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A woman that is not serious about her tomorrow has nothing to contribute to your future.


General advice to young men:

"You see all those trending wigs and latest phones category of girls, please avoid them if you want to live long".

WeddingParol:
A woman that is not serious about her tomorrow has nothing to contribute to your future.


General advice to young men:

"You see all those trending wigs and latest phones category of girls, please avoid them if you want to live long".

oga if u are human u will understand that things don't work that way

There are some factors to consider in all these, she left school a long time ago n focused on other things which means the brain power has depreciated

U might not understand but I know what I am talking about,me as an example.

I finished school n I was managing as a teacher then n reading always so I passed all d exams I did then cos I was still in that line, many years down d line I started doing business n I forgot d basic things in my course.

Like seriously now I find it hard to understand those things cos my focus has changed totally

If the op really love the wife, she has to do the undo for her......since l your family needs is certificate n grammar

Register her in miracle centre so she can pass the waec then after that enrol her in all these colleges of education that run on part time, u can help her sort some of her lecturers n things will work out fine

I tell u with time things will work out for d two of u, I am saying this provided u truly love her n u are willing to go extra mile for her

One thing about love is that u have to know the ability n disability of your partner n learn to work on it, she can't improve geometrically....it has to b a gradual step at it

I am a married man n I understand better

This isn't even about her passing her WAEC. From the chat, it's obvious that two of you are not at par intellectually. I'm curious though...Why did you settle for a village girl when you can have any other girl that matches your status? Let me guess... She was a virgin and you wanted someone you could control.

Orisirisi!

Laugh wan finish me

The lady herself has to be determined, you can only encourage, it's doable. I applaud you for not fornicating with her👏🏽

faithfull18:
The lady herself has to be determined, you can only encourage, it's doable. I applaud you for not fornicating with her👏🏽

fornication na food? Na WA oo

Kindly exercise patience until she fails JAMB.

Her strength is not in education.

Both of u might be very good in relationship but not in academics.

Life has taught me that,education is not everything but if the person can read and write for me,that is more than enough.
After all,there are people who went to school like u yet no job,no hope and no opportunities for them at all and ended up badly in life thereafter.

Keep this girl and remember,u said she is a good girl. Get her a home teacher that would help and improve her.

Pls always correct her when she types or engages u in any conversation. Good girls are hard to find.

But in the absence of this,u can still go for ur class instead of going through this stress.

Jejesamzy:
Good day everyone.

I need your advice on this.

Please, this is very serious to me and I beg you to not troll


I am a graduate and finished school in 2019. I am the only son my parents had and I am 25 years old.

In 2020, I started programing and by GOD'S grace I now have a job and doing quite well. I foot 90% of my family's bills and I am really happy doing it. But currently my parents are telling me to show them the person I am dating so I can marry her off and start my own family. The problem here is that my parent wants someone that is a graduate or at least in school but the girl I am dating doesn't even have a good waec or neco result.

I met this girl in 2021 when I was doing my NYSC, I did some accessment to find out that she is actually a good girl from a good family and so I asked her to be my girlfriend. Meanwhile, she had just finished writing her waec (Mind you she was 20 and I was 23 then) and my intention was to date her until she became 25 and I, 28 years old so that she will be in school or almost completing school by then before we get married. Unfortunately, when we checked her waec and neco result in 2021, she had failed woefully. So, we started dating and I started to help her with things in life such as paying for a single room for her in 2022 so that she can atleast stay away from the village and catering for her entirely. So, in 2023 I had my major breakthrough in my programming work and decided to help her learn a skill (Wig making) which she learnt but I was still unsure about the whole marriage thing since she failed her exams. So, early this year I registered her in a school known to pass waec but today, I found out that her result is showing "held".

My parents won't allow me to marry her and I already told her (in 2023) that I would break up with her if she failed her exam (the one I will register her to write in 2024) in a bid to get her to be more serious with the preparations but she wasn't really doing any preparations because she had big faith in the school.

Also, her parents don't support her financially, and I have been footing her bills since December 2022 and I already asked her for a breakup like 5 times since then on the basis that her parents don't support her but I keep on allowing her back because she hasn't really done anything bad to me (she always begged and almost doing crazy things to herself like literally starving for days or trying to kill herself) (this scares me about he)

So, now I don't know what to do about her, if I should break up with her because she can't pass her waec or let alone be in school... What should I do?

Here is a chat between myself and her early 2024:

Let's take your parents aside.

What is your dream for a future spouse? Where do you see yourself, where do you see her beside you? What are the qualities in a woman important to you? You need to be true and sure of yourself.

I'm not reading all that. Just don't listen to your parent. You are a man

bukatyne:
Let's take your parents aside.

What is your dream for a future spouse? Where do you see yourself, where do you see her beside you? What are the qualities in a woman important to you? You need to be true and sure of yourself.

I actually want an intelligent woman with high emotional intelligence. She is smart but not book smart.

Meanwhile, I envisage that she will have a big saloon and also complete her youth service before 29 years old.

I actually care about her but the problem is that she isn't book smart.

Reality3080:
oga if u are human u will understand that things don't work that way

There are some factors to consider in all these, she left school a long time ago n focused on other things which means the brain power has depreciated

U might not understand but I know what I am talking about,me as an example.

I finished school n I was managing as a teacher then n reading always so I passed all d exams I did then cos I was still in that line, many years down d line I started doing business n I forgot d basic things in my course.

Like seriously now I find it hard to understand those things cos my focus has changed totally

If the op really love the wife, she has to do the undo for her......since l your family needs is certificate n grammar

Register her in miracle centre so she can pass the waec then after that enrol her in all these colleges of education that run on part time, u can help her sort some of her lecturers n things will work out fine

I tell u with time things will work out for d two of u, I am saying this provided u truly love her n u are willing to go extra mile for her

One thing about love is that u have to know the ability n disability of your partner n learn to work on it, she can't improve geometrically....it has to b a gradual step at it

I am a married man n I understand better

Thank you! I will consider what you have said.

I really want to help her mostly because she is a good girl.

If she has compassion, empathy, kindness and most especially, if she's loyal to the fault and willing to learn.

Please hand hold her and make her life better, always correct are grammatic blunders every now and then, she'll improve with her use of English.

Also push her to gather funds to enroll for educational programmes and get certficated.

My good brother please forget about her having degree,so far she can write and read very well, and she is good woman with good characters please marry her you won't regret your action.i did not regret not having degree am artisan and am doing well for myself

We4all:
This isn't even about her passing her WAEC. From the chat, it's obvious that two of you are not at par intellectually. I'm curious though...Why did you settle for a village girl when you can have any other girl that matches your status? Let me guess... She was a virgin and you wanted someone you could control.

Not really! I did not want someone I can control besides... If I wanted, I would have gone for a younger girl.

Nice2023:
Her strength is not in education.

Both of u might be very good in relationship but not in academics.

Life has taught me that,education is not everything but if the person can read and write for me,that is more than enough.
After all,there are people who went to school like u yet no job,no hope and no opportunities for them at all and ended up badly in life thereafter.

Keep this girl and remember,u said she is a good girl. Get her a home teacher that would her help and improve herself.

Pls always correct her when she types or engages u in any conversation. Good girls are hard to find.

But in the absence of this,u can still go for ur class instead of going through this stress.

About this class of a thing... She was really scared of dating me then because she put so much emphasis on class this and class that...

She said that she knows that we are not in the same class... And I always told her not to think like that... I have been helping her with books, maths and other corrections... But the thing is that she is not just book smart.

It is really confusing for me

Memberclub:
I'm not reading all that. Just don't listen to your parent. You are a man

You don't want reply my Whatsapp again

What I wonder is if the roles were reversed. Will she still do the same for you?

Quick question,

How would you feel if your wife did assignment for your kids and they score zero?

almost doing crazy things to herself like literally starving for days or trying to kill herself)

Forget about WAEC and focus on this.
She is emotionally blackmailing you. Red flag billboard.

I don't encourage situations like this because observation has shown that people are likely to gravitate towards their dream partners as they peak. Thankfully you are her dream man. Can we say same for you? You want this and that. It is becoming a bother for you because your income has grown and your eyes done dey clear to the kind of woman you feel you deserve. Years later, while she is home pounding akpu, you will be somewhere at the backend pounding the intern that followed you for a tech conference. 🤨🤨🤨 Except you learn to appreciate her as she is.

This I have seen...🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️

pocohantas:
Forget about WAEC and focus on this.
She is emotionally blackmailing you. Red flag billboard.

I don't encourage situations like this because observation has shown that people are likely to gravitate towards their dream partners as they peak. Thankfully you are her dream man. Can we say same for you? You want this and that. It is becoming a bother for you because your income has grown and your eyes done dey clear to the kind of woman you feel you deserve. Years later, while she is home pounding akpu, you will be somewhere at the backend pounding the intern that followed you for a tech conference. 🤨🤨🤨 Except you learn to appreciate her as she is.

This I have seen...🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️

Your razor-sharp perception of issues dey always burst my brain I swear

pocohantas:
Forget about WAEC and focus on this.
She is emotionally blackmailing you. Red flag billboard.

I don't encourage situations like this because observation has shown that people are likely to gravitate towards their dream partners as they peak. Thankfully you are her dream man. Can we say same for you? You want this and that. It is becoming a bother for you because your income has grown and your eyes done dey clear to the kind of woman you feel you deserve. Years later, while she is home pounding akpu, you will be somewhere at the backend pounding the intern that followed you for a tech conference. 🤨🤨🤨 Except you learn to appreciate her as she is.

This I have seen...🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️

Lol. This is hilarious

Jejesamzy:
About this class of a thing... She was really scared of dating me then because she put so much emphasis on class this and class that...

She said that she knows that we are not in the same class... And I always told her not to think like that... I have been helping her with books, maths and other corrections... But the thing is that she is not just book smart.

It is really confusing for me

Bro, I'm gon' be honest with you, all I'm seeing is a man who is about to add more weight on his weak shoulders to his detriment. The problem is that you, like most men, are inclined to pick girls who are lacking in some fundamental areas and require some "work". These men end up picking a girl that is dysfunctional, volatile, emotionally immature, depressed, lazy, poor, traumatized, temperamental, or mildly retarded, with the hope that after improving her life, you will get more love and her absolute loyalty in exchange.
Then, your contribution to her improvement becomes the leverage you use to induce her submission and dependence. This usually does not work out, especially given that you both dont have the same level of emotional maturity or operating at the same wavelength.
At the end, she may pull you down. Again, you don't get to truly know a partner who you have an advantage over until the advantage is gone.

In the matter of relationship, emotional compromise/attachment is men's greatest undoing. My advice: Don't be the looser "nice guy" that dies rescuing the damsel in distress. Be the real and authentic guy that knows and goes for what he wants.

Jejesamzy:
Good day everyone.

I need your advice on this.

Please, this is very serious to me and I beg you to not troll


I am a graduate and finished school in 2019. I am the only son my parents had and I am 25 years old.

In 2020, I started programing and by GOD'S grace I now have a job and doing quite well. I foot 90% of my family's bills and I am really happy doing it. But currently my parents are telling me to show them the person I am dating so I can marry her off and start my own family. The problem here is that my parent wants someone that is a graduate or at least in school but the girl I am dating doesn't even have a good waec or neco result.

I met this girl in 2021 when I was doing my NYSC, I did some accessment to find out that she is actually a good girl from a good family and so I asked her to be my girlfriend. Meanwhile, she had just finished writing her waec (Mind you she was 20 and I was 23 then) and my intention was to date her until she became 25 and I, 28 years old so that she will be in school or almost completing school by then before we get married. Unfortunately, when we checked her waec and neco result in 2021, she had failed woefully. So, we started dating and I started to help her with things in life such as paying for a single room for her in 2022 so that she can atleast stay away from the village and catering for her entirely. So, in 2023 I had my major breakthrough in my programming work and decided to help her learn a skill (Wig making) which she learnt but I was still unsure about the whole marriage thing since she failed her exams. So, early this year I registered her in a school known to pass waec but today, I found out that her result is showing "held".

My parents won't allow me to marry her and I already told her (in 2023) that I would break up with her if she failed her exam (the one I will register her to write in 2024) in a bid to get her to be more serious with the preparations but she wasn't really doing any preparations because she had big faith in the school.

Also, her parents don't support her financially, and I have been footing her bills since December 2022 and I already asked her for a breakup like 5 times since then on the basis that her parents don't support her but I keep on allowing her back because she hasn't really done anything bad to me (she always begged and almost doing crazy things to herself like literally starving for days or trying to kill herself) (this scares me about he)

So, now I don't know what to do about her, if I should break up with her because she can't pass her waec or let alone be in school... What should I do?

Here is a chat between myself and her early 2024:

The issue here is that you love her, with or without WAEC or NECO.

Not every one has the brain to keep studying..

Even if she makes her WAEC in special centers, how will she cope in the university

You have brought her out of her family and rented apartment for her, that was the first mistake

Anyway, if she is the one you love, inform your parents. Some people have bsc but are giving their husbands pains and headache in their marriage

With time she will realize the importance of marriage

What you Need is a woman that will give you peace at home and accommodate your family and not a woman with good grades but bad attitude to you and your entire family

pocohantas:
Forget about WAEC and focus on this.
She is emotionally blackmailing you. Red flag billboard.

I don't encourage situations like this because observation has shown that people are likely to gravitate towards their dream partners as they peak. Thankfully you are her dream man. Can we say same for you? You want this and that. It is becoming a bother for you because your income has grown and your eyes done dey clear to the kind of woman you feel you deserve. Years later, while she is home pounding akpu, you will be somewhere at the backend pounding the intern that followed you for a tech conference. 🤨🤨🤨 Except you learn to appreciate her as she is.

This I have seen...🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️

I don't cheat on her.

Ephort:
Bro, I'm gon' be honest with you, all I'm seeing is a man who is about to add more weight on his weak shoulders to his detriment. The problem is that you, like most men, are inclined to pick girls who are lacking in some fundamental areas and require some "work". These men end up picking a girl that is dysfunctional, volatile, emotionally immature, depressed, lazy, poor, traumatized, temperamental, or mildly retarded, with the hope that after improving her life, you will get more love and her absolute loyalty in exchange.
Then, your contribution to her improvement becomes the leverage you use to induce her submission and dependence. This usually does not work out, especially given that you both dont have the same level of emotional maturity or operating at the same wavelength.
At the end, she may pull you down. Again, you don't get to truly know a partner who you have an advantage over until the advantage is gone.

In the matter of relationship, emotional compromise/attachment is men's greatest undoing. My advice: Don't be the looser "nice guy" that dies rescuing the damsel in distress. Be the real and authentic guy that knows and goes for what he wants.

This is a very wrong conclusion.

The only problem my girl has is that she isn't book smart (I didnt say dull) because of her family background... The secondary school she went to is a terrible one.

But when she reads, she understands.

My issue is that she didn't grab much of book knowledge in school. But she isn't stupid or dull

frozen70:
The issue here is that you love her, with or without WAEC or NECO.

Not every one has the brain to keep studying..

Even if she makes her WAEC in special centers, how will she cope in the university

You have brought her out of her family and rented apartment for her, that was the first mistake

Anyway, if she is the one you love, inform your parents. Some people have bsc but are giving their husbands pains and headache in their marriage

With time she will realize the importance of marriage

What you Need is a woman that will give you peace at home and accommodate your family and not a woman with good grades but bad attitude to you and your entire family

Well, I didn't bring her out of her family house. It's a long story but I didn't bring her out of her family house.

Jejesamzy:
Well, I didn't bring her out of her family house. It's a long story but I didn't bring her out of her family house.

Ok

WeddingParol:
A woman that is not serious about her tomorrow has nothing to contribute to your future.


General advice to young men:

"You see all those trending wigs and latest phones category of girls, please avoid them if you want to live long".

She is asking the guy what she will do to improve? Imagine, so she doesn't know the direction her life should be going at her age?

Op. Its obvious the lady in question doesn't have destiny where school is, she can learn another none academic vocation in a big and serious way, the way I hate those ladies that do wig, I see them as they just want to exist while being tolerated.

And OP, the way you are counting years of help you rendered to her, like she is paying some debt.

Tell her straight up that your parents need you to marry and this is the conditions, and you can't fight them. After all women won't blink twice throwing a man away if they don't live up to the standard they are expecting. So do your thing now and save yourself future pains.