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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Paramount01(m): 8:34pm On Jun 16, 2024

FreeSpirited:
Plan a fake travel or conference together with ur wife...tell them ur family have to travel....they should have sense with this scope and fly out of ur life. Ur wife has to support u on this or else it won't work...
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2nd scope is to tell them directly that, your ability to take full responsibility of the house is becoming unbearable in this hard economy that ur earnings can not support more than 2 mouths at the moment coupled with expensive baby food, that u are resorting to borrow.......If u can do this second trips... they will respect ur manliness or boldness and won't take u for granted cos they know u wont take rubbish.

3rd scope......If the above 2 don't work,,,,,,then reduce the quality of food they cook and eat drastically...This scope is a silent scope....u dont need to explain to ur wife, just cook a fake story of how u no longer have enough cash...maybe work related or project related...make ur wife believe the fake story....
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E.g if they use fish for stew, cut it to only egg.....reduce soup to once a week or once in two weeks....let them eat more of beans( give them garri with the beans instead of dodo+bread) cook vegetables soup without meat, instead use Shawa fish...lol....this may cause quarell with ur wife,,,don't shy away from the quarrel, infact welcome it and use the avenue to voice out on ur wife so that everyone will hear ur complain of lack of fund and have sense.....
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Economy is hard, they are using u to chop free food..... ...u have to be smart or die in silence

Pls what is the meaning ofr cooking soup onec in a week,if the soup fins before the weeks runs out what will you now be eating?

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Bankowner: 8:42pm On Jun 16, 2024

I hope you're not the same OP who has been working his ass off to maintain his wife's family.

Na wife you marry, no be all her family. They are supposed to bring, yet dem dey come collect. Better sit your wife down and have a heart to heart conversation with her.

If you're unable to save and something happens that'll require money and you don't have it, na dem go first ask wetin you dey do with your money.

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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by pansophist(m): 9:12pm On Jun 16, 2024

FreeSpirited:
Plan a fake travel or conference together with ur wife...tell them ur family have to travel....they should have sense with this scope and fly out of ur life. Ur wife has to support u on this or else it won't work...
.
2nd scope is to tell them directly that, your ability to take full responsibility of the house is becoming unbearable in this hard economy that ur earnings can not support more than 2 mouths at the moment coupled with expensive baby food, that u are resorting to borrow.......If u can do this second trips... they will respect ur manliness or boldness and won't take u for granted cos they know u wont take rubbish.

3rd scope......If the above 2 don't work,,,,,,then reduce the quality of food they cook and eat drastically...This scope is a silent scope....u dont need to explain to ur wife, just cook a fake story of how u no longer have enough cash...maybe work related or project related...make ur wife believe the fake story....
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E.g if they use fish for stew, cut it to only egg.....reduce soup to once a week or once in two weeks....let them eat more of beans( give them garri with the beans instead of dodo+bread) cook vegetables soup without meat, instead use Shawa fish...lol....this may cause quarell with ur wife,,,don't shy away from the quarrel, infact welcome it and use the avenue to voice out on ur wife so that everyone will hear ur complain of lack of fund and have sense.....
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Economy is hard, they are using u to chop free food..... ...u have to be smart or die in silence

He should do number two. Why lie?

Tell them straight up that they are a burden on your family and they should leave. If them vex, that's their problem. Every person have a right to dump unwarranted burden as he deem fit.

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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Sapasenator: 10:02pm On Jun 16, 2024

pansophist:

He should do number two. Why lie?

Tell them straight up that they are a burden on your family and they should leave. If them vex, that's their problem. Every person have a right to dump unwarranted burden as he deem fit.

Na, you cannot tell them that lest you create an enmity for life, you have to stylishly let them know it is time to leave and you will be inviting them at a different time.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Innomach(m): 10:15pm On Jun 16, 2024

Funny guy! But just to let you know that marrying a virgin doesn't garrantee faithfulness in marriage. Pray you don't learn it in a bitter way. I've seen girls that were raised in a very strict home that they never had the opportunity to misbehave but went wild after marriage... Judging from your writeup, I guess you're still an amateur. But like I said, pray you don't find out in a hard way that virginity or not, a woman that wants to cheat will still cheat.

Lalami3232:
While others are advising you rightly and wrongly, let me use this medium to enlighten my fellow men nationwide with the good news. OP did you meet her as a virgin? If NO, then the sentence below is also for you.

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooo because boreholes aka non-virgins can't be trusted atall atall

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Sniper101(m): 10:18pm On Jun 16, 2024

something tells me your in-laws are from one peculiar tribe in that country; Nigeria grin

They're known for pestering their in-laws with incessant visits.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by IMMUNO1(m): 10:28pm On Jun 16, 2024

For the sake of a pregnant future, don't discuss this with your wife. She will simply conclude that you chased her family away, and that will create a big gap between her and your family forever. You need to create another bank account if your wife has access to the current account/s. Then, just buy some little general stuff and more stuffs for the baby and your wife. When the food finishes, pretend as if things no too dey okay with you. Those people will voluntarily leave within 3 days after the artificial famine has set in in the house. When they are fully gone, you can start reastalking the house gradually. Don't tell anyone to leave your house, it may boomerang tomorrow.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by TheBillyonaire: 10:33pm On Jun 16, 2024

Wakatumbit:
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the past 3 months, we have dedicated our baby already and my wife has even learnt to bath the baby and do things by herself when it comes to the baby.

I don't have an issue with the mom staying with us but ever since she came my wife's siblings has been coming to the house, her elder brother and sister and sometimes they stay up to a week.

With the two of them that makes us five in the house and feeding five people in this economy is not easy. I just looked at my bank statement this evening and in the last 2 weeks I've spent over 250k on expenses, from feeding to fuel, to baby food. If it's just me and my wife we won't be spending that much.

I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night.

But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly

What you are saying in essence is that instead of one person coming for Baby sitting, you have 3 persons, Mother, Sister and Brother in addition to your own wife and kid.

By the way, your mother in law is supposed to be there for a year, or atleast 6 months. The challenge is that the mother may be the bread winner, so as she moved, the bread eaters joined her, cos you are now winning the bread.

I know you have created the impression that you are a financial odogwu so it is hard to complain, so why not fake a work travel and assign specific amount to your wife and when they exhaust it, she'd complain to them in your absence and may be they will get the message? It is better than toasting your sister in law and causing them to scatter thinkin you are irresponsible, but it is still an option since you dont wanna tell them you are broke.

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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by ABANGWABOI(m): 11:06pm On Jun 16, 2024

iamL:
Bit if your in-laws are Dangote children they can sleep over? It's a mean person that wouldn't allow an in-law to pass a night. Thats extreme.

I am not married to dangote's daughter hence they can't be my in law...
The example you gave only happens in Nollywood and life isn't Nollywood..
Cheers .

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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by 2mch(m): 1:14am On Jun 17, 2024

Be very careful how you handle in-laws. Na women own the home. If you chase her family your own no go even pass the gate. It will be HOT for them.

Only her mother has right to be there right now. Talk to her and tell her you can’t afford to feed the others as they come weekly. That you have tried but the mother will probably need to stay longer, have a defined time for how long her mother will stay and how long yours will too.

Trust that she will not want your mother there, in fact after 2 months she go don discharge your mother with style. Women are very good at this thing so just deal with her family very carefully.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by kingthreat(m): 5:02am On Jun 17, 2024

Emma1Oj:
Nooooo... Don't mention "Edo" like that again make i no take am personal with you..

Where you get dat info from😠😠guy no tempt me ooo.. before i go use Osime format for you.

No vex sir. It happened to some peeps I know that married from there. No mean say na all of them

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by thunderbabs: 5:07am On Jun 17, 2024

Wipe dem USB cord for head when they are eating grin

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Father4all: 5:36am On Jun 17, 2024

Did they want to kill you. I hate your wife for that

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by NezzyMike: 6:32am On Jun 17, 2024

This happens when you marry a housewife that doesn't care about how the economy is.

The best solution is to discuss with your wife about her mum leaving, foodstuffs are so expensive now coupled with 2 extra mouths.
Staying for 3 months is already enough abeg.

You can as well tell her your mum is coming over and wouldn't like two of them to be together.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Nobody: 6:51am On Jun 17, 2024

It’s never easy dealing with in-laws because of how easily it can lead to disputes that may never end in a marriage.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Taiwo20(m): 7:15am On Jun 17, 2024

Wakatumbit:
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the past 3 months, we have dedicated our baby already and my wife has even learnt to bath the baby and do things by herself when it comes to the baby.

I don't have an issue with the mom staying with us but ever since she came my wife's siblings has been coming to the house, her elder brother and sister and sometimes they stay up to a week.

With the two of them that makes us five in the house and feeding five people in this economy is not easy. I just looked at my bank statement this evening and in the last 2 weeks I've spent over 250k on expenses, from feeding to fuel, to baby food. If it's just me and my wife we won't be spending that much.

I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night.

But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly

Act broke for two weeks. Buying in small quantities up to Maggie #100. But don't neglect the mother and child while acting.

They would go if their own accord.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by ogunsbanjul(m): 7:49am On Jun 17, 2024

Discuss with your wife calmly and if she is against your view, just take like 5 clothes, leave the house for her and the family for like 2 weeks but try and be sending little that can take care of the wife and the baby and other children if any. If she calls make sure you tell her that, there's need for you to leave the house because you don't have much again to feed the whole members of the family and that you don't want her family to see you as bad person. This is necessary because she might put the call on speaker for her family to listen or recording it. Dear brother it's better to shame them before they kill you financially. My advice for you

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by DemonSlayer: 9:46am On Jun 17, 2024

Wakatumbit:
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the past 3 months, we have dedicated our baby already and my wife has even learnt to bath the baby and do things by herself when it comes to the baby.

I don't have an issue with the mom staying with us but ever since she came my wife's siblings has been coming to the house, her elder brother and sister and sometimes they stay up to a week.

With the two of them that makes us five in the house and feeding five people in this economy is not easy. I just looked at my bank statement this evening and in the last 2 weeks I've spent over 250k on expenses, from feeding to fuel, to baby food. If it's just me and my wife we won't be spending that much.

I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night.

But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly

Sir, I want to dedicate this song to this thread.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIlQahjLTQo?list=RDWIlQahjLTQo

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by TableLeg(m): 10:38am On Jun 17, 2024

Wakatumbit:
My wife gave birth and her mom has been staying with us for the past 3 months, we have dedicated our baby already and my wife has even learnt to bath the baby and do things by herself when it comes to the baby.

I don't have an issue with the mom staying with us but ever since she came my wife's siblings has been coming to the house, her elder brother and sister and sometimes they stay up to a week.

With the two of them that makes us five in the house and feeding five people in this economy is not easy. I just looked at my bank statement this evening and in the last 2 weeks I've spent over 250k on expenses, from feeding to fuel, to baby food. If it's just me and my wife we won't be spending that much.

I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night.

But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly

I no dey put mouth for family matter. undecided

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by hooklover: 10:39am On Jun 17, 2024

Tell ur wife to cater 4 feeding. If she agrees no worry urself if not just tell dem gatger all of them plus ur wife tell them u want to know wen dey are going home that tgey have tried..

Let them talk wen dey will go that u apprecuare dere presence and look firward to see them some other time...

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by PropertyBanker(f): 10:47am On Jun 17, 2024

Mikespecialone:
Oga fake ur sack letter ? Then u know ur real in-laws

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by colp2015: 11:10am On Jun 17, 2024*

Wakatumbit:
I'm thinking of telling my wife to tell her brother and sister to go leaving only they mom and they shouldn't be coming at all, they can visit but they shouldn't stay.

My family doesn't come around a lot and when they do visit, they don't even stay the night.

But I don't want to make it look like I'm a bad person, so how do I chase them away codedly

Use your wife's phone to send them a text message with a link to this thread.

They will get the message and move.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Gentlesoul2021(m): 12:14pm On Jun 17, 2024

Elder brother?! Kai no shame at all...

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by mtech23: 12:35pm On Jun 17, 2024

Welcome to the Club. This is the very first beginning of rough tides of marriage. After this ordeal you will make you mind if you married your wife or just a wife.
You have no business with your in-laws (except your mother in-law which you already indicated has stayed up to 3months and you don't mind her staying) so have a decent conversation about the whole set up with your wife. Be sure to give every detail. Then wait for her reaction. If she's your wife, she will be on your side. If she's just a wife you married then nobody will tell you.
In most cases, she's just a wife so brace up for the worse and go for a cold bottle of beer.
Cheers!!!

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by iamL(f): 6:17pm On Jun 17, 2024

ABANGWABOI:
I am not married to dangote's daughter hence they can't be my in law...
The example you gave only happens in Nollywood and life isn't Nollywood..
Cheers .

So the likes of Dangote families don't have in-laws? I laughed hard. Cheers to you too.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:39pm On Jun 17, 2024

Abee79:
Take your wife out and have a heart-to-heart discussion, away from all distractions. She's actually the best person to solve the problem.

PS: This is the best time to know whether you have an understanding wife or not.

If she doesn't understand . . . 🤐

Wishing you all the best! 🤞🤞🤞

You nailed it

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Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by ABANGWABOI(m): 1:21am On Jun 18, 2024

iamL:
So the likes of Dangote families don't have in-laws? I laughed hard. Cheers to you too.

You haven't heard about the Quote "To each their own" ??
I do my thing my way...
Mio dele foor laye..
Nobody go follow me feel my pain..
Igbalowo màdé...

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by benjanny(m): 8:18am On Jun 18, 2024

Call your wife to talk to them

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by charlsecy(m): 8:03pm On Jun 18, 2024

Phranx1:
show evidence your income ain't as strengthening as your expenses...

Needless.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by iamL(f): 12:28pm On Jun 19, 2024

ABANGWABOI:
You haven't heard about the Quote "To each their own" ??
I do my thing my way...
Mio dele foor laye..
Nobody go follow me feel my pain..
Igbalowo màdé...

You just dey talk that one.
Saying your in-laws cannot pass a night in your house is extreme, either na wickedness or you don see them finish.

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by ABANGWABOI(m): 12:18am On Jun 20, 2024

iamL:
You just dey talk that one.
Saying your in-laws cannot pass a night in your house is extreme, either na wickedness or you don see them finish.

Baby girl no be See Finish... Na WICKEDNESS ooo.. I've chosen to stay wicked

Re: How Do I Chase Away My Inlaws From My House by Sapasenator: 2:30am On Jun 20, 2024

iamL:
You just dey talk that one.
Saying your in-laws cannot pass a night in your house is extreme, either na wickedness or you don see them finish.

OR

Them don see you finish.

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