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This has happened twice now.
Gotten into a toxic relationship meets toxic persons friend and has instant regret but can't do anything about.

My current bf has done his best to ruin my life , but his best would never be enough because I survived .

He neglected me in all aspects except sex , at least I see Garri and soup in his house but he has never bought me anything or contributed to any of my business or even meatpie sef , in fact I have to ask for mineral and it will be like Christmas.

I broke up with my long distance ex to try and entre a relationship with someone close enough but I've seen shege like this , I dey package small so no one noticed but now I am speaking up

Rather than give he always takes , borrowed my savings of one year ,I don't know why but its all my fault , I felt he would do the same for me , still borrowed money from me to cover some expenses , borrowed from other people too , just debt debt everywhere.

To top it off he's always online chatting with anything that wears skirt , never thinking of skill or business.

With everything I met one of his friends that was the complete opposite and with all my complained I started becoming a little close with him , he had the same toxic relationship with a girl he loved , treated her well , provided for her and yet she cheated , everyone used to admire them but she got pregnant for her Ex and he confessed everything he did for her.

Meanwhile my own took me from up and dragged me down with full force.

Now this heart broken friend confessed that he wish he met me first , but I belong to his friend , I feel the same way.

I have no feelings for my bf , but now he us begging but its late , he had opportunities but he saw me like his mother and now I'm nurturing feelings for his friend , I feel like speaking up but people would paint both of us bad .

Even though I want to date I should date someone else right? But I already like this one , because he's so kind and its sad to see that he gets mistreated all the time .

I have told my friends , they think its bad for reputation but he's responsible , a good father too because he has a daughter .

I want to be happy , thats all.

I'm tired of being the man in this relationship

‘I just want to be happy’ - every girl favourite words before making bad decisions. What makes you happy now will turn into don’t judge me by my past in a few years time.

A guy who’s thinking of getting with his friend’s girl isn’t trustworthy. The decision is ultimately yours to make, my advice is to use your head not your heart. Even if it works, will he trust you with his friends?

Break up move far from them

What do they say about birds of the same feather? ...

To me nothing wrong in dating him.. yes you ex might feel betrayed by you and his friend but who cares? After all he doesn’t want to change so?? Pursue your happiness don’t let what others say or how they might judge you affect your happiness. Go to that guys house tell him your ready to move on with him. You guys can keep the relationship on the low for a couple of months.

eazzzy1:
‘I just want to be happy’ - every girl favourite words before making bad decisions. What makes you happy now will turn into don’t judge me by my past in a few years time.

A guy who’s thinking of getting with his friend’s girl isn’t trustworthy. The decision is ultimately yours to make, my advice is to use your head not your heart. Even if it works, will he trust you with his friends?

He will because I'm not sleeping with anybody nor am I just an unsatisfied person , I am someone that appreciates and gives and understands but I've never been inappropriate with him

OP you're living a very adventurous life. I need some of that. I think my life has been too calm, routine, and boring. I mean I'm thankful for this but, sometimes I crave a little drama, a little noise

I might go into a relationship soon, just for the fun. Hoping to meet some crazy, emotional, obsessed bird who's gonna raise the roof a bit. We'd fight and breakup

Then maybe go work as a waiter and annoy some arrogant boss then resign, for the fun Or watch my coworkers fight each other

Then I could probably go rent a place in the hood and watch the endless drama with cotenants and landlord and when I've had enough, run away?

Broke girl wen never see food chop dey catch feeling anyhow, no worry your go dey

ReluctantAdult:
Then maybe go work as a waiter and annoy some arrogant boss then resign, for the fun

If you already have a fulltime job, how do you plan to do this?

This seems complex to me

"I wish i met you before him" hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

Keep nurturing your feelings for your boyfriend's friend very soon you will end up being ravegely knacked and battered by two close friends.

That the guy made that statement up there that he wished he met you before his friend already showed that guy is not a trustworthy person, when he chop you finish you will understand.
A relationship brtween you and that guy will be more toxic than hell, you can never trust him wifh your friends and he will never trust you with his friends because he know how he got you.

Those stories of him getring heartbroken is one of those tricks in a guy man's bag of tricks to get you emotionally connected.

I can knack my guy's girlfriend but i will never in my life take her serious or trust her even if we are eventually dating.
Your man is not good, fine, leave him and go get any man outside his circle. Nothing good will come out between you guys except you want to be chopped by two friends.

The good thing is, it's a win win for the brotherhood because both of them will be chopping you even when you break up with this current one and go for his friend.

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ShescreamEWOOO:
"I wish i met you before him" hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

That the guy made that statement up there that he wished he met you before his friend already showed that guy is not a trustworthy person, when he chop you finish you will understand.

When u are greedy, the same greed may likely be your downfall .....I mean, she's falling and getting psyched up by the very line that should make her see her boyfriend's friend is a snake....

Out of every body wey dey, na ur boyfriend paddy dey hungry u.....werey dey disguise her ójú kókóró under happiness ....

Verydarkhearted:
To me nothing wrong in dating him.. yes you ex might feel betrayed by you and his friend but who cares? After all he doesn’t want to change so?? Pursue your happiness don’t let what others say or how they might judge you affect your happiness. Go to that guys house tell him your ready to move on with him. You guys can keep the relationship on the low for a couple of months.

No no, why must it be his friend? No, I think you are being sarcastic. This is something that makes someone not look trustworthy and inhumane. That other guy will rub it in her face and distrust her.

Let her break up and find love very far away from his friend, that way she's being considerate towards him.

Men think differently, they think logically rather than emotionally. That guy will only think:

Left my friend ➡️ moved to me = slut.

All those ones he's saying are just ramblings. This will be his core thought, don't do it.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
This has happened twice now.
Gotten into a toxic relationship meets toxic persons friend and has instant regret but can't do anything about.

My current bf has done his best to ruin my life , but his best would never be enough because I survived .

He neglected me in all aspects except sex , at least I see Garri and soup in his house but he has never bought me anything or contributed to any of my business or even meatpie sef , in fact I have to ask for mineral and it will be like Christmas.

I broke up with my long distance ex to try and entre a relationship with someone close enough but I've seen shege like this , I dey package small so no one noticed but now I am speaking up

Rather than give he always takes , borrowed my savings of one year ,I don't know why but its all my fault , I felt he would do the same for me , still borrowed money from me to cover some expenses , borrowed from other people too , just debt debt everywhere.

To top it off he's always online chatting with anything that wears skirt , never thinking of skill or business.

With everything I met one of his friends that was the complete opposite and with all my complained I started becoming a little close with him , he had the same toxic relationship with a girl he loved , treated her well , provided for her and yet she cheated , everyone used to admire them but she got pregnant for her Ex and he confessed everything he did for her.

Meanwhile my own took me from up and dragged me down with full force.

Now this heart broken friend confessed that he wish he met me first , but I belong to his friend , I feel the same way.

I have no feelings for my bf , but now he us begging but its late , he had opportunities but he saw me like his mother and now I'm nurturing feelings for his friend , I feel like speaking up but people would paint both of us bad .

Even though I want to date I should date someone else right? But I already like this one , because he's so kind and its sad to see that he gets mistreated all the time .

I have told my friends , they think its bad for reputation but he's responsible , a good father too because he has a daughter .

I want to be happy , thats all.

I'm tired of being the man in this relationship

So you want to move from one friend to another? You want to be used and tossed around?

Be smart! If the current relationship doesnt favour you, leave and don't look back and don't perch around in the name of meeting his friends with a difference.

It seems you haven't learnt from your current situation. The present boyfriend was once a Saint too,right?

purples25:
No no, why must it be his friend? No, I think you are being sarcastic. This is something that makes someone not look trustworthy and inhumane. That other guy will rub it in her face and distrust her.

Let her break up and find love very far away from his friend, that way she's being considerate towards him.

Men think differently, they think logically rather than emotionally. That guy will only think:

Left my friend ➡️ moved to me = slut.

All those ones he's saying are just ramblings. This will be his core thought, don't do it.

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ICTspecialist:
there is something critical I would love to discuss with you privately

Yeah critical indeed... Kill the gimmicks just beg her for money already

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purples25:
No no, why must it be his friend? No, I think you are being sarcastic. This is something that makes someone not look trustworthy and inhumane. That other guy will rub it in her face and distrust her.

Let her break up and find love very far away from his friend, that way she's being considerate towards him.

Men think differently, they think logically rather than emotionally. That guy will only think:

Left my friend ➡️ moved to me = slut.

All those ones he's saying are just ramblings. This will be his core thought, don't do it.

are you God?? What of that’s the guy God chose to be her husband cause of friend sentiment she shouldn’t date him.. moreover the world has advanced above slut shaming woman.. in a society where hookup is a norm? Please allow the girl love a guy she has seen fit and worthy. I already know the kinda of girl yoh are and I pity your man..

Verydarkhearted:
are you God?? What of that’s the guy God chose to be her husband cause of friend sentiment she shouldn’t date him.. moreover the world has advanced above slut shaming woman.. in a society where hookup is a norm? Please allow the girl love a guy she has seen fit and worthy. I already know the kinda of girl yoh are and I pity your man..

Consider the feelings of the friend. Has this ever happened to you? Probably hasn't. If it happens to you, you will know how painful it feels. It's very terrible, so it will be good if she is considerate and finds love else where.

Slut shaming hasn't gone anywhere, by the way. It's still quite prominent here on nl.

You, your boyfriend, and that his friend dey craze

I hate reading love stories Mann
Thank you for changing my mood
Now I feel like throwing up
Sorry op it has nothing to do with you

purples25:
Consider the feelings of the friend. Has this ever happened to you? Probably hasn't. If it happens to you, you will know how painful it feels. It's very terrible, so it will be good if she is considerate and finds love else where.

Slut shaming hasn't gone anywhere, by the way. It's still quite prominent here on nl.

is NL a place to seek benediction? No. Please life is what it is.. maybe this lesson will teach the guy to be a better man to his next gf. Such things might have happened to me cause I don’t trust women. One of them along the way might have slept with my friends without my knowledge. But definitely I’ve fuvked my guys gf and I told them before hand. Some we are no longer friends again and some we even fought. But life goes on. Girls will be girls.

Verydarkhearted:
is NL a place to seek benediction? No. Please life is what it is.. maybe this lesson will teach the guy to be a better man to his next gf. Such things might have happened to me cause I don’t trust women. One of them along the way might have slept with my friends without my knowledge. But definitely I’ve fuvked my guys gf and I told them before hand. Some we are no longer friends again and some we even fought. But life goes on. Girls will be girls.

Leave them let them be commenting as if there's one written script that our lives should be acted out upon. It's only here they are all forming moral codes and what not. The life outside Nairaland is entirely different life and they are all different people outside here...

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
This has happened twice now.
Gotten into a toxic relationship meets toxic persons friend and has instant regret but can't do anything about.

My current bf has done his best to ruin my life , but his best would never be enough because I survived .

He neglected me in all aspects except sex , at least I see Garri and soup in his house but he has never bought me anything or contributed to any of my business or even meatpie sef , in fact I have to ask for mineral and it will be like Christmas.

I broke up with my long distance ex to try and entre a relationship with someone close enough but I've seen shege like this , I dey package small so no one noticed but now I am speaking up

Rather than give he always takes , borrowed my savings of one year ,I don't know why but its all my fault , I felt he would do the same for me , still borrowed money from me to cover some expenses , borrowed from other people too , just debt debt everywhere.

To top it off he's always online chatting with anything that wears skirt , never thinking of skill or business.

With everything I met one of his friends that was the complete opposite and with all my complained I started becoming a little close with him , he had the same toxic relationship with a girl he loved , treated her well , provided for her and yet she cheated , everyone used to admire them but she got pregnant for her Ex and he confessed everything he did for her.

Meanwhile my own took me from up and dragged me down with full force.

Now this heart broken friend confessed that he wish he met me first , but I belong to his friend , I feel the same way.

I have no feelings for my bf , but now he us begging but its late , he had opportunities but he saw me like his mother and now I'm nurturing feelings for his friend , I feel like speaking up but people would paint both of us bad .

Even though I want to date I should date someone else right? But I already like this one , because he's so kind and its sad to see that he gets mistreated all the time .


I have told my friends , they think its bad for reputation but he's responsible , a good father too because he has a daughter .

I want to be happy , thats all.

I'm tired of being the man in this relationship

Do what makes you happy. Don't do what you will regret for the rest of your life.

Madam, come out of the bad one first and stop fornicating. Give yourself time to heal. Prioritise yourself and your relationship with your creator and only when you are ready, venture into a clean, chaste relationship. Wish u all d best.

If you want to knack, Knack & Move On ...

But Beware of Brotherhood, Both side go chop You & Tossed You Aside .... You will enter depression for allowing yourself to be used ...

Go into all Games with least of expectations that's how you defend your heart against breakfast !

eazzzy1:
‘I just want to be happy’ - every girl favourite words before making bad decisions. What makes you happy now will turn into don’t judge me by my past in a few years time.

A guy who’s thinking of getting with his friend’s girl isn’t trustworthy . The decision is ultimately yours to make, my advice is to use your head not your heart. Even if it works, will he trust you with his friends?

How people (guys and chics) overlook that very important aspect still beats me. And then they start crying foul later in the relationship like they didn't know what they were getting into

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
He will because I'm not sleeping with anybody nor am I just an unsatisfied person , I am someone that appreciates and gives and understands but I've never been inappropriate with him

This is what will happen if U tow that path. U will be used like the slut U project urself to be cos U have no dignity. Do U know Ur guy has probably told him a thing or two about Ur sex game? He only wants that thrill of fvcking Ur friends girl and once it wears off U see the real side of him as probably U will be passed on to another one in the circle. How do U know Ur not already being passed round? Back in school I had a special sect of pals and we passed women around without their knowledge. We did this without any fight with the said girl and when the circle is complete we make it known and she hides in shame cos the girls usually think they're smart and running game not knowing the game is them. You're not smart at all to even believe what the friend is telling U and taking it seriously lol Ur kuntus go suffer for this life as u no wise at all. You can't date outside the circle? U sound like someone with very low self esteem and that's why the other friend sees U as easy game. Just wait till him knack U stupidly

Am a guy and I go tell you truth .okay try date your boy friend . Friend for just 1 month lowkey if he will not demand for sex 😂

They just want to increase your body count 😂

The guy will knack you steady and later get tired of you because it a shameful thing to marry your friend ex girlfriend people your current bf go invite go know both of you na .use your sense. If a man know your paro that you’ve been a slut or knack someone they know it will always be in there mind 😂 any time they are with you ..
there are millions of guys outside . It is you that will look for a guy that suite your class
No go let two friends way they eat from the same table drink from the same cup knack you when you go them go discuss your matter oh
Na one use your puna count scores lol
The funniest thing is that your currency guy may have even tell he’s friend that you are good in bed 😂 and he’s friend had kept it in mind to have a piece of the cake lol.




And the only thing that can make you date your boy friend , friend is that if your current boy friend never knack you . You can date he’s friend it cool but if your Boy friend done knack you no go date the friend oh . Them go laugh you later

Sammy101111:
Am a guy and I go tell you truth .okay try date your boy friend . Friend for just 1 month lowkey if he will not demand for sex 😂

They just want to increase your body count 😂

The guy will knack you steady and later get tired of you because it a shameful thing to marry your friend ex girlfriend people your current bf go invite go know both of you na .use your sense. If a man know your paro that you’ve been a slut or knack someone they know it will always be in there mind 😂 any time they are with you ..
there are millions of guys outside . It is you that will look for a guy that suite your class
No go let two friends way they eat from the same table drink from the same cup knack you when you go them go discuss your matter oh
Na one use your puna count scores lol
The funniest thing is that your currency guy may have even tell he’s friend that you are good in bed 😂 and he’s friend had kept it in mind to have a piece of the cake lol.




And the only thing that can make you date your boy friend , friend is that if your current boy friend never knack you . You can date he’s friend it cool but if your Boy friend done knack you no go date the friend oh . Them go laugh you later

I think you're right , I explained to my bf about everything and I didn't accept his friends proposal , we were on the verge of breakup and I guess I was emotional about everything , I think my spirit wanted to get back at him and my body was not in support but at the end , I remembered promises I've made to myself , not to date someone in the same street , talk less of same circle.

I think the guy knew I was sad and depressed and almost used it against me , because he began to act shady , he started promising me things and calling me excess , even when I told him that I was settling with my current bf , until my bf saw his texts on my phone , which I stopped responding and now he's planning to confront him.

But in my defense , i really was over my bf , he broke my heart , he only realized once my heart was dead to him , it was a fight of 8 months , fighting the same fight , even typing it now makes me upset and even now sometimes I look at him and ask why?
He just rushed to go and pack his friends to come and beg , for something that was not supposed to be an issue , omo

At least now he feels very different , its been almost 2 months since the fight and begging started , I'm healing gradually , on the edge

I'm happy all of this happened , I believe it happened for a reason

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I think you're right , I explained to my bf about everything and I didn't accept his friends proposal , we were on the verge of breakup and I guess I was emotional about everything , I think my spirit wanted to get back at him and my body was not in support but at the end , I remembered promises I've made to myself , not to date someone in the same street , talk less of same circle.

I think the guy knew I was sad and depressed and almost used it against me , because he began to act shady , he started promising me things and calling me excess , even when I told him that I was settling with my current bf , until my bf saw his texts on my phone , which I stopped responding and now he's planning to confront him.

But in my defense , i really was over my bf , he broke my heart , he only realized once my heart was dead to him , it was a fight of 8 months , fighting the same fight , even typing it now makes me upset and even now sometimes I look at him and ask why?
He just rushed to go and pack his friends to come and beg , for something that was not supposed to be an issue , omo

At least now he feels very different , its been almost 2 months since the fight and begging started , I'm healing gradually , on the edge

I'm happy all of this happened , I believe it happened for a reason

I'm glad you didn't go with his friend. Please don't even go near this kind of temptation again. It ruins relationships totally. You will still be in pain when the outcome is evident.