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I try to learn from experience, because I believe it is the best teacher.

From my experience, I have come to accept first and foremost building a strong emotional strength is very important before we marry or get into a serious relationship.

I will use myself for example here, looking back on how my valued relationship crashed, I can tell now that we both lacked strong emotional strength. I reacted to situations without reservations and the reality that humans generally are prone to make mistakes, while my ex exhibits rude instincts when her emotions climaxes.

Well I don't blame us for being the way we were, we obviously built experience from the relationship and learnt lessons that will make us better persons.

Now I'd advice whoever that is in a relationship already or looking to get into one to build strong emotional strength, because we are dealing with a different human being entirely as our own.

You should be ready for the flaws/mistakes.
Be ready for the disappointments.
Be ready for the selfishness.

If you are really interested to see your relationship/marriage work, then building strong emotional strength should top your priorities because it will do your relationship lots of good.

But always take note of the red flags that shouldn't be ignored. A red flag is usually a habit that won't ever get changed. So you know what to do when you're sure of this.

Lastly, breakups seem not to be totally bad. I have become a much better human being since losing the girl I loved so much. If not for this breakup, I wouldn't have reexamined my life to see the flaws I now know I should correct for a healthy relationship to be possible.

normal normal life is fuc,ked up and selfishness is the way to go.
The very day you decided to adopt a Nigerian girl and call her your wifey you have signed up to bear and take responsibilities for your action.

Balablue64:
normal normal life is fuc,ked up and selfishness is the way to go.
The very day you decided to adopt a Nigerian girl and call her your wifey you have signed up to bear and take responsibilities for your action.

Just having strong emotional strength will be okay

Auxtan:
I try to learn from experience, because I believe it is the best teacher.

From my experience, I have come to accept first and foremost building a strong emotional strength is very important before we marry or get into a serious relationship.

I will use myself for example here, looking back on how my valued relationship crashed, I can tell now that we both lacked strong emotional strength. I reacted to situations without reservations and the reality that humans generally are prone to make mistakes, while my ex exhibits rude instincts when her emotions climaxes.

Well I don't blame us for being the way we were, we obviously built experience from the relationship and learnt lessons that will make us better persons.

Now I'd advice whoever that is in a relationship already or looking to get into one to build strong emotional strength, because we are dealing with a different human being entirely as our own.

You should be ready for the flaws/mistakes.
Be ready for the disappointments.
Be ready for the selfishness.

If you are really interested to see your relationship/marriage work, then building strong emotional strength should top your priorities because it will do your relationship lots of good.

But always take note of the red flags that shouldn't be ignored. A red flag is usually a habit that won't ever get changed. So you know what to do when you're sure of this.

Lastly, breakups seem not to be totally bad. I have become a much better human being since losing the girl I loved so much. If not for this breakup, I wouldn't have reexamined my life to see the flaws I now know I should correct for a healthy relationship to be possible.

I learnt one or two from this gracias

Zaheertyler:
I learnt one or two from this gracias

I'm glad you did. I wish I learnt this earlier.