with that moniker, I don't believe it.

PrinceofSarcasm:
I sincerely feel sorry for any lady who marries you. This thread betrays your level of reasoning and shows how insecure, immature , unreasonable and unstable you are.

Your choice of wording and structure shows you lack any integrity of character, hence see the low level your mind went to.

You even don't have respect for her or her family hence you had to drag her elder brother into your nonsense.

I feel you are a danger to that young lady and her family.

You are uncouth and have no sense of boundaries or decorum. I suspect you are affiliated with street thugs or hooligans
As she would do well to avoid getting married to you at all costs or she may be a future murder victim.

Anyways for her to agree to even date talkless of marrying someone like you says a lot about her , she is probably a low level woman.

I would hazard a guess that she is either s treat hawker or a road side food vendor.
Likely she is an illiterate too?

You have said it all..

If you are poor don't marry

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will
be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

Which state

Was told that bride price would be returned but alas na lie...I didn't mind sha..

Tell me u are a kid without saying so

xin5:
Man your so depressed and fustrated about life generally.
I can sense your bad energy from a mile away oozing from this unwarranted attack
gosh.
because I see no reason for this your response to my post when all I just did was to come here and ask to know the truth.

Take your frustrations else where bro
Because at this stage you are nothing else can help you.

The truth is that his response to you is spot on. You are immature, full of suspicion and if it was my sister i would tell her not to marry you. In my village, bride prices differ. The agreed amount can be any amount but the father can decide to take 50 naira as bride price. My father in law took 500 naira out of the 20k agreed upon with both families. 19500 was given back to me.
Before then i had already requested for the list of things i must buy for the bride price payment. It was not upto 200k. You determine how much you are ready to spend on your traditional marriage.

What kind man is this?? 😲

xin5:
walai
A frnd told me I would be asked to cook oghwo and also palmwine and with this country like this. Small thing when de acct I de use hold myself.

You want them to give you the girl for free
With the way you are complaining now, you will enter 50s single, you are mocking her elder brother for being single in his 40s without knowing the reason.

N120 or N1m isn't the problem.

You are talking about Urhobo women here, they are hardworking women but if things get worse for you as a man, she will leave you the moment she finds a better option.

It's your choice, but if they gave me a wife for free, I won't take.

xin5:
I wouldn't want a case after going on, one kind huge list will be handed to me to fufill that's why I am asking.

It's very simple. If the list is what you can't afford, you can call it off and your brjde price will be refunded to you

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

What she's indirectly telling you is that bride price is not compulsory in her tribe. There are several tribes like that. There's nothing wrong about that. So Stop forming assumptions and conspiracy theories and focus on what's truly important.

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

Urhobo
It depends on the family concerned
But she correct that's the bride price
However, throughout Nigeria, be aware that bride price is different from bridal list
It's in the constitution

xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true

you are a stupid fellow

like, were u expecting to pick up someone's daughter for free?

in some region official bride price is #10, but you go buy drinks for people
list is a traditional rite of which u can bargain with the family, it is not always necessary say u will pay everything.

u even used he elder brother as a reference, what exactly that suppose to mean? did her elder complain to you he doesn't have money to marry cos of high bride price as a reason for being single?

i don't even know where ladies see dogs like u date