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I've been married for the past 6years and blessed with two(2) kids. I'm just a guy hussling from being a teacher, house agent etc. My cousin came to visit me last week, he arrived when i was about going out, so i told him to just stay and wait for me since i won't stay out long. Never knew they had discussions with my wife before i came back. So when i back we gisted, ate together and laughed. Later in the evening when he was leaving i escorted him to get a cab then while i was escorting him, he said he need small cash like 5k from me cos he wants to travel to Abuja, then i told him honestly i don't have money but i can send 3k to his account and he said no problem, then when he left I send the 3k to him, till today he hasn't called to say he has seen it or even thank you. Then Fast forward to today. I woke up from bed and was pressing my phone then my wife said she has something to ask me and i said to her go ahead, the next thing she asked was, did you go anywhere to get money? I answered how cos i don't understand, then she said my cousin brother told her that it seems i went somewhere (charm or babalawo) with my friends to get money because i don't like helping anybody in the family including him, that we were told not to help anybody with the money, infact the way he told my wife is as though he followed us to the place. According to her he also said i have money yet look at the phone she is using and also the phone i am using, that none of us is using a good phone.
I would have said maybe one of my friend tried to tarnish my image by telling him all these but my brother only knows two of my friends and those two, i can confidently tell you that he can't remember the last time he saw them because they don't stay in town and secondly talk has never joined any of them back in those days around 2007-2010 that he use to see them when he comes to my place.

Imagine what my own cousin brother would tell my wife...? I'm still in shock, how much do I have that i would help someone who doesn't have any responsibility? He's not married, neither does he have children. While i have a wife, 2 children and one of my late cousin's daughter staying with me because she's an orphan.

I'm the only one who knows the stress i face daily to cater for them. Yet, he says i don't like helping him or anyone in the family as if i have millions. I've never gone to any babalawo or whatever, I've never seen one with my eyes. To some extend I don't really trust my wife right now because only God know the conversation that led him to say all these.
Please guys what do you think?

Send him away. Couples should learn to be fierce against intruders.

Have you chased him out?

Ones you don't complain they would automatically assume you are okay.

What prompted your beloved wife to listen and believe such gossip?

First, give your "cousin" the benefit of the doubt, and ask him if he truly said what your wife told you.
If he confirms it, warn him to NEVER come to your house again.
Anything wey wan happen at that point, make e happen!

People who don't have responsibility are more likely to be idiots. Responsibility sharpens and brings out good behavior from people.

He probably haven't worked for money before or has people he caters for, so your frugality is seen as selfishness.

You'll notice that a major source of unhappiness in your life will be trying to please people.

If your cousin can have such thoughts about you, then he has destroyed the connection between you both.

EreluRoz:
Send him away. Couples should learn to be fierce against intruders.

he doesn't stay with me, infact since the last time he came, that is last week, I've not seen him nor spoken to him. Infact I sent him 3k and tried calling to ask if he has seen it, he never picked nor call back since last week.

Afonja101:
he doesn't tay with me, infact since the last one he came, that is last week, I've not seen him nor spoken to him. Infact I sent him 3k and tried calling to ask if he has seen it, he never picked nor call back since last week.

What an entitled and ungrateful being!

Afonja101:
he doesn't tay with me, infact since the last one he came, that is last week, I've not seen him nor spoken to him. Infact I sent him 3k and tried calling to ask if he has seen it, he never picked nor call back since last week.

Create a metal fence and stop letting intruders come steal your peace

Zonefree:
What prompted your beloved wife to listen and believe such gossip?

You're right my brother, only God knows the discussion they had with my wife that led to that utterance from him.

Why did your wife wait that long before she told you
And what type of question is she asking you

Afonja101:
You're right my brother, only God knows the discussion they had with my wife that led to that utterance from him.

A married woman should have limit when discussing with unmarried men.

Mariangeles:
First, give your "cousin" the benefit of the doubt, and ask him if he truly said what your wife told you.
If he confirms it, warn him to NEVER come to your house again.
Anything wey wan happen at that point, make e happen!

hmmmm..... Right, I'll do that this evening!!!

Zonefree:
A married woman should have limit when discussing with unmarried men.

A married woman with a clean heart sees her husband's relatives as hers.

Zaheertyler:
Why did your wife wait that long before she told you
And what type of question is she asking you

How long do you think she waited?

What is important is she didn't keep it from her husband.

Fault seekers!

Afonja101:
hmmmm..... Right, I'll do that this evening!!!

Protect your peace and your home at all cost.

Mariangeles:
A married woman with a clean heart sees her husband relatives as hers.



How long do you think she waited?

What is important is she didn't keep it from her husband.

Fault seekers!

😂😂😂😂
She shouldn’t have slept with such a thing on her mind though
All of them get fault
I will not leave my wife with my twin brother for two minutes
The cousin is a trouble maker
The wife well I no too blame her but she should have either warned the cousin or told the husband right away unless she’s suspecting something too
Woo I never marry so I don’t know

What kind of woman are you married to?. I can imagine someone insinuating something about someone I'm close to, not even a wife, I'll tell the person off immediately.

If your wife even has the guts to ask you such a silly question, it shows there's something wrong with you, her and your family dynamics as a whole.

zed7:
What kind of womanare you married to?. I can imagine someone insinuating something about someone I'm close to, not even a wife, I'll tell the person off immediately.

If your wife even has the guts to ask you such a silly question, it shows there's something wrong with you, her and your family dynamics as a whole.

Isn't it best that she told her husband so that he can know what his so-called cousin thinks of him and be more careful? 😱
You people on this forum ehn? Make una dey try fear GOD O!

Mariangeles:
Isn't it best that she told her husband so that he can know what his so-called cousin thinks of him and be more careful? 😱
You people on this forum ehn? Make una dey try fear GOD O!

You're a child. You think it's every thing you hear you'll say? Imagine me going to tell my wife someone said she was once a runs girl. Of course, if you're foolish enough to marry a LovePeddler, you can do that.

People who know the kind of partners they have wouldn't bring themselves that low to tell their partners rubbish. Tell off the goat and move forward. Again, what do kids know?

did you go anywhere to get money?

Imagine the senseless question. If you must talk, simply say, 'imagine what your foolish cousin said, that you are doing money rituals, but I told him off'.

Don't mind him. Continue taking care of your family.

Afonja101:
he doesn't stay with me, infact since the last time he came, that is last week, I've not seen him nor spoken to him. Infact I sent him 3k and tried calling to ask if he has seen it, he never picked nor call back since last week.

Your wife dey dey use knife turn ur intestine you..... But nor panic....

Just focus...ignore am....

Your wife of six years can't vouch for you?


Is that you're not open to her or what?

zed7:
What kind of woman are you married to?. I can imagine someone insinuating something about someone I'm close to, not even a wife, I'll tell the person off immediately.

If your wife even has the guts to ask you such a silly question, it shows there's something wrong with you, her and your family dynamics as a whole.

There's nothing wrong in his wife asking him, stop trying to poison his mind against his wife!

Kobicove:
There's nothing wrong in his wife asking him, stop trying to poison his mind against his wife!

I'm telling you!

These people think it's all their relatives that have good intentions for them.

This life oo


I can't believe this

He seems like a nosy parker with a motor mouth.

Warn your brother to stop coming to your house.

Afonja101:
I've been married for the past 6years and blessed with two(2) kids. I'm just a guy hussling from being a teacher, house agent etc. My cousin came to visit me last week, he arrived when i was about going out, so i told him to just stay and wait for me since i won't stay out long. Never knew they had discussions with my wife before i came back. So when i back we gisted, ate together and laughed. Later in the evening when he was leaving i escorted him to get a cab then while i was escorting him, he said he need small cash like 5k from me cos he wants to travel to Abuja, then i told him honestly i don't have money but i can send 3k to his account and he said no problem, then when he left I send the 3k to him, till today he hasn't called to say he has seen it or even thank you. Then Fast forward to today. I woke up from bed and was pressing my phone then my wife said she has something to ask me and i said to her go ahead, the next thing she asked was, did you go anywhere to get money? I answered how cos i don't understand, then she said my cousin brother told her that it seems i went somewhere (charm or babalawo) with my friends to get money because i don't like helping anybody in the family including him, that we were told not to help anybody with the money, infact the way he told my wife is as though he followed us to the place. According to her he also said i have money yet look at the phone she is using and also the phone i am using, that none of us is using a good phone.
I would have said maybe one of my friend tried to tarnish my image by telling him all these but my brother only knows two of my friends and those two, i can confidently tell you that he can't remember the last time he saw them because they don't stay in town and secondly talk has never joined any of them back in those days around 2007-2010 that he use to see them when he comes to my place.

Imagine what my own cousin brother would tell my wife...? I'm still in shock, how much do I have that i would help someone who doesn't have any responsibility? He's not married, neither does he have children. While i have a wife, 2 children and one of my late cousin's daughter staying with me because she's an orphan.

I'm the only one who knows the stress i face daily to cater for them. Yet, he says i don't like helping him or anyone in the family as if i have millions. I've never gone to any babalawo or whatever, I've never seen one with my eyes. To some extend I don't really trust my wife right now because only God know the conversation that led him to say all these.
Please guys what do you think?

Zaheertyler:
😂😂😂😂
She shouldn’t have slept with such a thing on her mind though
All of them get fault
I will not leave my wife with my twin brother for two minutes
The cousin is a trouble maker
The wife well I no too blame her but she should have either warned the cousin or told the husband right away unless she’s suspecting something too
Woo I never marry so I don’t know

If she had rushed to tell her husband the moment he told her, she would have given impression that she wants to drive a wedge between two cousins and by extension bring tension within the family. That kind of talk needs a lot processing before being spilled.

Afonja101:
You're right my brother, only God knows the discussion they had with my wife that led to that utterance from him.

The guy you have responded to in this comment is not even married and will only bring discord to your home should you listen to him.

That your cousin can’t even say thank you or pick your call after you sent him money is all you need to know about the kind of person he is.

Keep your distance and never again give him any money.

Do you want us to tell you that your cousin and wife are having an affair? Your cousin is the loquacious type and you should let it slide.

As for your wife, she might have believed your cousin, reason for her questions. This shows there is a hole in your relationship which needs to be mended.

Your wife brain sha.