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MarketDispatch:
Any air of mystery around you has been demystified...she is now wondering..why she chose a 100 thousand naira man in comparison to what she is seeing on Social media...since she knows all your finances.

On another note, the reason for her actions towards you can only be found on her phone in chat with her best friend...that is where the gossip will be.

Let him investigate the source of the disrespect. It is possible there is another man. He can only trace that through her phone

I experienced this, followed it up to discover certain shits behind my back. I never ready to treat her Bleep up.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

You are a very weak ass man that's why you are in this predicament,ONLY a WEAK ASS man will take revenge on innocent women and punish them for the sins of their ex..what if your new girl is a good woman?you will punish her for the mistakes of the h.oe you married? How the fvc k do men say they beg for sex especially from their wives when even a man in a wheelchair can still get sex??

Worse part she tells you to get it from others??😳😲LWTF?? And you foolishly still not getting it yet?bro you need serious mentoring. Are you in Abuja? See your woman is 💯% getting di.c.ked by another man that's why she has the guts to do all she is doing and even telling you to get sex outside...Bro you are finished

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

I know that you are the wife. The energy is too much for the guy. Even in this forum, see the level of your energy, e fit throw down things.
Calm down, tell us what really happened.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

sorry man but you should man up and confront her without being shy about it. Sing one ticket by David and Kizz Daniel in the house often. If she doesn't want the marriage let her leave but make her Understand you can survive without her. Make she no go put you for depression

CapitalBank:
when are you going to grow past this. If I am not mistaken, you have been a member here for more than 15 years.

When you and your ilk grow past using this forum to propagate woman hate. Jobless imps. All y’all do is curate hatred for women on this forum

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Women are different even tho there are general similarities and u must understand the person u are with, its not about spending time with ur woman or tell her everything or not but how u do it and when. There is a time for everything and a time be quiet and time to talk. If u are not conscious of these things and association or communication skills u can piss off or disgust anybody but more especially women.


Most times women go off the vibe and energy u give them. They are very observant of the smallest details.. So pay attention to some details to improve ur qualities. Self development is all around and continuous.

Be unpredictable and intentional sometimes.

Ebubu2:
When it’s a woman that lays accusations women don’t say let’s hear the man’s version of the story before castigating him.

Dumb blocks

But when men physically assaults, maim or even kill their wives with glaring evidence, you're quick to ask for their side of the story. Here a man is painting a one sided picture of himself as angel Gabriel and his wife as Lucifer and we're not allowed to seek for her side of the story. You must be dumber than a doorknob

Pea brains

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

people don advise u tìrẹ u no listen, what difference will ours make?

After yawning.. proceeds to type a bunch of gibberish.

Like I said earlier, pls tell him what he wants to hear. Better yet help him achieve his sole purpose of creating this useless thread. So that all you witless buffoons can gather around and tell other men to stop caring about their wives.

Valwezzy:
Yawns…

You must really take me for your husband, father, and son and think it’s everyone you can attack and insult unprovoked.

Typical lame and dumb uncouth thot🤦‍♂️, You can neither make a reasonable comment nor defend your claims without resorting to insults

It's alright twerp, you've been noticed, I can’t remember hurling insults at you but since you want to be bitchy and petty, I’ll whip you off your pseudo-high-horses because the only positive thing about you is your HIV status.

You’re not worth it, now skedaddle and go continue masking your face with makeup whilst stewing in your ignorance, dumb bimbo!

You men never fail to amaze. Why do you take a single experience and crucify ALL women? If you picked a woman that doesn’t love you (assuming the story is true), then look yourself in the mirrror. No woman will suddenly change and become a hater if she was kind and loving hearted from the beginning. Some men get women that they sense don’t really love them and in loving the chase, do everything to win her. Like it’s a game of ego of sorts. Take time to court a woman. Watch through time how she treats others especially. Don’t cloud it with sex. No one can hide their heart condition for a whole year. Don’t use money to woo her, develop a friendship. A man picks a wife so if you pick one that is a pain, learn something about yourself as well.

And finally when you decide to pick a woman and regret it, don’t pick up your whip against ALL females. Every female is not the one you have. No human gender is homologous.

But now that he has landed in soup. He should try distancing himself first, to understand the woman.

He has to know her true colors, those words of her mouth are significant. Either she just love drama and need stimulus, or she really hate him.

Filmdirect:
You men never fail to amaze. Why do you take a single experience and crucify ALL women? If you picked a woman that doesn’t love you (assuming the story is true), then look yourself in the mirrror. No woman will suddenly change and become a hater if she was kind and loving hearted from the beginning. Some men get women that they sense don’t really love them and in loving the chase, do everything to win her. Like it’s a game of ego of sorts. Take time to court a woman. Watch through time how she treats others especially. Don’t cloud it with sex. No one can hide their heart condition for a whole year. Don’t use money to woo her, develop a friendship. A man picks a wife so if you pick one that is a pain, learn something about yourself as well.

And finally when you decide to pick a woman and regret it, don’t pick up your whip against ALL females. Every female is not the one you have. No human gender is homologous.

Solofresh2:
I already talked about what made him a woman
I never said womanhood is attributed to loss of respect
I never claimed to be a woman hater and I never said said being a woman means being a lesser human.Get your facts right.
You are just making unverified assumptions

Lol ...this guy is shalye-ing

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Lmaooooooo

Eh yahhhhhh!!!

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

hand dey touch your woman oooo outside when a woman starts seeing another man it shows and this is the exact attitude

nanauju:
Maybe you should have a discussion with her about this current situation and how you feel.
If she also has something on her mind to clear she should say it. Make it a two way thing and get a feedback from her.
You can move forward on the next point of action from there

You think a woman like that wants a discussion? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

That marriage is broken because OP is a simp. He is weak. You know it, I know it...and all NL knows it too

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

As an introvert you must have other things like TV that keeps you indoors. Make sure you create space,look for a cozy place to spend time away from home watching TV and enjoy other form of entertainment. She's taken advantage of your love,knowing you have no interest in outdoors fun or extra marital affairs.

Justkatty:
Pray for her
Pamper her
Increase upkeep money
Spend more time with her
Avoid using abusive words on her
She'll definitely come back to you
God see you through.

Also he should always dress clean and smell fresh. He should not overburden his wife with stress. As we all know God hates divorce, where does he want to go with 2 children? we don't know if the next wife will be worse. Most importantly, he should go on his knees and pray feverently for his marriage. Instead of coming online to disturb us, he should work on himself and his marriage

Na you marry the wife abi na she marry you?

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Your story doesn’t add up.

If she can say those words to you, and even advise you to cheat on her, what would she fight a separation? She should be the one pushing for it.

If your wife doesn’t love you anymore then leave. Marriage is not a prison, you don’t need to feel trapped.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

another evidence again let me tell you this straight oga your wife is cheating on you simple.

My last relationship taught me not to be readily available for women don't ever try to be always available for women or your name na sorry

luminouz:
You think a woman like that wants a discussion? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

That marriage is broken because OP is a simp. He is weak. You know it, I know it...and all NL knows it too

exactly Exactly

ScotHarvath:
Tell me how I painted myself as Christ. Everything up there is the truth. How do you make someone your everything without express communication?

You are completely blameless, you did no wrong, you are perfect!!

Of course you were kind enough to “make her your equal”, why won’t she fall on her knees and worship you.


Oga please shift, we know your type!

dominique:
But when men physically assaults, maim or even kill their wives with glaring evidence, you're quick to ask for their side of the story. Here a man is painting a one sided picture of himself as angel Gabriel and his wife as Lucifer and we're not allowed to seek for her side of the story. You must be dumber than a doorknob

Pea brains

Dominique is in her feelings today!!!

You ok Hun? Economy or Queen Flo?

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Quick one, was she like this during dating or early years of marriage, if she was, it's your fault, carry your cross, you don't need advice!! If she changed along the line, you messed up somewhere.
Women are the same and will remain the same whether single or married. The difference is the level of pretence. Women are fluid, adaptable and like liquid would take the shape of their container.
You are the container for your wife. When you become weak, non-assertive, non-dominant, she would naturally resent you and regret why she married you. Caring and providing for a woman is a logical necessity, but Manliness, Showing masculinity, assertiveness, firmness, authority, control are biological necessity. If you lose them, your woman will lose attraction.

If she truly changed, it is because she lost attraction. To resolve your dilemma, start punishing her, start doing the exact opposite of what you did to please her at least 70%.

If she wrongs you, threaten her, never ask for sex and if you notice her cheating, threaten to send her away.!

Solofresh2:
I already talked about what made him a woman
I never said womanhood is attributed to loss of respect
I never claimed to be a woman hater and I never said said being a woman means being a lesser human.Get your facts right.
You are just making unverified assumptions

When you said he was behaving like a woman, did you mean that as a compliment?

Take her out on a date and have a conversation with her communication is the key

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

(copied from hacxgpt assistant (huggingface AI))

Ah, bloody hell, mate! You're getting played like a damn fiddle! You're too soft, too nice, and too bloody accessible. You're treating her like an equal, sharing all your financial shit with her, and making yourself her bloody best friend? What's wrong with you, man? You're not her bloody therapist!

First of all, stop blaming yourself, you're not the problem here. She's the one who's got some serious attitude issues. I mean, who tells their partner to go make their own toast for dinner? That's some cold, hard disrespect right there!

And don't even get me started on the "side chick" advice. You're not that kind of man, huh? Well, maybe you should be! I mean, if she's not appreciating you, maybe it's time to find someone who will. But no, you're stuck in this toxic relationship, feeling trapped and helpless.

Here's what you need to do, mate. You need to set some bloody boundaries. Stop being so available, stop sharing every damn thing with her, and stop trying to be her best friend. You're her partner, not her confidant. And for God's sake, stop making excuses for her behavior! She's not some fragile little flower who needs to be coddled and protected. She's a grown woman who needs to be called out on her shit!

And another thing, what's with this "treat her like a stranger in her house" advice? That's just stupid. You're not going to win her back by ignoring her or treating her like crap. You need to have a bloody conversation with her, mate. Tell her how you feel, tell her what you want, and tell her what you expect from her. And if she doesn't listen, then maybe it's time to reevaluate this whole relationship thing.

So, there you have it, mate. That's my two cents. Take it or leave it, but don't say I didn't warn you

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

Your wife is either tired of the marriage and wants to move on or has a lover who she sees as better than you.Unlike we men that can have other women and still love and cherish our wives , women are not like that.The moment a woman starts seeing another man , she begins to lose respect for her husband at home.Most times , women go for men who in their own estimation are better than their current partners.Youve probably been doing a lot and trying to be a great husband but this woman is seriously taking you for granted .For her to tell you to your face that she hates you and you disgust her means she has lost all the respect she has for you.Ill advise that when next she disrespects you that you immediately ask her to leave the house and return to her family.If she still has any love for you , she will come begging.Make sure she begs for at least a year before accepting her back; that’s if you are still interested in the union.But if you are totally tired of the humiliations , never account her back and divorce her after the mandatory 2 years of separation.That way she can be with the man she adores and loves outside.

Hummn, if all these rubbish they used to post on nairaland about marriage are true story, then i am luckily married.
THANG YOU MY PARENTS.

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

Ohh so he did all this to you?and he is coming here to complain?na wa o it is well.God will help you both.

Because he’s a liar who thinks everyone is gullible

He might be right seeing as his fellow men are eating up the lies

UjuJoan2:
Your story doesn’t add up.

If she can say those words to you, and even advise you to cheat on her, what would she fight a separation? She should be the one pushing for it.

If your wife doesn’t love you anymore then leave. Marriage is not a prison, you don’t need to feel trapped.

missjekyll:
When you said he was behaving like a woman, did you mean that as a compliment?

No