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[quote author=descarado post=132559052]The guy ticked all bad.
He is owing child support.
Kids are with their grandparents
He don't even call or visit them ani he don't know the way to the grandparents house.
If he has gone there and they pursue him, now, he has a case but as it is, he is digging his own grave.

"Child support" in Nigeria!!! Thank God you said "if it was abroad."

He should support the wife financially for the upkeep of his daughters despite where they are currently but he failed woefully when he insinuated that he may leave his daughters for her. If he is pushed to abandon his daughters because of disagreement that means that he doesn't value those kids (I'm serious now.)

I love your comment but i must admit that you are wrong.

First, the kids are owned by both parents. Therefore, the decision as per the kids welfare after separation should be joint taken by both parties. The man is been treated as a secondary decision maker instead of principal/major decision maker. So, the man is merely been informed after the woman has taken decision. This is wrong.

Did you also consider the child's welbeing?

This is key and should not be overlooked. Fathers play a crucial role in the development and well-being of their children. Few reasons why kids need their dad include:
1. Emotional Support
2. Role modelling
3. Discipline and Structure
4. Diverse perspectives
5. Healthy relationships, etc


I should also remind you that a female kids, first love is their DAD, not the mom.

Did you also consider the man's well-being who needs his kids for him to live a meaning and proud life?
Many men realise a sense of purpose, fulfilment, legacy, joy and laughter, etc from their kids. It is terribly mean to deprive a man of that, especially after cheating on him
Most people make the mistake of undermining the importance of kids in a man's life. Pls dont do that.

You also need to understand that most men get attached to their kids, especially the female children.
Besides, y should a man - the provider- be deprived of his kids. They are the sum total of his suffering and hustle.

Thanks

LilMissFavvy:
You think you can take care of two young daughters as a single man? No, you cannot. They are better off staying with Grandpa/wife.
Your ex wife informed you about the kids whereabouts after she had taken them to Grandpa's house, so what? She at least informed you. Then you stopped paying school fees/feeding, you thought they will beg you, but grandpa stood up and took responsibility, now you are back complaining. Grandpa told you to return all expenses before he will release the kids to you or mother, yet you are still here arguing. Even if Grandpa says you should pay 2million, then be ready to cough out that amount, you can never win the case in court because you stopped paying for their upkeep.

I love your comment but i must admit that you are wrong.

First, the kids are owned by both parents. Therefore, the decision as per the kids welfare after separation should be joint taken by both parties. The man is been treated as a secondary decision maker instead of principal/major decision maker. So, the man is merely been informed after the woman has taken decision. This is wrong.

Did you also consider the child's welbeing?

This is key and should not be overlooked. Fathers play a crucial role in the development and well-being of their children. Few reasons why kids need their dad include:
1. Emotional Support
2. Role modelling
3. Discipline and Structure
4. Diverse perspectives
5. Healthy relationships, etc


I should also remind you that a female kids, first love is their DAD, not the mom.

Did you also consider the man's well-being who needs his kids for him to live a meaning and proud life?
Many men realise a sense of purpose, fulfilment, legacy, joy and laughter, etc from their kids. It is terribly mean to deprive a man of that, especially after cheating on him
Most people make the mistake of undermining the importance of kids in a man's life. Pls dont do that.

You also need to understand that most men get attached to their kids, especially the female children.
Besides, y should a man - the provider- be deprived of his kids. They are the sum total of his suffering and hustle.

Thanks

Afodot0022:
Your level of stupidity has beclouded your reasoning and exchanging words with you here is a waste of time. I wish all the male in your family and lineage to go through what I went through ok cos it's easier for you to open your mouth and spew dust

Feel sorry for you brother. Please stop responding to the girls on this platform cos they're all the same, they're serial cheats that use kids to manipulate men (typical Nigerian girls).
I gave up on them all a long time ago when I understood that they're good for nothing but to f*ck and move on.
I'll advise you from experience to totally forget her and move on,I know its hard to forget about the kids but critically thinking the kid(s) might not be yours cos the mother is a cheat.
When you totally blank her and forget she exists,a time will come when she'll come looking for you, except you're not the biological father.

Life is too short to worry about anyone,just be strong and make yourself happy again and leave all these hoes spilling nonsense.

Bro you are not alone... The Ashawo wey I spent over 10m marry say I go settle her.. marriage wey no last 7 months ... Make she come collect money... I woman that was caught cheating just few days her brideprice was paid and I was fooled by family to forgive and forget, but right inside me I can forgive but don't think I can forget , seeing her remind me what she did... Thank God she left on her own and started threatening me for settlement... She called me 1 minute man that I couldn't impregnate her.. how can I impregnate her with just 2 months I live with her... The same 1 minute man impregnated another woman and she's going to give me a daughter soon... Guys if they like sex more than you do... Please run for your life

Mom007:
Yen yen yen...

If you're not stupid,then you're useless as much as OP's ex wife
So you expect him to keep sending money to someone who attempted to take his life? Or did you not know that promiscuities of wives send husbands to early graves? Besides since it's an infidelity case there's high tendency of the kid(s) not being his.
I blame the guy for responding to the nonsense you all are saying and it will happen to your brother (if you have any) so we'll hear the advice you'd give him.
Afodot0022 please totally ignore your ex wife and all these bitches......

You are wrong.


I love your comment but i must admit that you are wrong.

First, the kids are owned by both parents. Therefore, the decision as per the kids welfare after separation should be joint taken by both parties. The man is been treated as a secondary decision maker instead of principal/major decision maker. So, the man is merely been informed after the woman has taken decision. This is wrong.

Did you also consider the child's welbeing?

This is key and should not be overlooked. Fathers play a crucial role in the development and well-being of their children. Few reasons why kids need their dad include:
1. Emotional Support
2. Role modelling
3. Discipline and Structure
4. Diverse perspectives
5. Healthy relationships, etc


I should also remind you that a female kids, first love is their DAD, not the mom.

Did you also consider the man's well-being who needs his kids for him to live a meaning and proud life?
Many men realise a sense of purpose, fulfilment, legacy, joy and laughter, etc from their kids. It is terribly mean to deprive a man of that, especially after cheating on him
Most people make the mistake of undermining the importance of kids in a man's life. Pls dont do that.

You also need to understand that most men get attached to their kids, especially the female children.
Besides, y should a man - the provider- be deprived of his kids. They are the sum total of his suffering and hustle.

Just to add, the man takes care of his kids. He Had to stop after he felt deprived of his kids. He isnt running from his duty. He is more than ready to provide if only he can have access to them.

Regarding the man going to see the kids. Do you know the type of relationship he has now with his ex-inlaws? I am pretty sure he doesnt have good one with his ex-wife, let alot with the inlaws. Do you even know if they have cordial relationship.

Pls approah this issue with more sensitivity. I can cos i have experience.



Thanks








[quote author=Maobichek post=132571354][/quote]

LilMissFavvy:
You think you can take care of two young daughters as a single man? No, you cannot. They are better off staying with Grandpa/wife.
Your ex wife informed you about the kids whereabouts after she had taken them to Grandpa's house, so what? She at least informed you. Then you stopped paying school fees/feeding, you thought they will beg you, but grandpa stood up and took responsibility, now you are back complaining. Grandpa told you to return all expenses before he will release the kids to you or mother, yet you are still here arguing. Even if Grandpa says you should pay 2million, then be ready to cough out that amount, you can never win the case in court because you stopped paying for their upkeep.

It's good as you're supporting your fellow cheater. Birds of same feather.

The way I dislike these Nairaland girls ehn. Poor things

Acidosis:
This is a clear case of human trafficking.

Any day you are ready to have your kids, you will go straight to his house to get your kids. Is there more to this?

The fact is that parents/grandparents must learn to respect themselves and stay off people's marriages and homes. The love they think they have for their grandkids means nothing compared to a father's/mother's love.

Your ex father in law failed to respect himself by not getting your consent or approval before accommodating (detaining) your kids. He has no right whatsoever over those children as far as the Nigerian Child Rights Act is concerned. No single right.

you are the only one here that has good sense of reasoning, I think 80% of Nigeria don't think

Afodot0022:
You are deluded. Am not at loss and will never be, am a man and if I want kids now, I will get another. She is the one that will loss cos with all her stress on those kids, when they grow older, they will look for their father and by then, the truth will be waiting for them, it will be all her loss. Am doing all these cos am a responsible man and want to do what am expected to do as a father to my kids. Most men won't even bothered about them and will move on, but am doing this cos I want to do the right thing. With what she did, it's enough reason for me to abandon those kids and move on but despite that, am still looking back and not considering her stupidity.

Oh boy, Afodot0022

Seriously, the man that lied this lie that your kids will come and look for you after you abandoned them, it will not be well with him.

Because you are going to be 70 and wailing in a lonely manner. And your pride and anger and all the people on Nairaland giving you bad advice to go and fight her or abandon your kids won't be there to console you.

So, here's what to do:

Be quiet. Seriously, go off Nairaland and practise sitting quietly in your house for 2 hours. Pray. Pray prayers of forgiveness, ask God to forgive and heal you and forgive and heal your ex.

Why?

Because you've complained and blamed her and her family for your marital issues and you're the Saint. And you, me, all of Nairaland and God and His Angels all know that isn't true.

It takes 2 to break a marriage. She was at fault, you were at fault. If she cheated, then her fault was like 70% but 30% na still you. So both of you need healing in order to move away from the pain, hurt and anger consuming and destroying you both.

Ask God to heal your Pride and Anger, because it has already destroyed your life and it will only continue to destroy it.

Next, buy and register a SIM and get a Tecno or Infinix or cheap phone. Send it to your Father-in-law. Then text your ex-wife:

"Good evening. I have sent a phone for our girls to be using to keep in contact with me and I with them. Please make sure they always charge it.
Also, please can we meet at Ministry of Women and Children's Affairs, Alausa, so we can conclude on sharing Custody? There are no lawyers there, only counsellors and mediators. It isn't easy to take care of them alone and I want my girls to know their father well. Please pick out of the 3 dates I listed below and time, so we can meet there. Thank you".

Send half of the balance of the upkeep money owed to your ex. With a promise you will repay the rest in 2 months' time.

Now.

If she refuses all this and ignores and blocks you, THEN you can go to Lagos State court, Ikeja and file, with all your messages showing that you were reasonable and tried to make good plans and this is her fault.

Please note that once shared Custody is given, those girls will be spending weekends with you. Which mean, you will be doing homework, be taking them to salon to plait hair, be making sure they eat and sleep on time. Most men can't do that, so you'll go and marry one woman who didn't want to do that either, but wanted to marry you and foist those innocent kids on her and in 15years' time, be reading about your daughters and their evil stepmother.

So be prepared to step up as a Father. Step up alone as a Father. You can do it. I have seen men do it before. And those men are LIONS. KINGS. Priests of the Royal Kingdom of Heaven.

So please, join their ranks.

You being reasonable like this and being a present father will also make any sane woman rethink her divorce and you and her can reconcile.

However, should you wish to let the demonic spirits of Pride and Anger continue to rule you, please ignore my post.

Praying for you.

Mercylike:
Those ladies are telling u the truth..

You stopped paying Ur children feeding and school fees bcoz Ur wife took them to her parents place as she won't be around..

You are a wicked man... So wicked and bold ontop your wickedness..

Nothing stopped u from fulfilling Ur responsibilities to your kids. Even if ur wife remarries and still have the kids with her, you don't have any right to stop paying for their upkeep.

You are a wicked man

na you wicked pass , make him dey pay for pikin way him no dey see, clap for yourself

Why not you file for divorce and see for custody of your kids

cococandy:
How does condemning the ex-wife’s infidelity provide for the kids? The infidelity has already been condemned in the very fact that they got divorced. There’s no other outcomes to be expected than them getting divorced.

Now that they went their separate ways, him not caring for his children (who didn’t cheat on him) is entirely his doing and has no bearing on the mom’s actions. I personally can’t justify not doing my best for my kids because their father wronged me. That’s why I stated CORRECTLY that you guys’ love for your children is directly related to how much love you have for their moms. And you’re proving me right.

I agree child support should go both ways. Let him take the kids and she’ll pay for their financial support. In fact I think more women should go this route. Is that what you call a free pass?

Every time a woman hands the kids over to the man and moves on, wailing always commences.

My aunt did it, moved on without a backward glance and her ex proceeded to wail publicly that she abandoned the children (even though he was the one screaming "don't you dare leave this house with my children!".

And everyone told him "Oga shut up, you're just looking for a way to control her".

Even abroad, once the woman hands the kids over to the man and pays child support, they start posting online and crying and looking for who will take care of the kids and asking people to tell the mother to show up.

Love your aunt

I just want more women to keep doing this. Especially if the kids aren’t toddlers anymore. If they can verbally articulate how they’re being treated by those around them, by all means let the dads be the primary parents.
This whole child support is designed against men narrative will quickly die down. Quickly

Onegai:
Every time a woman hands the kids over to the man and moves on, wailing always commences.

My aunt did it, moved on without a backward glance and her ex proceeded to wail publicly that she abandoned the children (even though he was the one screaming "don't you dare leave this house with my children!".

And everyone told him "Oga shut up, you're just looking for a way to control her".

Even abroad, once the woman hands the kids over to the man and pays child support, they start posting online and crying and looking for who will take care of the kids and asking people to tell the mother to show up.

Afodot0022:
Her family contributed to the breakdown of the marriage due to many interference which she caused.

You said you were planning on taking a cheating wife back?

I'll urge you to write your will. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back , na cheating wife u wan come accept back? This time around she won't only cheat on you but will turn ur house into a prostitution hub. U better go and do a DNA test on those kids to be sure they're even yours. Divorce her legally with speed

BigYash:
Them the so called grandpa should not complain of the money he spent on the kids,since the kids doesn't belong to him alone. The so called grandpa telling him to pay for taking care of his grandkids show the kind of greedy and stupid home or family op married from. Make una dey run deep check before una marry ,una go say no. See the home of devils you married from now.. I pray your kids doesn't end up with the kind of mind their grandpa and mother possess.

You are on point. #fact

Afodot0022:
They have already done that and as it is now, I don't fuc.king care no more. Whatsoever they want to do, let them do it. We wait for the future and she herself will regret everything she is doing now. I have records and evidence of everything and they have all been archived. When the kids grow and look for their father, I will be their to give my own explanation to the. She thinks she is doing me, she is doing herself

My brother. Your tears will be plenty in the future.

I'm on my knees, begging you as someone who has experience in these matters: start asking God to heal you and rebuke the spirits of Pride and Anger in your life.

The devil uses those 2 spirits to destroy men and their families. Please rebuke it.

Should I send you some prayers and read-ups on it, please?

Dogalmighty17:
OP. Your wife cheated on you brazenly. Which respect do you say you are looking for again? You mentioned that you wanted to reconcile with her. You wanted to reconcile with a woman who stepped out of her marriage and got good dicked. I need you to hear yourself.

It is no surprise she disrespects you.

I didn't bother to take the wèrey OP serious upon reading that part!

How can a normal man think of reconcile with a woman who got dicked by another man?

The op is a fuuul for even thinking about that! I have no pity for SIMPS. They'll learn the hardest way

Afodot0022:
We married through the traditional way and we have not done any legal divorce, just separated for now and it's almost two years now. I feel she never expected I will move on so easily after all what I went through in the marriage and she feels better and regret now, so her best bet is to use the kids as bargain chip. Pls lawyers, how is divorce proceeding done for people that got married traditional without court.

Pls mod, help push to FP for wider audience

It's trad marriage, divorce will be done traditionally too.
Traditional marriages are bound by bride prices
Your parents should demand withdrawal of your bride price from her family
It's that simple

Dear Friend

Pls accept my sincere sympathy over your situation. Dealing with a cheating ex and having to loose access to yor kids is no easy struggle. No man should have to go through this.

Unlike many people here, i must say I see ur struggles and I HEAR U

I understand how painful it is to be treated as a secondary decision maker, instead of being a principal/major decision maker in the well-being of your kids. This hurts and should not have been. Pls know that your wife is wrong and so is anyone who indulges her.

Please know that you’re a great dad, and your love for your kids shines no matter what people say. For it is only a great dad that fights they way you do over those kids. Pls keep fighting, cos you kids need you as much as they need their mom. Your kids need you to provide emotional support, role modelling, discipline and structure, diverse perspectives in life and to help them build healthy relationships. No woman should have to deprive her kids of their dad. it is wrong on many levels. . So i see that you fight out of love and concern for them.

I also know that you miss your kids. For a girl's first love is her dad; and dads are so uniquely attached to their girls. Many men realise a sense of purpose, fulfilment, legacy, joy and laughter, etc from their kids. So It is terribly mean to deprive a man of that, especially after cheating on him.


I know you had to stop paying for their welfare and i understand why. I dont know what to say for it seem that your major concern is to determine their paternity if you havent done so. You also need to have a discussion with the lady and her family around your intention to be involved in the kids life. for it is only then that you can have a conversation with your in-laws regarding paying the requested money ( of course, you can negotiate if you have to pay).

I dont advise you to take ur ex back as she has proven unconcerned. Pls dont. Be very thoughtful here. Dont solve a problem with another problem.

Go for counselling if you can. I imagine that you are going through a lot as any good father should.

On a parting note: It’s okay to feel everything you’re feeling. Just remember, this moment doesn’t define the future. Your love for them is powerful, and that connection will never break.

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders fam.
Majority of people here have idea about my story and if you don't, you can go through my previous post to get a glimpse.

This month made it one year and seven months have been Separated and living apart from my ex wife due to infidelity and cheating from my ex wife part. Since then, my two daughter aged 8 and 7 had been living with her and I do take responsibility of them until this January 2024 when my wife took my kids to her father and step mom place because there was this course she was order to go for 6months officially outside lagos state. I was so angry because she never seek my permission or approval before taking them there and because of this, I stop sending money or paying their fees till now. I saw it as a act of disrespect if I the father can't be informed of where my kids are been taking to for a long period of time. She already took them there before informing me.

She was supposed to finish her course outside the state by June and since then, she never called me to inform me she is back until yesterday when I put a call to her and she told me she got back since June. I asked about the kids and to my shock, she told me the kids are still there with her father and step mom. How can you leave the kids at your parents place while the father and mother are available, I got so upset and the discussion resulted to insult and curse on phone. She told me she had a serious issue at work and she couldn't combine the kids stress to what she is going through presently. To be honest, I was even thinking to reconcile with her cos of the kids despite she cheated but the way she behave and talks on phone shows she is not remorse or even care if the family is back together or ready for any reconciliation despite the fact she was at fault. Now my kids are my focus but I don't know how to go about this.

The information I got from her dad was that he will not release the kids to either me or her on less the money he had spent on them is refunded back to him. This is already looking like a kidnap and abduction case which I told her that if she doesn't pick those kids before weekend, I will file a case of child kidnap and abduction against her and her father. Pls I need advice on how to go about this and those that have first class experience with such should assist with advice. Thank you all

Phewww.

Read it all

Wish you the best OP

One mistake that men should avoid is SEPARATION.
Think about it, it makes little sense. Your wife is out there, free to have as much sexual partners as she wants, as well as you.
Your children have no defined custodial parent. Both spouses have no clear idea of the sort of relationship they share.
And most importantly, as a result of the lack of definition of custody, the man often gets denied access to his children.
Always divorce legally, once the marriage is over.
The court will define how custody is executed and the parent who goes against that order risks punishment.
So go to court and get an official divorce or get back with your wife (she is not your ex-wife yet)

isabitalko:
You are wrong.


I love your comment but i must admit that you are wrong.

First, the kids are owned by both parents. Therefore, the decision as per the kids welfare after separation should be joint taken by both parties. The man is been treated as a secondary decision maker instead of principal/major decision maker. So, the man is merely been informed after the woman has taken decision. This is wrong.

Did you also consider the child's welbeing?

This is key and should not be overlooked. Fathers play a crucial role in the development and well-being of their children. Few reasons why kids need their dad include:
1. Emotional Support
2. Role modelling
3. Discipline and Structure
4. Diverse perspectives
5. Healthy relationships, etc


I should also remind you that a female kids, first love is their DAD, not the mom.

Did you also consider the man's well-being who needs his kids for him to live a meaning and proud life?
Many men realise a sense of purpose, fulfilment, legacy, joy and laughter, etc from their kids. It is terribly mean to deprive a man of that, especially after cheating on him
Most people make the mistake of undermining the importance of kids in a man's life. Pls dont do that.

You also need to understand that most men get attached to their kids, especially the female children.
Besides, y should a man - the provider- be deprived of his kids. They are the sum total of his suffering and hustle.

Just to add, the man takes care of his kids. He Had to stop after he felt deprived of his kids. He isnt running from his duty. He is more than ready to provide if only he can have access to them.

Regarding the man going to see the kids. Do you know the type of relationship he has now with his ex-inlaws? I am pretty sure he doesnt have good one with his ex-wife, let alot with the inlaws. Do you even know if they have cordial relationship.

Pls approah this issue with more sensitivity. I can cos i have experience.



Thanks

I appreciate your maturity and sense of humor but he is insinuating that the Ex is only using the daughters to get back at him. Let me sincerely say this: my wife cheated on me and we got separated as a result of her adulterous lifestyle, i wouldn't allow her go with my kids(to avoid the narrative that she is using my kids against me) if i know that i can take care of my kids. That was his mistake which brought about all these issues.

I read some people saying: can he bath, feed, take the kids to sch etc. Someone even said that he only contributed 5 minutes via intercourse in the making of the baby. I know the responsibilities of every father, the day a man marry, his responsibilities must multiply by 50 or more percent.

One thing is certain, despite anything that happens, our society must blame a man and protect woman when it comes to marriage so he should look for a way to settle with his Ex because of the daughters which he believe that his Ex is using against him and he should not contemplate/ let alone saying that he would leave his children because he has issues with his Ex, that's uncalled for, thank you.

Thank you for this, it will go a long way and help me navigate the situation. You sound matured and experience

femmoy:
Feel sorry for you brother. Please stop responding to the girls on this platform cos they're all the same, they're serial cheats that use kids to manipulate men (typical Nigerian girls).
I gave up on them all a long time ago when I understood that they're good for nothing but to f*ck and move on.
I'll advise you from experience to totally forget her and move on,I know its hard to forget about the kids but critically thinking the kid(s) might not be yours cos the mother is a cheat.
When you totally blank her and forget she exists,a time will come when she'll come looking for you, except you're not the biological father.

Life is too short to worry about anyone,just be strong and make yourself happy again and leave all these hoes spilling nonsense.

Very childish of you to have stopped all your financial obligations to your own children over ego.
Oga settle your inlaw abeg

Entanglement:
see this one oh!
Do you think it's also easy as a single mum to take care of two daughters alone

No wonder these generation of vipers naija women are popping out causing havoc.

Apply common sense sometimes

Dont doubt her she knows what she is saying, most naija single mums are into multiple date, from oga in the office to kay, mr bayo , tunde, she go just arrange as she go dey bill these men in sequence, cash out niyen

i get one, single mum with 3 kids she owns a wine shop .. she don nearly kill my friend with billings na their way

another wey be single mum of two she don collect passport one of her magas is about to fly her abroad

Money dey olosho business .. if i was a gurl 🤣🤣

A cheating woman when caught is a dangerous woman. Please keep your distance

Right on point. I see your perspective

Maobichek:
I appreciate your maturity and sense of humor but he is insinuating that the Ex is only using the daughters to get back at him. Let me sincerely say this: my wife cheated on me and we got separated as a result of her adulterous lifestyle, i wouldn't allow her go with my kids(to avoid the narrative that she is using my kids against me) if i know that i can take care of my kids. That was his mistake which brought about all these issues.

I read some people saying: can he bath, feed, take the kids to sch etc. Someone even said that he only contributed 5 minutes via intercourse in the making of the baby. I know the responsibilities of every father, the day a man marry, his responsibilities must multiply by 50 or more percent.

One thing is certain, despite anything that happens, our society must blame a man and protect woman when it comes to marriage so he should look for a way to settle with his Ex because of the daughters which he believe that his Ex is using against him and he should not contemplate/ let alone saying that he would leave his children because he has issues with his Ex, that's uncalled for, thank you.

femmoy:
Feel sorry for you brother. Please stop responding to the girls on this platform cos they're all the same, they're serial cheats that use kids to manipulate men (typical Nigerian girls).
I gave up on them all a long time ago when I understood that they're good for nothing but to f*ck and move on.
I'll advise you from experience to totally forget her and move on,I know its hard to forget about the kids but critically thinking the kid(s) might not be yours cos the mother is a cheat.
When you totally blank her and forget she exists,a time will come when she'll come looking for you, except you're not the biological father.

Life is too short to worry about anyone,just be strong and make yourself happy again and leave all these hoes spilling nonsense.

most of dem dont even have common boyfriend not to talk of kids

But bros how you do you expect a man to forget the woman that holds custody of his kids, which move on isonù be that

You don see where chicken lay egg move on, regardless of how those two want to go apart ... those children will always connect them.

oja tii omo ba ti wor ... what if the woman jam odogwu n she neva looks back ?? what if the we say the children will look back n they did not ??

do you even know long you will live and when the children wil deem fit to look for you their father ... may God disappoint these women give us long life

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to my nairalanders fam.
Majority of people here have idea about my story and if you don't, you can go through my previous post to get a glimpse.

This month made it one year and seven months have been Separated and living apart from my ex wife due to infidelity and cheating from my ex wife part. Since then, my two daughter aged 8 and 7 had been living with her and I do take responsibility of them until this January 2024 when my wife took my kids to her father and step mom place because there was this course she was order to go for 6months officially outside lagos state. I was so angry because she never seek my permission or approval before taking them there and because of this, I stop sending money or paying their fees till now. I saw it as a act of disrespect if I the father can't be informed of where my kids are been taking to for a long period of time. She already took them there before informing me.

She was supposed to finish her course outside the state by June and since then, she never called me to inform me she is back until yesterday when I put a call to her and she told me she got back since June. I asked about the kids and to my shock, she told me the kids are still there with her father and step mom. How can you leave the kids at your parents place while the father and mother are available, I got so upset and the discussion resulted to insult and curse on phone. She told me she had a serious issue at work and she couldn't combine the kids stress to what she is going through presently. To be honest, I was even thinking to reconcile with her cos of the kids despite she cheated but the way she behave and talks on phone shows she is not remorse or even care if the family is back together or ready for any reconciliation despite the fact she was at fault. Now my kids are my focus but I don't know how to go about this.

The information I got from her dad was that he will not release the kids to either me or her on less the money he had spent on them is refunded back to him. This is already looking like a kidnap and abduction case which I told her that if she doesn't pick those kids before weekend, I will file a case of child kidnap and abduction against her and her father. Pls I need advice on how to go about this and those that have first class experience with such should assist with advice. Thank you all

Bro Abeg help ur kids before dem use them against u
Nothing like you watching ur kid grow am telling u

iamtoofan:
most of dem dont even have common boyfriend not to talk of kids

But bros how you do you expect a man to forget the woman that holds custody of his kids, which move on isonù be that

You don see where chicken lay egg move on, regardless of how those two want to go apart ... those children will always connect them.

oja tii omo ba ti wor ... what if the woman jam odogwu n she neva looks back ?? what if the we say the children will look back n they did not ??

do you even know long you will live and when the children wil deem fit to look for you their father ... may God disappoint our women give us long life

Many of them just Dey talk nonsense to be honest how can you forget someone who is the mother of your children then how can you connect with the child ?

Honestly, some people don’t just have any sense in their brain…someone, as a confused individual seek opinions with the believe that you’re not dullard, but all what some people could do is criticizing him…Oga o.

I’ll advice you seek an advice from a lawyer, good lawyer to be precise.