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Silentgroper:
[African proverb says that when your dog starts barking at you that dog is being fed by another person. The above proverb has nothing to do with dogs🐕
It's in bolded.. now read carefully and slowly ...
Cause it seems you have no content understanding of the proverbs..

I see this one keeps going over your head! A dog with more than 1 person feeding it does not necessarily bark at any of those that do! If you are having difficulty grasping this, I suggest you take your time to process it some more instead of being quick to respond.

opera1:
What are you doing outside by 10pm leaving your family? She's not an animal. Truth is missing from this your narration

how's 10pm a late hour ...

Anything 11pm to me is late hour.. My wife can't be dictating the time I get home .. she isn't the one paying bills .. If she so wishes to have an say in issues like that, she can start taking up responsibilities of the family .. Only then would I take her serious...

Kobojunkie:
I see this one keeps going over your head! A dog with more than 1 person feeding it does not necessarily bark at any of those that do! If you are having difficulty grasping this, I suggest you take your time to process it some more instead of being quick to respond.

let me break it down In more simpler terms for easy comprehension for you .


I own a dog, but I never feed it but instead someone else does for a long period of time .. who will the dog perceives as his owner, the one who feeds it or the one who doesn't?? And which is it liable to bark at in that situation??


I hope you're not on shrooms.. pls tell me if you're so I wouldn't be wasting my time ..

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

A New dick speaking through your wife, Hahahaha 🤣

Silentgroper:
let me break it down In more simpler terms for easy comprehension for you. I own a dog, but I never feed it but instead someone else does for a long period of time .. who will the dog perceives as his owner, the one who feeds it or the one who doesn't?? And which is it liable to bark at in that situation?? I hope you're not on shrooms.. pls tell me if you're so I wouldn't be wasting my time ..

Actually, dogs are not humans and don't reason as humans do. There are many examples out there of dogs staying loyal to owners who starve and brutalize them, so I don't think you are trying hard to grasp this at all. Dogs are not humans and should not be expected to act as humans act.

Thinking all humans act the same is faulty logic, and believing dogs act like humans is equally faulty reasoning.

Kobojunkie:
I see this one keeps going over your head! A dog with more than 1 person feeding it does not necessarily bark at any of those that do! If you are having difficulty grasping this, I suggest you take your time to process it some more instead of being quick to respond.

I can see you're already here STANDING LOGIC on its head as usual.

You're the HELINUS & MANNABBQGRILLZ of ROMANCE SECTION; always supporting evil whilst trying to sound smart. You no dey tire ni?

For a woman to treat her husband with such contempt, what justification could there be to warrant such? You're still here playing the DEVIL'S ADVOCATE as usual. If this was politics section, shebi we would have thought you too are on 30K monthly payroll. Seriously? How low can you go? Must you always sound ANTITHETICAL all the time?

PS- I haven't even read your comments on the subject but I'm 100% sure you'll justify the woman's actions.

AngelicBeing:
A New dick speaking through your wife, Hahahaha 🤣

I love the way the guy uses words, I swear, even though I may disagree with some of his opinions. I love reading Namaster's comments.

Sapasenator:
I love the way the guy uses words, I swear, even though I may disagree with some of his opinions. I love reading namaster's comments.

Gbamsulotely

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

Are you just sharing your experience or are you soliciting for advice? You already said you can't take advice

cococandy:
He wants people to tell him to stop being a “good” husband, so that he can feel justified in his nonsense that he’s plotting.

That’s if the wife even exists. For all we know this is just another one of them women hating threads.

Instead of me begging to differ, I'm quite begging to agree with your submission. ...

Respect towards each other is a virtue that should never be lost in marriage regardless how old you two become in the marriage.

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

Can you tell us your own side of the story, I promise not to judge, is it true you are treating him as described above. What really happened between the two of you?

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

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Ebubu2:
If you like insult me finish, na your papa u dey insult

When females accuse men of raping without evidence and sometimes to ruin his career. You give social media judgement and cancel him without airing his opinion.

When it’s women’s turn; let’s hear from her first.

Double standard of people with iq of dust

Just as you called your mother and all your female relatives dumb blocks. It's only an irredeemable idiot that swallows a one sided story because it suits his sick narrative. You dolts will ask for the other side of the story in cases of DV against women even in cases that result in death. Now asking for another version of a one sided story is now an abomination. You must be suffering from generational stupidity. For the sake of humanity, don't ever procreate.

Kobojunkie:
Actually, dogs are not humans and don't reason as humans do. There are many examples out there of dogs staying loyal to owners who starve and brutalize them, so I don't think you are trying hard to grasp this at all. Dogs are not humans and should not be expected to act as humans act.

Thinking all humans act the same is faulty logic, and believing dogs act like humans is equally faulty reasoning.

I've seen a real life situation of that proverbs play out .. I even know someone here on NL that has happened to .

No one is saying dog act like humans .. it's just basic instinct of dogs.. you feed it, pet it shelter it, yiu become its owner, you don't, you're not . It's just that basic . There's no point attaching anymore to it. They're animals fgs, I'd never compare them to humans even though some have been able to exhibit high intelligence of human due to consistent trainings on that course..

ravensckar:
I can see you're already here STANDING LOGIC on its head as usual.

You're the HELINUS & MANNABBQGRILLZ of ROMANCE SECTION; always supporting evil whilst trying to sound smart. You no dey tire ni?

For a woman to treat her husband with such contempt, what justification could there be to warrant such? You're still here playing the DEVIL'S ADVOCATE as usual. If this was politics section, shebi we would have thought you too are on 30K monthly payroll. Seriously? How low can you go? Must you always sound ANTITHETICAL all the time?

PS- I haven't even read your comments on the subject but I'm 100% sure you'll justify the woman's actions.

At the last statement, it already did..

Silentgroper:
At the last statement, it already did..

Lolz! A leopard never truly changes its spots.

I sha know Kobojunkie will never apportion blame to the lady. Supporting evil is in her DNA.

Silentgroper:
■ I've seen a real life situation of that proverbs play out .. I even know someone here on NL that has happened to .
■ No one is saying dog act like humans .. it's just basic instinct of dogs.. you feed it, pet it shelter it, yiu become its owner, you don't, you're not . It's just that basic . There's no point attaching anymore to it. They're animals fgs, I'd never compare them to humans even though some have been able to exhibit high intelligence of human due to consistent trainings on that course..

Are you actually trying to pitch just one real-life claim with millions of counter claims out there, all of them equally "real life"?

2. The simple of this is that the proverb is wrong about dogs.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

I knew it. If a woman is denying u sex it means u have stop being attractive in her eyes. Now staying at home too much can make u boring and dull if u are not naturally the Interesting and emotionally aware type. If u stay alot at home like work from home u have to be able to read the room and even harder read urself accurately cos u can get too comfortable and lose ur excitement and sharpness. Its same way some house wives get dull and boring staying at home unless they natural know how to find different activities to do that keeps them active and mentally and physically sharp.

If uve done nothing wrong to offend her then ur probably boring her yo death with ur monotonous presence or activities or attitude. Some women don't mind but some women do mind.

When this happens their look for or get attracted to more Interesting personalities. Ur introvert nature may have betrayed or played u abit into becoming a shadow of urself. She notices these changes and is bored sick. She probably needs a man not a just bestie or talking buddy she's unattractive to by the day.

She obviously doesn't want to leave u but she wants u to read room and basically her mind and silent communication.

SPAMBOX7:
How you be telling a woman about your finances you must be a chatterbox. No wonder she detests you.
I have no sympathy for weak men.
Carry your cross

Really ? Doesn’t the wife of Tinubu know about her husbands finances? Those Mummy GO
like Mummy Folu Adeboye and Mummy Faith Oyedepo who are loyal to their husbands to a fault , don’t they know about the husbands finances? The woman is just rebellious and extremely mean.She probably has another man outside already.There are thousands- if not millions-of women who know all about their husbands finances - even very poor men- but still love them 1000%.Your point here is not generic.Yes ; it’s good for a man to keep some stuffs to himself but a wife knowing everything about her husband isn’t enough grounds to disrespect and loathe him.A good wife would always speak highly of her husband and esteem him highly no matter what.

cococandy:
This literally the reason why OP created this thread. So he’ll have people come join him and tell men not to be good husbands and fathers.

On Father’s Day for that matter.

Make una rest small. At least for today.

This is all you could glean from the whole Lamentations. Well, manipulations does not help ladies anymore because guys have also upgraded.

Get a second wife.

A question for you is : Are you married? Your response sounds so much like that of someone is still being fed by their parents, plays ps5 all day and of cause has few mb of data to spew what you just typed up there.

Namaster:
"She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me."

That's a NEW dick speaking through your wife. You wife started tasting a new dick a couple of months ago and that's when it started.

She only asked you to stay because the new dick knows she's a LovePeddler and will not have anything serious with her. He'll fuuuck the shit out of her, though.

The fact that you stayed after being told to your face that you are no different from FAECES to her shows you have ZERO respect for yourself.

You have NO boundaries. So get ready for MORE. She'll start BEATING you soon.

You are the WET dream of abusive whores—an introvert with LOW self-esteem who'll SWEEP the house while a bitch is in bed SLEEPING till 10 o' clock. If you have a little money, your LovePeddler has hit the jackpot.

You'll NOT listen but I'll tell you anyway:

Get a DNA test for both kids. Then KICK her out. No matter the results of the DNA tests, KICK HER OUT.

ScotHarvath:
I have been noticing this things for the past couple of months. She even said recently in a fight that I disgust her and she hated me, I wanted to call for a separation after hearing such strong words but she pleaded and I acquiesced.

We have two kids.

Yesterday which was Father’s Day, she woke up at 10 o clock, before she did, I had slept the house and prepared breakfast because I felt she needed to rest.


I went out to with my friends around 6pm and came back around 10pm and asked her to help make toast for dinner and she boldly told me to go the kitchen and make it myself.

I really blame myself for this situation now, I made myself to accessible to all. I barely keep friends. So I made her my best friend, tell her everything about my finances and all. I treat her as an equal.


Is it wrong to treat a Nigerian woman well this days?


Everybody is advising me to get a side chick but I’m not that kind of man, I’m not sneaky or crafty enough to maintain two relationships.

I have been told to stop spending time with her at home but I’m an introvert, I don’t like frolicking with other people unless it’s absolutely necessary and besides I work from home.

I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

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You can turn the tide in your marriage and gain upper hand in the marriage or dating game. Thank me later

Diamond1605:
Lies lies you won’t say how you beat her like a drum, you won’t say how you cheated more than 8 times with 8 different women.

You won’t say how you always insult her and her family.

You won’t say how you step on her while beating her.

You won’t say how you made her feel like she is not a human

Those your friends advising you will definitely lead you astray

Come out and say the full story
Coward

why reason like this?must everything be related to beating?to think am breathing in the same oxygen with ur kinda irks

Silentgroper:
how's 10pm a late hour ...

Anything 11pm to me is late hour.. My wife can't be dictating the time I get home .. she isn't the one paying bills .. If she so wishes to have an say in issues like that, she can start taking up responsibilities of the family .. Only then would I take her serious...

you're not a wise man obviously. Any man that belives his wife cannot advise or call him to attention whenever is wrong is obviously not a wise man. If you think paying bills is eldorado then you're deceiving yourself. She's a woman. It won't take her much time to secure a job when she starts going out and she'd be supporting the house. If you come in 10pm, she can come in 11pm abi since she's contributing. Let's see what will become your family

ibechris:
If u want to solve this problem.

Get another apartment and leave her there,tell her u are tired of her and possibly considering marrying another woman.

This economy alone will teach her a very big lesson,I mean a big lesson that,except she changes for good.

U didn't cause anything,that is the best way to treat a woman after all,don't u have sisters.

In my case,I have a job but I work from home too...I bought my wife a car,I take care of her and my children. I tell her everything about my income/business and even include her name in all the lands i have,Sometimes I cook before she comes back from work,I make sure her room heater is on and she doesn't play with me.

I think in ur case,she is ungrateful and insolent...that is why she feels comfortable disrespecting u.

Don't gloat yet brother. You will still be served. Those creature are never loyal to a kind man. You have already tied yourself to her umblical cord by putting her name as joint owner to your properties and making her aware of it. Soon she will not have need for you again and it will be too late to undo those knots. You will be sorry.

ibechris:
Na lie,I hate it when we make it look like a woman is a log of wood. What do u then say,when the woman begs a man for sex?

That is simply a fat lie...women get tired too that she declined sex now does not mean that the marriage is about to fail.

You are obviously single. I respect your point of view, but understand that this topic is beyond your experience.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

It’s because you are always available.
Try to be scarce please.
Stop all those chores, if you’re not appreciated.
If she can’t serve you food,,, eat out before coming home.
Try and be happy always, don’t let anyone make you sad.
If you can’t have sex outside, try mastubation.

dominique:
Just as you called your mother and all your female relatives dumb blocks. It's only an irredeemable idiot that swallows a one sided story because it suits his sick narrative. You dolts will ask for the other side of the story in cases of DV against women even in cases that result in death. Now asking for another version of a one sided story is now an abomination. You must be suffering from generational stupidity. For the sake of humanity, don't ever procreate.

Toxic woman.

This is how you talk to your father and husband at home. No wonder you’re showing your frustration and vile nature from home online

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

She is cheating on you, the reason for her hate and tantrums, plus she doesn't wants to separate because she knows the other guy servicing her will leave her immediately that happens because no money from you to fund their relationship.........

To all married men out there once your wife start giving excuses when you want to fvck her just know she is cheating on you.....

SOLUTION
If according to you, you still want to keep her, stop giving her money, even money for transport, anything needed in the house you buy it yourself.....including her pads.......in a month time her head will correct.......

Block all finances to her including pocket money, plus don't show or tell her about your financial standing it is a source of disrespect and billing for women.........

Plus to spice things up, buy chains and padlocks and keep under the bed so next time she refuses to fvck u u chain her to the bed when she is sleeping, wake her up and fvck her..........

Amumaigwe:
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You can turn the tide in your marriage and gain upper hand in the marriage or dating game. Thank me later

some of you men dish out what you cannot take. If a woman advice her fellow woman to reach out to two men on Facebook to learn how to take advantage of their husbands. I hope you will be happy reading that from women right?