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immortalcrown:
I think I know the problem. But I can't say it here.

Seun:
I will try to say something. Have you attended the SureHome Seminar?

LVStone:
Please how can you share

Efuaye:
Ladies avoid sex in marriage for many reasons. In her case, could it be that she doesn’t want to get pregnant especially if she hasn’t found the right contraceptive for herself
Since you already know about her many mood swings, try not to play the victim but show a lot of understanding by positioning yourself as a therapist to assist her get it out what her concerns really are.

MrBrownJay1:
separating from her emotionally is not the solution... finding the reason she is that way is the only way to go forward.

sounds to me like a woman who married a great man that she was not attracted to (nor love)

LVStone:
Hello everyone,

I am married for five years now and I love my marriage.

I have an issue and I need your advice on how to detach myself from being emotionally connected to my wife.

She mostly have mood swing and I use to have issues attending to her emotions, I want to always at each time check what exactly as gone wrong and how I can fix.

Most often I apologize because I want peace(she picks fault easily and gets angry)

The worst is that we do have sex but we mostly don't make love;

My wife hates being romantic, I can't play with my wife's breasts or buttocks, 90% of the times I tried she says she doesn't want.

I do ask the following questions

1. Am I not attractive?
2. Don't you have emotional attachment to me?
3. Why did you marry me if 1&2 are yes?
4. Is there something I did wrong?
5. Are you thinking about something?
6. Is there something i need to do?

In all she will Only say she doesn't just want it.

It happened that this evening, she was on the couch and I tried touching her best in a romantic way, she immediately changed her mood and said I should leave her as usual.

I asked her why she did that and she said that doing that will turn her on and she doesn't want to be turned on. I then asked if it was a crime for a married woman to be turned on, she said she doesn't want to be turned on because she doesn't want it to lead to sex because she doesn't want sex.

Again I have still not understood how a married woman who claims not to be having any emotional/phycological issues and no offense from the husband will avoid being romantic or being sexual with her husband.

If I need sex she gives as a duty, but I need more than sex, I need a romantic contact mind you i dont have extramarital affairs.

I feel very stupid, I feel like a fool, I feel I am too emotionally connected to her.

How can I stop having feelings for her? As in including sexual feelings for her? I wish I can also give her sex as a duty any day or year she needs it too.

Please I need help on how to do this.

I will appreciate mature responses without insults.

Thanks

Achigoxtech:
She's cheating on you. She doesn't love you again.

Marry a second wife.

Tokskob2008:
Since you have asked all the necessary questions and all her response showed that you ain't at fault just free her abeg. Your unnecessary attachment might be repulsing her so just let her be, when she nitice you hardly even look her side she will be the one to come over and ask you what's up that's if she hasn't been doing something extra outside.

Namaster:
Just take a look at the kind of WATERY pieces of advice that men give to a man being emotionally abused, FREQUENTLY denied, merely TOLERATED and being generally treated like an annoying PEST by his wife.

OP, take note:

Your wife is FUCCCKING somebody else. She does NOT like you anymore. She's NOT attracted to you. She NO LONGER respects you.

Also the fact you constantly HUMILIATE, DEBASE and BELITTLE yourself by soliciting and accepting PITY sex from a woman that ABSOLUTELY hates your guts is NOT helping you. Makes her even more DISGUSTED with you.

Imagine your wife NOT allowing you to caress or even touch her sensually when you have sex. She just removes her clothes and lies STILL like a log of wood and ONLY lets you put your dick in her vagina because it's her duty.

Dude, that's how BROTHEL prostitutes do their jobs. Not a WIFE!

I bet OP has not received BJs from his wife in years.

OP, Your Course of Action:

End the marriage this night!

Don't try to NEGOTIATE. Don't bargain.

Don't believe her even if she says she'll CHANGE. She won't. Her attraction to you is DEAD! No changing that now.

Your wife thinks having sex with you is an ANNOYANCE. She REJECTS cuddling with you because she thinks it might lead to sex.

You have been reduced to a NUISANCE in your own marriage!

END it!

Sex is a BIG part of marriage. Women love sex. Men love sex. If a wife does NOT like having sex with her husband, it's because she's find someone else she likes having sex with. And she thinks her new intimacy gadget is BETTER than her husband.

DIVORCE and find someone else to have sex with.

LEAVE this woman!

UjuJoan2:
This is the repercussions of the 50/50 bills you men have been fighting for. There is no romance without finance. Just as men are wired to cheat, women are wired to be turned on by money.

If you want romance in your marriage, be ready to provide 100%. You cannot expect her to share bills with you and then want to come and “play with her b00bs”, it won’t work. A providing man is a sexy man. Anytime she sees you she will want to jump your bones.

Argue with your ancestors!!

Seun:
I will try to say something. Have you attended the SureHome Seminar?

Namaster:
Just take a look at the kind of WATERY pieces of advice that men give to a man being emotionally abused, FREQUENTLY denied, merely TOLERATED and being generally treated like an annoying PEST by his wife.

OP, take note:

Your wife is FUCCCKING somebody else. She does NOT like you anymore. She's NOT attracted to you. She NO LONGER respects you.

Also the fact you constantly HUMILIATE, DEBASE and BELITTLE yourself by soliciting and accepting PITY sex from a woman that ABSOLUTELY hates your guts is NOT helping you. Makes her even more DISGUSTED with you.

Imagine your wife NOT allowing you to caress or even touch her sensually when you have sex. She just removes her clothes and lies STILL like a log of wood and ONLY lets you put your dick in her vagina because it's her duty.

Dude, that's how BROTHEL prostitutes do their jobs. Not a WIFE!

I bet OP has not received BJs from his wife in years.

OP, Your Course of Action:

End the marriage this night!

Don't try to NEGOTIATE. Don't bargain.

Don't believe her even if she says she'll CHANGE. She won't. Her attraction to you is DEAD! No changing that now.

Your wife thinks having sex with you is an ANNOYANCE. She REJECTS cuddling with you because she thinks it might lead to sex.

You have been reduced to a NUISANCE in your own marriage!

END it!

Sex is a BIG part of marriage. Women love sex. Men love sex. If a wife does NOT like having sex with her husband, it's because she's find someone else she likes having sex with. And she thinks her new intimacy gadget is BETTER than her husband.

DIVORCE and find someone else to have sex with.

LEAVE this woman!

Foodqueen:
U once told her, she smells.

Av she forgiven you

Radicalhost:
Get her gifts, as trade of for what you want. It just might work. Though as married couples this should not be transactional but what other options do you have.

LVStone:
I feel very stupid, I feel like a fool, I feel I am too emotionally connected to her.