₦airaland Forum

CodeTemplarr:
Why will he help with kids when he has to work extra hard to dig a borehole, generate electricity and pump water as against you going to the streams to fetch as it is in the books that inspired the provider role of man?

He also provides milled rice + grains and not the raw ones you have to go mill yourself like it was in biblical times.

He probably bought blenders, miicrowave oven, freezer, and washing machine which were never under the role of provision by provider in the bible. He probably pays the electricity bills for all those.

No wonder household level Yahoo is trendy today. There has to be spiritual shortcut or support for the man to meet those numerous emanating needs outside the original purview of the provider. They can agree on any kid or young maid around as victim. Any new innovation falls under the role of the provider.

If a machine that baths and dresses babies is created today, it becomes the man's job to provide and power it. Most likely within the city where the means to rapidly expand productive output in exchange for more money is highly limited. Tell me which brand of phone did Sarah use? What channel of satellite TV provider of their time was her favourite?

Is domestic battle even harder than field battles to start with?

Because they are their kids. Why wouldn’t you want to take care of your kids?

Maeve7:
Because they are their kids. Why wouldn’t you want to take care of your kids?

and why wouldnt a woman want to take care of her kids by releasing her money or contributing to provision.

CodeTemplarr:
and why wouldnt a woman want to take care of her kids by releasing her money or contributing to provision.

Answer my question. Why wouldn’t you want to take care of your children?

Maeve7:
Answer my question. Why wouldn’t you want to take care of your children?

come and force me to. It goes both ways.

CodeTemplarr:
come and force me to. It goes both ways.

No need to force you. The foolishness of your question is obvious. If you choose, don’t take care of your children. Just don’t complain later how they prefer their mother.

Maeve7:
No need to force you. The foolishness of your question is obvious. If you choose, don’t take care of your children. Just don’t complain later how they prefer their mother.

it is useless mothers who complain about taking care of children when the mannis out looking for what they will use. If you like donate your brain to coven in exchange for fine skin and big chest na you knoooo

CodeTemplarr:
it is useless mothers who complain about taking care of children when the mannis out looking for what they will use. If you like donate your brain to coven in exchange for fine skin and big chest na you knoooo

So all families that you know survive on one income? All the women you know don’t work?

Maeve7:
So all families that you know survive on one income? All the women you know don’t work?

women worked in the ancient times. They did mostly from home.

CodeTemplarr:
women worked in the ancient times. They did mostly from home.

Keep dodging the questions. I understand you need to save face. Too late.

If you look closely, you'll find that some of the women who complain about their husbands barely helping with household chores have sons they rarely allow to do the same. I once asked a married woman why her two boys, aged 10 and 7, couldn't make a simple meal like noodles. Her response: 'They are boys.' This same woman complains every other day about her 'lazy' husband.

Women who expect more from their husbands should start by raising sons who actively contribute at home. Be the change you want to see.

Also, men who complain about Nigerian girls should strive to be the change they want to see. Be a role model to your daughters, raise the standard, give maximum financial support to your daughters, and the complaints will reduce.

He go be only black women.

Phew!

E no go better for 50-50 Sha.... I no wan hear am!

Nonsense. Their reasons are inconsequential. Most of them saying he doesn't help with the kids, but could not cite the other things their husbands do. All I see here are women who don't know their homes , and have been taking lessons from the wrong places and classes

Tallesty1:
Your mates dey use four test mic in the north 😂

And we see how the majority turn out.😃

Wow

Men should learn to participate in their homes. I don't believe in one party being the sole provider. As such, contribute to the family purse and work and plan things accordingly.

CodeTemplarr:
it is useless mothers who complain about taking care of children when the mannis out looking for what they will use. If you like donate your brain to coven in exchange for fine skin and big chest na you knoooo

So women in Nigerian don't equally work?


How many households in Nigeria can survive on just one income?

1Sharon:
So women in Nigerian don't equally work?


How many households in Nigeria can survive on just one income?

This is how many reason until they are old and start blaming the woman for manipulating the kids against them. Same kids they didn't bond with as kids. It is always ludicrous that women go on to have 2 or more kids for men like this. Because one thing with Naija men is they hardly disguise their bad values and character. So how do you have CHILDREN for him? Children you will raise alone. It beats me everytime.

CodeTemplarr:
and why wouldnt a woman want to take care of her kids by releasing her money or contributing to provision.

but women already do?

pocohantas:
This is how many reason until they are old and start blaming the woman for manipulating the kids against them. Same kids they didn't bond with as kids. It is always ludicrous that women go on to have 2 or more kids for men like this. Because one thing with Naija men is they hardly disguise their bad values and character. So how do you have CHILDREN for him? Children you will raise alone. It beats me everytime.

If I could have a super power, I would want it to be the power to open Nigerian women’s eyes.
Be to men how they are to you. Do to them EXACTLY as they do unto you and half of these stories will die in 6 months. Men understand consequences more than anything else.
No low effort man gets a girlfriend, wife or family.
No disrespectful man gets a baby.

My girlfriend used to come around our house then, and if she saw me doing any chores, she joined me so I could get done quickly; we'd gist over it.

It's the same if you married a man who is your friend. Why would a husband not help his wife with stuff just because he's a man? It's appalling!

My husband is my friend. Before we became bf and gf, we were first friends, gist partners, and it continued into our marriage; we'll be 14 very soon, and it's been one heaven of a fun ride. God bless him always.

cococandy:
but women already do?

idiotic lie.

CodeTemplarr:
idiotic lie.

The idiotic lie here is that women don’t contribute financially in the homes? Is that your reality?

pocohantas:
This is how many reason until they are old and start blaming the woman for manipulating the kids against them. Same kids they didn't bond with as kids. It is always ludicrous that women go on to have 2 or more kids for men like this. Because one thing with Naija men is they hardly disguise their bad values and character. So how do you have CHILDREN for him? Children you will raise alone. It beats me everytime.

je ka gborun jare !! Do mothers not manipulate the children against the man, does anyone need to paint the devil bad or does the devil need a reason to be bad

How can fathers bond with the kids when he spends more time hustling and working his butt off to provide,

How can the kids bond with man, there mother use as disciplinarian or threat, i will report you to your dad as if the dads are sadist.

How many mothers tell there children the sacrifices there father made, most children growup thinking if not for their mother protest, their father wont have done anything


Men bypass your wife if you must
.. let your kids see what you do. shikena

cococandy:
The idiotic lie here is that women don’t contribute financially in the homes? Is that your reality?

Oga, stop sounding frustrated.

cococandy:
If I could have a super power, I would want it to be the power to open Nigerian women’s eyes.
Be to men how they are to you. Do to them EXACTLY as they do unto you and half of these stories will die in 6 months. Men understand consequences more than anything else.
No low effort man gets a girlfriend, wife or family. No disrespectful man gets a baby.

I wish it were that easy.

I would understand if it is just one child. My only guess is they want all the kids from one man and it makes no sense if we analyse it. The burden of pregnancy and nurturing is on you, the woman. So why not make it worth your pain or be selfish with your womb?

cococandy:
The idiotic lie here is that women don’t contribute financially in the homes? Is that your reality?

Shebi you have a home, coco you and i know if your man is not dispensing enough you wont even stay

In a country where the women are so entitled,and her money is her money ... in all of these how can these women still be breadwinners/ providers online
No doubt some women contribute but what is the percentage and how many naija woman can contribute 50% in their homes and not lose sanity.

A naija wife contribution mostly come as soft loan , she go collect am back by crook or hook. that gender

Acidosis:
If you look closely, you'll find that some of the women who complain about their husbands barely helping with household chores have sons they rarely allow to do the same. I once asked a married woman why her two boys, aged 10 and 7, couldn't make a simple meal like noodles. Her response: 'They are boys.' This same woman complains every other day about her 'lazy' husband.

Women who expect more from their husbands should start by raising sons who actively contribute at home. Be the change you want to see.

Also, men who complain about Nigerian girls should strive to be the change they want to see. Be a role model to your daughters, raise the standard, give maximum financial support to your daughters, and the complaints will reduce.

This your wisdom eh.. May God continue give you more

Being following your post for awhile..

Hope you are holding up pretty well, the Lord would continue to strengthen you.

Proserpina:
Phew!

E no go better for 50-50 Sha.... I no wan hear am!

Someone woke up on a the wet side of the bed. is it rain or the roof is leaking

iamtoofan:
Someone woke up on a the wet side of the bed. is it rain or the roof is leaking

Go and ask your grandfather.

CodeTemplarr:
Oga, stop sounding frustrated.

iamtoofan:
Shebi you have a home, coco you and i know if your man is not dispensing enough you wont even stay

In a country where the women are so entitled,and her money is her money ... in all of these how can these women still be breadwinners/ providers online
No doubt some women contribute but what is the percentage and how many naija woman can contribute 50% in their homes and not lose sanity.

A naija wife contribution mostly come as soft loan , she go collect am back by crook or hook. that gender

Is your reality that women don’t contribute financially to their marriages?

Yes or no?

I know the answer but it’s good to watch you lie in 4K

Proserpina:
Go and ask your grandfather.

Are you saying, the one night stand was my grandafather or how will he know