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Auxtan:
Oga your wife is simply a good woman. You are just the problem. I have gone through your profile and saw where you even had sex with a prostitute and got infected. You have probably not seen your wives under in months and your wife is obviously constantly frustrated by your lack of care towards her. Your wife was simply angry as any human being can be and passed a wrong message out of the anger you obviously propelled. She couldn't have threatened to kill you of you didn't say something very bitter and heavy towards her. That she is your wife doesn't make her your puppet or your slave. You married her because your loved her or so you could live with her forever, why now frustrate her? You're the man of the family and it is expected you take the back seat when things get very heated because as a man you should be more intelligent and you should know that anything can escalate to what nobody would wish for their home. I see you might no longer find your wife attractive which is normal for some partners after many years marriage or fvcking the same pvssy, but please try to pretend to still find her attractive as before and above all love your wife because she became your other half that moment your exchanged vows with her on the alter. Loving your wife is like loving yourself because you can never ignore whatever that is going on her end, her problems are yours and yours are hers. Be wise. Sometimes let go of your manly ego and allow her say all her rubbish because that is naturally her 95% of women show they are hurt. Your duty is to after her blabbing in a cool and lovely way talk sense into her, she will 100% listen and take corrections. Don't mind what redpill idiots say online. Love your wife and appreciate the fact she is your home maker. Without her you would have no children that makes up a home neither would you have in most cases anyone to care for your kids and inculcate values into then. BE WISE AND DON'T BE FOOLISH!

We dated for two years and a month, until she got pregnant Nov last month. When she for pregnant, that was the end of my peace at home, every blessed day she kept pressuring me for marriage which I normally gives her same answer that "I wasn't ready for marriage" but she never backed down, day and night she quarrels me and even attempted suicide countless numbers of times, her suicide attempts normally leads to me struggling with her to stop her, I'd struggle endlessly to stop her, if I manage to take the rope from her, she'd go for a rope and use it to tie her neck very tightly until she's coughing and spitting. What next? She started drinking tiles wash and hype. I thank God Almighty that nothing happened to her those period, she pressured me endlessly and my answers remain same, the told me that only a man that doesn't love a woman would say he's not ready for marriage that no man that's not ready for marriage, I then told her that yes I don't love you which you're very much aware of, I have 0% love for you and I can't marry someone that I don't love, but still she didn't back down the pressure was endlessly, saying if she doesn't have me then no one else will that she always goes for what she loves and won't ever give up. The pressure was endlessly until I agreed to do the marriage. What even caused this our quarrel was still about the marriage, I was said, down and depressed thinking my life that I would have still been single and enjoying life to the fullest or if possible that I'm married, would have been with someone that I loved, I wrote her on whatsapp pouring out my frustration about how she pressured me into marriage and destroyed my life, that was what caused the quarrel.

PulsingPurple:
Listen to me brother.
Be a man, a real man!

1. This chat shouldn't be shown online like this
2. You ought to think thoroughly before responding to your woman. Think of how your response will affect her emotionally, both now and in the future.
I know now many times I've swallowed my anger, only to realize later that it wasn't even a big problem.
3. You have to make plans to accommodate the fact that she is a woman. She may say what she doesn't mean, throw tantrum and all that, the first job of the man is to stay composed. For better for worse right?
4. The only emotion you're allowed to have towards a woman is love. Don't display anger or hate, don't cry or nag, just do what is right and wait to see her calm again and apologizing.
5. You have to be the best for her. Outdo everything she expects of you, according to your capacity of course. Don't be a jagajaga husband no matter how jagajaga your wife may seem.


Much to say but I can't even think straight, I'm pained by such conversation... I couldn't even read all.

Now swallow that pride and get her one of her favorites. Make her happy.
Explain to her that you're just human and will try to be better for her and that she should try too.
You both should swallow pride and be sincere. Write out the ways you plan to improve, tell her to write hers also. Then you both work on it, helping each other.

Many of us here run a successful marriage.
But we never tell you that success is measured by the errors avoided, not by the problems avoided.

You're right but I wasn't in anyway ready for marriage before I married her and the love isn't there too, I guess that's why I'm angry, frustrated and pained. We dated for two years and a month, until she got pregnant Nov last month. When she for pregnant, that was the end of my peace at home, every blessed day she kept pressuring me for marriage which I normally gives her same answer that "I wasn't ready for marriage" but she never backed down, day and night she quarrels me and even attempted suicide countless numbers of times, her suicide attempts normally leads to me struggling with her to stop her, I'd struggle endlessly to stop her, if I manage to take the rope from her, she'd go for a rope and use it to tie her neck very tightly until she's coughing and spitting. What next? She started drinking tiles wash and hype. I thank God Almighty that nothing happened to her those period, she pressured me endlessly and my answers remain same, the told me that only a man that doesn't love a woman would say he's not ready for marriage that no man that's not ready for marriage, I then told her that yes I don't love you which you're very much aware of, I have 0% love for you and I can't marry someone that I don't love, but still she didn't back down the pressure was endlessly, until I agreed to do the marriage. What even caused this our quarrel was still about the marriage, I was said, down and depressed thinking my life that I would have still been single and enjoying life to the fullest or if possible that I'm married, would have been with someone that I loved, I wrote her on whatsapp pouring out my frustration about how she pressured me into marriage and destroyed my life, that was what caused the quarrel.

fairy88:
So the "My World you use in saving her name to post it, I believe you just saved it so you can screenshot and post in public then later you change it back to what whatever sad name you call her,

You don't love and you dey f√ck
Inukwa?

How old are you?

This boy no go pass 19 years
And I believe the woman is older than him

I didn't saved it, she saved it herself.
I'm 29 she's 24

BentizilL0:
From the chat and everything, it can be deduced that you don't love that lady..
Shey dem marry am give you?
@Kyng1

We dated for two years and a month, until she got pregnant Nov last month. When she for pregnant, that was the end of my peace at home, every blessed day she kept pressuring me for marriage which I normally gives her same answer that "I wasn't ready for marriage" but she never backed down, day and night she quarrels me and even attempted suicide countless numbers of times, her suicide attempts normally leads to me struggling with her to stop her, I'd struggle endlessly to stop her, if I manage to take the rope from her, she'd go for a rope and use it to tie her neck very tightly until she's coughing and spitting. What next? She started drinking tiles wash and hype. I thank God Almighty that nothing happened to her those period, she pressured me endlessly and my answers remain same, the told me that only a man that doesn't love a woman would say he's not ready for marriage that no man that's not ready for marriage, I then told her that yes I don't love you which you're very much aware of, I have 0% love for you and I can't marry someone that I don't love, but still she didn't back down the pressure was endlessly, until I agreed to do the marriage. What even caused this our quarrel was still about the marriage, I was said, down and depressed thinking my life that I would have still been single and enjoying life to the fullest or if possible that I'm married, would have been with someone that I loved, I wrote her on whatsapp pouring out my frustration about how she pressured me into marriage and destroyed my life, that was what caused the quarrel.

Kyng1:
Good morning Nairalanders, last night I and my wife was having some arguments and she threatened to take my life and send me to the afterlife and later start apologizing endlessly saying it's a joke, she has called hundreds of missed calls but I haven't been able to pick up as I'm hell bent to do what's on my mind, which is sending her back to her parents house. The threat still rings a bell on my head until this very moment, and I don't think I'd be able to comfortably live with her under same roof again. See screenshot below of the threat and her apologies claiming it's a joke.

Oga, u sef sabi frustrate person. Ode, better get sense because the no be every woman fit take this kind problematic man wey u be

Kyng1:
You've never insulted your wife of 9 years, that's because the love is there, reverse is actually the case for me. She got pregnant and manipulated me into marrying her even though she clearly and 100% knew I don't love her, but still she threatened me with suicide that I must marry her, I initially bowed to pressure and after marriage, anger, frustration, pains of being with someone I don't love and not even sexually attracted to set in. The way I'm treating her, I don't even know when and how it always occur, I'm just filled with anger. I have a wife at home but still I waste up to 10k extremely frequently sleeping with prostitutes. All boils down to the fact that I'm not sexually attracted to her.

Sorry for everything that happened to u.

When I was dating,I used to run away from women that aren't my taste because I knew I can't sleep with a woman I can't marry.
But everyone isn't like that.

U can still marry her and show her all the love because of ur child.

For me,I will never advice u to marry another woman.

Make this one work and work together as man and wife.

RoyalBlu:
I wasn't willing to believe this is actually an exchange of words between a husband and wife until I read the last part.

I'm speechless rn.

Some kind men go just dey bleep up. Why be say na this kind men women dey follow sef

Oga make you too work on yourself. Shuo

Woman wey get 1 month to delivery, na him u dey stress. U no want make she enter labour come out alive?

Accept apology joor, make she born first. Next time, if she use that word, do wetin u want. For now, na pregnancy hormone o.

Meanwhile, go read about post partum depression.

She fit misbehave more after putting to bed.

Last last, u go get used to am.

Welcome to marriage

U made a mistake marrying her. It's wrong to get manipulated into marrying someone.

That said, open your heart to love her.

When you do, you will see that she is not bad as you think

Nice2023:
Sorry for everything that happened to u.

When I was dating,I used to run away from women that aren't my taste because I knew I can't sleep with a woman I can't marry.
But everyone isn't like that.

U can still marry her and show her all the love because of ur child.

For me,I will never advice u to marry another woman.

Make this one work and work together as man and wife.

Wow!


Nawa, low self esteem is a very dangerous thing. Trapping a man that has no love or respect for you with pregnancy is even worse.

The earlier that woman realizes she's a single mother, the better for her.

You are truly frustrating her bro and that's not good for a pregnant woman. That's stress! Those words from her means nothing. It's obvious she said that for you to be careful with the way you are treating her. I wish her safe delivery .


It's because of the baby, that I'm frustrating her and she might have complications that she has landed on the hospital 4 times now because of me and it's affecting her baby that if anything should happen to the baby after her antinental scan on Friday which is tomorrow, she'd send me to the afterlife.[/quote]

Kyng1:
You've never insulted your wife of 9 years, that's because the love is there, reverse is actually the case for me. She got pregnant and manipulated me into marrying her even though she clearly and 100% knew I don't love her, but still she threatened me with suicide that I must marry her, I initially bowed to pressure and after marriage, anger, frustration, pains of being with someone I don't love and not even sexually attracted to set in. The way I'm treating her, I don't even know when and how it always occur, I'm just filled with anger. I have a wife at home but still I waste up to 10k extremely frequently sleeping with prostitutes. All boils down to the fact that I'm not sexually attracted to her.

Being married is not by love only, it is by loyalty and commitment.

If you didn't love her , you wouldn't have been with her for two years knacking her till pregnancy. Grow up and take responsibility. At 29, you are no longer a kid, sit down and reflect well.

You big mistake is spending all your money on marriage. Our culture is a crazy one when it comes to marriage, they will always want to put you in debt and then you start the marriage broke which can lead to frustration as is happening with you

You have a baby on the way, let that be your adrenaline to make money and create a better life for yourself and your family.

Babies bring blessing and happiness to a home, but you have to have the right spirit and attitude

DBestDoc:
Wow!


Nawa, low self esteem is a very dangerous thing. Trapping a man that has no love or respect for you with pregnancy is even worse.

The earlier that woman realizes she's a single mother, the better for her.

Honestly the guy will be a fool to let the lady go.

The lady clearly loves him.

He will leave her and pick one that he loves and does not love him and come back to open a thread on her infidelity.

Also has a lot of growing up to do, dragging with a heavily pregnant lady like this

Nemesis0147:
Bomb Facebook ke😂😂
You guys were clearly not ready for this marriage 😂

You no see say that's their occupation. Na the occupation of 90% of Benin and Delta couples be that.

Them plenty for southwest states too. If you see any yahoo boy wey dey glued to one particular banny. Na yahoo dem dey do, Na the girl go dey follow the boy client dey talk.

Many bannies don dey run their own packages themselves independently these days.

Pablo and pablet situationship.

Haaa

simplepee:
Pablo and pablet situationship.

I don miss your sweet stew sweet girl.

Kyng1:
We dated for two years and a month, until she got pregnant Nov last month. When she for pregnant, that was the end of my peace at home, every blessed day she kept pressuring me for marriage which I normally gives her same answer that "I wasn't ready for marriage" but she never backed down, day and night she quarrels me and even attempted suicide countless numbers of times, her suicide attempts normally leads to me struggling with her to stop her, I'd struggle endlessly to stop her, if I manage to take the rope from her, she'd go for a rope and use it to tie her neck very tightly until she's coughing and spitting. What next? She started drinking tiles wash and hype. I thank God Almighty that nothing happened to her those period, she pressured me endlessly and my answers remain same, the told me that only a man that doesn't love a woman would say he's not ready for marriage that no man that's not ready for marriage, I then told her that yes I don't love you which you're very much aware of, I have 0% love for you and I can't marry someone that I don't love, but still she didn't back down the pressure was endlessly, until I agreed to do the marriage. What even caused this our quarrel was still about the marriage, I was said, down and depressed thinking my life that I would have still been single and enjoying life to the fullest or if possible that I'm married, would have been with someone that I loved, I wrote her on whatsapp pouring out my frustration about how she pressured me into marriage and destroyed my life, that was what caused the quarrel.

The girl loves you sincerely and that is very key. Forget the past hurt and feelings. You both should sit down and talk as adults. It will work.
You can also go for counselling.