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Villa12:
if you don't have patience don't consider marriage bro. This is not about being woke. This generation of women aren't like our mothers likewise this generation of men aren't like our fathers. That's why they always say marriage is not a child's play. It's for matured folks. There are things both parties must tolerate, though not violence or infidelity.

You can sleep in jail if you lay your hand on your wife. No be only when you kill person you fit go jail.

I never said I'd lay my hands on them . I don't beat women .. I only said she'd go start living with her father...


I'd never touch those meek, soft, weak devilish but adorable creatures

Ebubu2:
Toxic woman.

This is how you talk to your father and husband at home. No wonder you’re showing your frustration and vile nature from home online

The toxic people are you and your fellow bushrats that justify all sorts of violence against women and are believe all sorts of trash. So for me not to be toxic, I have to join you and your fellow fear women chanters. Anybody that says you're not mad is insane.

Amumaigwe:
You are obviously single. I respect your point of view, but understand that this topic is beyond your experience.

I am a father of four.

Be calming down.

ScotHarvath:
Sex is another issue, I always have to beg for it and when I raised the issue in anger she said I can be going to get it from other girls.

I really don’t think most Nigerian girls deserve or want a cool headed man. They will show you shege.

Thinking back and seeing only the things I did I can only can myself a fool. Helping with the chores, helping with the kids, revealing everything about my finances to her, standing up to her family for once admonishing her, spending too much time with her and trying to make her my everything.


Friends have taught me a lot in this life which I why I chose to avoid friends and focus on my wife and family but this woman is making those same guys I abandoned for her call me a fool.


If there’s an altercation, she turns on off the TV and sound system so the neighbors can hear everything.


Is it wrong to be a good man and want your wife to be your best friend.

If this marriage finally fails, the next woman I will date will see another version of me

You are not a smart man for wanting another woman to see another version of you, what happens to the woman that makes you worthless? Can't you show her another version of your self and redeem your self rather another soul that might have a pure heart to love you genuinely.

If you do as you have said God will judge you.

cococandy:
OP could have divorced since.

I’m a supporter of divorce especially when such deep bitterness seems to be between them. Instead he chose to come here to recruit women haters into his campaign of calumny.

I guess he's still exploring possible solutions before it gets to that point. And there is nothing about few rants until one is finally fed up

ScotHarvath:
She said she is tired and wants to go and if I wouldn’t fight for us, I should let her go.

She's threatening you and blackmailing you emotionally. She has your button in the meantime

What have I been doing these past years?

It just hit me this morning that I might really have to let her go, if she comes back fine, if not; God knows best.

If I was the monster and beast she has been calling me for years, she won’t have stuck around till now.

You are still emotionally attached to her. She should keep pushing you until you too don't feel anything for her anymore. Na dat time she go know.

ScotHarvath:
For those saying maybe she pays the bills, she doesn’t. I have a nine to five and at least 2 other jobs that pay me well, each month rake in at least 400k depending on the month.


I don’t club, I am not materialistic so I rarely buy clothes, I don’t drink although I smoke. 94% of my earnings is spent on my home, taking care of my family.


Talking about leadership, how else do you want to lead a woman.

I have told her countless time to start reading, stop waking up late, start waking up early to plan your day, learn new skills, stop speaking pidgin, and do away with unnecessary friends. After a few weeks or days we are back to square one. There was a time I even called the brother to help talk to her about her attitude all to no avail.

She won't change her attitude, we know people like that. It is possible that she doesn't love you anymore but just decide to stay due to the financial gain she's benefiting from you. At least, you are feeding her and taking care of the house. You have to man up and take decisions that show you are the boss.
Why can't you threaten her with separation and watch what comes out of it?

Silentgroper:
as in me sef shock .. me cook for .......

Heaven go too shake .. it's either we're both in that kitchen or you alone are in the kitchen .. but me alone in the kitchen, na only jazz fit work that kind thing.

Na real man be this.

ScotHarvath:
You are very correct. Very correct, she wants to go.


I wish her luck and all the best!

I really want to kick her out now as we speak but I still being considerate because of m the children.

You really should take it easy. We women sometimes undergo a lot of emotional trauma and harbor a lot that later affect our countenances. It’s possible something is up in her throat and she doesn’t want to communicate it hence her actions/reactions. A lot of marriages have passed this stage and it wasn’t easy. If you still hold on to love please communicate more and calmly, explain how her actions is affecting you and the family. Talk about what you expect from her, talk about loving her, her body, soul, mind, wishes for the family, a lot more. Put down your jottings on a book so you can be organized when saying these things. Study her mood every time before bringing up issues and advices. Let love and peace lead. I wish you the best.

Villa12:
you don't need my judgement but you brought your family matter to the public for bitter people to applaud you and teach you how to divorce or change towards your wife? Why then do you bring your wife matter to public forum if you don't want judgement? You sef reason am.

I wanted to ignore your message at first but I saw the way you were using "bittered people" persistently.

Are you saying even a man who has had this kind of experience or a man who doesn't want stress for himself or a man who understands that women should be the last of his problems or a man who simply cannot tolerate being disrespectfed in their own homes?
You see, I'm of a royal bloodline. In our lineage. Our wives don't ever disrespect the husband.
No wife of ours would ever disrespect us, and in turn. We treat our women so good and kind.
If a man married from our family, and the woman disrespects him. If the man should come reporting. Though the wife being our daughter. She will be punished.

I don't intend to disrespect you. You talk very much like someone whom his father denied his pregnancy or neglected and was raised by a single mother.

You do not understand 21st century women. You do not need to do anything wrong before your woman resents you.
She, just seeing a different lifestyle on SM is enough for her to resent the man.
I met a woman who resents her husband just because the man is a 1 minute man.

Anyone who thinks like you is prolly a child or a baby adult.
After 10 years in marriage. A woman can wake up and starts resenting you simply because you are short.

RPG2020:
Same thing happening with me my woman said she hates me and the kids

She is always bitter no laughing no playing with the kids always angry 😡 I'm down I'm feeling for the kids we both don't deserve them when their is problem first thing she does is to carry knife 🗡️

Some idiots will say you've done something wrong and that you are not telling the absolute truth.
They do not know that some women are emotionally damaged. The kind of past they've had makes it impossible for them to be emotionally balanced.

By the way! Always dey on your widas o. You don go marry Jagunlabi Pankopii

NinaArsenal:
One man's food is another man's poison, here I am wishing and hoping my husband will spend some time with me at home and help with some chores and our baby na em another woman dey do anyhow.

Give her space and silent treatment, she go regret, focus more on the kids and ignore her as if she doesn't exist.

Be like na only you be the married woman wey dey this thread so far. You see all those cococ.andy, Dominic, diamond, bukatyne abi kin nan so mo won lorun, and their cohort are as single as a sheet of paper. Therefore I understand where their anger is coming from.

But the truth is, they would never react the same way of the OP was their brother.

limitless777:
You're obviously not a married man and or you're too immature to understand marriage 🤷🏾 and family life Sir

Don't be a tool for the devil in wrecking people's homes. Your vituperations smacks of bitterness, bile, heartlessness, low self-esteem and someone from a faulty upbringing

See a barrage of insults just because someone aired his opinion.
Haha why? Why are you so emotional?

Marriage is not a do or die. You can only save who wants to be saved.
You can drag a horse to the stream, but you can't force a drop of water down it's throat. Yoruba Adage.

Don't you know what whoever tries to save a dying relationship suffers the most?

It's obvious the woman is no longer in love with this man. The real low self esteem is trying to hard. Trying too hard to make someone love you, or see the value in you.

Real low self esteem is when a man thinks without a particular woman his whole life and purpose is finished.

Don't force someone to be with you. It brings more resentment and see finish.

In fact, some fathers have really failed in life with the way they raised some of the men we have today.

Villa12:
go and marry your mother then small boy or marry your fellow man. Na by force to marry woman? Marry your fellow man nigga

F*CK off!!
Was I talking about your mother?

ScotHarvath:
I have also been advised to treat her like a stranger in her house and not talk to her for days but once again I don’t want that kind of life. I feel truly trapped.

If your Woman is behaving toxicly towards you ... Inquire what could likely be ...

Most times it could be accumulation of nasty fluids in her Body-Systems simply take her on little vacations & blow out her Steams for her let bad fluids pops out as well as bad gases ...

She will be alright .... it's Ya job as a Man to understand your woman 100% 360° even more than she could understand herself inability to do that makes you lesser a Man for ya Woman ...

She will keep taunting Your Manhood till you lost it & lost ya Home ...Then You Failed !

advanceDNA:
..some werey will come and say it's ur fault..that women dont wrong.....they will even say u are just hating on women

do so"[/i]

Madman ...

Women are Never-Ever Wrong ... Improve Ya Games ...

If she is too much to handle then comot her matter .... it takes a "Man" to Manage a Woman No be "Boy" ....

Building a Man No be "Beans" ...!

ibechris:
If u want to solve this problem.

Get another apartment and leave her there,tell her u are tired of her and possibly considering marrying another woman.

This economy alone will teach her a very big lesson,I mean a big lesson that,except she changes for good.

U didn't cause anything,that is the best way to treat a woman after all,don't u have sisters.

In my case,I have a job but I work from home too...I bought my wife a car,I take care of her and my children. I tell her everything about my income/business and even include her name in all the lands i have,Sometimes I cook before she comes back from work,I make sure her room heater is on and she doesn't play with me.

I think in ur case,she is ungrateful and insolent...that is why she feels comfortable disrespecting u.

She ain't ungrateful, Na the dude they loose guard...

In your own case, you already put up measures to manage whatever fall out that might ensued from pampering your wife but Op would just Open Taps of Pampering but once women see you finish see would launched her girlish Stupidities then you must bring her psychology back to normalcy ....

But mba, that's one boyish men woul start running from Pillar to post saying their wife is running them Street

fortunechy:
The truth is that it's not good to be too nice to woman. They tend to abuse it. That's my own Cent!!

It's not Good ro be too Nice to People Generally, It's called Over-Pampering .... Anyone you do it to would disrespect you except some few people.... !!

All Men must learn Women Management... She is what you Mould her to Be ... She did no Wrong !

SPAMBOX7:
How you be telling a woman about your finances you must be a chatterbox. No wonder she detests you.
I have no sympathy for weak men.
Carry your cross

💯👌✌

DonroxyII:
Madman ...

Women are Never-Ever Wrong ... Improve Ya Games ...

If she is too much to handle then comot her matter .... it takes a "Man" to Manage a Woman No be "Boy" ....

Building a Man No be "Beans" ...!

Yawn!!

luminouz:
You think a woman like that wants a discussion? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

That marriage is broken because OP is a simp. He is weak. You know it, I know it...and all NL knows it too

Gbam !

advanceDNA:
Yawn!!

Dey yawn dusts there ...

tell Op he be SIMP & Weak ass nigga 🤣....

Any Man Pampering a Fellow Man is a Mumu..

tbarrister:
Most modern men get this treatment at the end, how can you treat your wife as your equal? Are you madd? The Quran, the bible, the traditions all put you above her and while you should treat her with love and fairness , never treat her as your equal.

A wife will treat you how you let her treat you, you can marry a submissive virgin but your simping and lack of leadership will turn her to a tigress and you'll end up calling relatives to settle quarrels every week. Treat her nice and sweet but let her know you're in charge and don't accept rubbish from her or anyone.

This is why most of you men suffer even till your old age . A woman you're meant to provide for and take care of , you'll end up giving her your life savings as investment for her business, tomorrow she becomes richer than you and you expect her to provide for the family, are you madd ? She wasn't created to provide, she wasn't programmed to provide, she won't remember your large investment in her, she'll only remember those sweet moments, those little little gifts you got her at different intervals. She's loyal to her feelings and the value you teach her to attach to you.


I pity men of this generation, wake up and act manly or perish trying to be a modern man

A Modern Man is even a Better Man because Premordial Men are Physical While Modern Men are Supposed to Be Mental & Physical since the game has changed but Most Men are "Beta" Male nowadays...

I think it's caused by most men being raised by their single mother thus all Masculinity Energies has been replaced with Feminine Energies thus Men are Much emotional now as their Mama .... It takes Masculinity Energies to Sharpen Masculinity Energies!

When you put that Feminine Energies with your wife, she will resent you immediately because she ain't feeling your "Manhood" thus you are making her feel all Feminine immediately Her biologies(Auto-Response) would kick-In to Prop-Out Your Masculinity Energies that's when she started Shit-Shenanigans-Testing You to Make You react like a Man ...

But Nibo, An Immature Man would started Crying like Baby finding Pastor, Imam & Nairaland to help them solve a Wife Me I know even know her psychology/physiology ....

Simp Wouldn't still get the clue because they wanted to enjoy Their Mamas Treatment ...From Their Wife....

You can only enjoy doing some Feminine nonsense with SU ladies if you try am with a Baddie, She will cheat craze comot the relationship cuz you will be dulling her entire existence...!

DonroxyII:
Dey yawn dusts there ...

tell Op he be SIMP & Weak ass nigga 🤣....

Any Man Pampering a Fellow Man is a Mumu..

Me i nor know wetin u get from my comment wey make u crash enter my mention dey insult me?
I not get time to dey explain my comment to those that only read but can't decipher context