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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by VTJN(m): 1:00pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

are you financially stable?

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Lagyazannau: 1:00pm On Jun 24, 2024

Hope she told u the areas you are lacking?
Maybe she lack the wisdom to correct you on them all this while or you are too stubborn to change. You are truly in love with her as I can perceived. Work on those areas or begin de find love somewhere.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by casppyjay: 1:04pm On Jun 24, 2024

DevilsEqual:
I know how it feels but bro, try move on
The mere fact that she said "u need to fix some areas and then trying to slow things down just cause of that"

Id not tryna convince such lady ever again on gat relationship matters

That aside, try fix whatever area needs fixing but not with her

hey look up everyone that guy over there is the smartest man in the world..

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by bizbro: 1:04pm On Jun 24, 2024

Improve and give her 3 months, after three months, if there's no change, you have to move on.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by bizbro: 1:05pm On Jun 24, 2024

I just pray one Yoruba demon hasn't started turning her head

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by GodHimself(m): 1:05pm On Jun 24, 2024

It’s good to have someone who can provide honest feedback.

If making those improvements add to your life, go ahead.

Don’t do it to please her though. Do it because it adds to your life.

Assume that the relationship is over and act that way.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Chetas81(m): 1:05pm On Jun 24, 2024

HOW OLD ARE YOU, WHILE CHASING PROSTITUTE'S

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by LockDown69(m): 1:05pm On Jun 24, 2024

Solofresh2:
Only a foolish man will die to get love from a woman
Please don't generalize it

I dey tell you grin

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by delzbaba(m): 1:06pm On Jun 24, 2024

If I were you I would just be collecting free fork and be searching for Mrs right.

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by 7demons: 1:06pm On Jun 24, 2024

Remman:
Her mind is not fully made up. The thing is, when you guys first broke up, what led to the broke up is yet to clear off her mind. Secondly, if you used to give her money, just stop it for now and see her response. You love her but your love is not returned equally and that's the fact, she's obviously attached to you for a reason and that's what you need to find out, because marriage is different from friendship, if these matters come up during marriage you may not be able to handle it. Secondly, she could be dating someone by her accessment is better than you and your speed would spoil her chances for a greener pasture with this other guy. You're just her plan B should in case things doesn't work out with the current guy she's hoping on. The truth is, during the period of your breakup, a lot of things happened and things have changed and it's not anyone's fault since there was a breakup in the past.

You're advanced in wisdom. Not the first comment i read writing rubbish! Kids on internet without life experience.

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Gosiso: 1:09pm On Jun 24, 2024*

I've been in this kind of scenario before and the best thing is to actually "slow down" like she requested.

Just try and keep yourself very busy that you have little time for her. But always try to reach out to her once in a while.

With time, you'll know where the relationship is headed, and if it's for the rocks, you won't be too heart broken at that point.

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Ubdavis(m): 1:09pm On Jun 24, 2024

Ur simply a back up plan

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by 7demons: 1:10pm On Jun 24, 2024

Solofresh2:
Only a foolish man will die to get love from a woman
Please don't generalize it

The only thing a man would die for in a woman is if they're compatible and sees the qualities he yearns for in a woman. That is when he will make the extra effort to get her.

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by NovusHomo(m): 1:10pm On Jun 24, 2024*

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

SLOW. THINGS. DOWN!
Why is this difficult to understand?

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by CatchMeIfUCanMO: 1:11pm On Jun 24, 2024

Mr man focus on your life, improve your life.

Don't just pause your life because of your relationship.

My candid advice is to slow things down and increase your hustle but always check on her once once.
During this period, you will know the direction of your relationship.

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Deltatoto: 1:16pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

tinubu na.which explanation u want again.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by 7demons: 1:17pm On Jun 24, 2024

Emmanuel900:
The only true thing that can help you is to give her maximum space and be on a look out for a new girl.

I know it sound very harsh but any effort from your side to savage the situation is going to have the opposite effect, you only have a chance if you give her maximum space and ready to move on ASAP.

This the only thing that can help you, if she didn't chase after you when you give her the space she requested for then she is not really interested in being with you as much as you want to be with her but you seem like those guys without any backbone that will try very hard to convince her which will just make her see you as a desperate loser and run away from you without looking back.

Most of the guys that are having fun with her behind your back may not even be as good as you but have more backbone than you. She should be the one trying to meet your standard not the opposite, what's she bringing to the table that make you hand over all the power to her and allow her to dictate the relationship ? you are definitely not man enough for her, you are just a typical wuss and nice guy.

She should be the one trying to push you quickly into marriage because time is not on women side.

A man rushing to get marry is not attractive to attractive women unless the woman is already becoming an evening newspaper and also desperately looking for marriage.

When it come to marriage matter, the best and most favourable scenario for men is when the women is the one pushing you to get marry to her and already hinting at marriage with you, she should be the one asking you for the time to go see your parents if she's serious with you not the other way round , asking you for the time for engagement etc because time is not on women side and if she love you enough she will definitely try to take that step with you if she didn't then it mean she is not really in love with you to that extent yet and have other plans which mean you should have other plans too.

Another matured talk. 👍💯

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by quickee: 1:19pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

She doesn’t want to see your parents. She wants you to slow things down. She needs you to improve on certain areas of your life. Hmm… It’s crystal clear she isn’t ready for marriage and you need to realize that. It’s high time you define the relationship between you guys so that you can work towards a better future. I hope you guys haven’t been sleeping with each other? If yes, you are already destroying the standard. All these breaking up and coming back is rubbish.
Break up once and for all and do it right all over again.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Confirm4real(m): 1:21pm On Jun 24, 2024

She's not seeing only you my guy, she's still weighing her options cool

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by 7demons: 1:22pm On Jun 24, 2024

baraboo98:
Ha ha ha.... You guys broke up and came back. Otilor you have nothing there again just move on. Mark my words

"Broke up and came back" meaning what?
So people cannot reconcile their differences??
Kids everywhere on nairaland.
Na when person talk, you will know the level of their sense.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by aktolly54(m): 1:24pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

slow down true true. Give her time frame you want settle down and if she isn't ready by that time without tangible reasons then dump her ass.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by ChiefS(m): 1:24pm On Jun 24, 2024

It's possible she is genuinely worried about the areas of your life or character that seem like a red flag and it's also possible that she is using you as spare tyre. If she things she told you about are true then you need to change and see what her response would be.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by ttobizz(m): 1:27pm On Jun 24, 2024

Offpointng:
Slow things down for now which can also mean, "leave me alone for now". And person wey tell you mai you leave am alone you no go leave am??

We guys really need to understand that you're actually writing an invitation to suffering and Emotional pain when you try to force yourself on people most especially Women. Now, I know how hard it's gonna be for you now but just like she asked you to slow down, slow down for real nigga to save urself pains

Baba you nailed it.. "mine told me marriage is not my ginger" today I'm happily married to the one who saw marriage as her ginger. I nor lose!

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by 7demons: 1:28pm On Jun 24, 2024

ExudeLoveToAll:
"We broke up for two years and reconciled 6 months ago , " God is speaking to you and you don't want to listen. The cycle is about repeating itself and you are not seeing the trend, you have to be careful. ..

The lady is more emotional matured than him. She sees all the red flag and she has her default though.. but she only pin point his own. The guy, being enraged by his testosterone has reached boiling point grin

and sees nada cos he's the one love is shacking instead of the lady now see how desperate he is, now has to dictate the tune.
This one of many reasons why men should engage and be active on relationship therapist vlogs on social media to help shape their masculinity and better their approach to women.

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by efemena5050(m): 1:30pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

I don't want to talk or type much ....bros when person no like or into u anymore he/she begins to see ur ugliness very well unlike when person dey in love with u (love is blind) ogbeni .....leave tht ur birch alone for now act indifferent to her.......she don weigh u Finnish nd she no get tht vibes with u for now so ....pls free urself the heartache.....if u continue she will resent u the more .........

Should I tell u.......baba tht ur babe get person wey she feel better pass u in those areas she pointed out......so she dey use measuring tape measure u and tht obscured guy she have ....to her .....ur just 1.2 cm ...so calm down let her be

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Stevenbright(m): 1:30pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

When you guys first broke up, who initiated it?

Like it or not, just like the first time you guys broke up, she is presently seeing someone else and will only get serious with you when that door closes.

It was likely what happened the first time. She came back to you after two years because the guy she broke up with you for gave her breakfast too.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Hookfast(m): 1:30pm On Jun 24, 2024

My Friend, do not call her for the main time, give her break(slow down) if she still much interested she will crave for your attention. She is battling with her feelings for you, be ready to accept any decision.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Xxxylxxxx: 1:34pm On Jun 24, 2024

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Study the situation, understand it, and then decide whether to invest in it or move on. You do not understand women very well. Women should fight for your love, not the other way around. She should be the one troubled about meeting her parents, not the other way around.

Make a decision today! She is not your wife. You two will never have a lasting relationship because you are the one begging for her love, and she knows it. The moment a woman realizes you love her and can't do without her, she will start hating you. Women will love you when you don't love them. They won't love you when you love them. Take your mind off this weak relationship and move on!

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Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by efemena5050(m): 1:35pm On Jun 24, 2024

Nonexisting1:
Another man is being considered and he has better chances than you. Nigga, you've lost out and your heartbreak will be massive, just wait for it. It's coming soon.

. Lol ur a blue goat I swear ......very brilliant response......seems ur typed this from experience......lol

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by Bimpe29(m): 1:36pm On Jun 24, 2024

That's really deep and instructive. It's nothing short of a RED FLAG! However, it present you an opportunity for improvement on the areas she's highlighted. Most importantly, you have to be deliberate about having a close substitute in the event she call it a day.

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by YorubaAssasin: 1:36pm On Jun 24, 2024

Dump the B!tch! angry

Why is she trying to change you? So you sef wan change yourself for a lady? You dey maddd ni? angry

Mr. Man, it's as good as done. She's done with you and just a subtle way of telling you to move on. If you like go back to her. Werey! angry

Re: My Fiancee Ask Me To Slow Things Down - I don't know what to do by HOSTCOM(m): 1:37pm On Jun 24, 2024

You better start looking for another person and stop to dey mumu around. Her mind is not same as when u people first dey compact get it now.

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