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Diamond1605:
He won’t be able to do that, so that he won’t get exposed.
You sabi

It is very clear that you probably know this op, or better still you are a friend of the estranged wife if not the wife

Your wife have seen through you finish.

It is so wrong to treat women as equal. Not only Nigerian women.

They get wet who they can look up to. Not you that can't keep two relationships

What you can do.

Resume your duty fully.

Provide all finances, kindly turn down her money and refund any money she spent for the house with some interest sef.

Run your home fully with your money.

And improve your bed game.

She will notice.

She look up to and she is beginning to hate herself for choosing a weak man for herself.

She may have started cheating on you too, be vigilant but don't stress yourself with that and until she raise your suspicious or finally get caught.

Man up, take back your home.

missjekyll:
You used being a woman as an insult. That is misogyny. What if I compared you to my dog? Is that OK?

Recognise and own your misogyny. What you do about it is entirely your beeswax.
Texas schmexas ,visiting is different from working in Texas.

The issue here is between a man and his wife. A woman to be precise so what brings about a dog here
Oga go and worship your women in peace and leave me alone

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Please let her see the other version of you now and then return back to your old version. Prove to her that you can wage war and then show her that you are gracious, her head go correct. Too much gentility is not good.

[quote author=RavagedHeart post=130522976][/quote]Shrugs. Hammered not even beaten if in Nigeria. If elsewhere, they ll be banged up in jail with their life in ruins. I don't play

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Who told you you're a good man?

I know you made up this story. I don't think you're married.

All the same, if your wife is acting the way you said, move out of the house, but keep sending her money for upkeep of the kids.

When the dust settle, una go either settle or separate.

So sorry about what you're going through.. Give her some.space like 2 weeks nd if nothing change , get a spare Heart just incase oh, then go through her WhatsApp and deleted text messages.. Maybe then you'll Use the secretariat youth to send her away.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

U re weak bro...too weak

Maybe it's due to ur emotions but wrong can never be right and vice versa...
U re weak, too weak to handle her. That is just the truth

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

my brother this was what I was discussing with my sister last night. I told her over the phone to be careful in her upcoming marriage by respecting her husband and never taking him for granted for being there for her because women in their fish brain look down on men who are always available to meet their needs. You now see men who smoke, drink, keep late nights, club and carry women getting respected in their homes because the fish brain wife thinks he has options to keep body and soul together. My first marriage failed as a result of this but the second one will be navigated with more wisdom. I won't be too available anymore.

As a married man I have been there before.


The best advice I can give u is this, women love challenge. When u sound too good to them. They will definitely take you for granted.

Do this to win her back

1. Stop giving her attention. Practice it for 2 to 3 days. Women love attention.

2. Don't look for side chicks outside but pretend to be chatting with one on your phone and laughs occasionally.

3. On the bed When both of u sleep. Don't touch her or move closer to her. Even if she tries to don't give in. Just avoid her.

4. If she cooks eat it and don't thank her, just ignore as of it nothing. No comment

5. Buy good and expensive gifts for urself and the kids, or nice snacks for u and the kids only especially something she loves most.

6. Deny her of every attention and she will come begging u to change.

But if nothing works. Tell her you will be traveling for a week or two and u can stay at a friend's place. Just be calling her once a day just to ask her about the kids.
Before the week runs out she will realize and miss u. Oftentimes wen a person is too available u lose self worth. But wen u re scarce they will really long to be with you.

About the sexual aspect that she denied u. She may not be cheating or about. Most time lady get bored about sex especially after giving birth to 1-2 kids. As a man it easier to get honey but 4 them the urge reduce greatly.
This is what u should do. Try and prepare her psychologically.

Once u are on good terms. Try this

1. Take her out to catch funs, maybe going to eat pepper soup or watch a movie or an outing.

2. Make Sexual jokes during the day letting her know tonight will be fire 4 fire

3. Avoid any issues that can lead to her getting upsets at that period cos that will kills d mood.

4 at night change your sex venue (not on bed) method to maybe in the bathroom, or the couch or chair.. be romantic and practice alot of pre-intimacy with her. Take ur time Don't rush in
She will definitely love the experience and once u want to do it repeat the same experience. It works 4 me and it can also work 4u.
Shalom.

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

You can still make your point without calling him a coward. The very fact that you quickly rushed into abuse is a clear sign you are just like the wife he spoke of or will be in the future. There is an inherent problem with most woman even if a man is Jesus christ. You are a bad woman!

cococandy:
You haven’t really said the truth about the purpose of this your thread 😏😒

here we go ..

All of the things op said made no sense to you Instead you're bothered Abt what the intent was for creating the thread .. just imagine.


Small time, men are toxic naim dem go dey talk.... Just fvcking imagine for fvck sake..

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

Another one ..


Una dey see am ...

Villa12:
I hate old cargo like you old in age but not in brain. He came to a faceless forum to paint his wife black and old man like you will obviously swallow it without hearing from the other party.

You can't be an alpha male for nothing so i understand you quite alright

You again?

E be like sey you don finally receive the 15K to patch your leaky roof. For you to be online attacking people in this rainy season, make e no be sey na under bridge you take dey type this.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

This is what happens when SIMPS marry Nigerian women.

CaptainGo:
Who told you you're a good man?

I know you made up this story. I don't think you're married.

All the same, if your wife is acting the way you said, move out of the house, but keep sending her money for upkeep of the kids.

When the dust settle, una go either settle or separate.

you are the one rather who I think is not married because what he wrote up there happens in 80% of Nigerian homes.

God1000:
why the cynicism sis? from his story here, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the kind of person he is.

He's a good man.

Someone that cooks for his wife ..

How many naija man go do that one..

Yet she still doubts the goodness .. you see all of them are just looking for what to justify the wife's actions cause they'd do the same and feel no remorse abt it ..


Trust me. If was in the op shoes, one little disrespect, just one friggin one. You're out to the streets and I won't fvcking look back ...

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

First thing first...do away with your bad advisers, I can see that you have so many of them. Respect is EARNED not DEMANDED, you need to start communicating better and showing love to your wife. Hate is a strong word, look inward and see where to adjust to know why your woman can use such strongwl word to address you. Treat her with love and she ll respond with respect

dominique:
Let's hear the other side of the story first.

Right!!!

If reverse was the case, I bet this wouldn't have been the next thought on your head...

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Haaa. I was about to praise you but this your last paragraph messed everything up.


Why is it that person wey get cap no get head?

cococandy:
Sorry I’m not easily fooled.

Read the comments he’s getting exactly what he wants. For people to tell him to start misbehaving

If he’s that good and she hates him for no reason, he can divorce. I’m a proponent of divorce when only one party is doing everything they can to make the relationship work and the other party just refuses to cooperate. He should get a divorce and stop the stories that touch.

Really are you married. All you just said is easier said than done

dominique:
But when men physically assaults, maim or even kill their wives with glaring evidence, you're quick to ask for their side of the story. Here a man is painting a one sided picture of himself as angel Gabriel and his wife as Lucifer and we're not allowed to seek for her side of the story. You must be dumber than a doorknob

Pea brains

If you like insult me finish, na your papa u dey insult

When females accuse men of raping without evidence and sometimes to ruin his career. You give social media judgement and cancel him without airing his opinion.


When it’s women’s turn; let’s hear from her first.

Double standard of people with iq of dust

RPG2020:
My woman told me same thing.she said i you and the kids she is always bitter and angry 😡 any problem first thing she will carry knife 🗡️

do you live at the next house to mine ?? Cause those couples ehn , their midnight bickering no be here .. naso guyman run comot fir house say wife wan choke am knife . For midnight fa... The man say she does that everytime and he's getting scared ..


Me, I don kuku don store olokpa number for my phone .. Any bullshiit like this, I go call olokpa, before olokpa go dey disturb everybody for neighborhood say them dey find murder suspect ..

Kobojunkie:
That is a silly proverb.

prove it's a silly proverb

Silentgroper:
prove it's a silly proverb

You only need to go to the park on a typical day to note how ridiculous that claim is. Dogs are not stewpid.

Get an office space, don't stay at home always
Be scarce to her .

baraboo98:
If a man can cook and sweep for a woman while she sleep isnt okay i wonder what again she need. Omo the woman get luck. Me cook you the sleep. Ha ha ha...... Heaven go shake.

as in me sef shock .. me cook for .......

Heaven go too shake .. it's either we're both in that kitchen or you alone are in the kitchen .. but me alone in the kitchen, na only jazz fit work that kind thing.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

Oga stop being a simp and be a man. Otherwise she won't respect you.

Kobojunkie:
You only need to go to the park on a typical day to note how ridiculous that claim is. Dogs are not stewpid.

do you think it's just a day feeding the proverb is referring too?!

Silentgroper:
do you think it's just a day feeding the proverb is referring too?!

many dogs at the park have no owners. They don't bark at any of those who feed them. They are very tame around those who feed them.

Kobojunkie:
many dogs at the park have no owners. They don't bark at any of those who feed them. They are very tame around those who feed them.

[African proverb says that when your dog starts barking at you that dog is being fed by another person. The above proverb has nothing to do with dogs🐕



It's in bolded.. now read carefully and slowly ...


Cause it seems you have no content understanding of the proverbs..

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

Omoh be like the wife don show ooo