₦airaland Forum

Akalia:
She does nothing but I don't mind. However, my frustration is that this woman does not take correction and instruction. She does not appreciate my toil under the sun. I work my ass off on a sailing basis to bring good money back home at the end of the month but all she sees are my deficiencies such as not always helping out in domestic chores, being romantic on her own terms, and being assertive.

I can go on and on. Man, I am even thinking along the line of separation for now but I have two toddler sons and that is what is withholding me.

Women are impossible.

Berankis:
10 Things I have personally learnt in marriage
1. Lots of women are lazy in marriage. They mostly claim to go to church but are very secretive.
2. You cannot satisfy a woman
3. Marriage demands' pressure can push a man to his death, to crime, misdemeanor and even imprisonment
4 Women tend to see marriage as an escape from the hard work they performed while single, but the opposite is the case
5. Marriage reduces the life span of lots of men
6. Women also make huge sacrifices that are unforgettable like child birth, putting the home together and raising the kids
7. House chores no dey finish, what you do today, you will still do tomorrow, so just so whatever your strength can carry and continue later
8. Woman can be very provocative with words, they can push you beyond the limits and expect you not to retaliate
9. Most women aren't really what you think they are, they change with your ability to do or inability to do
10. Finally, marriage still is the best thing to happen to a man. I am always extremely happy whenever I see my children.

MonsterVerse:


That dude just want to blame his wife for certain reasons, but doing nothing as you mentioned above is impossible for a woman not to engage in single one thing over their..might be biggest lie.

Zooposki:
That’s what we call a mule marriage.

Nicepoker:
You are talking about you as the man and you as the girlfriend. Which category do you belong

placeofallure:
You have a comprehension disorder. There's nothing vague or ambiguous in my comment. I am a woman; can't a girl have a girlfriend again?

Wos Wos Wobi! Nairaland is not for children, Ok? Cause I no know wetin I write na and you don dey dey confuse, wetin?

We4all:
Getting married to an African man is like being sentenced to life in prison. Once they pay their peanuts bride price, they think they own their women and can do whatever they want with them. There are still some good men out there, but the bad men overshadow the good ones.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Women of old were stuck and had no options out of the bad situations theu called marriages, why do you think they encouraged their daughters to pursue an education and money? So as not to end up like them.

CodeTemplarr:
Maids were mentioned in the bible too si help is not a bad idea. The bad thing is when the man has to pay the help and the madam now hijacks that to make the help a slave who does everything for her. Read Proverbs 31 to see some of the things a virtuos woman does for the maid.

Nicepoker:
Stay in one place.

Zooposki:
Men have too much damn free time. That’s why they have the time for multiple side chicks, can go to the beer parlor to drink, watch football etc while the wife is busy slaving. They need to contribute. Women do too much free labor for them.

hartson:
hmmm,they encouraged their daughters to pursue education and money.After acquiring all of that,are they better off?Are they still not complaining and nagging up and down?

achimendy:
When the husband was busy working for 7 to 8 hours to provide for his family where were you, oh you didn't think of that? Now the man comes back from work tired and decided to relax by taking a chilled drink and also watch football, then the selfish woman that you're start getting angry. You women are just too self-centerd.

Everyone in the family has his or her own role to play, the wife does her own which is to keep the home, while the husband does his own too by providing and protecting his family. The early you understand this the better for you. Stop using the word slave, nobody forced you to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married.


Shalom

achimendy:
When the husband was busy working for 7 to 8 hours to provide for his family where were you, oh you didn't think of that? Now the man comes back from work tired and decided to relax by taking a chilled drink and also watch football, then the selfish woman that you're start getting angry. You women are just too self-centerd.

Everyone in the family has his or her own role to play, the wife does her own which is to keep the home, while the husband does his own too by providing and protecting his family. The early you understand this the better for you. Stop using the word slave, nobody forced you to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married.

Shalom

Lovit:
Men should help their wives out with home chores, I do help mine.

The thing is that most of the outgoing type of men are rarely around to help their wives with chores, and they are the type the younger woman looking to marry goes for, the ladies like the 'we are outside' kind of men until they get married and have kids to discover that it has its disadvantages

A man can still ball outside and ball inside, create a balance so you can be there to help Madam when she needs help

ExudeLoveToAll:
Why won't you call it slave when virtually all of you are a financial liability to the man. Ask 100 ladies what they want and they will tell you they want a man that will bring money for them, pay their rent, feed them, clothe them and you expect that man to be washing toilet and cleaning the house with you at the same time

Una mumu never do

Lovelydaisies:
Made sense.

MrLekan95:
Good morning sis

Please can you assist me financially 🙏🙏🙏

In the name of God, I know I might not deserve it probably because you really do not know me, but please I beg you in the name of God 🙏🏼

I'm actually not use to this online begging, but been in a terrible situation lately and I think I've no choice than to bring myself to this level please 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Lovelydaisies:
I don't have to give but I hope you find someone who can. Shalom.

Zooposki:
All that free labor making wives old before their time, looking like their husband’s mother will end.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Do the work she does for a day first

You sound like someone who has never kept a house clean or looked after children before, that's why you are running your mouth

achimendy:
Pls shut up. Ya'll bunch of lazy craps, nobody forced ya'll to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married. Simple.


If you understand what division of labour is in the family you won't be typing this nonsense here.

Zonefree:
A female Nigerian student would slave for her school boyfriend for 4-5 years without complaining.
-She'll cook and serve the young man and his friends.
-Wash his clothes.
-Clean and tidy his rooms/kitchen.
-Wash his toilet.
-Attend to his sexual needs in marvelous ways.

All these for free!

Same girl will get married and start to complain after just 8 months that house chores are too much for her. Same chores she was doing for her school boyfriend for years without complains!


If you want to practice feminism, stay in your father's house! As long as marriage is in your dictionary and you're getting married in an African settings, get ready to work!

Lazy dimwits!

Klass99:
The first woman who commented to say married life is not easy just sounds naive and clueless. What did she honestly expect or think it would be like?

Didn't she grow up in a two parent household to see what parents go through and how their needs often take the back seat for the sake of their children? What am I saying sef, even a one parent household ought to teach you that.

Please what do they teach intending couples in pre-marital counselling? Because some things are basic common sense knowledge from just watching our parents or other married folks in our world and space. You can learn valuable things from simply observing others.

Caleycash:
STAY SINGLE!!!, simple, shitty old cargoe!🤣🤡

We4all:
Olodo hungry kid. E pain am.

Caleycash:
Pain who??🤣🤡, na you e pain hence you never see man, how you wan see man when you don waste all your youthful age knackin every man you meet, OLOSHO!🤣🤡

Maeve7:
What does division of labor look like in your family?