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Donyenye:
The married ones that are still mastubating is not getting good sex from their partner. If you are married and having good sex, i mean a very good one with the person you love you can never mastubate.

Hmmmm....

What if you in a situation where you are in a long distance relationship with your spouse?

Masturbation can be very tempting.

David0002:
Mods, please push this to front page. It will help a lot of people come out of masturbation. Thanks a lot

You have written nothing.

You only ended up blabbing.

There is a difference between addiction and a habit.

Masturbating is not a sin but a habit that can lead to addiction just like eating, reading, playing games, smoking, drinking.

People masturbate for medical reasons.

But if you find yourself getting addicted, that is when you need to watch it.

As for porn watching I will say clearly that it should be discouraged (not that is is expressly sinful) but it has the tendencies to currupt iyr minds

But the first step to avoid msturbatiin is to get married.

1 Corinthians 7:36

If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry — it is no sin.


May GOD grant us wisdom.

emma2002:
Wait a minute... !




Wait a minute...

1. Masturbation and pornography are far from the "worst" sins - countless people have engaged in these acts and still managed to live stable, productive lives. Quit treating them as moral catastrophes.

2. This nonsense about people having sex with demons is pure fantasy, not grounded in biblical teachings. Stop peddling such baseless superstitions as fact.

3. The reality is that people have committed egregious sins - sins with far more severe and damaging consequences. Yet many have still been able to recover and lead normal lives. Focus on those more substantive moral failings, not minor infractions.

4. Abstaining from certain behaviors should be about upholding your own personal dignity and ethics, not just adhering to a narrow list of "sins to avoid." Take a comprehensive approach to morality, not a checklist.

5. And let's be clear - those who have abstained from things like masturbation or porn are not inherently "better" or more virtuous. Morality isn't defined by restricting specific acts. Quit with the self-righteous moralizing.

The bottom line is we need a more nuanced, rational view on sexuality and sin. Simplistic condemnations and fearmongering do far more harm than good. Show some intellectual honesty and moral humility here.

Absolutely! Thanks for your enlightenment! I find it ridiculous ppl keep talking about this! Something that stops with age and even small task upheaval can make u stop it

porthouse7:
u don't have to stop bro, enjoy ur self service, u know know how much problems u have stayed away from, just do it moderately

Thank you once I stayed too long and no girlfriend to just stay nearby ....Mehn it can be crazy sometimes....
I even tried to Pray it away but

yemmit90:
Stop stressing yourself, the only way to stop masturbation is by having constant real sex. Masturbation is mostly done by those lacking real sex or good sex. When you have access to sex anytime you want it, masturbation automatically become more irritating and a waste of time to you.

Big lie, masturbation goes beyond that when it’s chronic.

Good

bigcasava1:
how do I stop sportybet? Though am cashing out oo

It's a battle of the mind

Get a book and do this simple calculation.

Sum all your cash outs and losses, if your losses are more, then you are not making profit

2. Think of what you could have achieved positively with your losses.

3. Give yourself reasons to quit. For example :

Everytime I play, I m enriching the CEOs.

Anytime I play, I m losing an opportunity to invest my money positively

Meditate on the above, it will guard your mind and thought process when the thought to go back to it comes.

David0002:
It was until I read a book. After reading the book, I applied what I read in the book. The spirit of masturbation and pornography Left me immediately
Happy Sunday to you all.

Begging the question: WHAT IS THE NAME OF THE BOOK??
How can you write this long epistles without mentioning that, yet you say you want others to learn?!

David0002:
A lot of us are going through this problem or addiction, but they don't know how to stop it and it has affected their lives. What are my talking about, I am taking about Masturbation and watching pornography.

To tell you the truth, this is the most common addiction that has affected billions of people worldwide. This is a global problem. No religion is exempted from it.

I cannot start discussing what I do not know, because this is what I was into for a very long time. I was so addicted to this terrible sin. I first started with the sin of watching pornography, later in life, I graduated into masturbation.

Let me give you a brief story. When I was still young and innocent, not up to 10 years old if I am not mistaken, I and my siblings vistited a friend's house in the next street after our own. When we went to his house, there was light. He said he wanted to put something for us to watch. So he put the CD plate, because by then, internet where you can access pornography was not common as of then. Little did I know that it was pornography that he wanted to put on. So when he put it on, I started watching after watching it, my innocence was taken away and the spirit of pornography entered me.

From that moment, I wanted to know more and watch more pornography. I became addicted to it at a tender age. Any money that enter into my hand, I will rush to the market to buy the CD plate. Yet they will sell it to me no matter how young I was. For more than 20 good solid years, I was addicted to pornography. It became worst when the internet came out. I can now watch it easily without going to buy the CD plate again.

It was in the year 2018 that I graduated to masturbation. I had been watching where they do masturbate and I wanted to try it out my self. After series of trials, I mastered the evil art. Infact no day passes without me masturbating. I masturbate 3-4 times in a day. As I was watching the pornography, I will be masturbating at the same time.

After masturbating, I will be weak, hungry, filled with guilt, regret and remorse. But to stop it became a problem infact it affected me. I started looking for solution. I prayed, fasted, went for deliverance, cried, did a lot of things. But after all these things, I will still go back to pornography and masturbation.

It was until I read a book. After reading the book, I applied what I read in the book. The spirit of masturbation and pornography Left me immediately and the spirit of God took over my life. I tell you the truth, from that moment up till now I have not masturbated, I have not watched pornography, God has been keeping me by His spirit. Let me tell you the truth, I paid dearly for these evil act and I am still kind of paying the price now. Every sin has its consequences.

Watching pornography and masturbation is a terrible sin before God. Let me tell you the truth. As you masturbate, you are opening a portal or a gateway for demons to possess and afflict you. Infact, as you masturbate, you are having sexual intercourse with demonic spirits. You have welcomed evil spirits into your life and hear this truth, for these spirits to leave you becomes a problem.

Watching pornography and masturbation has terrible consequences. You may not see it now, but when the problems associated with it manifests, be ready to face the consequences.

Many of you reading this are still watching pornography and masturbating. You do this, yet you call yourself a Christian, yet on Sunday, you go to church. Hear this truth, many church workers, choir, ushers, instrumentalist, pastors, pastors wife, single and married are under this addiction of pornography and masturbation.

You may have tried so hard to stop it, but it is not yielding any result. You may have stopped it for 1 month, 2 months, 3 months, 6 months, even up to 1 year, after, you relapse or go back to it.

Don't you know that masturbation has terrible consequences. You call it 'pleasure' don't you know you are destroying your body which is the temple of God. Anybody that destroy the temple of God, God will destroy him. It is the bible that says it, not me. I want to ask you brother, sister, why are you polluting your spirit and body with this terrible sin, don't you know that masturbation can affect your sexual health, it can lead to premature ejaculation in men, masturbation can damage your reproductive organ, oh yes. It can lead to near impotency. It can lead to erectile dysfunction. It can make your organ not to function as it is suppose to function, it can reduce your sexual hormones and bring it to near Zero. As a man, watching pornography and masturbation can make you be seeing women as sex objects and nothing more, among other things.

It is only Jesus that can save you, He has the power to break the yoke of masturbation and watching pornography from your life. I repeat again, He has the power to break the yoke. All you have to do is to go to Him in sincerity and cry out to Him to help you.

Go to him in prayer. I prefer you do it with fasting. Tell God how it is doing you, tell Him what you are passing through. Tell Him all that is in your mind. Bare everything open before Him. Don't hide anything from Him. Tell Him that you really want to stop this evil act. He is there with you, and He hears you. Confess it before Him, He will forgive you, cleanse you and give you the power to overcome this evil addiction once and for all, just as He did it for me.

Next, wow never to indulge in it again, because the temptation must surely come again. Satan will try all means to lure you back and to make you think you cannot stop it. Let me tell you the truth. If I can stop it, you can stop it too. All you have to do is to resist the devil in the name of Jesus, and he will flee from you. Shalom.

Happy Sunday to you all.

Why you kno reveal the book

I would rather maaturbate than rape a lady or a minor

otherway:
You have written nothing.

You only ended up blabbing.

There is a difference between addiction and a habit.

Masturbating is not a sin but a habit that can lead to addiction just like eating, reading, playing games, smoking, drinking.

People masturbate for medical reasons.

But if you find yourself getting addicted, that is when you need to watch it.

As for porn watching I will say clearly that it should be discouraged (not that is is expressly sinful) but it has the tendencies to currupt iyr minds

But the first step to avoid msturbatiin is to get married.

1 Corinthians 7:36

If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry — it is no sin.


May GOD grant us wisdom.

Hmmmm!

Confusing

Hmm

Low self esteem guys, shy, guys that are restricted to house and then come across porn

Are prone to be addicted to porn then always masturbate unabated

But masturbate is of diff fashion and maybe reason for the married and unmarried

Thank God you were able to break lose of porn

Thank God for Evang Ebuka Obi (Zion ministry) prayers that delivered me from that nonsense called masturbation. God just prepared me that day for that deliverance.i am not a constant listener of Ebuka Obi but that fateful day,I just joined his program through Facebook immediately he started calling my name and started praying for me,that if I don't stop it,it will disgrace me one day.omo since that day,it is over a year now I stopped it.even when the spirit of masturbation comes ,I will quickly remember Evang Ebuka Obi prophecy and the spirit will run away.am so happy seeing myself free from masturbation.i was really a slave to it for over 20yrs.whenever I finish doing it,I feel too bad.it will be like let me take knife and cut of my dick.To God be the glory I am now free .Kai that thing dealt with to point that even when am going on the way on sighting a lady,I would imagine where am masturbating with her and my dick will start rising, immediately I will hide somewhere untill it comes down.

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yemmit90:
Stop stressing yourself, the only way to stop masturbation is by having constant real sex. Masturbation is mostly done by those lacking real sex or good sex. When you have access to sex anytime you want it, masturbation automatically become more irritating and a waste of time to you.

Not true friend...

I've stopped since 2010 by God's grace, and still never met a woman—still by God's grace. And I won't till I marry. I'm 32.

The only way to overcome for me is by the Fear and the Love of God. To Love God means to hate other things.

Though I remember I got caught out just few times a few times but repented shortly. Especially those times when sex tapes went viral. I got fooled into seeing at least two of them a bit—then I knew viral sex tapes were traps for even those who are seeking to be pure in the Lord.

But the thing was, through the Holy Spirit, I had already hated it in general. It's become like an unflushed toilet—how long would you like to see... Though the flesh still likes it.

By God's grace, I have overcome addictions to porn, masturbation and video games—slid back to games in 2016 when I got my first laptop, though. I destroyed the pads like 2 or 3 times and it was like within a day...

May the Lord bless you

otherway:
You have written nothing.

You only ended up blabbing.

There is a difference between addiction and a habit.

Masturbating is not a sin but a habit that can lead to addiction just like eating, reading, playing games, smoking, drinking.

People masturbate for medical reasons.

But if you find yourself getting addicted, that is when you need to watch it.

As for porn watching I will say clearly that it should be discouraged (not that is is expressly sinful) but it has the tendencies to currupt iyr minds

But the first step to avoid msturbatiin is to get married.

1 Corinthians 7:36

If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry — it is no sin.


May GOD grant us wisdom.

Friend, in a dignified way perhaps, Jesus surely said these things are sinful... Please let's not fool ourselves. The spirit is spirit, the flesh is flesh...

Matt.18.8 - "If your hand (to masturbate ) or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire.

Matt.18.9 - And if your eye (to watch porn) causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire.

God bless

M

Foolish Topic. Masturbation is not responsible for any evil or bad existing in this world. So when I see topics like this this I just shake my head cause people like the OP here has vague vision.

chatinent:
Nigerians think it's a sin to stop masturbation but only for them to continue adultery and fornication. And I always see people celebrating that they stopped it only for them to intensify it the other way round.

If you must wipe, maybe due to high libido, it's better you masturbate than do adultery or cheat! All wetin your church dey teach you Na just make dem talk. Even Solomon Njideka for Bible had many wives, girlfriends, people's wives and etc, and still cheated several times with people's girlfriends! And the Bible called him a good wise man!

What was wise and good about the sin?

Religion will always make everything a sin. But una forget God not forgiving Eve was a sin too since he didn't follow what he wants us to do!



Na una dey tag everything as sin but committing worse sins than the supposedly avoided sin.


Una bi Christians, but na still una be tribalists, na still una dey keep multiple partners, na still una dey do yahoo, but every other thing is a sin. Lol.

Oil dey your head sha

Ghana easy peasy

yemmit90:
Stop stressing yourself, the only way to stop masturbation is by having constant real sex. Masturbation is mostly done by those lacking real sex or good sex. When you have access to sex anytime you want it, masturbation automatically become more irritating and a waste of time to you.

This post cannot fully help anyone struggling with this issue, in my opinion
- what is the name of the book
-how long have you been free
- what phrases or words were profound in the book
Questions and more questions
Great to know you’ve found your healing
But it’s a long read ,Without depth
Masturbation and Pornography hand in hand are a deadly cocktail of Mental health issues which also have its attendant Spiritual sides, to those so inclined

There is a place for Spirituality as therapy for Mental Health challenges, faith and belief go a long way to reorientate many minds

Your experience according to you , is a divine intervention via your interaction with a writen material that ignited something in you. Can that be replicated in any one that is going through this? Yes or no
If yes
How?
This is what I cannot see explicitly

Aje, just Cappings, cos it's a Sunday

gistray:
I can't find any solution here.
You just kept ranting.

Where's the book you read and how can we get it

All these rubbish you wrote here has no scientific backing.
Masturbation doesn't affect your sexual health.
You can use masturbation to master the act of sex self.
It help u control when to cum and how to.


NB: you said u fasted and prayed it didn't work until you read a book. You didnt tell us the title of the book you read and the author. You ended up giving us same solution u said u initially tried and didn't work

Na book you wan use style sell so o, you want people to ask you the name of the book, then you will tell them to message you privately

Emma09:
One thing I really detest is watching porn or having in on my phone cos when u have porn videos on ur phone,u would guard the phone jealously from ur kids and even ur wife if you don't want them to. This would bring about suspicion. So, my phone is very accessible by my wife and kids cos porn no dey there. Lastly, it's easy to stop masturbation if u decide to stop it. Na thing of the mind. Just like someone also said, Marry ur wife and start having constant sex with her, Masturbation go stop. I stopped masturbation over 3yrs ago. Na decision I took and stood my ground. When I remarried, it's been wonderful having sex with my wife. No need to even have a rethink of Masturbation again.

How do u survive when are both not in same environment for long whiles? Or when she's heavily pregnant or just gave birth?

I'm tired of hearing steps to quit masturbation and pornography that doesn't even work real life

Most of these doesn't work real life

johnog4sure:
but u had a divorce na, all this 'no matter what' na hm don kill many men o

Me Divorce? Nah
just giving you an advice base on experience i had with ma parent

It's not marriage that stopped it, it's love/compatibility with your spouse. There is a difference. And so if you had married someone without love and compatibility, the addiction may even get worse.

Lesson. True Love indeed conquers all, including addictions.

Love is not just limited to your spouse, it's also find love with your creator and from serving people diligently.

Mainmanpadi:
You are right, I was addicted to it too. Since I got married 2 years ago I didn't masturbate

Moresalt:
Friend, in a dignified way perhaps, Jesus surely said these things are sinful... Please let's not fool ourselves. The spirit is spirit, the flesh is flesh...

Matt.18.8 - "If your hand (to masturbate ) or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire.

Matt.18.9 - And if your eye (to watch porn) causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire.

God bless

You will soon write your own bible.

Remember the curses that come on those who add to the scriptures.