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Madam,in life,your peace of mind must always come first,and no matter what,do not trade that for anything...

The situation whereby marriage which is supposed to be enjoyed turns out to be something that's being endured,is one thing I'll advise anyone who's under such spell to walk away from ,for the sake of his/her safety and peace of mind ..

At least,you don wise up.....Move away from violence and don't wait until you become a victim of it before you'll start screaming --"Had I know".

Love is the greatest

Zonefree:
Sounds like our billionaire ahnie.

Billionaire wey dey beg for 2k up and down nairaland and accusing others of being a begger

The dead does not speak.

inform his pastor or iman! single mom life isn't d Best,,, ur children need Father care and father disciplines!

muyico:
inform his pastor or iman! single mom life isn't d Best,,, ur children need Father care and father disciplines!

So the man should beat her to death instead of becoming a single mother?? while the useless man move on with his life?

I've not heard his story, but at least you did the best thing moving out, before somebody will strangle you to death...

Even if he strangle you to death, he will be jailed for life, leaving the two kids all alone to cater for themselves...

I wish you well

wunmi590:


I've not heard his story, but at least you did the best thing moving out, before somebody will strangle you to death...

Even if he strangle you to death, he will be jailed for life, leaving the two kids all alone to cater for themselves...

I wish you well

In a country like this, he may not go to jail with the help of good lawyers.
Let noone endures domestic violence all in the name of ''he/she will go to jail, if he kill me''

Lovecode89:
The truth is, it was not easy for me at all. I'm not financially stable, but at least I find peace and believe everything is going to be alright. Afterall, I have been the only one sourcing out everything even while staying together.
I was already a single mom even while living together with him.
What gave me the strength to move out this time was the fact that violence starts coming in.
The same man whom I can't left behind despite all his bad character and missbehavour, almost strangle me in the presence of our children sometimes ago.
Just because he got back home late and rushed to the kitchen as usual to eat and I said, why don't you buy anything along? Not even pure water and you're rushing to the kitchen to eat? Do you know if we have anything to eat?
Out of anger he came to me and held me by my neck. Almost strangle me.
I felt so terrible when my first child came and wrapped his head around my head telling me ''sorry Mummy''
After that incedent, I sat down, and imagine how selfish and wicked mother I was, chosing this man over myself and my two children. If I suffer and die here, who will be there for my kids? So, I choose my kids.
I moved out and packed all my things to a family member's place. We are there now. He's been coming around to visit and has been calling claiming he's missing us. But I'm sure is because he no longer see any free food nor free things to use and the house rent where he lives is almost due and he has nowhere to go and no money to renew.
I pray God help and heal each and everyone of us.

Normal normal a no dey support women..

But with ur last lines eehn, abeg even if u want to go back to him, let him sort all those out first

Let him learn to provide
Let him pay for the rent
And some other unmentionables...


But wait, where una dey see all these Oloriburuku men self?? Where??


Make una date us una no go gree, una go talk say we no tall reach 8ft plus, but na we dey take care of our women pass.

muyico:
inform his pastor or iman! single mom life isn't d Best,,, ur children need Father care and father disciplines!

You have to be alive first, before you can decide either to marry some one or remain single

celeb4reallife:
In a country like this, he may not go to jail with the help of good lawyers.
[b]Let noone endures domestic violence [/b]all in the name of ''he/she will go to jail, if he kill me''

I've never for once encourage domestic violence, because I've sisters, and I wouldn't want any man to mismange my sisters all in the name of love..

You might think, the Nigeria judicial system is not working, until one fine his or herself on their hand..

wunmi590:
I've never for once encourage domestic violence, because I've sisters, and I wouldn't want any man to mismange my sisters all in the name of love..

You might think, the Nigeria judicial system is not working, until one fine his or herself on their hand..

Why should any sensible person wait until she's killed before the law move into action?

muyico:
inform his pastor or iman! single mom life isn't d Best,,, ur children need Father care and father disciplines!

Does such a man sound like he has any care or discipline to give anyone? Does he sound like any kind of moral example to anyone? You can't give what you don't have. Some mothers failed brutally in the kind of useless sons that they nurtured into manhood.


Madam you did well but you are still too close to and accessible to that your husband for my peace of mind. You need to go far away. Far from there and keep a low profile. Some men are devil's and would rather maim or kill u than have you walk away from them.

Put your account number on this post let those that have contributed for you so you have something to start with. Pele. Jesus is your husband now. Keep your eyes on Him without bitterness and hypocrisy and He will make way for you iJn, amen.

muyico:
inform his pastor or iman! single mom life isn't d Best,,, ur children need Father care and father disciplines!

and how would his 'pastor or iman' change him?.... Leave religion out of common sense

Foe those who don't have the patience to read the long post, here is a summary:

The writer describes a difficult situation in her relationship. Despite financial struggles, she endured abuse from her partner, including a recent violent incident in front of their children. This event was the final straw, leading her to leave him and move in with family. She believes her partner's current attempts at reconciliation are motivated by his own needs rather than genuine remorse.

You're welcome 🤗

No go dey sleep with married men to feed your kids o

Nobody send you go marry a gambler

Good.

You will keep running from your sins till they catch up with you.

You and your mother will never know peace.

And your end will be very embarrassing.

The same way you lied against him here, you will be lied against 1000 times.

https://www.nairaland.com/8169383/thought-could-change-him-better

Who advised you to go on the Internet?

You will be wrongly advised till you get yourself into the type of trouble they will shake your lineage.

Make sure you change your last name back to your father's last name.

You're not ashamed that you can't hold down a marriage for 3 years only.

Even with all the love potions you have been pouring into his food?

Shame on you.

Bookmark this post for more communication.

Remember, you can run, but you can never hide.

Poverty is a bastard!

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Dear OP, I wish you well.
Stay alive 💪🏼

Lovecode89:
↪Just because he got back home late and rushed to the kitchen as usual to eat and I said, why don't you buy anything along? Not even pure water and you're rushing to the kitchen to eat? Do you know if we have anything to eat?
Out of anger he came to me and held me by my neck. Almost strangle me.
I felt so terrible when my first child came and wrapped his head around my head telling me ''sorry Mummy''
After that incedent, I sat down, and imagine how selfish and wicked mother I was, chosing this man over myself and my two children. If I suffer and die here, who will be there for my kids? So, I choose my kids.

Thank your stars instead that you did not become another mumu Osinachi! She is food for worms all because she refused to allow her brain to speak sense to her mind. The man who killed her is still alive and her children may end up repeating the mistake of their father who can still feed them lies about their dead mother.

ProphesyForKene:
Good.

You will keep running from your sins till they catch up with you.

You and your mother will never know peace.

And your end will be very embarrassing.

The same way you lied against him here, you will be lied against 1000 times.

https://www.nairaland.com/8169383/thought-could-change-him-better

Who advised you to go on the Internet?

You will be wrongly advised till you get yourself into the type of trouble they will shake your lineage.

Make sure you change your last name back to your father's last name.

You're not ashamed that you can't hold down a marriage for 3 years only.

Even with all the love potions you have been pouring into his food?

Shame on you.

Bookmark this post for more communication.

Remember, you can run, but you can never hide.

Hian
Madam abeg do you know her "Personally" in P-square" voice?
This matter go long, I don take front seat

smart of you to pack out
violence is a no-no
maybe the separation can make him come to his senses
wish you the best

muyico:
inform his pastor or iman! single mom life isn't d Best,,, ur children need Father care and father disciplines!

More blessings to you bro.

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2Radii:
Normal normal a no dey support women..

But with ur last lines eehn, abeg even if u want to go back to him, let him sort all those out first

Let him learn to provide
Let him pay for the rent
And some other unmentionables...


But wait, where una dey see all these Oloriburuku men self?? Where??


Make una date us una no go gree, una go talk say we no tall reach 8ft plus, but na we dey take care of our women pass.

Seconded and Thirded. God bless your peace. But protect your privates from scavengers, in case you may have to return to him in future.

Lovecode89:
The truth is, it was not easy for me at all. I'm not financially stable, but at least I find peace and believe everything is going to be alright. Afterall, I have been the only one sourcing out everything even while staying together.
I was already a single mom even while living together with him.
What gave me the strength to move out this time was the fact that violence starts coming in.
The same man whom I can't left behind despite all his bad character and missbehavour, almost strangle me in the presence of our children sometimes ago.
Just because he got back home late and rushed to the kitchen as usual to eat and I said, why don't you buy anything along? Not even pure water and you're rushing to the kitchen to eat? Do you know if we have anything to eat?
Out of anger he came to me and held me by my neck. Almost strangle me.
I felt so terrible when my first child came and wrapped his head around my head telling me ''sorry Mummy''
After that incedent, I sat down, and imagine how selfish and wicked mother I was, chosing this man over myself and my two children. If I suffer and die here, who will be there for my kids? So, I choose my kids.
I moved out and packed all my things to a family member's place. We are there now. He's been coming around to visit and has been calling claiming he's missing us. But I'm sure is because he no longer see any free food nor free things to use and the house rent where he lives is almost due and he has nowhere to go and no money to renew.
I pray God help and heal each and everyone of us.

Well in this life, One of the greatest lessons i have learnt is not to put mouth in husband and wife matter So therefore i will take this your sermon like a pinch of salt.

In as much as i'm aware that most nigerian men are sadistic and narcissistic in nature. Their women aren't any better.

Remember An Apple Doesn't Fall Far From Its Tree.

wunmi590:
I've never for once encourage domestic violence, because I've sisters, and I wouldn't want any man to mismange my sisters all in the name of love..

You might think, the Nigeria judicial system is not working, until one fine his or herself on their hand..

Mismanagement of wives

Abee79:
Foe those who don't have the patience to read the long post, here is a summary:

The writer describes a difficult situation in her relationship. Despite financial struggles, she endured abuse from her partner, including a recent violent incident in front of their children. This event was the final straw, leading her to leave him and move in with family. She believes her partner's current attempts at reconciliation are motivated by his own needs rather than genuine remorse.

You're welcome 🤗

Iwe lomo

bukatyne:
Mismanagement of wives

My sister, my chose of English shock you ba?


No mind me 😆 🤣 😅 😌 😂