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I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

Since when did childbirth in marriage become a favour by one gender to the other gender? Whoever thinks that she or he deserves to be worshipped by his or her spouse because of childbirth absolutely lacks the understanding of marriage

Valoromega:
She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

As for early marriage, it is the best. Wrong marriage is destructive, whether you are early or late to it. So, don't act as if late marriage guarantees any benefit. Marrying rightly and early is better than marrying rightly and late. Marrying wrongly and late is more destructive than marrying wrongly and early.

As for the business, na you go open business because you get the money. You no check her business skills.

Mosdiii:
You ended up saying nothing. How is early marriage good when you're not mature enough to handle the pressures that comes with it.

You ended up disgracing yourself. "Early" is different from "prematurely".

Op, my head sef no carry the matter

Paying the next rent when you(husband or wife) hardly get to open the shop doesnt make any economic sense

Maybe she wants to take her time before going back there

As for your spendings, Baba, na your cup of tea o, as far as say na your family u dey use a run.


If to become highly unreasonable after marriage is this high in most women, I no sure wetin i go later do o

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Nairaland and lies...

So you guys couldn't get someone to stay at the so-called store


Y'all must look for a way to paint em ladies •dark•

U sound cool and nice,then why should she be acting that way?why do some girls feel like marriage favours the man only?

🫤🫤🫤

Candidlady:
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Nairaland and lies...

So you guys couldn't get someone to stay at the so-called store


Y'all must look for a way to paint em ladies •dark•

hey candid,where have you been all these fvcking while?

Oh op, she's even threatening to leave your house? Bruh,let her go if she wishes to go . As a matter of fact, don't ever try to beg of stop her.....She think there's love on the streets abi? Make she enter first,na then she go know say wahala dey this life....

You will learn in a rough way

BEFORE GOD, FEAR WOMEN... MARRIAGE == HEADACHE

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

It's your cross carry it... Good for guys like you that see marriage as an achievement.

immortalcrown:
Since when did childbirth in marriage become a favour by one gender to the other gender? Whoever thinks that she or he deserves to be worshipped by his or her spouse because of childbirth absolutely lacks the understanding of marriage


As for early marriage, it is the best. Wrong marriage is destructive, whether you are early or late to it. So, don't act as if late marriage guarantees any benefit. An early good marriage is better than a late good marriage.

As for the business, na you go open business because you get the money. You no check her business skills.

You ended up saying nothing. How is early marriage good when you're not mature enough to handle the pressures that comes with it.

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

The fact you think you're doing her a favour and she doing you a favour shows you guys were not matured for marriage.

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

be patient. Be happy, don't renew the rent. But don't ever regret married. I repeat be happy for you. Marriage will make you overlook things. That's why only the humble can be married and stay in it cos it needs teaching ur wife manners. I didn't say forcing her to learn it. Just by ur actions. Leave the rent. Save the money until her senses is back. It will take a while though.

You ain't saying something.....
Speak up.

I can't buy this story.
It's one-sided.

But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.


WHEN DID PREGRNANCY BECOME A SICKNESS.

He said he closed shop 4 a year coz of pregnancy which he understands..

Understand what. Smh

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Oga calm down o !

You fit carry belle for nine months?

Abeg give that woman time to recover joor

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

It's because you are not leaving the house, try and get an office space for yourself too, in the morning both of you will leave the house

You have to dare her to leave, that's when her mind will open that you are the one doing her a big favour

The truth you need is simple...

If she wants to go, let her go. Don't stop her at all, just be responsible for your child and wait till your mind is settled then marry who soothes you. She's after-one already, when guys f*ck her in and out and she realize that the world outside is not what she thinks it is, she'll come back begging but it'll be too late cuz apart from having someone else in your life, I wouldn't take back who guys have slept the living day out of, while I was busy planning my future

you got married to a woman 4 months after meeting her? haven't you heard about courtship? she had barely come out of her shell after 4 months

Mosdiii:
You ended up saying nothing. How is early marriage good when you're not mature enough to handle the pressures that comes with it.

You ended up disgracing yourself. Early is different from premature.

Valoromega:
I got married in 2022 when I was 25 because I always wanted to settle down and start a family. My wife and I didn’t know each other for long before tying the knot—just about four months—but everything seemed to be going well.

Before I met her, I was the type of guy who stayed home a lot since I mostly worked from home, and that worked for me. But last year, I decided to open a business for my wife, spending over 2 million Naira on it. Things changed when she got pregnant, and we had to close the business for almost a year, which I understood because of the pregnancy.

Now, our baby is 6 months old, and she still hasn’t gone back to the business. When I asked her about it, she gave me excuses like the shop being too far (even though I give her the 1500 Naira for transport). She even blamed me for getting her pregnant, saying she would’ve started the business by now if it wasn’t for that.

With the store rent expiring in 2 months, and 400k due, I told her I wouldn’t pay for it again. She called me ungrateful, reminding me that she gave birth to our child.

Now, she’s mostly at home, trying to control everything in our marriage—when I go out, when I come home—and I feel like, despite all I do for our family, I’m not appreciated. I spend close to 100k every week just to keep the house running, making sure she’s comfortable, but she still acts like she’s doing me a favor by staying, and she acts like she can leave at any time.

Honestly, I’m starting to regret getting married because I don’t see any benefit for me as a man because despite all you do, it seems pointless

I wonder how you guys continue to stay in a marriage you not enjoying. Divorce am jareh

First of all, it seems you're not man enough, she feels you need her more than she needs you.. Whenever a woman tells you she want to leave you, tell her to go ahead, encourage to carry on, if she didn't move out push her out and watch her come back begging, if she didn't back, move on, you both are never meant to be, but in this your story she must come back and beg, it seems she has nothing of her own even... stop being a simp and you'll be taken more seriously.

Different type of fake story to demonise institution of marriage.

Wen you were in school, did you regret going and planned to leave school because of stress and difficulty that came your way then?


Wen you are looking for job, did u plan to stop looking for it because the first job u applied for didnt give u job?



Marriage is meant for mature and very responsible man


In other words it shows you are not only immature but high irresponsible man guy

Candidlady:
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Nairaland and lies...

So you guys couldn't get someone to stay at the so-called store


Y'all must look for a way to paint em ladies •dark•

That's not the issue here. I think the wise is just happy at home.

Some people are like that. Why should they kill themselves?

If she was enthusiastic about the shop, she would have gotten a sales girl. She isn't.

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The biggest misconception in Nigeria is when you refer to marriage as " settling down".

Now you don settle down na at 25 .

I don't know op,but marrying someone with the "I can leave you anytime" mentality is a huge recipe for distaster....

I wish you well in your marriage. I sell herbs tho

Op, I am a man like you. But if you understand what post natal stress does to younger women u will appreciate your wife.
Please allow that woman to enjoy your money jor till she is fit to resume