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Good morning Nairalanders.
I am got married February this year and by April, my wife got pregnant.

Since the pregnancy, sex have become a no-go area for my wife. She has no medical condition suggesting sex is unsafe. She is always tired. Note: I do all the domestic works for this reason. I understand pregnancy can be tough, so I try as much as I can to make things easier for her.

It is however so worst to the extent that we can't cuddle because her whole body aches and her tummy is dragging her. We sleep as far as possible from each other, so as not to make her uncomfortable or cause more pain.

I love my wife(she is an amazing woman) and extramarital affair is not an option.

Now, it looks more like my sexual urge has amplified(you see set up) and looks like this will continue till delivery.


Please, I need your advice.
If you have experienced this or have a suggestion on how to navigate this, help a brother.

Can't you stay clear of sex for nine months...

And if you can't help the urge.. crawl into the bathroom and help yourself..
Shikena

Ijust pity the poor lady.. cos I am pretty sure you'd still go out to help your so called libido

Candidlady:
Can't you stay clear of sex for nine months...

And if you can't help the urge.. crawl into the bathroom and help yourself..
Shikena

Ijust pity the poor lady.. cos I am pretty sure you'd still go out to help your so called libido

I need reasonable contributions. However, I understand your disdain for the opposite sex.

Lube ur D, put it inside her when she's backing u and in deep sleep she won't resist nor take it out. U the man. Think outside the box, strike out that obnoxious thoughts in ur head or be looking for validation from obnoxious folks as well.
If u can't have sex with ur wife, I wonder who u wanna have it with?

First trimester can be very uncomfortable especially as a first time pregnancy. By the time she gets to her fourth month, her mood will be stabilized. Na she go beg you for sex sef. Calm down abeg o! It is well

Beremx:
First trimester can be very uncomfortable especially as a first time pregnancy. By the time she gets to her fourth month, her mood will be stabilized. Na she go beg you for sex sef. Calm down abeg o! It is well

Thanks for your contribution. However, she is around 4½-5months already. I hope things get better though.

Like candid said, if you stay away from sex for 9 months will you die?

How is it that men don't know that pregnancy can affect women in different ways? some women's sexual libido becomes extremely high during pregnancy while some do not want to be touched at all, like mere touch irritates them.

Op better help yourself in the bathroom and leave her alone till she gives birth.

Ketamine9000mg:
Thanks for your contribution. However, she is around 4½-5months already. I hope things get better though.

talk to her mom if you want to go an extra mile in talking to a family member. She needs sex too as a pregnant woman. It's too early to deprive anyone sex in the marriage. She needs the cuddling too especially in this cold weather.

SensualMan1:
Lube ur D, put it inside her when she's backing u and in deep sleep she won't resist nor take it out. U the man. Think outside the box, strike out that obnoxious thoughts in ur head or be looking for validation from obnoxious folks as well.
If u can't have sex with ur wife, I wonder who u wanna have it with?

Just listen to yourself..

Potential rapist

Same thing applicable to me,my brother relax pregnancy is not easy as you think, please be patience with your wife, tough times never last

Continue to exercise patience and discipline. Congratulations in advance, Daddy.

Respect her wishes na. She's carrying your child, and you still want to have sex with her haba? She's your wife and isn't running away.

The way some of you guys talk about sex sometimes, you make it sound like oxygen. Something you cannot do without.

Get busy with other things, and use this period to bond with her. Initiate gists with her, help her out with some chores... marriage isn't just about sex.

Ketamine9000mg:
I need reasonable contributions. However, I understand your disdain for the opposite sex.

She gave you a reasonable solution.

Candidlady:
Just listen to yourself..

Potential rapist

Did yo momma complain to u that yo Daddy ever rąped her? What's wrong with u women? Where TF in my comment suggests rape? Your ilk nauseate me with yo thinking.

SensualMan1:
Did yo momma complain to u that yo Daddy ever rąped her? What's wrong with u women? Where TF in my comment suggests rape? Your ilk nauseate me with yo thinking.

The truth is bitter

Me sef no like the truth

Have a lovely evening

Ketamine9000mg:
Good morning Nairalanders.
I am got married February this year and by April, my wife got pregnant.

Since the pregnancy, sex have become a no-go area for my wife. She has no medical condition suggesting sex is unsafe. She is always tired. Note: I do all the domestic works for this reason. I understand pregnancy can be tough, so I try as much as I can to make things easier for her.

It is however so worst to the extent that we can't cuddle because her whole body aches and her tummy is dragging her. We sleep as far as possible from each other, so as not to make her uncomfortable or cause more pain.

I love my wife(she is an amazing woman) and extramarital affair is not an option.

Now, it looks more like my sexual urge has amplified(you see set up) and looks like this will continue till delivery.


Please, I need your advice.
If you have experienced this or have a suggestion on how to navigate this, help a brother.

Alternatively u can get a fleshlight and cum urself to stupor since u been waiting on these crackers to tell u what to do.

Candidlady:
The truth is bitter

Me sef no like the truth

Have a lovely evening

Have a lovely morning to u.

If the pregnant wife have sex with her husband, she won't die as well.

Sapasenator:
If the pregnant wife have sex with her husband, she won't die as well.

Don't mind em. Let em keep enabling rubbish. I didn't know pregnancy was an Ailment.

If your wife deny you sex,go ashawo quarter. Foolish man

SensualMan1:
Don't mind em. Let em keep enabling rubbish. I didn't know pregnancy was an Ailment.

Two can play the game na, why is the wife insensitive to the needs of her own husband. Does she realize sexual deprivation is in direct contravention to her marital vows?

Why is it ok to expect the man stay without sex for nine months? The Siemens will congeal na.

JovialJune:
Like candid said, if you stay away from sex for 9 months will you die?

How is it that men don't know that pregnancy can affect women in different ways? some women's sexual libido becomes extremely high during pregnancy while some do not want to be touched at all, like mere touch irritates them.

Op better help yourself in the bathroom and leave her alone till she gives birth.

The problem with you and others like you is selfishness and wickedness. It's always about what women want and how they should be treated.

During their period, women want men to understand their hormones. While pregnant, they expect him to stay celibate because she doesn’t want sex due to hormones and mood swings. Men should respect a woman's hormones, but a man's own hormones, such as horniness, should be disregarded and forgotten for nine months.

If she can't give him sex, then she should give him a pass to get it elsewhere. I pity the guy who is even waiting on her.

Nonsense and potential thunder victims.

Ketamine9000mg:
Good morning Nairalanders.
I am got married February this year and by April, my wife got pregnant.

Since the pregnancy, sex have become a no-go area for my wife. She has no medical condition suggesting sex is unsafe. She is always tired. Note: I do all the domestic works for this reason. I understand pregnancy can be tough, so I try as much as I can to make things easier for her.

It is however so worst to the extent that we can't cuddle because her whole body aches and her tummy is dragging her. We sleep as far as possible from each other, so as not to make her uncomfortable or cause more pain.

I love my wife(she is an amazing woman) and extramarital affair is not an option.

Now, it looks more like my sexual urge has amplified(you see set up) and looks like this will continue till delivery.


Please, I need your advice.
If you have experienced this or have a suggestion on how to navigate this, help a brother.

welcome to marriage. I know you thought it would be back to back. Let me tell you it would get worse, not that she would not give you sex but the frequency would drop. Tell her to suck your dick or your nipples so that you cum thats the best you can do for now till she delivers.

You poor summer child. This is your first pregnancy encounter.
I can tell you it is very normal. Her hormones are going haywire. She may not crave sex now and a few weeks later, she will demand more from you than you can give her. Na so e be.

All you need to do is to be supportive of her this period. It will pass. Na the belle dey cause am.

That said, e be like say your wife no carry her belle disturb you. That's why you have the time to be bothering about sex. When your woman tells you repeatedly every evening around 11pm that she wants you to take her to trailer park so she can sniff trailer exhaust and smell of diesel as the truck is firing(my experience), then you will know sex is the last thing that will cross your mind.

Give your wife allowance. Dem no dey dey too normal this period.

This is why our fathers had more than 1 wife

Tallesty1:
The problem with you and others like you is selfishness and wickedness. It's always about what women want and how they should be treated.

During their period, women want men to understand their hormones. While pregnant, they expect him to stay celibate because she doesn’t want sex due to hormones and mood swings. Men should respect a woman's hormones, but a man's own hormones, such as horniness, should be disregarded and forgotten for nine months.

If she can't give him sex, then she should give him a pass to get it elsewhere. I pity the guy who is even waiting on her.

Nonsense and potential thunder victims.

I want to believe you have a mother at home or perhaps elderly women in your family, maybe you should ask them what pregnancy entails and the different effects it has on women since you are too docile and slow to reason properly

Now imagine that for all those times your mother gave birth to you and your siblings, your father had to go out there to service himself because he couldn't hold himself for 9 months, and this is me hoping he was faithful to your mother, because from your baseless counter comments, it's either you grew up without your parents, or your father was/is a community diicking man that's why you think it's a norm, it can also be that you grew up in a dysfunctional home where your mother had to go through hell during pregnancy cos all of you in that house think that carrying another human for 9 months, with the side effects and all, is seen as nothing, pregnancy that has to do with life and death of either the mother and child, or both

But no, 9 months is too much for a useless husband to wait till his pregnant wife put to birth safely, 9 months is like a life time out of the remaining years of his marriage where he can sèx his existence away, the man must be the priority no be so, to a magnificently deficit human with the brain of a snail.

Nonsense and stupidity to the mentality of nairaland boys that reason like a one year old.

JovialJune:
I want to believe you have a mother at home or perhaps elderly women in your family, maybe you should ask them what pregnancy entails and the different effects it has on women since you are too docile and slow to reason properly

Now imagine that for all those times your mother gave birth to you and your siblings, your father had to go out there to service himself because he couldn't hold himself for 9 months, and this is me hoping he was faithful to your mother, because from your baseless counter comments, it's either you grew up without your parents, or your father was/is a community diicking man that's why you think it's a norm, it can also be that you grew up in a dysfunctional home where your mother had to go through hell during pregnancy cos all of you in that house think that carrying another human for 9 months, with the side effects and all, is seen as nothing, pregnancy that has to do with life and death of either the mother and child, or both

But no, 9 months is too much for a useless husband to wait till his pregnant wife put to birth safely, 9 months is like a life time out of the remaining years of his marriage where he can sèx his existence away, the man must be the priority no be so, to a magnificently deficit human with the brain of a snail.

Nonsense and stupidity to the mentality of nairaland boys that reason like a one year old.

Weak men all over the place.

JovialJune:
I want to believe you have a mother at home or perhaps elderly women in your family, maybe you should ask them what pregnancy entails and the different effects it has on women since you are too docile and slow to reason properly

The usual nonsense from half-witted idiots who would rather respond to people at home than to those engaging with them

JovialJune:
Now imagine that for all those times your mother gave birth to you and your siblings, your father had to go out there to service himself because he couldn't hold himself for 9 months, and this is me hoping he was faithful to your mother, because from your baseless counter comments, it's either you grew up without your parents, or your father was/is a community diicking man that's why you think it's a norm, it can also be that you grew up in a dysfunctional home where your mother had to go through hell during pregnancy cos all of you in that house think that carrying another human for 9 months, with the side effects and all, is seen as nothing, pregnancy that has to do with life and death of either the mother and child, or both

Lmao.

The usual excuse from folks with single processor and incredibly narrow focus. It's always man's fault yea? How about the other option, the option where my mother is not a wicked witch like you and others? Rubbish.

JovialJune:
But no, 9 months is too much for a useless husband to wait till his pregnant wife put to birth safely, 9 months is like a life time out of the remaining years of his marriage where he can sèx his existence away, the man must be the priority no be so, to a magnificently deficit human with the brain of a snail.

Nonsense and stupidity to the mentality of nairaland boys that reason like a one year old.

Useless husband that a useful wife married? Tells well on her choices.

Unless it's a medical condition, nobody will stay nine months without wanting to have sex. Not even witches like some people here.

Many married men are sex starved because of people like this one, you married a man that meets your needs and then find reasons to deny him sex and complain if he gets it elsewhere.

I way above the level where anyone can blackmail me emotionally, alright? So it's left for the OP to continue being a good husband by y'all standard or take care of himself because nobody else will.

Sex during pregnancy improves circulation, promotes better sleep, and helps maintain pelvic floor strength, which can aid in labor. It also supports a positive body image and, in later stages, can help prepare the body for childbirth.

So she's not doing it for the man alone but witches do kill their own children so nothing new here. If the reason she can't have sex is a medical condition, they should consult a doctor and have it treated otherwise she can continue her celibacy while he takes care of himself his own way.

Tallesty1:
The usual nonsense from half-witted idiots who would rather respond to people at home than to those engaging with them Lmao.

The usual excuse from folks with single processor and incredibly narrow focus. It's always man's fault yea? How about the other option, the option where my mother is not a wicked witch like you and others? Rubbish. Useless husband that a useful wife married? Tells well on her choices.

Unless it's a medical condition, nobody will stay nine months without wanting to have sex. Not even witches like some people here.

Many married men are sex starved because of people like this one, you married a man that meets your needs and then find reasons to deny him sex and complain if he gets it elsewhere.

I way above the level where anyone can blackmail me emotionally, alright? So it's left for the OP to continue being a good husband by y'all standard or take care of himself because nobody else will.

Sex during pregnancy improves circulation, promotes better sleep, and helps maintain pelvic floor strength, which can aid in labor. It also supports a positive body image and, in later stages, can help prepare the body for childbirth.

So she's not doing it for the man alone but witches do kill their own children so nothing new here. If the reason she can't have sex is a medical condition, they should consult a doctor and have it treated otherwise she can continue her celibacy while he takes care of himself his own way.

Usual gibberish to justify the usual nonsense nairaland halfwits are fond of spewing, nothing in most of your brain except sex, sex and more sex, the so called logical gender that refuses to make use of their thinking faculty to better their country

Take a look at leaders of tomorrow typing long epistle because of 9 months deprivation of sèx as if it's a lifetime, a pity but expected from the breed of Nigerian men circulating the earth lately.