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Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

you are dating yourself, you really love her did she love you too or just pretending. Open your eyes before it's too late.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

From all indications, she has someone else that ticks her box.

She is indirectly tell you, she doesn't want to settle down with you, and you are forcing it.

Oga move on & look for another girl to make your wife.

FRANCISTOWN:
Rule Number 1. Never reconnect a failed relationship.
For whatever reasons under the heavens, do not ever reconcile with your ex. The people who leave are never the people that return.
And the people you left, you will never meet them the same .

Absolutely!
You're very correct, I am a living testimony to this. Thank God, I'm free from that Witch girl now.

I don't understand how people break up and still come back after a while and think all will work out.

if you guys will work out why then did you break up in the first place.

Be real with yourself , tell yourself the truth and the truth is that relationship wont work.

its better you end it now than getting married and having issues in the marriage.

PS what do i know ?

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

my girlfriend went one prophet and the prophet told her that am not going to marry her and since then she started acting funny right now I have bounce myself up to break up with her make she go marry that man that the prophet promise her to marry her, be a man and man up never fall deeply in love with a woman.

Contents and comments on social media is the biblical fire that will destroy the earth.

I’ve not commented or posted on Facebook for the past ten years. But it’s always fun to see people disgrace their generation on the blue app.

That's just her way of saying, you're option B, I want to wait a bit to see if Option A will show up

She still dey make assessment. You ain't on the same page.

Match brake na!

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

You’re a MAN better leave that girl and be free while looking out for a woman that LOVES YOU not the one YOU LOVE.

Don’t be a Simp bro

Una get mind o, the date, marry, get children for this economy. She just might be right, slow things down a bit, let us see how this regime will end.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

jst give me one reason why I should not a insult u...u are literally begging a gal to marry u....are u dat desperate


lemme jst believe this is a fake story to gather reactions

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

You’re a MAN better leave that girl and be free while looking out for a woman that LOVES YOU not the one YOU LOVE.

Don’t be a Simp bro

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

In other words,you went back to your ex..
You not man enoff

Igbo men are a disgrace....tufia

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

She highlighted the areas she need u to improve with, why don't u list them here.
She may be right with her point of view since u are throwing us in the dark by not highlighting why she pointed out to u...

You are not her main option

Have options
Have options
Have options

Offpointng:
Slow things down for now which can also mean, "leave me alone for now". And person wey tell you mai you leave am alone you no go leave am??

We guys really need to understand that you're actually writing an invitation to suffering and Emotional pain when you try to force yourself on people most especially Women. Now, I know how hard it's gonna be for you now but just like she asked you to slow down, slow down for real nigga to save urself pains

"Slow things down" in relationship means hitting each other up at intervals; less frequent calls, less monitoring, getting to know the other partner better by going on dates, spending quality time, and never being in rush..a step a time.
Not that bunkum your spewing up there.

Maybe she noticed you are not financially ready enough to talk about marriage

You too rush.... Take things easy, reduce the calling and attention and explore other options.

Did you ask her if she's in a relationship before you promised her marriage? Pls note that your proposal will be neglected and despised when ever she's with other suitors.....and if the side guy discover she has a fiance....the ride go long.... something to remember when she's done with him. How old is she?.... Maybe she's not ready for marriage yet. Maybe She needs an intimate boyfriend... while you need a wife.... Just don't let out all you think and follow the flow of what she portray... Later you see the real situations in her life.

If she's below 23yrs and sexually active.... She is in a phase where anyone is her boyfriend.

Most guys have this notion that once they promised a girl marriage... She's oblige to him & owe him faithfulness.... Alas it's not so with girls...any opportunity given outside your sight will be harnessed by her whole heatedly in other to satisfy her feelings.

If you always believe all the lies cooked for you by your girl....by the time you recover it's bitterness towards her.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Oga, you have neglected to point out or work on your character weaknesses she has noticed. Why did you neglect to tell us this part?

then slow things down. thats what u are to do

You too slow things down…but while you’re at the “slow down stage,” make sure that no dime of yours touches her hand. Be kind, be respectful…but never give her money. She needs to love you for you first; your greatest mistake is to buy love! Marriage is for a long long time…it’s not a child’s play.😐

That lady is using you to cruise till the better guy proposes to her. Meanwhile, you are just a stepping stone!
Stop wasting your hard earned money on someone another guy is chopping for free!

teekrackz:
You’re a MAN better leave that girl and be free while looking out for a woman that LOVES YOU not the one YOU LOVE.

Don’t be a Simp bro

stop misleading people online boy

You're the one to love your woman while she respect.

hehe red flag. u are to love only ur wife in this life.

Oga slow down naa
You Wan marry am by force

You only need to know the deep psychology of the slow down request , at least she can't rush into a marriage she has not fully understood

She might be using the slowing time to compare between other suitors

So bro slow down and be looking out for other femmes

Avoid mistakes on time

She has found a better man.

Dump her and move on.

Women are ruthless when choosing a man.