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Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by YoungBlackRico(m): 3:36pm On May 27, 2024
PrinceofSarcasm:
I sincerely feel sorry for any lady who marries you. This thread betrays your level of reasoning and shows how insecure, immature , unreasonable and unstable you are.

Your choice of wording and structure shows you lack any integrity of character, hence see the low level your mind went to.

You even don't have respect for her or her family hence you had to drag her elder brother into your nonsense.

I feel you are a danger to that young lady and her family.

You are uncouth and have no sense of boundaries or decorum. I suspect you are affiliated with street thugs or hooligans
As she would do well to avoid getting married to you at all costs or she may be a future murder victim.

Anyways for her to agree to even date talkless of marrying someone like you says a lot about her , she is probably a low level woman.

I would hazard a guess that she is either s treat hawker or a road side food vendor.
Likely she is an illiterate too?
A perfect description of someone you've never even met. You'll make a good judge of character grin
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by DeGods007(m): 3:51pm On May 27, 2024
khreus:
LINK ME OH BOSS, YOUR OWN NO GO SPOIL. I'M 27, 9-5(BANKING). NOT HANDSOME BUT I TURN HEADS AFTER I BATH.

Before this your update cast, make i pick mine from the spoil.
Send me PM bro
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by banku: 4:00pm On May 27, 2024
What is all this wahala about dowry in this day of unstable marriage, DNA, money money money!

There are still simple marriages for love and friendship without enriching families and villages.

Dowry today is about tokens to honor tradition. Nobody sells the daughter anymore. Some of these ladies can buy a man and his family, well informed, self sufficient but need a loving partner in their lives.

There was this traditional ceremony where they kept asking for more and more. The daughter had to pass money to the husband to satisfy her families.

Some of the reasons for brutality and violence in marriages have to do with heavy investment on the lady for everlasting partner that turns out to be a complete disaster as a wife or husband.

There are exceptions but if a man or women is good and sincere to the partner, he or she would be kind to the partner's family. Grateful for good upbringing.

Dowry is to honor tradition not to take a man to the cleaners. The same is true of expensive wedding ceremony that leaves couples broke. Some do not even have enough to eat the day after

Why? Just to fulfill expectations of friends and families.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Trojan8(m): 4:05pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
it don enter 10 thousand again?
But she say na #120 na
This one no dey OK. Your babe said an amount, you are doubting what she said because someone else quoted a different amount. You are CLEARLY not matured enough for marriage.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Coconunu(m): 4:09pm On May 27, 2024
Oga just pack ur slippers and run oooo
You will buy clothes full a empty box which each will cost u not less than 200k
There bride price is not that much
But wetin u go spend ur mind no go touch ground
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by icankel: 4:25pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
Man your so depressed and fustrated about life generally.
I can sense your bad energy from a mile away oozing from this unwarranted attack
gosh.
because I see no reason for this your response to my post when all I just did was to come here and ask to know the truth.

Take your frustrations else where bro cheesy
Because at this stage you are nothing else can help you.
Oga the guy told you a bitter truth. Ur asking Nairaland to confirm for u right? Wat if everyone said u shouldn't marry her so u will abandon the lady. Oya pay 20m instead of 120#. U said she's from South so u don't know that bride price differs from a particular town to another all in same state? If ur not ready for marriage just tell her because I don't think she's secure with you
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Onyi90(m): 4:44pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
Why not you do your own enquiry or findings
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by meobizy(m): 5:32pm On May 27, 2024
Which kind of rubbish topic did this moderator think up?

I think I am about to be scammed into marriage
It is a scam after you’ve been fooled into acting. Right now, she’s suggesting. It is left for you to act on it or not.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by hokafor(m): 6:05pm On May 27, 2024
But you as a person are ready for marriage? They may even give u the bride free but the responsibilities that comes with marriage are u ready
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by steeltrust: 6:41pm On May 27, 2024
You be Mumu
If you no wan marry abeg tell the innocent girl abeg tell her so you no waste her time
The main bride price is 120naira
If it a small one
Eg Just buy drinks
Cook small food
Meet her family inside house with few invited guest and go home The next day, go to court wed her at the marriage registry. That a small one

If it big
The bride price is still 120
With big traditional ceremony
Drinks
Food etc
Then church and court

Which one be I don’t want to be deceived into marriage she de force you?

And why use her brother as a yardstick to determine of getting married or not

Abeg getat
How this nonsense take enter fp sef 😒
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Tonytonex(m): 7:04pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
you are not exposed.
That's how it's been done there.

The wedding list may exceed 1mill.
E be like say, you no grow up in 9ja?
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by prophetfire: 7:37pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
You aren't mature for marriage. You will be a burden to the girl you will marry. Just look at how you reason.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by GindoX(m): 7:56pm On May 27, 2024
Writervick:
Lol 😂😂 no do oo
No do ke? Which kind advise be this?
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by SamOchuko: 8:12pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
Them go ask you to cook owho soup and buy palm wine? Na free wife u day find abi? You want to get married but you’re unwilling to spend money, go look for a lady to pay your groom price na. The 120 is the bride price but like every sane person knows there’re other bills the groom pays aside the bride price, she’s Urhobo like me so I can authoritatively tell you that everything in our marriage list cost about 70-80k except her relatives want to cash out. But shey you know say them day cook for marriage guest? You know say you n your wife go wear clothes? Best of luck
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by IFNOTGOD(m): 8:28pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.


Depends on d area she us from n if she is an ur hobo girl den she is right u pay 120 n d 20 naira is still returned to u.

Na u no ask about d tradition well feeling she wants to scam u.

For ur info na bride price b DAT there are money u need to pay to d family though not much

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by IFNOTGOD(m): 8:32pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
I wouldn't want a case after going on, one kind huge list will be handed to me to fufill that's why I am asking.
Guy there is a list bit pride price is different try to know the difference


I married frm Benue n they gave Me a list m d bride price my wife was d one DAT picked d lowest denomination.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Quebec91(m): 8:50pm On May 27, 2024
cheesy
Writervick:
Lol 😂😂 no do oo
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by johnson4nosa(m): 8:59pm On May 27, 2024
Who is deceiving this one, come to ughelli north and see how married Urhobo women dey nack any how
DeGods007:
It's true na but that does not mean you won't buy drinks and cook food for some that will attend.

And the only encouraging thing here is that Urhobo women don't cheat in marriage. It's a very big taboo, reason why most of their women comes with a very high mileage before marriage 😂😂
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by jadyclem(m): 9:36pm On May 27, 2024
DeGods007:
It's true na but that does not mean you won't buy drinks and cook food for some that will attend.

And the only encouraging thing here is that Urhobo women don't cheat in marriage. It's a very big taboo, reason why most of their women comes with a very high mileage before marriage 😂😂
Saying urhobo women come with a high mileage is a bloody lie from the pit of hell.
Urhobo girls are one of the most decent - if not the most decent in south south.
Ask around to confirm.

And let me tell you, other tribes are coming to rush them. Urhobos don't charge high bridge price or give you unreasonable list as they will tell you that their daughter is not being sold to you and you have no right to treat her anyhow.

So saying urhobo girls LovePeddler around to have high mileage before mirage because tradition don't allow them to cheat while married na cap.

Urhobo girls are some of the most loyal in marriage and if you marry from a good family and you're a good guy, your peace of mind and longevity is sure
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by maximazi: 10:30pm On May 27, 2024
Man.. you're sick gush🤦
PrinceofSarcasm:
Thank you for proving my point. I mean you are at the gutter level in life . You can't even speak proper English and yet you are talking about marriage?

Seems you want to raise more street urchins and fatherless touts who will grow up to add to the massive number of armed robbers everywhere?

Didn't you learn from your own terrible childhood?

You have no business talking about marriage.

Your write up, your history on this forum and everything shows you are a very low value man ,hence it makes me wonder what sort of street waif agreed to take.on such a worthless surname.

She must have been about to commit suicide and sees marriage to you are a lady resort. Because I can bodly tell you that no woman of substance or self worth will marry your type.
grin
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by nwachinemel(m): 11:01pm On May 27, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
My brother, if you're really interested in her I'll advise you to proceed with the rites. You must however pray that your father in-law is a nice man
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Tonididdyx: 2:35am On May 28, 2024
xin5:
walai
A frnd told me I would be asked to cook oghwo and also palmwine and with this country like this. Small thing when de acct I de use hold myself.
You're not a marriage material and you're not ready for marriage
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by BALLOSKI: 3:49am On May 28, 2024
Phranx1:
E cost U complain E arahaa U complain still, Nawah ooo!
" arahaa" killed me... 😂 😂
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by general007: 3:51am On May 28, 2024
[quote author=xin5 post=130151867]A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true[/quote ]

Even if you want to do a small marriage the amount of the things in the list will cost close to 600k. That's the catch😂. Just ask of the marriage list you will be amazed.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by BALLOSKI: 3:51am On May 28, 2024
xin5:
walai
A frnd told me I would be asked to cook oghwo and also palmwine and with this country like this. Small thing when de acct I de use hold myself.
ehen... Na now you de give the right excuse - ma money no dey. Stop acting stingy and splash money on her.
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by freddie009(m): 8:36am On May 28, 2024
xin5:
A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
Marriage is cheap in the south. My tribe is about #100
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by chazon(m): 9:22am On May 28, 2024
Poster, you didn’t mention where in the south, mind you, a couple of communities in the south take little or nothing as bride price, but the list for marriage is voluminous. Don’t be tricked
Get the details, visit the community in disguise, ask questions about the marriage traditions and get first hand knowledge of what you are up against

This is a new trick women use to diffuse tension of marriage bills on a man
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by superCleanworks(m): 10:00am On May 28, 2024
Villa12:
I swear bro. Seeing that bolded makes me feel like slapping him. He can't even afford traditional marriage so he wan marry. This guy no well o grin
You want to slap somebody that is managing to take care of himself. Hospital bill dey hungry you? 😂
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Uzobejeme: 8:19pm On May 28, 2024
You only post weird things
This is most likely a lie as usual

quote author=xin5 post=130151867]A girl I am currently seeing is telling me the cost of her bride price is #120 that once I pay that..20 naira will even be handed back to me because she is not for sale. I asked her if that's all for the traditional marriage.. she said from there if we want to do big ceremony it's our choice. I think I am about to be scammed into marriage, something I might regret in the long run.. and I still wonder why her elder brother is still single (in his 40s) if marriage is cheap over there.

I wouldn't want a case whereby after doing that I will be presented an unexpected list of things to provide.

She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true[/quote]
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by sacajawea(m): 10:22pm On Jun 02, 2024
Hollybratt:
Hey chap cheesy Well that is for you. As for me, when i wanted to marry my yoruba woman, i paid N1.5million as bride price not that i have the money but because of the love i have for my wife. but when we broke up, i fought with her parents and they refunded the money. They even added N500k interest with it making it N2m.


IRMC
Were there Kids in the marriage?
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by sacajawea(m): 10:23pm On Jun 02, 2024
xin5:
A
She's from the south.
I want confirmation if this is true
Where in the SOUTH?
SOUTH is very large!
Re: Help! I Think I Am Being Scammed Into Marriage. by Peacfulmindset: 4:10am On Jun 03, 2024
Lol
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