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idahme:
He said he thought it will be beneficial to both parties but it's now a parasitic relationship and he is right to sell her away.

Don't get this mindset of some women z they are fine if they are the ones spending all the money in their sown house but once they stop Paying rent still find it difficult to plough back that rent money in form of assisting themselves in the new house they live by investing it in food and other home expenses that they majorly consume.

At this time and age no man should ever be with a woman that will become burdensome to him both in finances and otherwise. Irresponsible and zero accountability ladies should have zero place in relationships but dumb men won't agree.

You're right but he should have known the bolded rarely works. Majority of them don't like to share bills.

PerfectStranger:
You're right but he should have known the bolded rarely works. Majority of them don't like to share bills.

Pathetic situation we find ourselves, common sense should always prevail but common sense isn't common. We just have bunch of entitled irresponsible humans everywhere, adults wanting to remain as children forever.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation. Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well. Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for. She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores ,clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her. I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues,stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for. The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment. Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for. Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

If na me I go just do like a man that I knew some years ago let me say 15-20 years ago , he got himself involved in a relationship like yours , one day like this the man travelled for for some weeks and came back forcefully with a demand that the girl stuffs would be pack out that very day and yes it happened while I stood there watching like a man in a movie 🎥 cinema..

Ajeh some niggas get ogban for head ooo..

If na me I go do like late general abacha and forced that girl out instanta..

DiskJokeyManic:
U want her to leave yet u don't want her to feel hurt?? 🫤🫤🫤🫤

That is the only way she can leave ur house at dis point

Areh..she deserved no explanation to leave if I tried all my best to frustrate her for her to leave my house and she refused one day she go just jam my full annoyance and that will be that last day I will ever see her in my house again..

Strict men are not common..

idahme:
You ain't far from the truth, it's nice to always reverse the scenario and see if the reactions will be the same if it's not then something is wrong definitely.

That lady can't host a man who is working and lost his accommodations for 1 day without him contributing to the house. The way I loathe selfish people is unimaginable.

Being selfish can't be helped bro. As long as you're a living thing,you have no choice but to selfish otherwise your survival will be in danger.

We can only make effort to appear "selfless" so as to build necessary friendship and also function ultimately in this civilized world.

Tit4Tat1:
Moral lesson : Don't start what you can't finish

Just like a war someone or a country can't win..

Do not start what you can't finish..


Moral lesson..

Badmashiii:
Being selfish can't be helped bro. As long as you're a living thing,you have no choice but to selfish otherwise your survival will be in danger.

We can only make effort to appear "selfless" so as to build necessary friendship and also function ultimately in this civilized world.

I understand you but one can't be selfish to another who is selfless to her that's a no no for me.

Just buy more food and stock the fridge. She will run away

She goes no where

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Get her pregnant first, e Get why.

Tell her that you want to invite your mum or sister over for 2 weeks

But then be ready to loose her o.. She may leave you sha

But you self, confess to us... You want her to stay because of free pussy but then you want her to leave because of her burden....

GIVE HER MAX OF 4 WEEKS NOTICE, TELL HER IN PLANE WORDS THAT SHE SHOULD LEAVE YOUR HOUSE BECAUSE OF THE REASON YOU LISTED ABOVE. SHE IS A PARASITE.

Just tell her to leave, simple..

One thing I noticed about people nowadays is that they are shy about expressing themselves when it's killing them inside.


You have two options; it's either you let her know your dislikes or you back off from your plans on kicking her out for good.

All those people telling you not to pay house rent, change the locker, don't pay energy bills, don't restock your kitchen blaa blaa, those are childish attitudes.

Be a man and voice out your dislike.

immortalcrown:
Invite your mother for a holiday and order the girl to take good care of your mother.😀 The girl will run.

The funniest part is that she doesn't even want to live with you forever.😀 But you don't know. You think she wants to be with you for life.

She wants to exploit you and save enough money that will afford her a classy lifestyle when she finally dumps you. For your information, she is secretly and desperately looking for an alternative to your house. She will take you by surprise if she succeeds. She is very manipulative and selfish. Now, you must have understood why her previous host evicted her.

No girl with a genuine intention will perch on a male divorcee in the manner described in your post. Don't confront her too much to avoid a domestic violence that can end someone's life.

But I must tell you that you can't eat your cake and have it. You thought that she living with you would offer your more access to her body. You didn't know that there is a price for that.

OP this is the advice you need now☝️

Bro arrange pot with fetishism things inside.

Keep it somewhere in your room. One night wake up, tie a red clothe, and white clothes, bring out the pot, start saying unnecessary things.

I bet you she will run and never return to your house

Tell her say you don carry HIV in 1 hours time come and give your testimony

Pooo on your bed , plate , pot & in the toilet without flushing exhibit the dirtiest habit

Afodot0022:
She is naturally lazy to the core. Despite her being around, I do my laundry myself, I clean and sweep, I cook attimes , wash dishes. All she does is lie on bed and sleep at day. What surprised me was when she just picked her cloth alone about of our both dirty cloths and left mine. That was when I knew she doesn't worth the sacrifices I rendered her. She hate spending her money and expect me to sort all bills including feeding on top say I be her boyfriend. What she say is that am her boyfriend so I should handle all of it. Anytime I bring the discussion of her getting her place, she will start crying and saying all emotional blackmailing words. Some girls can just be so irresponsible, you work and earn and don't want to spend your money. I told her, did she realize that if she got her apartment, she will start paying bills and feeding herself, so why is it difficult to do such now you live with me. I see it as been stingy, selfish and self centered, reason I want to kick her ass out. She doesn't worth the sacrifice

Bro stop making excuses for her, she has no atom of care about you. If she does she would have shown some empathy towards you by assisting you either financially or physical chores. She's just using you and like one of the commenter on the first page said, you thought by allowing her into your apartment you'll have access to her body, but it comes with a price. She knows that you too don't love her, not like that so she's using you to achieve her selfish plans. It is now left for you to decide what you want either kick her out or continue wailing. The court is your balls position

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

This is very simple...... Now that you have enjoyed the free continuous sex, you are now tired of the sex........ 🤣😂

Get a letter of eviction from you landlord, start packing your things out of the house (tell her you would be squatting with friends)....... 😜

ask her to contribute to the upkeep of the house, she will runnnnn.

PerfectStranger:
You wanted to eat free kpekus at anytime you wish now u don tire you want her to leave

He didn't know that there's another price to be paid for free Kpekus. He is watching poverty staring him in the face in the hands of a manipulative lady.
My girlfriend stayed with me under similar condition but I was almost the burden because without me asking she was virtually doing everything including laundry, housekeeping and ensuring that there's food in the house, finally I couldn't let her go and we became husband and wife officially.
This girl is selfish and manipulative and looks out only for herself

After u Don fvck people Dota finish abi

davillian:
Buy calabash, buy red clothes, buy powder buy live chicken buy charcoal .....
At midnight wear the red cloth, tie on your head tie on your arm put the charcoal inside lite it put the feathers inside so it would bring smoke start talking rubbish until she wakes up and see you but don't say anything to her before u wake up in the morning she don run

This update don cast

She ain't good man....tell her about her flaws then chase her out....Dem no de use pity but market.

Stop feeding her

Until she dies in Ur house that is when u know what u are doing to your self.

AlphaNugget:
You dey enjoy pussy na why e dey hard you to pursue that liability

No mind the OG , E dey wine himself

I read most of the comments and I must commend the good minds being poured out here.
To add mine, I think you are very weak as a person. Harsh? That's what I intended it be. You are very very weak. How can a strong lady of that sort... Yes she is strong and not a liability... How can this sort of a lady manipulate you this securely.? Oga, be a man. Tell her to pack out. She will be fine and you will be alright.
By the way, stop sleeping around with other women. Either go back to your first love or hide your guy down there forever. Stop getting God angry.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders family, God bless you all in all ramifications. I know some will be familiar with my stories here, if you are not, you can visit my profile to get familiar.

My girlfriend have been living with me for a month now and reason I took her in was that she was kicked out from her friend she shared an apartment with and got no choice than to accept her briefly pending when she gets her own accomodation.

Initially I thought it will be beneficial she staying as I expect her to support but she is sole dependent on me even knowing that she works and earn well.

Now the narrative is changing as this my girlfriend is getting too relaxed, comfortable and looks like she doesn't want to leave again and want us to live together. At first I wanted this cos I expected she will also contribute in the house but I noticed she has been keeping her money to herself despite her working and depending on me solely and making me take husband responsibility that I have not signed for.

She is kinda lazy even despite her living with me, I still do my chores, clean and attimes cook. She only do these once in a while. There was a time she wanted to do her laundry, our dirty cloths was in the basket, she picked only her own dirty cloths and left mine to wash her own alone, I was surprised she acted that way despite the help I rendered for her.

I was divorced 2years ago and don't even want to think about another marriage any time soon cos of the issues, stress and responsibility involved in marriage, now it seems this girl is driving me to that route which am not even ready or prepared for.

The last time I told her to get her apartment before this month end, she didn't take it well with me, she started crying and manipulating me emotionally. To myself, even if you want us to live together as couple atleast I should know your parents and do something on your head to prove that we are both married but truth be told, am not ready for such for now, am not ready for marital commitment.

Pls house, advice me on how to navigate through this situation, how can I get her to leave my apartment nice, as it is now, I don't even care if her leaving will be the end of the relationship, cause I remember she mentioned that if she leaves, she won't come to my house again never I just want to have my place to myself so I can plan and focus with the little am managing instead of her adding to my responsibility which am not st for.

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

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This happened to me.
I told her that my cousin sister will be coming to live with me in few days tine that she should find a way out that I am ready to support her with the lilltle i have for her rent.
The following day she started looking for house and I supported her .
She left immediately

Pzpropertylimit:
Wait for the rent to finish and pack out

You think it's easy to move out and go and rent another place, now that rent has skyrocket and even finding a place you like is like an herculean task...

He brought this upon himself, he wanted to be easting free kpekus, he should have told him his terms and give him a time frame to stay there...