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Psych412:
Here in Nigeria, some/most men here have all turn their marriages to a slave scheme....a slave mentality, putting their wives in bondage and in anguish.



That's why married women in Nigeria now look older than their age....this slave mentality needs to stop and be abolished

Is like you re in one la tormentor marriage?



Na ur words dey make me laugh, no vex o.

I help where I can. I bathe the kids, my wife makes their meal, dresses and feeds them while I take them to school, then she brings them back. We have to ease the stress on ourselves

Stop complaining. Marriage wasn't an easy journey.

Hezmatosky:
Wetin sef you go take satisfy woman for this life? Which means you did not copy anything from your mothers? Lubbish

As a man?
NOTHING...ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!
The human female is born miserable and shall die miserable

Klass99:
The first woman who commented to say married life is not easy just sounds naive and clueless. What did she honestly expect or think it would be like?

Didn't she grow up in a two parent household to see what parents go through and how their needs often take the back seat for the sake of their children? What am I saying sef, even a one parent household ought to teach you that.

Please what do they teach intending couples in pre-marital counselling? Because some things are basic common sense knowledge from just watching our parents or other married folks in our world and space. You can learn valuable things from simply observing others.

Many men and women ain't purposeful.. You can't build a home without knowledge .

tanigororo:
If them no marry them, Na wahala. Make this gender go rest abeg

They are never satisfied.

Zonefree:
A female Nigerian student would slave for her school boyfriend for 4-5 years without complaining.
-She'll cook and serve the young man and his friends.
-Wash his clothes.
-Clean and tidy his rooms/kitchen.
-Wash his toilet.
-Attend to his sexual needs in marvelous ways.

All these for free!

Same girl will get married and start to complain after just 8 months that house chores are too much for her. Same chores she was doing for her school boyfriend for years without complains!


If you want to practice feminism, stay in your father's house! As long as marriage is in your dictionary and you're getting married in an African settings, get ready to work!

Lazy dimwits!

Pls send your location, I owe you one crate of chilled Orijin

Life is fair because she's unfair to both sex

Psych412:
Here in Nigeria, some/most men here have all turn their marriages to a slave scheme....a slave mentality, putting their wives in bondage and in anguish.



That's why married women in Nigeria now look older than their age....this slave mentality needs to stop and be abolished

It's the opposite abeg. Young men looking like ancestors while their wives are looking fresh

THE REASON WHY YOU WOMEN MUST NOT MARRY USELESS MEN

WHEN YOU READ THE STORIES YOU REALIZE THAT ALL THESE WOMEN MARRIED USELESS MEN

We4all:
Getting married to an African man is like being sentenced to life in prison. Once they pay their peanuts bride price, they think they own their women and can do whatever they want with them. There are still some good men out there, but the bad men overshadow the good ones.

Stop marrying village men

rollywise:
Oga erase this mentality. Both are difficult but sometimes domestic battles are more. Have you stayed home alone with your kids just for a day? If your sanity remains same then remove the R in my name. Know they are humans and help often where you can. If you really provide the finance then provide enough to get her a house help to ease the stress. Help where you can. It's your pride if your wife looks good beside you in an outing

Maids were mentioned in the bible too si help is not a bad idea. The bad thing is when the man has to pay the help and the madam now hijacks that to make the help a slave who does everything for her. Read Proverbs 31 to see some of the things a virtuos woman does for the maid.

Akara

placeofallure:
My girlfriend used to come around our house then, and if she saw me doing any chores, she joined me so I could get done quickly; we'd gist over it.

It's the same if you married a man who is your friend. Why would a husband not help his wife with stuff just because he's a man? It's appalling!

My husband is my friend. Before we became bf and gf, we were first friends, gist partners, and it continued into our marriage; we'll be 14 very soon, and it's been one heaven of a fun ride. God bless him always.

You are talking about you as the man and you as the girlfriend. Which category do you belong

We are leaving in the end time,women now want to be like men.Talk like men,take responsibility like men, dress like men.Do evrything a man does.Possibly maybe God should not have created that gender , they are a whole lot of confused gender.In the first place, what i see now is that there is confusion evrywhere.The feminist movement are working hard to make women see they can be equal to men,they must have equal right in everything.In reality, live cannot be balanced.Women dont want to be married again because they see marriage as a slavery.Also men see marriage as a slavery where the man work out his ass to provide.I see lesbian women working hard to be men and foolish gay men working hard to be women.Definitely, confusion every where and i fear for the new ideas modern men and women have , this is a crazy age

Psych412:
Here in Nigeria, some/most men here have all turn their marriages to a slave scheme....a slave mentality, putting their wives in bondage and in anguish.



That's why married women in Nigeria now look older than their age....this slave mentality needs to stop and be abolished

I don't understand, what make a woman to be slave in this generation? Are we saying that to cook or have kids and taking care of them that we all grow up to know is slavery? Ok let's look at it this way, if women no longer cook, birth and raised kids, engaged in house cores etc what will they be doing?

Boo hoo. Life is not easy. I didn’t spread their legs open nor beg them to accept proposals. According to religious people, God cannot give you a challenge too difficult to handle. Learn along the way. It’s only twenty-one years before the children can stand independently. By then, the women will rather die than leave their roles of house makers.

marriage is really overrated

Zonefree:
A female Nigerian student would slave for her school boyfriend for 4-5 years without complaining.
-She'll cook and serve the young man and his friends.
-Wash his clothes.
-Clean and tidy his rooms/kitchen.
-Wash his toilet.
-Attend to his sexual needs in marvelous ways.

All these for free!

Same girl will get married and start to complain after just 8 months that house chores are too much for her. Same chores she was doing for her school boyfriend for years without complains!


If you want to practice feminism, stay in your father's house! As long as marriage is in your dictionary and you're getting married in an African settings, get ready to work!

Lazy dimwits!

Reality. Although man can still support his wife.

This thread...

It is the unmarried ones that have the most to say about marital struggles. Case in point are the first few male commenters who I'm sure can't keep a steady girlfriend, talk more of marriage, yet they wrote epistles on why the women complaining are lazy.

Social media is really a leveller

I would have been a very caring husband but Nigerian girls ,my werey and my ancestors no gree make I reason marriage

This is the summary of women's lives. They expect the man to do house chores instead of spending his time, energy and creativity in working and critical thinking to openup new frontiers of greatness for the family. Just laziness. Most of my married friends have the same problem with this lazy generation of women. I'm facing the same challenge too. This is why the society is falling. Take it to the bank, men build the society while women build the home.

Truth is marriage is not for everyone.
But we tend to shy away from facts.

pocohantas:
Majority of the issues here revolves around money. Thankfully I didn't see many cases of physical or emotional abuse.

If the man is walking through coal to provide for a family on a single income, he is just as frustrated. So they are definitely surviving on a tight budget in 2024. I will suggest the women talk to their husbands to at least help with dressing the kids in the morning.

Or, they can get a job and outsource some tasks.

When we emphasize on the importance of a woman having an income before or in marriage, they say it is feminism and we are deceiving young girls. But money would save you a lot of bad days and help you ignore things that would have ordinarily caused issues in your marriage.

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Except you are married to the minute percentage of Nigerian men that can shoulder all the bills and still provide you appliances and a help. This would most likely be your reality.

Finally, 2 kids is okay for 99.9% of Nigerian families. The remaining 0.1 are politicians, executives, trustfund babies, oil workers and people earning a solid 7digit income.

Let's stop repeating a cycle of parents who spend all their youth training kids until they forget the main reason they got married - COMPANIONSHIP. It is not the flex y'all think it is.

Thank you!

If they have like 2 maids.....problem solved.

JovialJune:
Marriage is not an escape route to anything what exactly is anyone escaping from that isn't happening or present when single?

The best way to face marital life is to expect nothing and hope for the best, and if in a situation whereby one can't cope anymore and one's health is at risk, leave. Marriage is not a do or die affair.

So your marriage is all sweetness and light? No issues?

Nadi una go dey dish out advice to hurt other people

We4all:
Getting married to an African man is like being sentenced to life in prison. Once they pay their peanuts bride price, they think they own their women and can do whatever they want with them. There are still some good men out there, but the bad men overshadow the good ones.

Single woman don drop mumu quote🙂🙂🙂.

Soon, the bride price won't even be paid

SKhanmi:
The problem with women, you give them an inch, they would take a mile.

Help a sensible wife out at home sometimes and she would appreciate and understand why. But see the rest, they would start feeling entitled. Before you know you’re still paying all the bills and doing most of the house chores. No be say dem go still please you for the other room.

I saw a statistics of married couples that shared chores/bills abroad, it was always the guys that ended up loosing because you can’t really satisfy a woman. It’s a trap.

Guys never start what you can’t finish. If you can afford it GET A HOUSEHELP! Nonsense

Exactly!! You nailed it!!

Psych412:
Here in Nigeria, some/most men here have all turn their marriages to a slave scheme....a slave mentality, putting their wives in bondage and in anguish.



That's why married women in Nigeria now look older than their age....this slave mentality needs to stop and be abolished

the lazy entitlement mentality or traumatized upbringing that our ladies bare out as excuse instead of accepting their femininity and contribute meaningfully to helping the black man find his destiny and bring heaven closer home......
all their thought.. is us how to be like Men ... from the rear

Psych412:
Here in Nigeria, some/most men here have all turn their marriages to a slave scheme....a slave mentality, putting their wives in bondage and in anguish.



That's why married women in Nigeria now look older than their age....this slave mentality needs to stop and be abolished

You women are just too self-centered. See how most of you are just talking about the role you all play in taking care of the family but none you ever think of the role a man play to provide for his family. If you women think a man's role is easy just switch for two months and see.

This is just a simple matter of understanding, if you're tired as a wife and you need help why not talk to your husband for assistance if he's free and see if he will not help out, but must of you believe he's supposed to do it without anybody asking which is very wrong. I for one for one do house chores, and I don't care if anyone is around or not. I just do my thing, but if I need help sometimes I ask. Lastly, not all men have that upbringing of doing house so if you get married to such men don't expect assistance, except by God's grace. Simple


So you women need to be understanding and rational, the world doesn't revolve around you people.

tanigororo:
If them no marry them, Na wahala. Make this gender go rest abeg

It’s just social conditioning. Women are now beginning to realize there is no benefit in marriage. Things will change in future. It’s already changing in the western world. Birth rates are down worldwide, especially in the western world.

ExAngel007:
Married women share battles they fight in theirvhomes that their loved ones know nothing about

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Married women have gone online to share the silent battles they fight in their homes that they never tell anyone about.

A married woman prompted them to share and many opened up.

Most of those who spoke lamented about receiving no help from their husbands and having to endure infidelity.


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... today's women are claiming to be western world...too many olosho going into marriage due to their past life the marriage gets boring with time because you married to please people and internets

achimendy:
You women are just too self-centered. See how most of you are just talking about the role you all play in taking care of the family but none you ever think of the role a man play to provide for his family. If you women think a man's role is easy just switch for two months and see.

This is just a simple matter of understanding, if you're tired as a wife and you need help why not talk to your husband for assistance if he's free and see if he will not help out, but must of you believe he's supposed to do it without anybody asking which is very wrong. I for one for one do house chores, and I don't care if anyone is around or not. I just do my thing, but if I need help sometimes I ask. Lastly, not all men have that upbringing of doing house so if you get married to such men don't expect assistance, except by God's grace. Simple

So you women need to be understanding and rational, the world doesn't revolve around you people.

Men have too much damn free time. That’s why they have the time for multiple side chicks, can go to the beer parlor to drink, watch football etc while the wife is busy slaving. They need to contribute. Women do too much free labor for them.