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Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

everyone has the right to deal with such issue as they please.... just because you easily can forgive your aunt, doesnt mean others feel the same way. there is absolutely nothing wrong with how your sister feels/reacts. thats her life and her cross to carry. just do whats best FOR YOU and basta.

MrBrownJay1:
everyone has the right to deal with such issue as they please.... just because you easily can forgive your aunt, doesnt mean others feel the same way. there is absolutely nothing wrong with how your sister feels/reacts. thats her life and her cross to carry. just do whats best FOR YOU and basta.

I honestly understand you bro.

If I'm in your sister's shoes I wont forgive the aunt either, you can't keep hurting someone and expect them to heal with just "I'm sorry".

If I were in your sister’s position, I wouldn’t forgive your aunt either. I despise wicked people, and I find those who are cruel to their own family even more repugnant.

You can't hate the mother and love the seed.
There is really no way she likes you guys or is remorseful. Tinubu's regime is triggering a lot of fake repentance. Don't fall for it.

That said, what is the genesis of their fight?
There has to be a backstory.

Greattha:
True.

I was about to ask the question: what does the aunty want or need from them?

Why the sudden urgency in being forgiven?

People only seek forgiveness like this when there's something eating them up.

That is how they do. Especially when you didn't become the prostitute or drug addict they were hoping you will become. I have an aunty on this table. Very wicked with a Pharaoh husband. The second I smiled with them, they wanted to kill me with billing. Both her, her husband and kids would call me for anything. I am the only one they have access to as my siblings locked up. Naso I see say the forgiveness no benefit me, I ran o. Now we greet from afar. Which is the highest I can advise his sister to do. Never let her guards down.

The most important thing is that you guys pulled through.

Some Aunts and Uncles feel you'll be miserable without them, but are always shocked to see how wrong they had been.


Where were these family people when your mum was pleading for her sister's forgiveness, why didn't they step in back then?
Now it concerns the children, they are calling family meetings.


Some families eh!

Living one's life is a choice
Forgiveness is a choice

No be by force. Since your Aunt swore that she'd rather died than forgive your mom, then she must follow through with her oath. What kind of person doesn't forgive her only biological sibling on her dying bed? Even when she was begged. Let her go to the other world and beg your mom first, then comeback and talk to your sister

Two can play the game!

Hmm

Your elder sister must have seen horror , I have a stepmother that I can never forgive 💯

Give her time she will come around. Tell her to forgive and she can also stay away from her . It's funny how people think it's easy to let go of pains caused by someone else. When you wrong people , you give them time to forgive at their own pace

You can’t force, compel or cajole her forgive her. She is still pained.
Time heals all things. With time she will get over it and willingly offer her forgiveness.

In the meantime, pray for her.
Show genuine and sincere love to your aunt. From your actions, other might see reasons to let go of the past.

Ire oo

What is the origin of this story. What did your mum do to her. Cos it seems like you started this story from where your side doesn’t have any blame as people are won’t to do when reporting cases.
Can we hear your aunt’s side?.

What did your mom did to her sister that might through more light on your aunty's position back then.

As for your sister I think she should find a way to deal with the issue so that she can come to place of letting go, otherwise, in the future she might find herself in the situation that your aunty is at the moment.

NB: if you think that the reason your aunty is asking for forgiveness is because you guys are in a position to be of help to her and her kids. Bros forgive if you can but please stay far away from such people. They will eventually do you in

How then is the relationship between you and your cousins, especially the ones from this your aunt?

Toor!

Hmmm

Mark my words, forgiveness is a choice these days cos some siblings will hurt you deeply. Something an outsider will not do, u will accept it. I have changed my ways cos i forgive too much and as a result, people take me for granted. What your aunty did to your mom is too difficult to forgive and the fact that others forgave her, its their choice. Dont force you sister to go against her will.

How U forgive people who wronged U is upto you, likewise your sis, no be you go decide no dem go forgive your aunt, just imagine my family chasing me away when i was a kid bcoz I came to make peace and u want me to let it go.. ur aunt lucky say no be me, i for collect a pound of flesh from her

Is she a ?

The spirit of your mom is fighting your Aunty through Sister.. Tell Your auntie to pray and fast so that God can touch your sister Heart.. The spirit is angry with her ... Peace be onto you.

The forgiveness shouldn't give room for steady billing.

To beat the OP they hungry me like mad
Na one of the yeye type of people mak family take Dey set bait
Stupid set of humans
As ur sis get peace now u no like am
What forgiveness all about I no understand
Bro my only advice tell ur sis to forget about them totally and focus on her life
Who family help
Yeye boy mak dey beg for aunt

Sonnobax15:
Good day Nairalanders.....Hope everyone of you here is fine and doing just great?

Well, there's a situation my siblings and I have found ourselves in presently.......It's been 19 years since we lost our mom and those years were really hectic years for us,due to the circumstances surrounding her death because she was murdered................But somehow, God came to our rescue and we've all grown now

Before my mom's death,she had a sister who was her only blood sister, tho they had other step siblings...... Honestly,as I kid,I remembered how many times my mom tried to resolve the dispute between she and her only blood sister but all were to no avail.....She(my aunt) was hell-bent on the fact that she'd rather die than to settle things up with my mom.......Even in her death bed,i remember how my elder sister went to inform my aunt about our mom's situation and everything that led to what happened to her,but she gave deaf ears and even chased my sister away.....

I was only a little boy then,but I remembered every single thing that transpired then ..

Now here's the problem.........My aunt has been on our necks, begging us to forgive her......There was a time we were invited to our maternal home for a family meeting,and my aunt happened to be around.....She knelt and was weeping and begging us to forgive her....... Personally, I'm a soft-hearted person and I've toured my heart to see if I could forgive her and I think I'm about to let bygones be bygones.......But my other siblings especially my elder sister has sworn never to forgive her . Tho I've tried to talk to my sister but she has vehemently refused never to forgive her .....My other uncles have summoned another meeting but my sister has vowed to ignore their calls.......

Should my sister be blamed for finding it hard to find a place in her heart to forgive my Aunt, considering the fact that she's a Christian?

Or make everybody just mind him business just like we've been doing over the years?

The matter just tire me I swear but it's all good tho..

If you don't forgive especially when the offender has apologized then it's now your own cross. God will not forgive her own offense niyen nah

Let her forgive your aunty if not she would also beg your aunt's children or grandchildren just the way your aunty is begging her now and it would now become a generation curse.

I really don't know how to forgive!

Why hurt me intentionally only for to come around to seek for forgiveness because "power don change hand"?

Just assume your sister dies while still holding grudges with your aunt. Will she make heaven? Let her think about it.

FreeStuffsNG:
If you don't forgive especially when the offender has apologized then it's now your own cross. God will not forgive her own offense niyen nah

All this Christian no normal at all
Did you know if satan apologize to God at the last moment but he stil throw am out u no ask urself why ?
Isreal get enemy
God favorite country

True.

I was about to ask the question: what does the aunty want or need from them?

Why the sudden urgency in being forgiven?

People only seek forgiveness like this when there's something eating them up.

pocohantas:
You can't hate the mother and love the seed.
There is really no way she likes you guys or is remorseful. Tinubu's regime is triggering a lot of fake repentance. Don't fall for it.

That said, what is the genesis of their fight?
There has to be a backstory.

Okay, But Forgiveness is key to Peace.
Your Aunt refuse to Forgive, Now she is seeking Forgiveness.
Your sister too refuse to Forgive now, hope she won't also go asking for Forgiveness bayi?

Forgive her for ?